July 2010:Our actions get dafter, all for the reward of giggles and laughter!

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new thread! thanks once again to spireal for the name!

mliff sorry things are still so shit, I agree that it sounds like the milk in the porrige could be partially to blame. I've done the dairy free thing in the last few months's because of G's reflux and it's not that hard to replace milk with rice/soy milk - I make porrige (for me) with it, it's not as nice and creamy as when it's made with milk but it's still fine.

Your nights just sound awful,do you get any rest at the weekends etc? I think I have only kept sane because I get the occasional couple of hours lie down then, even if I don't sleep I can just switch off for a bit. I agree about maybe trying different formulas.

Don't know what else to suggest, it sounds so hard for you

Wow lots of catching up to do while Ive been out!

tsc Dylan is in that age range now but he doesnt seem ready to me really. Im going to wait at least 2 weeks. They can change so quickly.

mliff how did the CO go?

cake, neocate is completely dairy-free, made in a dairy-free environment so I'm not sure why your friend thought it was still cows milk, see here. So the introduction of the porridge will have been the first cow's milk he'd have had in about a month, since I did the trial not on the recommendation of anyHCP and he had that screaming fit the following day. Obviously I am only just starting to put these pieces together now though as hindsight is a wonderful thing isn't it.

WRT manipulative babies...I do think manipulative is a stong word and possible wouldn't agree with that, but I definitely believe babies of an age such as ours have developed certain types of behaviour. I was only having a conversation with my HV yesterday discussing how much of W I thought was need / discomfort etc., and how much of it was the fact that he has needed so much attention in his short life that now he has come to expect it in a way and therefore doesn't take kindly to being ignored.

Interesting re weaning tsc. I have to agree with the spoon thing, we all use one in the end and my son was weaned on purees but still favours eating everything (including yoghurt) with his fingers

x-post. it went ok thanks dh...not sure what I should expect really but he was quiet during it then slept then screamed so not a lot changed

No, no break at the weekend wss!

Cakes we don't really do anything special normally. But this year since i'm not going to be home on chtistmas day my mum is doing the whole dinner with all the trimmings again for the whole family! really looking forward to it as we get the best of both worlds! Normally though we'd just go out during the day visiting.
Mlic looking forward to hearing how the CO went! Really think you're onto something with the dairy. Hope this is a turning point for you.
Its been so busy on here today! I love coming on and having loads to read but now i forget everything everyone said!

X post mlic! don't know what i was hoping to hear!

I agree about coming to expect attention because it's always been given. When G's reflux was really bad I would pick her up every time she cried in the cot because lying down can cause a reflux baby to be in pain and I didn't want her to be in pain. So now I think she is used to half waking up and being picked up and fed back to sleep cos I never left her to even grizzle a bit.

But...for the first time last night she went from 8 to 2 between feeds! She woke about 11 and grizzled slightly and went back to sleep.
First time ever she's gone longer than 3 or 4 hours at night. Please let it continue.

That's good wss! Fingers crossed it continues or even gets better!

I've decided not to dreamfeed tonight. I'm also getting stricter with the dummy (started this morning) and instead of giving him it and leaving it, I am waiting for him to calm down then taking it back off him. I did it in the car to the OC (about 40min drive) and did it for his naps/bedtime. I want him to learn to sleep without it as I'm sick of giving it back every 5 minutes through the night. If I can get him to sleep better in the night he can go into ds1's room and I think he'll be happier of the company. Of course I can't do that to ds1 at the moment, it wouldn't be fair.

I agree with you tsc I think you have to be cruel to be kind. It'll be better for you, him, and the family as a whole if he doesn't soley rely on you to get him 'in the zone' to sleep. And who knows, if you decide to wean it may help change your routine / settle him more on an evening.

l has been screaming for 3 hours he has a temp, he is being rocked and calpol and anbesol havent done anything at all, rang my hv and doc neither have got back to me i have been on hold for nhs direct for 45 mins the message it says once i get through could be 4 hours before they get back to me! wtf do i di? im sure this isnt his teeth! fucking doctors!!

nhs direct, has your son got a headache??? wtf oh dont worry love i will just ask him. twat

Memphis have you heard anything yet?? Does he have any rash or anything on his body? don't know what to say to you but i'm thinking of you both.

sorry memphis - only just seen your post. have you got some help now?

memphis how is L? Been thinking of you overnight.

I had an early night last night so just read this - memphis how is he?

memphis how was your night with L?

Ive discovered Dylan loves Timmy Time. Box set will be ordered after xmas.

I went to bed at 9 last night with him, I was completely out of it when DP came to bed at 10. Dylan woke once between 9 and 5 which wasnt too bad, then woke at 6, then 7:30 and I laid in bed til 8 when I got up.

Driving 45 mins to see a friend later, always a bit nervous about driving to hers as Im not 100% sure of the way.
She bought Dylan a xmas present so I felt I had to buy her son one.

Another friend has a son and I asked if he wanted anything for xmas, they said a wooden toy, nothing cheap. Charming!

he is doing ok, nhs direct were rubbish, got a nurse on the line straight away as they thought it was an emergency but she said sounds like its his ears, he was screaming and she said can you make him laugh?!
calpol didnt do anything, he hadnt had bottle since 3 and nothing we did comforted him, trying to tell doctor my baby never cries so this is out of character, they said i could go to drop in clinic at hospital, so we decided to go for a drive and if that didnt soothe him we would take him hospital, he fell asleep and although hes woke a few times hes still asleep he keeps crying out in pain in his sleep, he doesnt want to be held im going docs when it opens, thanks for support everyone, im so angry hv and doc on call didnt get back to me!

memphis hope you get L seen to quickly today. Let us know how he gets on when u have a mo please.

Your bloody docs and hv. I can't believe how awful they are :-(

Aw memphis how terrible are they! Poor lyndon! it actually sounds the way ellie was with her ear infection. Heartbreaking seeing them and you know they're in pain and theres nothing you can do for them.

rang doctors they said to keep giving him calpol and if he has another episode like last night to go straight in!! Lyndon is still fast asleep bless him i bet he is exhausted! cant believe how awful NHS direct are, dh rang them yesterday afternoon to see if they could give him number of emergency dentist in sunderland where he was working, they said oh your having treatment already so they wont treat you and that was it, i cant remember him ever having pain killers before and he is dosed right up in agony so bad he wants tooth pulling no one will do it, i think this is going to be a very merry xmas!!

Glad he finally settled memphis. I would insist on a dr appointment too - like tsc's surgery I have never had a problem getting the kids seen at mine if there's a problem.

'Dylan woke once between 9 and 5 which wasnt too bad'... I'd kill for a night like that! I also went to bed early and between 9.30 and 10.50 he'd woken 4 times. I won't go on any further...

hes finally awake and is smiling but quiet! this is the thing with my docs oh he cant be that bad hes smiling! he always smiles he had a mega high temp and atill had a big bloody grin on his face!!
mlic early night didnt really happen for you then!