July 2010:Our actions get dafter, all for the reward of giggles and laughter!

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new thread! thanks once again to spireal for the name!

haha mlic send him to me as long as its recorded delivery!! wish doctors would help you more, do you have any relatives near by who could give you a break for an hour or so?
not snowing here, its starting to thaw! im bloody shattered, L hasnt settled for much of the day had his 1st exploded nappy, he is asleep on sofa now, dont want to move him but know i have too, his cheeks are bright red, i put money on it as soon as my eyes shut he wakes, dh wont be able to help either hes gone out for a few beers! last jabs for a while in the morning!
anyone else got advent calenders we have got ours on fireplace! been looking online at laplanduk in kent i cant wait til L is older so we can go!! we are going to lapland when he is 4 or 5, looking at that maybe being the location for our wedding then we can do it without fuss, thats the only way he will force a ring on my finger!

evening all

i am in fecking agony, have af again and the cramp is killing me. anyone elses this bad??

mlic if you can get him to glasgow i'll give you a few days off hun

tsc you must be so fed up, any thoughts on weaning?

memphis i got all excited earlier when i found an old pg mag saying teething without tears, but its all the same stuff we know. Loving the wedding venue hun

Ever get the feeling you say stuff sometimes just to be ignored? Maybe its paranoia or just one of those days xx

mlic is there a follow up with the consultant? It's a bloody mare that w won't even eat solids and I wonder if knowing that would give them more info to treat/diagnose him? Can your mother or friends come round and look after him to give you a break? I'm actually up in yorks next weekend and would have loved to have help you but I know it's still miles from you! Remember though, if we all want to help you surely your family and friends would to if you asked them.

Did you get to your meeting tsc? Ask chulita said - can't dp try with the bottle while you do clara's bedtime etc? Would make more sense!

We've just had our tree delivered memphis and I bought chocolate for dh's and ds's calendars today - so by the time children wake up tomo the house will be transformed! It's a really old house so suits xmas, if you know what I mean!

mlic i remember your fb status mammy just one more!! has dh got his phone? he could call to wake you when hes outside?
cakes our house is an old missionary x mas would look lovely her if i knew what to do, ive bought a fabric garland in patchwork that says merry christmas, and ive had a garlast advent knitted of 25 numbered mini stockings i just havent got a clue how to bring it all together, i got dh's nieces to make paperchains for in kitchen today
tsc hope everything sorts itself with dp.
stac you ok hun? whos been ignoring you? xxx oh i start zumba monday a class starts just 2 mins away £3 a session!! the other one thats started 20mins away is £5 as session and is rammed

Evening ladies.

Well, we have heat, kind of. The radiators are on, although not particularly hot, but it's certainly taken the edge off the cold, so I feel a lot more human. Thank you to everyone who suggested heating solutions. I've only yelled at DH 3 times this evening, and I made him coleslaw this afternoon, which is tantamount to falling in love all over again in this house at the moment.

Gwynnie had to have her third lot of jabs this morning, which was awful. She really screamed, and I wanted to punch the woman in the face.

MLIC, that's so weird, I was just saying to DH yesterday that I wondered what the men who work the gritters do for the rest of the year! If you think you've got it bad, DH locked me in in the house earlier, so I had to climb over the fence and unlock the door from the outside so that I could get the baby out of the house.

We aren't decorating this place for Christmas this year. It would be like putting tinsel on a dungheap.
I am getting interiors people to come and give us quotes to sort this place out though, so hopefully it wont be the 1980's dingy porn palace for ever. I've never decorated a house before- I got married pretty much immediately after leaving uni, so have absolutely no idea how to do stuff like picking curtains. Any tips?!

It seems like everyone is having a seriously hard time at the moment? Is this typical for babies around the 4/5 month mark? Gwen is a nightmare at night times now, it takes hours to get her asleep and i have to feed her to sleep repeatedly. During the day she thrashes about so much in my arms that her head keeps getting whacked on stuff. I feel like I'm making such a mess of things at the moment. I keep freaking out thinking that I've broken her fingers- they're so little and I keep catching them in things.

