September 2010: windy bums, weaning starts to loom!

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A starter for 10 on our Sept 2010 babies as their first Christmas comes nearer! Can't believe we're there already; I was barely pregnant last Xmas!

Morning folks! Just sat here giving Aphra her feed after an evening when she was kinda screamy and grizzly but guess what, i didn't hear some of it cos I went out! By myself! To the pub with friends! Only for an hour and a half or so but still... Tuesday is a regular pub night for our group of friends but DP and I obviously haven't gone much since Aphra was born; we've taken her once or twice as it's a gastropub so they're fine with kids. We were thinking of maybe going to say happy Christmas to folks but DP felt under the weather and didn't want to go out - but I did, so I left them in front of the telly and strode out unencumbered! I haven't been out just by myself like that since she was born, apart from the odd trip to the shop for half an hour.

DP was a bit disgruntled cos she wasn't very settled and he was feeling a bit rubbish, but he acknowledged that it was definitely his turn!

Glad you had a good time comixminx, I felt a bit like the first time I went shopping on my own. Took my iPod and danced round tesco, all the time rushing in case Luke was screaming! Now most of the time ds1 wants to come so I don't get to go on my own but it's nice to do something just me and him too! I am out Friday which will be nice but I don't know the people well and I'm a bit nervous about it as well.

Hope Olly's feeling better chelle1986, it's horrible when they're not well

Just up now for first time so am really pleased!! Hope everyone elses lo's had a good night too

Glad you had a good night comix!! Chelle im glad someone else has left their baby overnight, saw a thread on here the other day where someone was saying how wrong it is to leave kids with grandparents etc as when you are a parent there is no such thing as time off!! Some of the stuff on here really does get my back up.

Anyway i'm really really excited for tonight but also feel very sick and nervous and i suppose a bit guilty for leaving her but a few big drinks should sort that out. I remember someone saying a while ago that you've never known guilt until you become a parent and it is so true.

Got my works xmas do in Saturday at a posh hotel in manchester with a sodding red carpet and champagne reception and do i have anything to wear?? Do i hell!! I tried to have a look for a dress while i was in town the other day but everything was super sparkly and that is so not me. Plus town was rammed so i had a bit of a paddy and came home! I've got a million dresses in my wardrobe that have never been worn or only worn once but it's a question of weather they fit or not. Might try a few on tomorrow morning before MIL brings Grace back.

Hope everyones sleep wasn't tooo disrupted last night. Grace went to bed at 11 and is still asleep, might have to wake her up shortly though as i've got so much to do today!!

newmum, I saw that thread too, had some dreadful tosh on it, didn't it? The OP kept repeating that she was talking about leaving babies and toddlers with GPs not children but to be honest I think in both cases you need a break sometimes, why not. People were even dragging out that old chestnut of "why have kids if you don't want to look after them"! Stupid stuff and nonsense.

Good luck with the outings, folks! Hope you can find something good to wear, newmum. I didn't even get invited to my work Xmas do, which I didn't feel offended by at the time but now feel like maybe I should be?! I don't want them to forget about me after all, even though I might well not have gone. Hmm.

Newmum Am so glad I didn't see that thread. My mum hardly ever has any of our kids as 'they are your kids, you look after them' i don't see it as 'looking after' I see it as spending quality time with her grandchildren. she moans that dc3 doesn't know her, she is very shy, but then doesn't come to see her much.

Well 1st night in cot and she spent 45 mins in there. I know I'm soft and take the easy route by putting her in bed with me. i can't bear to leave them crying and as she shares with us and dc3 she would keep us all awake.

I haven't been to a christmas party for years. it's my birthday on Monday so we usually go out for that, before the little ones came along. DP is taking me to the pub for dinner and a big pudding as we can take the kids with us

That's really sad Debs75, one of my minded children has a grandma that is the same- she's says I've done my bit! On the plus side they live close so see them lots just won't have them to help mum out. I have to say that my mum would love to have mine more but I hate leaving them! She babysits here once a month or so, but ds1 has only slept at her house 3 times and one of those was when Luke was being born. Probably sound really sappy but I love seeing their little faces when they wake up and have been asleep all night, I miss them a bit each night. But that's the problem with parenting in general everyone does it differently and people are VERY quick to judge .

