Cosey up, the kettle's on

[BibiBelle]

here we go, before I head to bed

Bibi (((hug)))

no matter, will make it work I'm just getting a tad fed up with always being the one who has to sort it. DH and I are having a slight 'moment' shall we say due to his disasterous night out on the 29th. There is no issue at all between us, I've just had an epiphany and told him. We had Dad 25th - 28th so only had 29th & 30th together. On the 29th he went out with his shift. Fell home and was rather ill all night. I was not pleased. I pointed out that in the last month he had spent more time and more money going out with his crew from work than he had with me all year Time for me to get my own social life and stop waiting on him to include me in his so I'm going out on the 15th The 30th was ruined with him being ill and our guests arrived on the 31st so the holiday that I had high hopes for was filled with visitors & being busy!

Silk I have a very comfy futon with wooden frame so more like a sofa bed that I need to get rid of before dc2 arrives but might be a bit of a problem getting it to you! Yay for language developments though.

Hots ours definitely didn't take as long to come down apart from the lights which I spent ages trying to put back in the box properly. DS told me he's very sad that he had to say goodbye to the Christmas tree.

TS when we go to our local Italian DS insists on eating big spoonfuls of parmesan cheese - the waitresses are always . Eggs usually go down pretty well here too and I find you can cram quite a lot in an omlette.

Bibi sorry your holiday season was not as hoped and that DH sorts out his priorities a bit in 2011. Mine has also had a warning after his 3am appearance on 23rd and then not getting back till 5pm on Christmas Eve leaving me with MIL.

morning.. yuck yuck.. feeling utter crapola

also i am fuming and i know i shouldn't be!!! dh went out for usual tuesday night which was fine.. saw his bro as always (the one with the horrible sil).. anyway we haven't typically seen them over xmas as we think sil is too embarassed after txt saga..

anyway way before xmas i txted her to say as dd1 hadn't had her b-day present from them (was in sept) to just give it to her for xmas.. and that is exactly what they did.. now i know i said that was fine but i was hoping for a little extra ie selection box.. i mean she is their god daughter for goodness sake.. their kids got lovely presents from us.. i know it is not the receiving but the giving but at xmas you spoil the children... we never exchange presents with the rule that you spend a little more on the children..

apparently bil was all kitted out in new gear last night too so it cannot be that they are short of money..

i know i am probably bu but inside i am screaming "you mean selfish cow".. echoing her exact words to me on txt!!

phew rant over..

will catch up properly in a bit but someone please tell me i am being stupid!!!

loti i'm playing devil's advocate a bit here but... you did tell her to just give dd1 the present for christmas instead of bday. i suspect she had a list of names and a tick went next to dd1's name after your suggestion was made. so as far as she was concerned, dd1 was done. Now if it had been me, i would have made damn sure that the bday present was actually given to my god daughter for her bday but, as it wasn't, then yes, I would have added something to it but that then leads to another issue. if they'd added something to it, would it then have meant they were giving more to dd1 than dd2?

you're not being stupid, completely understandable given how horrible sil has been but i do think you need to try and take a deep breath....

sorry to not reply to everyone, i'm not meant to be on here but just wanted to share the new game i've invented... put ds in booster seat, put dd in highchair, give ds a bowl of shreddies and dd happily watches her big brother eating his breakfast. whilst i get to drink a hot cup of tea I know, I'm a genius!

back later

hip you are completely right i am just being a bit anal about it all..i guess it just wrecks my head that they just completely ignore/forget about their nieces whilst we bend over backwards for their children..will get off my soap box

cece great news on dh

bibi hope you have a great night on the 15th and get your childcare issues sorted double quick

welcome home urs

TS eggs are a mighty fine tea in my house

crisp please can u send some of your energy my way??

Morning all

Feeling like shite today as am back at work, coughing and spluttering over everyone but you aren't allowed to be off just with a cold so here I'll stay feeling sorry for myself

loti you know hippy is right, Christmas present buying is such a bind (for me anyway) they will just have been relieved to cross her off the list. Your SIL is a pill anyway, so just be glad there aren't either extra toys cluttering up your house or extra chocs for you to be tempted by...

Merlion lights go back in their boxes??? ours are just bundled up in individual carrier bags and then in a big box

Lucky Yeah, she's not psychic though is she? It's all v well sending secret unwritten messages but you can't expect people to read anything other than what you've actually written. And I don't think it is a universal assumption that kids should be spoilt at Christmas, esp if they're too young to notice any disparity. Keep up the hate though, she's still a cow.

Bibi If you added up all the childcare/loss of earning costs of DH's non-working court days and unexpected work last year, would it come to as much as you made after childcare? If you offset all the childcare costs against your earnings I mean, going through all the invoices for the last year. If you were to spend those hours making cakes/working in the shop/marketing instead, would it be less/more/same profitable? Would it be worth it just to get rid of useless home help girl? To not be rushing about exhausting yourself? Plus all the other crap you get from work? Is it not worth making the jump and dedicating yourself utterly to cakes and lovely things? I reckon it would by the end of this year.

Thanks ladies I was being a pita wasn't I!!! Duly noted and glad I ranted here and not to anyone else!!!

loti, but don't be forgetting that she's still a nasty person though!

Hello all,

Still not good news on the job front ... it appears that I am not good at dealing with uncertainty.

DD has D&V

DS has conjunctivitis

I am officially grumpy

Neither of them sleeps.

Roll on our holiday (as long as DH doesn't get a new job and need to miss it. Hope not).

Woe is me.

