July 2010:Our actions get dafter, all for the reward of giggles and laughter!

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new thread! thanks once again to spireal for the name!

Yeah I remember you rwere adamant you were only having one memphis! A dog is one thing but a puppy and a baby...I certainly wouldn't do it!

I still can't decide if I want another one or not. I supose I don't ned to worry about it just get.

Thirty? For a sit down Christmas dinner? Wow. I wouldn't be having it at my house either!

You sound very creative memphis! wow at wanting another baby! you were adamant before that you wanted only one! its lovely to hear though! I definately want more. Thought i might not be saying that when i had one but she's such a lovely little character and so easy going that it has definately put the want on me!
Stac how is riliegh with the teeth?
Mlic you definately deserve to be the drinker on christmas day!
Dh for a girl who doesn't get much sleep you certainly have energy! Relations definately don't happen to often in my house anymore! just never seem to have the energy anymore
Chulita im not doing it every day. I done it 4 days the first week,2 days last week and have yet to do it this week. People are saying to me i've lost weight but i dont feel it. Although i've lost about 2lb on the scales and i cant understand it as i've eaten nothing but crap the last 2 weeks
im so tired these days as im so busy with work. Its my busiest time of year and will be glad when its over. Christmas day for me will be a relaxing affair in dp's parents. Then to my home place for stephens day

evening all

cakes are you any better?

tsc wow that is a big sit down lunch, I thought we were bad with 20 lol, do you all help with the cooking?

kk she is up and down but I suppose she could be worse, hows ellie? I have yet to try the shred too chulita I may try it tomorrow as zumba is off till after xmas

mliff thanks for the info regarding amber necklaces. Totally agree about cards being important I feel it shows that at least the person has remembered. If dh is getting drunk xmas eve its only fair you have xmas day

memphis you are brave wanting a puppy with a baby, I am finding it hard enough and our dog is 7, its quite hard especially just trying to get him out for a quick pee lol. I do understand you missing your other dog though, its so hard losing a pet. Great your thinking about a sibling for L, I didnt think I would ever have anymore just shows you how things change eh

dh you are busy lol dp and I are lucky to have relations once a week, just too tired

wss your xmas day sounds fab, we are going to dp's mums then boxing day is when my family get together so works out quite well for us

well I am up far too late so off to bed, well I say that R is stirring grrr!! lol xx

mliff kk stac I dont know where I get the energy from either, but Id never say no!

memphis Id love a puppy too! We cant have one in a flat, its just not fair. When we get a house though Im def getting one, DP wants a beagle.

Dylan DID go to bed so we could have 'relations' last night! But he then woke at 9:45ish so we went to bed and he stayed the night in our bed.
He woke at 1ish, 4ish, 6ish and yet again every 20 mins til I rolled out of bed at 8 when DP went to work.

Im going to try and do the last leg of xmas shopping today, got 4 kids under 2 to buy for. Fun!

morning all,

gosh, you guys were chatty last night

F seems to be better so has been packed off to nursery .

My bowels are still not my friend, altho... i've already lost a good few pounds saying that tho, i eat TONS in a day normally so it's probably just that my intestines weigh less rather than my actual body.

I'm feeling better in myself and already bored of being in (not the best patient in the world) so if I can risk being away from the loo later i might nip out for a bit.

dh i'm jealous of your 'relations'. i'm always up for it too but don't want to with A in the same bedroom and we just don't seem to get round to it elsewhere in the house! we would have plenty of time as both of ours sleep all evening so i'm going to try to make the effort and try out the sofa soon!

memphis a puppy and thinking about a new baby - you're brave!

kk i don't even know st stephens day - presumably it's an irish tradition to celebrate it? what do you do?

wss we 'did' xmas for both sides here a couple of years ago and it was horrific (for us, think everyone else enjoyed it) and we swore never again. So we're going for an Italian, just the 4 of us on xmas eve, xmas day it'll be the 4 of us again but my father will pop in during the morning and my sister and her dp later on. We'll get together with other family over the following days then off to the cottage in exeter on the 30th - yipee!

tsc your huge family xmas scares the pants off me altho i'm sure it's lovely. I spent most of my childhood with just my father and I in the house so i'm not used to lots of noise and people for extended periods. i do enjoy having dinner parties or other gatherings here but like knowing everyone will be gone by the end of the night!

stac A was grumbling away last night (not exactly crying but not happy) and initially i thought it was wind but tried the ambesol and calpol and she went straight down to sleep for hours. kicking myself for not realising it was teething sooner.

trudyla things sounds pretty grim there. feel free to come on and have a good moan here if it helps! hope you all recover v soon.

chulita all ready for your trip to the inlaws? (S not ill enough to use as an excuse to cancel then? )

mlic how's W doing with his solids now? are you going to chase for an earlier appt than april?