I know my mum told me that being a parent was really hard and everything, but you can't really understand until after you've been doing it a few months. She told me that too. I hate it when my mum's right.

anytime mlic just drop him off or send a courrier lol

memphis nevermind me think I have serious pmt as really think dp is a pain in the ass just now. Thats great news about zumba, mine is £3 or two classes for £5 so no way I'd pay that for one class

needles it is crap when mums right isnt it lol just remember its only a phase. I dont know what the others would suggest regarding picking curtains etc I generally start from the bottom and work my way up so choose carpet/flooring then walls then furnishings and curtains/blinds. I always try to go for flooring that if I get sick of the decor its relatively easy to find something that will go. I may just be talking crap though lol. I'm sure the interiors people will have some great ideas

Ok, someone help me out here and tell me that I'm not being a totally irrational nutcase.

DH WONT STOP EATING. Seriously. I cook dinner for six, like he asks. While its cooking, he picks at whatever I'm cooking, whatever is in the fridge, the cupboards. He eats dinner. All of it. I cook a recipe that serves 6 and he eats all of it. I've tried cooking less, and he just complains that it's not enough. Then, half an hour after dinner he's going through the fridge and the cupboards again and complaining that there's no food. Then I go to bed and wake up in the morning to dirty pans where he's had baked beans, or tuna, or whatever else he can find. He bites the cheese straight off the lump. He eats entire packets of ham and salami in one go. I try and shop smart and he doesn't care, he just eats and eats and eats. It's like living with the fucking very hungry caterpillar, except that instead of a butterfly, he's turning into a hairy, overweight, flatulent middle-aged man.
Nothing I say makes an impact. I'm spending literally hundreds of pounds on groceries every month and every time he goes to the fridge i want to scream at him.

I feel like no matter what happens, something is always pissing me off. He seems to be completly oblivious to making more work for me. We have a bathmat, yet every day he puts a clean towel on the bathroom floor, and then leaves it there. He comes in from work, complains that he can't smoke because I haven't put the baby to bed and then sits and reads the paper while I cook, clean, sort out Christmas, do whatever needs doing with the baby, the house and everything else, Yet somehow, no matter how hard I try to talk to him about it, he manages to make it seem like I'm making a fuss about nothing. I should never have let him read Schopenhauer.

Please, someone tell me that I'm not just being a complete neurotic. I can't face another row that solves nothing.

you are not being neurotic hun, but you are tired and dealing with gwen, it is har having a baby who is totally reliant on you and a man who seems to be acting like a child (mine is the same) sometimes you just want to scream DO YOU NEVER THINK OF ANYONE BAR YOURSELF!! but i'm like you cant be bothered with the row. Wish I could offer advice but rest assured your just the same as the rest of us xx

needle that sounds like a serious quantity of food!! Has he always eaten that much? I think I'd find it irritating too - every time he goes to the fridge you must be thinking of having to shop again.

Interiors - oooh, a whole house to do, you lucky thing. I've just pretty much finished ours and I'm now doing an interior design evening class (back to front really) so feel free to pick my brains when it comes to decision time!

Time for bed. Speak to you all tomo...

Crosses fingers for some sleep for mlic, dh, tsc, chulita, needle and all

(Felix has just arrived in our bed, v upset with teething pain so I'm v much looking forward to being kicked, poked and squeezed all night.

Needle does your dh eat during the day? Mine is awful at not having breakfast or lunch (or having hardly anything) then coming home and eating all evening. And I thought my dh was a bit messy (so am I tbh) but that clean towel on the floor thing every day would drive me nuts, it's just creating a whole load of unnecessary mess and washing. Seriously, I am really un-houseproud but that would piss me off.

