June 2009 - terrible twos here we come

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Here we are ladies

Evening all!

Ninja, oh poor DH, hope his ABs have kicked in already and he's feeling better. You're right, though, you're doomed for good He'll be "dying" each time he gets so much as a sniffle You know what they say, what if men were the ones that had to give birth, huh? Fun week you've had. How's DD3 feeling? Fog is quite bad here in our tiny area, it used to be all agricultural land, and there's loads still around so I guess that might have to do something with it? This is the house of snot at the moment as well... both M and D have a cough and runny noses.

Snow, we came back from London last Saturday (had stayed 5 days there), it was fun but hectic as there were loads of places to show them, obviously, and with two DC in tow we were always short of time

Hope everyone else is well.

Dad left yesterday, brother here till March It's so nice having him here, I only lived with him in the same country until he was 5 and he's 16 now!

There's so much I feel I need to do at home, and I don't mean housework, I mean re. decoration... the house is quite "naked" still, it needs some life, I bought some picture frames, small decoration stuff as well to see if it looks better I have an urge to get rid of 50% of the toys in this house, they're EVERYWHERE! I've given away a few this week to charity, but I think I'll do some more M got so many toys last year, hand me downs from friends, and suddenly they were everywhere!

D has cut his first two teeth, aw M's speaking Spanish 90% of the time, even at nursery, oops! Hope she switches back soon, at least when speaking to English-speaking people She's also all of a sudden started saying "scary" whenever she has to go up the stairs and the light is off. She was never scared of the dark, I don't know if she might have seen it on a TV programme? I'm trying to reassure her telling her I/we are with her, hope it doesn't get any worse than this.

Right, off to bed, it's taken me ages to finish this post, as usual.

Waves!

Heya

Oh ninja :( hope dh gets better soon, isn't pneumonia quite serious? How long does he have abs for?

Gauchita C has been getting scared about monsters we never talk or read about monsters, must be from nursery.

Dh still smoking, mood much better I think, for now. ...
We have romantic plans for valentine :)

Are you guys doing anything special?

evening all

gauchita, if dh had to give birth . . . doesn't bear thinking about!! He was pretty useless at just standing next to me The fog will be because you are in a low lying area as fog sinks, on the up side it can make it warmer, only fractionally mind but still! Your brother looks older in your photos, I hadn't realised, must be great having this time together, dcs must be loving it too

june, pneumonia certainly can be but dh has only a small dose so although quite ill, isn't doing too bad. I think he has abs and steroids for about a week, he's also back to the gps in the morning to check they're working which they do seem to be he's still moaning as mil always says, if he's moaning he's happy Enjoy your valentines plans

we're doing our usual for valentines . . . nothing and I really can't be bothered this year, it's half term so all the dcs are off and no one is feeling 100% well atm.

waves to all

Posting on the run.in transit waiting for a flight.
Aren't they funny about the scary talk?!A is doing it too.

Nothing for Valentines happening here either, particularly as I am thousands of miles away.DH has admitted how deeply unattractive he finds me as size 18. I don't even know what do to next. I am v pissed off for a start. We have been through so much, and he just shuts off from me.
Hope you all fare better tomorrow. Best get on this flight x

Snow,

Ninja, I liked how you said "fractionally warmer", indeed! DBro looks a tiny bit older, yes, if anything because he's 1.84!! Hope DH is feeling better.

June, enjoy your plans! Is it always the same baby-sitter you use?

We're trying to get M into swimming lessons. Water babies and Swimbabes only admit children until they're 1 I had no idea!! So now I'm enquiring with one other school, otherwise it'll be waiting list time at the local one, boo hoo. I can only blame myself for not taking care of this sooner, I just thought they could go at any time/age... oh well.

No plans that I can think of, as usual DH's work is very busy today, of course, so no time for even a phone call yet

Off to IKEA to buy some mixer taps. Non-mixer ones are just so hard to use Why are they the taps of choice? Enlighten me

Snow, I sent you a PM.

Snow that sucks :( I am sorry that your DH has chosen now to tell you. On the plus side he is being honest about his feelings. Only thing is I am sure you find him deeply unattractive when he is cold, angry and mean to you, he is not perfect and needs to realise that. If you have not already considered Relate, it might be time, you can also see them one-to-one for sessions if you need to. Hope you are ok, we are here if you need to get it off your chest x

Ninja, hope your DH and DC's are on the mend. It is such a good thing men don't give birth, we would never hear the end of it!

Must be a phase with the 'scary' talk June and Gauchita, N has started it too, I just leave her bedroom door open more and the hallway light on after telling her that her favourite teddies and the cat like to eat monsters.

