Totally's postgrads - you know who you are.

[Meita]

Totally's original thread was for TTC after MC. It continued long after Totally herself graduated, and is still going strong. Totally's grads was set up as a thread for pregnancy post MC - i.e. anyone who graduated from Totally's thread and anyone else who had experienced MC and was now pregnant. It, too, is still going strong.

Now, more and more of us have graduated from Totally's grads - including LouiseSH, whose Georgie was born asleep. I suppose that makes us postgrads. We have travelled together for a long time and would like to stay in touch, but the pregnancy post MC thread is starting to get very big, and I think it should be allowed to keep its focus on pregnancy post MC. May it be as wonderful a place for support for current "members" as it was for us.

So this thread is a place for us to keep in touch, share experiences, and provide support.

(This is the first time ever I'm starting a thread - hope it works out...)

Have put me bloody back out .

Ouch.

Ouch!!! unbuffy is mr diclofenac still in residence? Good for back pain...

Muser omg was not expecting to see you yet! Mahoosive congratulations!

Am v v v tired and emotional today. Can't say anything positive so will say nothing! Wishing everyone well though.

Buffs soz about your back, what a pain (no pun intended).

Alba good to hear about the weight gain, go oo's go!!

Big hugs to gi1da cry if you need to and blame the bloody hormones. I won't repeat some of the thoughts I've been having over the past few days because they were totally irrational! So am sending you a big squeeze and slice of cake and a hot cup of tea

C sectioners- when did you cut down your pain meds? I have started to get a few headaches and as boob is under control I thought I might start cutting some doses ... Am on day 11 post op.

hi ladies

welcome muser congrats

gilda i've had days likethat too - i think best to let it out!

clareanna i started to cut down at 7 days and then had to increase again and then at 14 days just went onto paracetemol and the odd day when i needed it took diclofenic (no idea how to spell!)

hope everyone is doing well?

we are doing grand, i just love little ciara so so so so so much she is a dote! we are starting to get ourselves in a mini routine in that she wakes, we feed, 2 hours later she needs a 30 min or so nap but when she wakes varies by 2 hours every day! i'm not going to worry about it though.

getting a bit down about the amount of weight i have to lose but in the grand scheme of things that's not important.

i am addicted to tea again (after giving up when pg) literally addicted!

will catch up on the thread shortly hope all are well

xx

Hi everyone, sorry I've not been on in a while and apologies in advance for what is going to be a moany post. I am still really down about the bf. Things have improved slightly, but despite all the help I have got from bf counsellors and many, many attempts, no matter what I do I just cannot get her to latch on correctly. At the clinics the bf counsellors say it looks perfect but when I take her off the nipple is always misshapen in the exact same way. I am so frustrated because it feels like no matter what I do I am still getting it wrong. Can't stop crying about it . Sorry for the me, me, me moan.
Clareanna I'm glad you are over your mastitis, sounds horrible.
happygirl I have drank a lot of tea and coffee these last few weeks- I didn't voluntarily give it up during pregnancy but they gave me awful heartburn. Such a relief to be able to drink lots of the stuff now!
Muser, welcome, hope you are enjoying your baby girl.
Hugs to Gilda, hope you are feeling brighter.
unbuffy that's rubbish about your back, hope you can get some good pain relief for it and are able to take it easy ( as much as that is possible with a small baby to look after)
Hi everyone else

Dorcas I had similar. Kind of wedge shaped but latch was ok. If it hurts, it's wrong. If not, just go with it, it improves, in my experience. Always start again if it hurts, if not and you're told it's ok and baby's gaining weight so getting enough milk then it's fine.
Not an expert, but that's my experience. Lactation consultant told me slight wedge I was getting was ok and these days it doesn't happen and I did exactly as I said above. Don't let it get you down, you are seeing good weight gain aren't you? So you're doing brilliantly. It took us till 5 wks to regain birthweight...

If it hurts, restarting a few times does help. Tiring and frustrating but they do get the message in a day or two. Also try different holds? I found switching from cross body to rugby ball helped when latch was bad.