Gave G (dd2) two lots of solids today - pear and a bit of baby rice - suppose I'm meant to start gradually but she wolfed it all down and hey, in for a penny in for a pound and all that. See how she goes tonight...evening here, my one hour of child-free time before I go to get some sleep before G wakes up.

I did snigger at the 'fucking very hungry caterpillar turning into a hairy, overweight, flatulent middle-aged man". Are you married to my dh???

mlic your night sounds a delight :-( What did you think of chulita's (?) idea of seeing if homestart could come and just take w off you to give you the occassional break? I'm not one for asking for help much myself (except from poor dh of course!) But if I had a 'tricky' baby like w then I'd be getting help from anywhere I could just to keep sane!

needle wss alerted me to the bloody towel thing that I missed/forgot. Gah!! That sooo needs to be stopped - especially with your laundry drying situation. ime most men (and I've lived with 6 including a flatmate, my father and my dh //old slapper emoticon//) need to be given a strict 'system' when it comes to towels. If you leave them to their own devices, well, that way lies madness. One bathmat and one large towel each a week are the rations in this house.

stac hope it wasn't us who were ignoring you, I'm crap at answering everyone's posts. Hope your cramps are better today, back in the days when I had af it was so painful for the first two days I used to have to phone in sick at uni. Sounds ridiculous but I literally couldn't stand up/sit down for longer than about 20 mins cos the cramps were that bad. After DD I had 2 periods and they weren't half as bad so fingers crossed that part of my life is over...
needle my dh could eat all day but I've got quite strict with him. (his mum reckons I bully him ) If he comes in and starts picking before tea I tell him off and ask him to wait. I try and cook shedloads of veg with ours meals so he can fill up on that. I don't think he eats as much as your dh though! As for the towels on the floor, if you've asked him not to do it and he still does, hide all the towels except his one and the bathmat then if he puts one on the floor he'll have to dry himself with the mat. I'm not one for thinking that dh works out of the home so I'm responsible for everything inside it. Parenting is a 24 hour job in itself without all the house stuff too. Thankfully dh is freakishly good at putting the washing on and changing nappies so the rest I can manage.
whatshesaid sounds like G is ready for her solids then! :)
memphis I'm like you, I'd love to decorate but it always looks so crap when I just want it to look cosy. I've no idea how to make it nice looking!
Thanks for the finger crossing cake, I only woke up 3 times and one of those S went back to sleep so I didn't have to get up :)
mlic hold out for the 6 month mark, a lot changes then! It's not far off now.

Ok, ladies, THIS is why I need to make some friends. all I needed was a group of paired up mothers to tell me that husbands are universally annoying to make me calm down. If I had gone to my friends- who admittedly would have had a shock as i'm pretty sure they think i'm dead- they would have been queuing up to tell me to get a divorce. And now I feel a little sheepish, of course he eats a lot, the man is built like a viking.

the spot where g had one of her imms is red and hard. The mark is about the size of a 5p. I called the doc and she said its nothing to worry about. did anyone else's baby have a similar reaction?

cake thanks for the offer of advice, i'll definitely take you up on that.

mlic talk away. It's definitely your turn.

Yes G had that on one of her legs at the injection site at her 3 months imms. It came up straight away, while we were still at the drs - they said it was a normal side effect. Think if it gets a lot bigger you are meant to get it checked out?

mlic please don't worry about going on about yourself on here - we all do, even those of us with things a tad easier than you!

Chasing re creche sounds like a good plan. I know what you mean re strangers and you've obviously got to do what you feel comfortable with but bear in mind homestart volunteers are in the main women, they have training and they're vetted. My step-mother volunteered for them years ago and I was thinking about it recently (haven't got enough on my plate already? Emoticon) but realised fitting in the training was too difficult right now.

I had co for felix when he was a newborn and already colicky but didn't really see a difference. Think its got to be worth a shot tho.

Just realised dh didn't put felix's necklace back on yesterday which might explain the bad night

needle yep, they're universally annoying. Especially the viking-ones! :-)

chulita any news on house?