December 2009 - Still waiting for our Silent Night

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Right have finally caught up on all the messages, it has taken me ages. Great news on the op ABF. I know they didn't manage to do all of it, but even so, you must be pleased with the result.

I am good for Nottingham, would be an ok train ride from here, so just let me know when!

have had a few very busy weeks, particularly with the long weekends, so have been trotting off all over the place visiting friends and to various stately homes etc! then, we are off to chester tomorrow for the weekend with the ILs so that should be nice. Will be good to have something to keep me occupied as have had a pretty hellish week. My dad and stepmum, who i am not massively close to, but hey they are still my family, had a massive bust up after an afternoon at a beer festival last sunday, the argument continued and got out of hand when my step mum got home from the pub and my stepmum got knocked to the ground by my dad . she bumped her head really badly and has had bleeding on her brain and has been in intensive care in an induced coma since. As you would imagine, my dad was arrested and although he has not been charged by the police, he is out on bail and essentially we, and the police, are waiting to see what happens to my step mum. As you can imagine, it has been a TOTAL nightmare. As a family, we are pretty ordinary lot and have never had any run ins with the police, nothing, and then this happens. it was all over the front of the local paper tonight, so that is great, as you can imagine. It is not so bad for me, as i don't live in the same town, but not great for my little bro, who lives nearby as quite a few of his mates know my dad. Police came today and interviewed me for background info and to be honest it all just seems really surreal. It's the sort of thing you just don't think will happen to your family. My dad is not a saint, but i can't believe that him being such an idiot and losing his rag for a split second is having such dire consequences, and affecting the whole family like this. And whilst i have never been particularly chummy with my step mum, i would not wish this on her in a million years. it is just awful.

Anyway, onto brighter things, Anna is doing really well. The tantrums seem to have subsided a little and her speech is coming on a treat. No sentences yet, but she is definitely saying lots of words. And she gives proper hugs and kisses too, which is fab. Makes all the hassle worthwhile!

So excited for the meet up, let's keep the ball rolling on it. xxx

Oh no Ethel. How awful for you and the family.

Meet up will be fun. Is anyone planning on doing the mumsnet christmas one?

No plans for xmas meet up, am hoping i might be up the duff by then! if our meet up is a success, we could have an xmas meet up! :o xxx

Realistically it isn't going to work for me to pop to Nottingham, so I reckon you should all go ahead and meet without us as we are the ones living furthest out... It is possible, but I am just not sure about what I would do with Imogen on the trains for all that time - she would just want to walk about and annoy everyone else and I think it might be a nightmare! If of course I can convince DH that he really wants a night away in Nottingham then I shall let you know - I was born in Nottingham, but haven't lived there since I was 1! Perhaps if I'm not up the duff by christmass too (no luck yet) then I'll come to the xmas meet up and meet some of you there instead.

Ethelred, sorry to hear about your family situation, it sounds like a total nightmare. I hope your stepmum is OK and it can all be sorted out.

My parents are back off to NZ today - back again at the end of June. Had a lovely time with them here, they also came to BILs wedding which was fab and Imogen had a great time walking around, dancing, generally making herself the centre of attention with her cheeky grins to strangers!!!! I thought she'd be a bit wary, but she had an absolute ball.

She is fully walking now all the time and trying to run - we have had to run after her a few times, you only have to look away for a second it is terrifying! Although I think I felt like that she she started rolling and then crawling so I guess you get a bit used to it maybe.

She says lots of things we recognise now, although they wouldn't necessarily be recognisable to strangers! She can say "one, two, threeeeeee" [proud maths teacher mummy emoticon] and "Da-deee" but doesn't want to say mummy! She tries to say pigeon, biscuit, door, grampa and ball and can definitely say "no!" with a shake of the head. She can also say "whereishe" and sort of put her arms up and shrug her shoulders and then "thereitis" and point when she finds it!!!! They aren't quite that clear, but she sort of runs the words into each other to make one word. She doesn't actually ever stop talking and is definitely telling us things, sometimes she say the same string of nonsense twice in a row identically so she is definitely trying to tell us something!!!!

Right, promise to read and post a bit more regularly again, so my posts aren't so looooooooong next time!

I will not be wearing a rubber skirt and 6 inch heels to the meet-up! It has been a long, long, long time since the skirt fit and I'm not sure I can even stand up in the heels anymore!!

I'm going to see how the Spring meet-up goes before I sign up for the Summer or Christmas ones! Maybe you could come to the Spring one Hercule? It's in London which should be much easier for you...

Sorry to hear your news Ethelred. I hope your Step Mum recovers soon and the situation can be sorted out easily.

Catherine is trying out loads of new words at the moment. We get tree a lot (we live facing a park) and shoe (She loves her shoes) and Allgone when her snacks are finished :)

Good luck to those trying for another baby too. We're all done here, just waiting for the result of DH's vasectomy now....