Don't see that there's any point cake> He's just faulty. I have to live with it. Last night was horrific again. Went to bed at 11pm and dreamfed (after already having to go settle him twice through the evening) and then dummy at 1 something, up from 2.20 till 3.30 whilst refusing point blank to feed so it wasn't hunger. Eventually got him back off after a mammouth winging/kicking session and within 15 minutes he was awake again. I whipped him (probably has whiplash now, I was that mad) into my bed where he slept until 5.20 and then woke again. I figured he was probably hungry by this point so did a bottle but he only drank 3.5/4oz. Back to my bed and then the little bleep was awake again at 5.55am. So I warmed the last of the bottle, he drank that and went back off til 7.25am. He did nothing but cry from getting up. That'd be cos he's knackered no doubt. Welcome to the club mate, at least you can nap.

I'm totally fucked, and utterly fucked off. I really dislike my son. Really, I do. I am starting to worry about my mental health.

cakes thats what we do, I think the sofa is used more than the bed nowadays!

mlic can you bring the appointment forward? wish we were closer so we could all help each other!
dh a beagle oh god if he wants one my friend has one, she is dog mad and even she cant cope with him, he howls day and night and she walks him about 5 times a day and he still doesnt calm down!
chulita i love making bunting, i think its because im so tight i saw that to have a woman make it with Ls name on it was £27 it cost me £2.50!! i saw a fabroc sack in John Lewis £25 i bought gorgeous fabric for one and it has cost £6!! i just need to make the thing now,m but got to make a late xmas cake today so will have to wait!
stac i walk with L come rain or shine so bending down to pick up poop isnt any hardship plus we have a lovely big garden, dh has been waiting for me to be ready for a dog its just the breed we cant agree on he wants bull mastiff, ot great dane, or something big and stupid, i want something small, think i have made him agree to a schnauzer but i reckon i will have to buy it !!
last night was bad, L had a temp of 38.4 he was completly red, didnt sleep at all til 4, hes still smiling even though i could feel heat pumping off him! plus dh's teeth played up so hes been in agony all night too!

memphis I dont think I could put up with that, DPs sister has a beagle, she said shes going to breed him and give us a puppy!

Morning all. Just 10 days now until Christmas Eve, woo! I'm a big child at heart.

I've been left behind a bit in the speed this thread is moving, but thanks for the info re: tap water. :) Saves me having to keep a pot of boiled/cooled water in the fridge next year then.

Tummy raspberries don't seem to work on M, Cake. She just gives me the expression like I'm being crazy (which to be fair is pretty justified most of the time). She has a bit of dribble rash on her neck currently so don't want to prod there too much. It's clearing though with Vaseline.

I did have some success with a pounce tickle on her tummy earlier, though the moment or two of near laughter dissolved into happy squealing and leg kicking. At least she didn't give herself hiccups this time!

A bit at the LO's feeding every 2-3 hours for ten mins! My entire day revolves around the bottomless pit M's tummy, it seems. A standard feed is about thirty minutes, and feeding needs to happen every 1-2 hours. That's not including the three solid meals per day!

We had a bit of a bad night here last night too. Two hours to settle M, we resorted to Bonjella and Calpol in the end which seemed to do the trick. She settled at about 9pm but then woke at 5am. :( My DH was wonderful though, he got up to try and settle her, brought her through for me to feed, then changed her and settled her again... While I did my best Zombie impression. I feel a bit guilty now as he's had to go off to work all day and I get to lounge about (admittedly with the limpet M attached).

Lovely to hear about all the sewing projects. I've just finished off making M's stocking. I've made it in a stretchy velvety material, with a fleecy top and a draw string inner so the presents are hidden initially. Hopefully the stretch in it and wide opening should mean I Santa can squeeze odd shapes in if necessary in the future.

totally shit night here too, r went down at 10.30 and was very restless eventually brought her into our bed at 1.30, she's burning up and very gurney. She hes cried, whinged and thrashed about all night. Just about to go for 2nd dose of calpol, feeling sorry for her. Her poo is hard too any ideas?

cakes think thats how i felt with r last night have no clue what to do for her

mliff i'm whinging about a cpl of nights but cant imagine how it is for you maybe trying to get the app brought forward would help, the both of you dont sound happy. Wish we were closer to help out. Is the hv helping?

memphis i love bull mastiffs, we have a king charles spaniel. I wasn't meaning to sound as if you didnt know what you were doing, i just know how hard it is trying to juggle time for the dog and baby. Not just the walking but even time to pet them, i'm sure you know what your doing hun

dh we're the same the sofa is the place of choice but hard to fit in due to ds being able to walk in at anytime.
Its our anniversary on saturday, 6 years together. Looking for ideas of cheap surprises, can anyone help? X

sounds like my night spireal you are in the xmas spirit eh? Lol i havent even got my tree up yet doing it tomorrow x

stac dh wants a big dog that he can walk for hours, i wouldnt consider a dog if everything was down to me but he is really hands on, i think he thinks if we get a little dog it wouldnt keep up with him, it really shocked him how upset he was when our dog died, he has never had a relative die in his lifetime so hes never had to grieve for anything! could you cook for dp and have a quiet night together?
we are due snow for the rest of week, need to get car out and get dh a prescription

mlic god, i feel for you, girl

please don't just accept that you have to just live with this - there will be something out there that will help, you've just got to keep pushing (and i do understand that half the problem is finding the energy to do that).