Newmum that thread sounds like a load of pap to me too! My parents are wonderful with Jack and why would I deny them a night with their first grandchild when there is no sane reason for me to?! Also, DHs sister never let her two girls out her sight, even now they're 7 and 4. His mum always felt as though she missed out on having them over night so she has already had Jack to stay and I would let her again in a heartbeat. He is a very happy baby and I can rest assured that he'll settle to sleep with anybody tho I do understand if other babies can only settle with mum or dad.

Had a trip to the hospital today with Jack after the GP referred us to get a rash checked out. He had slept forever too but sleepy rather than drowsy if that makes sense so we came home after three docs checked him out. Rash is on his torso and lower back but does blanch so it's a bit of mystery. There was a suggestion that it could be his body finally getting rid of the cold he had a week or so ago.
They weighed him too which I was keen to see..... 12 weeks and 14lbs 3oz!
No wonder my arms hurt ALL the time!

Hope you sorted the dress situation out newmum not a problem here...... I live in wellies and have straw for hair! My name is Worzel Gummidge!

Newmum I've left olly & have the gps booked for the 8th jan! ds1 loves it. He cries when he has to come home. Debs my mil is a bit like that. She has had ds1 overnight but moaned that he got up too early & hasn't really pushed the issue since!

Beadit Glad Jacks ok. Must have been scary.

It was my aunties funeral today . A horrible day but I think she would have been pleased. My cousin (her son) did a lovely eulogy (spelling!) and my brother sang a beautiful song. Olly stayed at the back of the church with dh but slept through it although he screamed at the crem after!

On a brighter note I found out I'm going to be an auntie again . my sil is 12 weeks! I'm very excited.

Very jealous fenvy bananastew, I'd love to be an auntie!!! My brother says he won't have any until he's at least 30 (27 now) and dh is 15 years older than me so his sisters kids are 17 and 20 so don't really think of me as their auntie as we have only been together 6 years.

Should be not fenvy!!!

HI everyone! my DD spilled tea all over the computer,and broke the keyboard!
so i havent been able to get on for ages
(cue weird withdrawl symptoms)

i will catch up properly tomorow,but i just wanted to say happy birthday to minimellymooks i was 25 on the same day!
there are quite a few odd coiencences like that with us melly...

i might list them tomorow,if im feeling weird and obsessive

Hi all
Had a night of it on monday. DS2 threw up all over his bed and floor, then all over our bed. DS1 wet himself and the bed. Then had to feed lil lady. DH and I sitting up in bed at 1am having tea just sighing! the fun!
Phoebe goes to bed at 7 then I feed her around 11. She has started sleeping til 6 or 6.30. She fusses during the night (about 4.30)and I give her a soother. She was down to waking for an ounce or two so just decided to give it a go and it works! She has started grazing on her bottles tho which is a pain but I think she is getting confused between breast and bottle. Will have wean in the coming weeks. I always feel guilty weaning them! weird eh?

My mum doesnt mind babies too much as she isnt physically able but now the boys are up and about she is great for the the odd hour or something. DH and I would not be able to go anywhere if it wasnt for his mum. Shes great and travels to do the same for her daughter. I dont understand he 'ive done my bit' brigade. Its their children looking for a bit of support! My MIL is more of a 'I remember what it was like and my mother was wonderful' type

Now all in bed so am off to make a cuppa and have some chocolate. DH is training now and getting so serious - all healthy eating and exercise taking up most of him time off. My days are numbered will have to deal with my tum in the new year so better enjoy choc while I can!