And at the time it seemed forever till it worked, but only 6 wks now and it is so, so much easier. I do hope that helps

Gilda I get waves of wanting to cry for no reason at all. I was slightly concerned but it seems it's just more pesky hormones... Glad I'm not alone, but sorry others are feeling like this.

Hi dorcas my mw said a lipstick shaped nipple was ok as long as not hurting as youre aiming the nipple at the top of the mouth so it can get out of shape

honestly, don't know what I would do without you lot. Good to know I'm not alone on the teariness. So awful when you feel guilty for not being delighted 24/7. I know how terribly lucky I am and am so grateful but there are times when I just want to hide!

Waves to all, and a big hug for Dorcas (and anyone else who needs one) x

Alba impressed you braved bookface, have always been a bit woo about it but would love to coo over the threadlets!

Think we are hitting 6 week growth spurt here, Ren has grown out of so many things, and he's been like glue the last few days, muchos milkos nom nom nom.

Ps before I take out a nappy mortgage, anyone have good words to say about totsbots easyfits? We did not get on with terries. That is SO cutting a long story short!

Pss sorry I missed that it was your birthday Meita Hope it was lovely. Oh and how was the nursery?

Argh- been feeding almost constantly since 4pm- boobs like a couple of old socks! g feeling your pain..!

I am sat here hoping the Muselet has fallen asleep. Last night the 11/12pm feed just merged into the 3am one.

Definitely not alone on feeling tearful, I've had my moments, particularly when it's the middle of the night and she's all arms and legs and I can't get her to latch on.

Just a quick image i KNOW you will all enjoy... apropos sucking cheese strings from boobies... In my snot-based research one reccommendation is to put mouth over baby's nose and, ahem, orally remove bogies. ie, suck.

Cue more bleurging.

Tearful day here too, v little sleep and sore back- was getting better then had to take j to have his hips checked at hospital yesterday... 50min journey took 2 1/2 hours due to road closure on the way, hour and a half late for appt and then rush hour by the time i left. so looooong time in car = recurrence of back pain. diclofenac helps but lack of sleep def does not!!

will attempt better catch-up later, appols for me-type post. also for 1-hand left-hand typing!!

unbuffy was it for a hip scan? Toby has to have one at 6 weeks due to family history.
The getting out of bed at night must be killer- can dh do the heavy lifting for you?

Hi very quick post just to say a huge thanks for all your advice and support, will try and get back later to post a longer message, but baby is waking. Just felt bad because I've not been able to get on to say thanks, I really appreciate your help. Just finding it a little difficult to find the time to post at the moment. Ok, she is properly awake now, ie crying, will be back x

Hugs to Dorcas Unbuffy Gilda and anyone else .

Being a mummy can be tough for definite and not many people tell us this.

It's the anniversary of MC this saturday and i'm trying so so hard to stay strong. I feel so bad feeling sad with Ciara here and so fab but I can't help it. Still I'm trying to stay happy.

Now crazy question here but could my little 10 week old baby possibly be teething? Granny seems to think so, she is drool-city, biting her finger on one side and a bit of a white dot.. now i have to admit i hadn't really been examining her gums in great detail so i'm not convinced it could possibly be teething but today she was really out of sorts and could def see something in there. I want her to stay super cute and little for longer please! She is growing so fast. Def getting ready for a nighttime feed tonight, she threw up her bottle earlier. Going to have a little read about reflux not sure what it is and am wondering does she have it as this throwing up is happening semi regularly

Just to say still here and still reading, but still have a poorly baby so no time :( Really hope she's better soon and we all get more sleep.

we're all a little hormonal and tearful just now -- time for a big group hug??

