FESH Spa & Creche - Queue-jumpers accepted with open arms

[AlpinePony]

How exciting for a new thread - two FESHspring due shortly!

Heppy days Curls. Don't fret about the chip - will become dietary staple for when you tire of making everything from scratch . Think you're right about the milk quantities. HV told me I wasn't feeding LC enough when she was little, even told me to stop BF'ing ....I could see she was happy, lively & healthy, just a bit dinky so chose to ignore the advice (haven't seen HV since). She is still below average height, but then DH's family are shrimps and she eats tonnes (more than Boxer's TT who is twice her size) so doesn't bother me.

I used the Medela Swing VAG - t'was excellent. They sell on eBay close to full price so if it's no good you can always sell it on without losing too many notes.

Silv - worth checking with the happy cople that MB is welcome rather than just assume....some weddings are ver strict about no kids. Boxer had to decline an invite from a mutual friend for that very reason and you wouldn't want to upset them on their big day.

Troo Kate. We are evening invites only. Have text today but no reply. Obv and understandably more things on minds. Should have asked her when saw her earlier in week. I could go on my own but venue in countryside and horrible weather forecast. Nightmare. Will see what tmw brings.

Had power cut for most of the night. Frigging freezing!!

Just checking in. Finally have some wifi and a chance for a NAK. Will now try to catch up on thread. Missing you all. Any big news?

curly Our mutual friend's little girl isn't so great on the milk although her appetite has improved lately - since being on food. But there's no way she could happily sink the same amount as Bear. Especially not when there's a TV/xmas tree in the room! TV doesn't even need to be on with these little ones...

We're having xmas dinner tomorrow and I've just discovered we've got no tatties. Slight oops there.

Everyone snowed in?

We have the green light to take MB to reception. Trouble is we won't get there cos of the snow ESP as the venue is down country lanes. Typical. Feel really bad if we don't go but we have had so much bloody snow it could be dangerous to even try. Feel terrible for the bride if we don't go. Am sure she'll understand but still......

silvia it's not worth running the risk of getting stuck, breaking down or having an accident. We live in that London and Hom got the car well and truly stuck on a slope on the way up his mum's very suburban road. God knows what the country roads are like

Ya. Tis true. I know we can't go. Silly to even contemplate as we don't even have a 4WD.

Have sent HI to stables and he's been gone yonks. Should have got someone locally to do nag but HI insisted it would be ok.

VAG I| think I've got the same issue. BabyMoo likes right hand boob and is definitely bigger and seemingly more productive. Not sure if it really matters, but I DO NOT want to end up with permanently mismatched tits so I should try and get him feeding off the left one a bit more I spose.

okie drinking sesh sounds ace but I fear I do not trust my baby - we could be talking anywhere between 1-3 hours sometimes and it takes me nearly an hour to settle him sometimes. I think when his routine is a bit more reliable I will be keen but I would be a bit worried right now. I'm going to have to rely on lunches for now I think...
I'm definitely going to get going with the expressing in the next few days though and see how that goes over the xmas break. I really need to get the bottle going again otherwise we will have issues.

silv I hope you are in front of your TV like me - craziness to go anywhere.

polly wheres that baybee?

We've had a good few days other than the residual cold and sore throats in the house. I've actually made the bed, applied make up and tidied up etc etc. Today was a bit less good due to crap 5am feed where x 2 nappy changes woke him up properly but managed a few cat naps thank god.

The nappy changes are realy annoying actually - I wish there was a way of doing it so he doesn't wake up properly. The issue is that he always poos during the feed so I can't do it in advance. Any advice???

Whew... finally caught up on the thread (ish) late last night. Vey excited for massivewee and pollyanna. I am visualising white fluffy towels and peaceful smiling cherub baby arrivals for you both. As all BESH births have been, you know.

For those who have been a bit down, can I send a virtual (secret) hand hold? So much of what you are writing I can relate to. (scared, teary, emotional, agoraphobic... etc)

curls I will very soon be vaguely near you so we'll have to organise a meet up. I know NOBODY in my new county. Yikes.

silvermedal You are dealing with so much. When I was pregnant with Bonnie I sold my mare as I knew I wouldn't be able to cope... and she was on full livery 20 ft from my front door. So hats off to you. You are more capable than you might think, and coping with a whole lot more than I would be able to.

alpinepony I DO have an indigo child! Clyde has this cardigan and I was shocked (shocked!) to see what is written on the buttons. Apparently M&S have a whole range called Indigo Baby.

As for us, Clyde is now 6 months old and eating one meal a day. He can roll and wriggle his way across entire rooms and is desperately trying to crawl.

He is still refusing bottles but Grandma has managed to get him to happily take formula from a sippee cup! So it looks like he is one of those babies that will simply skip bottles. Fingers crossed.

It is so hot here! Many days 30 degrees. We spent a sweltering day yesterday at the Pony Club Area Champs. My niece came first in Rider on the Flat! It's her biggest win to date and I was so proud I burst into tears.

Now I just have to organise Christmas. I have not bought any presents for MrP, Bonnie or Clyde yet. Plenty of time yet, no? Though I don't even know where to go shopping over here. Could be major fail / panic. Any last minute suggestions? (Must weight nothing so can be put in a suitcase for the trip home.) Anyone?

Fanfare how lovely to hear from you! Now, a quick ask - can you do something physically limiting, but ultimately not long-term, to the Aussie cricket team? It is ESSENTIAL that we beat them on their home turf. ESSENTIAL do you hear?