Morning all.

mammyG I would love Harlyn to go down for his big nights sleep earlier. It used to be between 12-1 but I've managed the last couple of weeks to have him down by 11:30 and he sleeps through (mostly) till 6-7 ish. He also gets grizzly between 3-4 but pop in his pacifier and he is fine. I can't wait till he starts going to sleep a little earlier in the evening but at the mo he just seems to be wide awake after his tea time feed and bath. Any tips??? Also totally understand about the guilt of weaning too. I've been saying I'm going to do it for a while now as he is far more settled (with wind) on his new formula but still gets gripey after Breast feeds (I'm down to two a day). I just can't see myself giving those two feeds up anytime soon as every time I say "right today is the day" he ends up back on the boob! So last night I told DH that I'm going to continue with it even though it makes him windy as surely he is still getting the benefits and protection from even just those two feeds a day.

Me and Harlyn have our first night completely alone tonight as DH has his works do in London and is staying over. Fortunately his sister is coming over in the morning to walk the dog for me. I'm actually really looking forward to it.

11 weeks (- 1 day)

Morning all, haven't posted for ages it seems! Will catch up properly with the thread in a mo but have to say I saw that ridiculous thread about leaving your baby/toddler - it was so stupid that I can't help thinking the OP was just having a laugh winding people up!

This week seems to be dragging by - I can't wait until DH is off work and we can do Christmassy things! Having said that, am in a mild panic about all the Christmas stuff I haven't yet organised (like buying any pressies for DH!).

After much dithering, I finally stopped BF-ing and expressing last week. Felt a little sad about it but also quite relieved t have made my mind up. And glad to see the back of my breast pump, i really came to hate having to use it. The downside is that now I'm 100% bottlefeeding, I think I'm devloping a sort of repetitive strain injury in my shoulder, elbow and wrist - I must naturally hold the bottle in quite an awkward way. I keep trying to hold it differently but every way I do it feels wrong!

Envious of all of you who are having night out - how lovely! It is so rare for Dh and I to have a night out - it's making me think I need to get sorted with a regular babysitter.

Right, off to catch up with the rest of this thread and write some more sodding Christmas cards!

Morning...... just been to clinic with the lil man to check his weight gain and have his rash checked again. It's not clearing but nobody seems worried about it so I'll just keep a check on it and hope it goes soon.
Having finally got a nurse to chart Jack's centile pages I realize that his weight gain has tailed off slightly
I thought it might have as he is a small and often baby and doesn't have 2.5 oz per lb of body weight. I know that's just a guide tho.
I really can't decide if it's way too early to start introducing solids or not? Can anyone offer advice on this? I just get the feeling Jack doesn't enjoy milk very much? Oh, I just don't know maybe he does but just doesn't want more than 3 oz. I'm pretty sure the teat size is ok as he doesn't drink slowly..... pah pah pah..... having a bit of a strange couple of days. Am going to shut the curtains and plonk myself under a blanket.

I don't like the 'i've done my but' attitude. i am looking forward to dd1 having kids so I can have them to stay and to indulge them a bit. i will be the bad granma as dd1 is super strict with dc3 and lucy that we joke her kids will have to ask permission to move. However she said she will wait for kids until she is 32, 18 years away. i want to be a granma by 40 as that should quell my yrge to have a 5th

2nd night in cot and we managed 3 hours.YAY.
It was hairy as dc3 woke up just as I was taking Lucy up, she had had a nightmare and it took me 25 mins to calm her down. She eventually settled in my bed and stayed there till 7am. Lucy was in by 3am.
when we got up we realised we had left the heating on all night so it was super toasty. I can't afford to do that every night.

I don't like the 'i've done my but' attitude. i am looking forward to dd1 having kids so I can have them to stay and to indulge them a bit. i will be the bad granma as dd1 is super strict with dc3 and lucy that we joke her kids will have to ask permission to move. However she said she will wait for kids until she is 32, 18 years away. i want to be a granma by 40 as that should quell my yrge to have a 5th

2nd night in cot and we managed 3 hours.YAY.
It was hairy as dc3 woke up just as I was taking Lucy up, she had had a nightmare and it took me 25 mins to calm her down. She eventually settled in my bed and stayed there till 7am. Lucy was in by 3am.
when we got up we realised we had left the heating on all night so it was super toasty. I can't afford to do that every night.