On the plus side it is not quite so hot today and I think that I'm going to take the kids to a museum this afternoon.

Love to all,

Oh and any words of wisdom or bright ideas from you very wise women: 1) potty training OK, but still has some accidents 2) wakes at night to wee 3) doesn't then go back to sleep. 4) he is still in a night nappy, which is pretty much always dry in the morning. What with the night-time wee whatevers

Salta - don't bother with the potty training if you feel it is too soon. all kids are different and I KNOW I'm bucking the thread trend here but feck it. DD1 was in night pants till she was 6, she was such a heavy sleeper and I'm not for wakening a sleeping child. DD2 was instant potty and nights at the same time before she was 3 - no effort on our part at all. D can wait till she's ready. I dont' have time and it's easier AND I'm not going to give her the toilet issues that my parents left me with hope thye're feeling better soon AND that the hols come around.

LOTI - agree with hips, it's been a tick in the box on her part. I fully understand though. After YEARS of spending time/money/effort on everyone else's kids I no longer do it as it's not returned with mine. BF hasn't send the girls Christmas/birthday presents in years but I still get told what to send for her DS no more.

Merlion - thanks for sharing your DH and his nights out too - at least I didn't get left with the MIL I feel terrible as DH hardly ever gets to go out but still, when it out numbers the amount of times he's been out with me in over a year then that's a no imo.

When is your next scan btw?

Silks - agree entirely and high up on the list is to get the accounts sorted out so I can sit and see what it worth while. DD2 will be starting school in Aug so that will help immensly. My mothers 'help' is pg and will be getting told that March is her last month due to us being off in April and her baby being due in May. From there I'm hoping my friend who is a CM will help out and in Aug L will start school and D's funding will kick in I just have to keep swimming until then!

Been in the shop today taking out the christmas window and putting in a new one. C has been admitted to hosp so I'll be working in the shop tomorrow/Fri and then back in shift on Sat - holidays are officially over here!

Salta - DD1 is still in night pants at 4.2 whereas DD2 has been dry for 3 nights now (she gets up to wee). I was just considering removing them when she decided to wee twice in the kitchen this avo . Almost seemed deliberate her not going to the potty rather than an accident, so not sure what is going on. I think night nappies will stay until after the weekend when they are staying at Dsis's house. So, no wise words, other than go with how you feel rather than what 'should' be happening IYSWIM?

What has happened with work BTW? I think i missed that one? Hope the DC's are on the mend soon. Tis very draining

loti I actually am with you on the SIL thing. however as she has 'form' i must say i am not surprised . My BIL/SIL have no idea when DD's birthdays are, if they send a cheque it is late and in DH's name???? and they cannot spell DD1's name properly

bibi poor C, what is the matter? (if not too personal lol!). Fingers x'd your CM can cover the breach. I am considering advertising for a PT nanny as i have been asked to visit a potential target in J ersey for 2 days and another site visit which requires a 12hr day. I can't figure out how to do it with current pre-school/CM/DH combo and will only get worse when DD1 goes to school in Sept

DD's have both been a nightmare today - DD2 currently running round naked and DD1 attacking her with a feather duster . Rather like a benny hill sketch

On the upside, 1 took 5 bags to the charity shop today and came out with a lovely pair of brand new Mo nsoon trousers for £3.50. Fab

LOL, Dh has had 5 minutes with the girls and packed them off to bed and said i have earned a G&T

But shhhhh, don't tell those HotMama's....

crispy

Crisp - viral meningitis bless her she's been in and out of hosp like a yoyo as they've not enough staff/beds Home again tonight and referred to someone else

Jersey sounds nice, you need a PA?!? we've had a similar sketch today but with a child's brush rather than feather duster. unfortunately the daughter who needed to hug the victim did so still hugging said brush and subsequently poked her in the eye

Oh bibi poor C I really hope she is feeling better soon.

hi. exhausted. no words of wisdom here. carry on.

so do I Hots she looked awful yesterday also, as awful as it sounds I was never available to work in the shop - that was the deal but at this rate I've no idea when she will be back so in the shop I go. Shame I don't know how to work the till either

Oh yes, definitely need a drinking buddy PA

Poor C, my friend was really ill with that (although they failed to actually diagnose it due to not running the tests until after they had given her lots of medicines to cover a number of potential illnesses ). Decided in the end that was what it must have been. Hope she recovers soon, gave my friend headaches for ages

No potty training here yet either, am waiting, hopefully not in vain, for warmer weather.

Discovered today that both DC like mince pies the freaks This has ed me a bit as DS won't even eat potato unless it's chips...

had forgotten all about my cycling dress

bibi you will be fab in the shop I'm sure, and if you get stuck I'm sure one of your DDs will be able to work out how to use the till in a flash. That is one of the main jobs of the next generation - to explain complicated electronic technology to their old gimmer parents

Anyone want to put my squabbling DC in the shower for me? Can't be arsed but they really need water torture a wash otherwise getting ready in the morning is no fun.

No takers? Well I suppose I'd better go and hose them down. Laters

she's been having CT scans/lumbar punctures etc so I supposed the tests have at least been thorough

mince pies - bleurgh. Dh complained that the ones I'd bought had claret in them then scoffed a box of 6 [greedy fecker emoticon]

Hots - I wouldn't mind but the till is only one generation up from Are you Being Served. I'm never in there through so I've never even had a basic lesson Managed to sell .£40 worth of stuff today though even though we were closed. The new window display is loosely based around Time for Tea - was thinking of you lot when I did it