when does the creche start?

if he's still not taking much in the way in solids, maybe he'll get on better with finger foods - when would you normally give those when you don't blw?

think you really need a night or two to escape out with friends so you can just relax and laugh and not worry about feeding/screaming/sleeping - are you planning any nights out soon?

stac you could do a treasure hunt round your house or town with clues which are personal to you with the final location having a poem or present.

what i've made for DH before is a book of photos and notes of things you've done together that year. you can do amazing ones on photobox or just paste them into a pretty sketchbook

That's a lovely idea cake> If only my dh would appreciate smething like that... :)

You still feeling better> Hope so.

Well I've been wracking my brains a bit (not that I over-analyse things a lot you understand) but something has occured to me today. I gave W porridge on Saturday (I just checked back on the thread to confirm as I wasn't 100% sure) and had a horrific day with him Sunday. I didn't give him any porridge on Sunday as he was too awful so I gave him some yesterday and because I was in Asda cafe last night but the only thing they had was baby porridge he had it again for tea and he's been totally horrendous again today. I was thinking there was no lactose and / or milk protein intolerance but maybe I was wrong? Because he went back to full on feed refusal again today. Refused completely between 2.20 and 3.30, refused any more than 4ish oz at 5.20, took 2oz at 6 then refused every time I've tried today until 12noon. Can't help but wonder...

I've asked the doctor to ring me back, see if I can speak to him about getting allergy testing done.

lovely ideas ladies, like the photo book idea cakes and quiet dinner memphis we're meant to be getting more snow too so may have to keep the kids but could have a late dinner

Glad you called the doc mliff hope you get the test soon

memphis it is heartbreaking losing a pet. Smaller dogs are usually more energetic we have the laziest dog in the world lol. Have you considered dogs trust? Thats were we got broxi x

wow mlic - i'm weirdly quite excited for you about this.

i'm being a bit of a dunce tho - are you saying it points to an intolerance because he'll have had MORE milk than usual because he'll have had some in his porridge over and above his usual amount?

get a docs appt asap and insist trying him on a different milk type - has to be worth a shot.

do i remember you saying neocate was no dice?

my friend's everything-intolerant baby didn't do well on neocate either (it's still cows' milk) but has been ok on soya and goats milk.

if the docs won't sort it out then you can buy different formulas off the shelf so you could always just buy some and try yourself. i know normally you'd want to do this under hp's guidance but i've found they can be incredibly slow and/or shit when it comes to dealing with intolerances (not my own dcs but friends)

mlic sounds like your onto something, like cakes im quite excited for you! i hope the docs ring you back with the answers for you!
stac spoke to the RSPCA they dont recommend rescues for people with small children due to not knowing their past, i have been looking for weeks, i want a schnauzer, they seem to be great with kids, and quite easy to train as they are eager to please, they are apparently laid back by nature too! i reckon by my birthday i will have one! every single member of my family have 2 dogs and L loves the madness when the play and strokes them, in contrast none of dhs family have ever had pets and were shocked that i was having a baby when i had a dog!

sorry mlic i sounded a bit bossy up there (i get bossy when excited !

Well bossy boots he is on Neocate at the moment which is actually for the dietary management of cow's milk intolerance and multiple other intolerances. The proteins in it are broken down so the digestive system doesn't have to work as hard - hence the disgusting, stinky poos! Therefore the cows milk and / or lactose in the porridge could have affected (effected? Regularly get that one wrong) him. I certainly don't think there's a major intolerance as there's no diarrhoea / vomitting / lack of weight gain etc, but it definitely seems as though something has irritated him. I've got a couple of baby food jars in the cupboard that I got with vouchers so I've done a quick check and the Ella's kitchen one has no milk or lactose in - that's what he's been having if it wasn't made by me. The Heinz 'mum's own' has skimmed milk powder. And clearly the porridge that he had Saturday / yesterday has cow's milk in. So what I'm thinking is his digestive system struggles to break down the proteins or something? I don't know, I'm no expert. I might be talking out of my arse.

but the fact he's still not happy (not feeding well, crying lots) on the neocate points to having issues with that too.

i think hp's offer neocate first but if that doesn't work (as it didn't for my friends) then completely dairy-free ones would be the next step.

ps you were right first time, it's 'affected' . Best way to remember it is: Affect is primarily a verb and Effect is primarily a noun

also - you did say he liked the ella's kitchen one

His feeding has improved somewhat though. Until recently I hadn't had a refusal for a good while. But yes, he does cry a lot. The gastroenterologist knew he was little-to-no better on Neocate and didn't offer an alternative.

Typically, ds1 is nice and peaceful and ds2 is asleep. I could easily have had a 10 minute doze on the couch, but I've got to get ready for his cranial osteopathy appointment now :(

my two always time things like that too

good luck at the CO appt