Double posted again, stupid computer

Debs I tried to have Orlaith in her cot from about 1 week and it didn't work at first. I think it just takes some perseverence (sp?). I find now that most nights she's in there all night at 12 weeks.

jodeylea I'm glad you mentioned the cow and gate comfort working for Harlyn. I had a big cry yesterday morning while DP was off and told him I couldn't cope with the sleepless nights and I desperately need his help. We talked and decided to try C&G comfort and encouraging her to sleep more in the day and it worked! She went to bed at 10.15, woke up twice for a quick 3oz each time, then didn't wake up till 10am!!! I feel loads better today.
Before Orlaith had her week of not sleeping, I had started doing her bath earlier like 7ish as it seemed to wake her up (all the splashing I think), and it definitely helped.

beadit lots of people have a theory about babies getting up/down to their natural centile after a while. Orlaith only takes 3-4oz, and I've noticed her weight gain goes up when she's not sleeping because the only way to soothe her is a bottle, then it goes down a bit when she's sleeping better. She's on about the 75th centile now so if she tails off I really don't think it's any harm. I'd say the same for Jack if he's 14lb at 12 weeks!

Beadit Jack sounds just like ds1. On a good day he would take 17oz, on a bad day he'd take 11oz and was always massively sick, about 5oz worth at least once a day. he never actually lost weight but he did drop down the centiles slowly. I worried & worried & worried & weaned him at 21 weeks because I thought he didn't like milk. He didn't like solids either! I realised that he just wasn't a hungry baby. took enough to satisfy his hungar & that was all. I've learnt this time with Olly to ignore the amount he's taking & focus on him. He's settled inbetween feeds, going 3-4 hours. maintaining his centiles and developing as he should.

I'm personally not planning on weaning till as close to 6 months as possible because i can't be doing with the faff thats the recommendation & i'm also thinking I might do a mixture of purees and BLW.

Why hasn't that strike out worked??

Olly 15weeks 2days (14lb 1oz!)

Thanks saoirse he's between the 50th and 75th which surprised me a bit as he gained really well for the first 8 weeks. Anyway, i know he's not going hungry it's really more that it makes life harder having to feed him so often.
Having got so behind with work because of going to hospital yesterday and clinic today.... i've sacked it all off to have a day of constant cuddles and play. Definitely the right decision.
I was looking back on a name thread that I started re: Jack or Oliver and found this reply that really made me at the time! :

They're the name equivalents of stripped floorboards, off white walls and a feature wall. Yes it looks very nice, but dear God have some imagination.

Good thing I like and have white walls and floorboards then! hee he hee. So pleased you're all much nicer than that but where are you all??? Christmas shopping I bet! x

Hi Ladies :)

Maria-Ann had her second lot of injections yesterday, I didn't know that they had 3. Anyway she harldy made a noise :) She is suffering really bad though, last night she screamed for 2 hrs solid and nothing I did could comfort her, Gave her calpol 2.5ml but this didn't seem to work at all. Today she has been really off colour again, really pale which happened last time and grizzley :( hope she is feeling better soon

Just wondering if any of your little ones have been offered the BCG injection or have had it? I remember having this in high school and was just wondering if they have changed it because there is an increase of TB cases?

Hopeing the snow doesn't stick as I really need to do the last of my Christmas shopping tomorrow and I hate driving in the snow!

beaditAli I think they are both really nice names and I hate it when some people have nothing better to do than say horrible things. It makes it far worst when you are pregnant and the hormones are rageing. Some people are just sad! Thankfully everyone on this thread is really nice

12+2

clumsy!! good to see you back, was wondering where you were! hope you had a good birthday!!
Yes there are many weird coincidences between us!!

Anyone else experienced pelvic pain? I find if I twist or lift awkwardly I am in quite a bit of pain in my lower abdomen, lower back and pelvis.

Weather is wild here heavy rain/sleet and very windy, hope my DP is ok driving home on the M5 right now I don't miss the commute to work, I must say.

I'm glad we're tucked up by the fire.