Oh Blathers you are so lucky! I'm still trying to persuade DH to have a vasectomy! Doubt the doctors will do it anyway with us being under 30.
I wont go on the pill because since pregnancies it doesnt agree with me so we use condoms which is a big pain in the arse.

Definitely let us know how the spring meetup goes. I fancied the christmas one last year but was too nervous to go alone. I'm alot shyer than my online persona!

Elizabeth also says shoe and dog but that's it. She just comes out with nonsense and points. My mum says she knows the tune but cant quite remember the words!

I had very little choice. Dh wanted it done. He said that he'd have been quite happy to have no kids if that's what I had wanted, or to have stopped at just Alex, but that 2 was his absolute limit so when Catherine was born, he sorted it. I'm not so keen on being on Hormones for the rest of my life and we both get annoyed with using condoms so it was the obvious choice. It was so easy too! He was 34 yesterday so not that much older than your DH and he got no arguements from the Doctor at all. He is getting a bit blasé about it since his last sample was handed in though so it better have worked else we could be in trouble!

I will report back after the Meet-up don't worry. Am getting quite excited about it now. AlouiseG is going, as is Riven and Edgar amongst others, should be lots of fun.

Do you remember when me and the children went to London to meet Oliver Jeffers? Well the book reading we did then has been made into a promo for his book and is on YouTube!! It's for the Up and Down book. I'd link but I'm a bit worried about linking my nickname to pics of me and the children...

Oh and i love the knowing the tune but not remembering the words thing - so cute

I just tried to get Alex to watch it but he wasn't interested. I'm mortified about my huge nose and Dh was laughing at my "reading for TV" voice...

I need to see if I can download it or get a copy so I can show the children when they're older though

Just seen it Blathers! Your nose is not big! Who was the bloke in the stripey top? Was that the author? Quite fit if I do say so myself...

Yes, the Irish bloke reading with the 3 kids was Oliver Jeffers. He's lovely as well as being a bit of a looker - and married

Ooo, I could do Nottingham :o I am assuming a daytime meet up with kids? My only sticking point would be that if it was after the beginning of July I would probably want to give it a miss as I'll be about 35-36 weeks by then :) Or would come if it was after beginning of Oct as I'll hopefully be getting out and about with the two of them by then :o

Ethelred, that sounds so awful, I hope your stepmum makes a full recovery :(
Good luck to all on TTC too, it'll be strange for our babies to be having younger siblings (I am totally in denial at the moment!) :)

Blathers, I could have written your post about my DH, he feels/felt exactly the same way and will be taking himself off to the GP to ask for a vasectomy when the next baby arrives. I am fully in support, it turns out I hate being pregnant and will feel like our family is complete with 2 children. Also not keen on any of the other methods of contraception, so this is win win for me :o

I was assuming we'd be without kids! The Pit and Pendulum is not exactly a family venue

Dh got his "you may now consider yourself sterile" letter yesterday so we're absolutely, definitely in the No More camp now.

It's good though. I'm content with my two and it's a relief not to have to worry anymore :)

I may consider the coil one day but i'm sick of being poked and prodded by HCP for the moment!

I love how it was just me and Blathers that automatically assumed it was drunken no kids meet-up!

I was told the coil would probably be quite hard/painful to fit for me as I've never been more than 3cms dialated in my life! Not bad going for someone with 2 kids.

You and me are obviously the party animals ABF

hi all, i would also be happy for a no kids meet up. will go along with the crowd.
i had the coil fitted before i got pregnant with Anna. one of the worst experiences of my life, but loved it once it was in!

Ah, ok, just assumed we would be bringing kids :) Think I will give it a miss then as I'm not too sociable past early evening nowadays :( Also I don't drink, I would love to blame that on the pregnancy, but I don't drink even when I'm not growing a human :o

Hello!

Sorry I haven't been very good at posting recently, but I do check it every day! Nothing much to report here. Dh away again for the week, but I don't really mind these days, I think the fact that Imogen sleeps through every night makes things much easier all round.

AF arrived again yesterday - boo, again. I know that I need to just relax and stop worrying, but I am becoming a bit obsessed with baby no. 2 now - Dh is just as bad, he looked more disappointed than me yesterday when I told him! I think for some reason, having had Imogen, I thought it would be easier second time around, but have no basis for that!

Lee - I don't actually know what part of Nottingham, but will ask my parents! They did take us back there once to see the house we lived in and the neighbours still lived there so we got to go into their house and see what it was like. I was only 1 when we left so obviously don't remember it at all...

ABF - hope your recovery is going well and you aren't in too much pain.

If you are talking about a no-kids meet up then of course that is more manageable for me as I won't have to bring Imogen on the train. Of course convincing DH that going for a piss-up, with internet friends, half-way across the country is a good idea might well be another thing!!!!!

Just popped on to say thank god someone has posted, I really thought I had killed it this time!!