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Thanks unbuffy and clareanna for the bookface welcome! I'm working one by one trying to figure out who's who on the other mumsnetters you suggested for me. So far two out of two right! Struggling now on figuring out the rest, my daily challenge whilst feeding for ages. That and actually figuring out how it works, the iphone app has a bunch of non-intuitive quirks (at least for an old dinosaur like me). Gilda, it's so lovely to see the other little ones, and you can set pretty tight privacy settings (though my DSCs don't realise that they have set theirs not quite tight enough, we're mutual friends with my niece - so I can now see all their details. Thankfully nothing too dreadful on there! And I'm not letting on I can see what they're up to unless there's a major reason to). Have also stumbled across a couple of old friends I've been out of touch with for a while which is really nice . Though I do feel like the thread granny now seeing how young you all look!

Gilda, did you say you're on 6 week growth spurt? We are for sure, my little chap has chubby cheeks again at last. But is doing the howlywails for an hour every evening, just after his formula bottle, so I think I'm going to drop it, he only takes two ounces so I don't think it's making much difference.

Happy teeth at 10 weeks very possible, some babies have some at birth, though that's v rare. A friend's baby got his first at 3 months and that's not so unusual.

Muser big hello!

Unbuffy ouch! and boo to the road closure. Talking of bad car journeys... I remember when DS1 was about 9 weeks old, just after we'd been on holiday (with roof box still on top of the car) I had to go to pick DSS up from school sports ground. I'd never been there before (was always at work on sports afternoons), didn't know where to park, DH told me where nearest carpark was and I was so busy trying to ignore DS1 screaming and focus on where I was going, I didn't notice the height restriction bar at the entrance to otherwise outdoor carpark. I did notice when I heard a loud crunch....... I cried, a lot, very embarrassing, not to mention expensive!! Not really so relevant but your nightmare car journey just brought that back to me... I still haven't lived it down. I try to avoid car journeys with time deadlines this time round, whenever I can.

I hope J's hips were ok?

Hang in there Dorcas, it will get better...

Happy MC anniversaries still painfully sad despite good stuff happening now. Have a good cry and acknowledge it, it does help.

I too think I forgot to wish Meita a happy birthday, very very belated now, sorry! What news on nurseries?

Sam is your DD's foot better? Still can't get over how much damage a bowl of cereal can do!

Apols for any mentions I forgot, I'm waffling on and struggling to focus properly on what I really meant to reply to... totally addled brain. I was wondering about going back to work before my year is up, but the tireder I get, the more I think I'll stay off till next christmas.....

Alba Old photos are a wonderful thing !!!

Clare Yes, hip scan as dd was breech and so was I - and i had to be in calipers. The right hip was a little shallow at 6 weeks so they wanted to recheck. 5 min appointment, all well, j very grumpy about getting back into car poor thing!

Dorcas Hi, stay calm and we're here if you need us, but don't worry about posting extensively! We'll all understand!

TMT Hope it gets easier soon, it's so horrid watching a tiny baby struggling with a cold. j still has a cough and i hate it when he makes that terrible chokey coughy sound in the night. (())

Well seems a bit calmer here today, am feeling like huge BLOB and seem to have put on LOADS of weight since j was born - probably due to me eating constantly to try to stay awake. Another thing they don't tell you... That makes about 40,000 now I think.

big waves to all and i will drop off some of the scones i fancy making later - jam and cream for all?

(and i wonder why i am a blob...)

Morning... Anyone else up?!

Yep!

Me too...

Feed finished a good 40 minutes ago, but will she drop off...

I don't understand why babies are designed to get milk drunk and lovely and sleepy only to need to be woken up due to winding- Tis very cruel!

Hello Ladies,

Can I join you? Baby (name tbc) was born on Monday morning.

She's absolutely gorgeous but we're having some sucking problems when it comes to feeding. Baby does seem to be learning but struggles to sty on my nipples or falls asleep.

Have fed her late last night. Been told to express every three hours and give a bottle if she's desperate but she's sleeping at the moment so no need for formula yet.

So have just expressed for 20 mins but not sure what to do with the milk/colostrum as I've produced 5ml. Would really like to give it to the baby. Can I use a special bottle I've bought to avoid nipple confusion? Or should I try something else like a cup or syringe?

Will post this on breastfeeding too but vague memories that some of you might have had similar problems.