Still living in chaos here, sub-contractors for the works at our flat have been worse than useless, still no completed kitchen or bathroom. Had to chuck one of the men out of our house yesterday as he was tiling directly onto an electrical mains spur (leading to plug socket) rather than first stripping back, plastering and then tiling onto plaster as per electrical safety regulations. Now can't use kitchen at all until wiring made safe. Council involved as lots of work they have done is sub-standard and unsafe so I hope we will get progress today.

Hang in there baby, don't think I could cope with newborn plus building works (38+3 today)

Snow :( I remember a conversation with dh (years ago before I got pregnant, I had put on weight after my brother's death but just lost a stone and a half and feelin pretty good about it). We were stuck in an airport and some models who were on the same flight were making fun of my size (doing michelin man impressions) behind my back, to kill time I presume . anyway ensued a convo with dh telling how i shoulsld make an effort and didnt i want to be like these girls (what? Obnoxious and rude you mean???) etc etc, did I mention this was after i'd been on a diet an worked my butt off to loose a stone and a half already. Convo along the same lines as what your dh said. I cried the whole way back and then some. They can be so insensitive. But at the same time i am glad he did tell me how felt, kinda meant that he did care iyswim.
I really hate the pressure on us to go through pregnancy and then look like we haven't ffs, it's not easy for everybody and it really doesn't mean we're less capable or done something wrong.
You're not going to be that size for the rest of your life, once you have a bit more balance and childcare and things are less hectic it'll be easier for you to take time out to look after yourself. You sound like you want to.
No advice on how to handle dh though. Can you tell him how it makes you feel and that you need his support to get there without it turning into an argument?
It's so hard, sonetimes when the communication is broken it's like you're from two different planets and everythong is taken the wrong way.
Lots of hugs x

oh girls, what wonderful support you are. I'm in tears at your lovely, kind messages.

I'm got home yesterday after a trip stateside (I do not recommend kansas, lovely people but truly the middle of nowhere. Dorothy must have been off her rocker when she said there is no place like home)

DH thinks he is being helpful.His reasoning is that if he feels like this, I will immediately sort it out for him and me and magic off the 20kg that current surround my tummy/arse/thighs. Like you so perceptively ?sp said, he is concerned, but it has come out with a screwy logic. Yes, I would love to lose the weight and I would be best doing that by running or going to the gym- the way I have managed my weight since I was 16. However, we live on a lane where everywhere drives at 50mph, it gets darker hours before he gets home and it is still dark in the morning when he leaves. The gym is 25mins away. I have the shred and got 5 days in before the crazy travel started again. I did take it on my last trip, but I have been laid out with the flu and barely able to get through the work day, let alone think about exercising.

He did tell me that he missed me this trip and has been incredibly helpful since i got home. I got a lie in and he got up to the kids in the night. Guilt maybe? Who knows.

Onto happier news, DH has a contract extension for 6 months, so at least he is in work and I am busy busy with more work. The project is in a really busy stage, so lots of travel over the next 3 months. Off to Brzl in a week. Fortunately our temp nanny didn't take a full time job and is really happy working whenever we need her. Yay!

zhen You are doing so well to keep calm amongst the renovating chaos at your place. Thank god you saw the unsafe tiler. Honestly. How is N coping with all the activity around the flat? And how are you feeling??? Flat in oxfd is empty if you need to escape for a few days- has a futon and a fridge (and a working boiler/shower/kitchen).

june Thanks for your support and good ideas. I am trying to get him to understand that his comments make me feel even worse about myself and are in no way motivating me to sort things out.

gauchita thanks for your message my dear. How are things are your place? Does the prolonged time away feel like a bit of a dream now? How is DH with the kids? Has he been pulling his weight at home?

Swimming lessons- what fun organising that is. We went to the council ones in oxf, and I had to have a babysitter with me to mind one, while I was in the lesson with the other. Everything around here is booked up, so the kids haven't had lessons for almost 6 months now . such a shame as they loved them

ninja did you survive half term?? How is DH now?

skillbo you ok?

Would be great to hear how some of the other Juners' are. Anyone got updates from facebook?

Thanks so much girls, you really are such fabulous support and I am very grateful that you put up with my constant moaning.

Marking place for tomorrow

evening all

snow, god that's shitty, there are ways of saying things and . . . ways of saying things! Hope things are on the up.

gauchita, we changed the taps at our old house because I couldn't be doing without mixer taps, I made dh do it, was rather amusing to watch

zhen, blimey, major renovations at yours!!!! Hope you manage to get reasonably straight before the baby arrives

june, how's the prep going for your walk/push?

well dh is still off work and driving me nuts hopefully back next week if his chest xray is ok. Just survived half term, I'm not used to dh being around over holidays especially when ill so we didn't manage to do very much, just lots of play in the garden when weather was up to it. Went to visit ils who proceeded to chain smoke seconds after showing deep concern for dh's pneumonia and laboured breathing [sigh]

I spent the day at the hospital with dd3 doing the doctors exam day again. Assessing fine motor skills, 3 out of 9 didn't even mention the fact she was wearing glasses that may indicate why she has difficulties and only 2 asked if her hearing was good enough to follow their instructions!! Gob smackingly bad some of them this year on the clinical side but much nicer than last year on the bedside manner

just in case anyone is interested, asda are doing a small peppa pig jute bag for a limited time, it's not expensive. Dh got one for Jemma, she loves it.

waves to all

Evening all!

Flash post but at least I'll try and catch up a bit. I've been meaning to post for days now

Ninja, tut tut, can't believe they were THAT goofy! The future doctors, I mean. What did those testing them say??? I can picture all the forehead slaps No Asda near us now that we've moved, or Tesco just a Morrisons. Not too bothered, though, as I shop online

I am having contractions! Irregular at the moment, but painful. Going to take a rest while I can while my mum takes N to the park for a run around. Builders and decorators are still here, but have been warned that they need to hurry up. smile

Oooh oooh oooh Zhen!

IIRC you're only around 10 days till your dd so it could well be today!

Are you ok? Feel free to post if you need to kill time.

Relax
Walk around
Disappear if you can from all the work/decoration area

If you're doing hypnobirthing go over your affirmations and visualisations

and a

oooo zhen how exciting. how are things now?

I hope you are just able to chill out and the workman pull their fingers out

hope all goes well zhen

Goo luck zhen!!!! How exciting :)
The builders must be nervous haha.

Thinking of you Zhen

Wonders if we have a new Baby Juner

Thinking of you all Zhen!

x

Thinking of you zhen hope there is a baby in your arms

thinking of you zhen

Thanks for tea and coffee ninja :)

In other news Dh and C went to get some goldfish and came back with budgies.!!
I wasn't best pleased to start with, not a huge fan of birds kept in cages.
Half an hour latet I stared having an allergic reaction to them, throat tightening etc and we had to give them away to sil that night!
So that's dogs, cats and now birds, I wonder what else I'm allergic to now...

In for the long haul, heading to sth am now.
june what was wrong with DH just getting a goldfish?! Those allergies are a bit if a worry
ninja DH out from under your feet yet?half term sounded really fun at your place
gauchita how is the clear out/decorating going at yours? Good news about the swimming.

I'm looking forward to some heat.swimming costume packed.

What an awesome day today. Had such a lovely drive through the country,with loud music of my choice and no kids. V fun.

Hope you are all out enjoying the sunshine

Sorry to leave you pacing so long ladies!

Well I had an interesting labour. Builders were still in my house at 3pm when my contractions suddenly went from 6 minutes to 2 mins apart in less than half hour. Left them the keys with instructions to clear up and get out and got sleeping DD1 into car ready to go to hospital. Got into back seat and waters went, cue back to back contractions rolling into one another and feeling like pushing. My mum phoned for an ambulance, whilst I woke up N with all the noise I was making, with builders looking on from the sidelines! Blue-lighted to hospital trying not to push as didn't know if I was 10cm yet. Got into delivery room, told 10cm, pushed but babies heart rate was dropping after contractions. Pushed for half hour, taken to theatre still pushing given spinal block (was just on TENS and gas and air up until then) and attempted ventouse. In the end they couldn't turn her she was occiput transverse so another EMCS for me. Lost 800mls of blood, but I am fine now, just sore.

Nalani was born at 6.08pm on the 23rd weighing 7lb 13.5oz. Back at home now, got home yesterday afternoon, she is feeding well, my milk came in today and DD1 is chuffed to be a big sister :)

June, hope all is well now after the budgie disaster, maybe DH will stick to the goldfish plan now!

Oh Zhen, congratulations!!!!

Wow, what a birth story to tell Nalani when she's older!! Lovely name as well

I can only imagine the builder's faces when all that was happening

Really really hope they're gone now? And for good!!

Congratulations again, we're so happy for you.

Hope you're all getting newborn cuddles. Take care of yourself, I've heard CS leaves you sore and exhausted so use all the help you're offered. Glad to hear you're already home and that baby is feeding well.

((congratulating hug))

On phone now so back later for a catch-up.