Ha ha! Sorry cunty but I am in NZ. Though I am happy to nobble the Aussie cricket team for you if I possibly can.

tchah. I thought Perth. No matter, a medium range, but accurate, missile strike should do the trick.

Fanny great to hear from you. I was wondering how you were getting on.

Sorry MooMa, no baybee yet. It is showing no signs at all of wanting out yet. I did shove my hand up my foof earlier to see if cervix was open for business, but it was v firmly shut. Vey vey squishy but definitely closed. bah. At this rate it will be a new year baby, not a christmas one!

polly I was thinking about this today - so far we've had three FESH planned HB's - ALL ended up in hospital. Only one successful HB and that wasn't planned! Pls to break curse?

fanny Very glad to hear you're all well and Clyde is doing brilliantly - well of course he would, being an Indigo child.

poo that's put a picture in my head that I'm not sure I want there...

Well Pone I have a feeling that the longer I remain pregnant, the more my BP will go up, and therefore the more likely I will end up in the hossie. We are going to do the secks to try and get it out before xmas.

Midwife is due on Tues to check BP again - I'd been hoping we could get things moving before then but it is not feeling likely. Feeling a bit shit about it all really. Do appreciate that sometimes the hossie is the best place to be, but had such a shit experience last time and it affected me for so long (am sure it contributed to the PND) that I just really really want this time to be very different. Must try to remember that the important thing is that Shrimp is fine and I am fine. Feeling a bit teary today - with the snow and ice forecast I've had to get TG to fend off calls from concerned family members who all seem to think I am insane for even trying to have a homebirth and are panicking in case 'things go wrong' and we won't be able to get midwife/ambulance into village or me out. Nothing that hasn't occurred to me already but it is not helpful at this stage. Grrr.

Sorry Cunty. Hope I won't give you nightmares!

pol You must have air ambulance in your neck of the woods. Have a friend who lives on a very remote scottish island - one ferry a week during good weather. She says if the helicopter can't get in and out in time then you weren't going to make it anyway - which is a DHB way of looking at things. How was your BP last time out?

There is a nice flat field behind our neighbours house that would be perfect for copter to land in. Not that I'd want that.. can you imagine? Gawd... That is a vey DHB of your mate. BP last time was 130/84. Up from 120/78 (? maybe? can't bloody remember). Booking in was 120/62. If lower figure goes over 95 the hossie want me in there, even though I don't have any other symptoms of PE and have had really healthy pregnancy.

My mum fell face first of a horse a few years ago - reckoned the ambulance ride was well worth the trauma as she doesn't see how she'd ever have managed a go in one!

As for the friend - what can you do? She has a small baby - she did actually go over to the mainland to lay it - but if it'd come early, what can you do? Population of just 70 poeple - quite a few of them good with sheep mind.

From what I've gathered 36 weeks is a turning point with PE and may shoot up at that point, but you were measured post 36 weeks weren't you? So maybe it'll stick at 84 now. Mine went from 110/60 at booking in to 185/125 - hence the panic. Not from me mind - out of my fucking face on drucks innit.

Ooh I've just remembered - one of our neighbours is a GP locum, she might come in handy. And one of the community midwives lives half a mile up the hill, or at least she did when I gave birth to Boo. And our landlords are half a mile the other way with barns full of 4x4s and tractors. Tis not like we are exactly cut off. Just need to focus on keeping the BP down.

I can't remember the exact figures but I think my BP during labour with Boo was similar to yours pone. Not that I cared or even noticed at the time. As soon as Boo came out, it went down to pre-pregnancy levels. WTF?

We stayed firmly put at home with me wailing every half hour about feeling bad about not going. HI had to abandon the car 1.5miles away and it includes a trudge thru woods. Far from ideal.

MB slept from 9pm - 3am so not bad. We went to bed at 10. Decided instead of waking him at 11 for feed would see how long he'd sleep for. NAKing now and he should go back down.

moo when he poos, I'd delatch mid feed and change him and then resume feeding and hope that sticking him back on the boob comforts/makes him sleepy as he continues to feed. Tis a trauma have been there.

MB has snots. Can hear them. Needs to blow his snozz. Have been using saline drops to help.

fanjo hullllo! Are you having the most amazing time? You better be!! Thanks for compliment, tho is not me doing hard graft it's HI. Can't sell hoss as in twighlight years and HI not keen as see's hoss as a pet. Tmw HI will go again but will ask local pal to do pm as he will be working and will take car. His car is snowed in and going nowhere. It means I don't have to worry about going out in the snow with MB.

polls I can only imagine all the concerned calls/texts. Drove me crazy.

pol Sounds like you've got fab care a stone's throw away - might be worth giving the locum a call and also the community midwife and let them know your condition - maybe send a photo of bump and photo of house? Good that tractors are ready too - it's very Mary/Nazareth though!

My BP took weeks to go down and was on horrible beta-blocker things and magnesium sulphate for aaaaages. :( I think that's why mw/hv kept wanting to see me at the beginning to check I'd not keeled over.

Pol try and nice big glass of red wine daily to help the BP stay down , may also help you get through the sechs.

Had a ropey night but it wasn?t down to Peppa but mini Okes who woke at 2.30 and was awake for nearly 2 hrs crying for me. I said to Mr C that he had to deal with him as I would need to deal with Peppa when she woke for a feed and this didn?t go down too well. He was prepared to let him wail while I knew there was no chance of me sleeping with him wailing down the corridor. Ended up with Mr C sleeping with him on his bedroom floor. Peppa only woke at 4.45 but I feel pretty knackered as I think I was awake most of the night listening to Mini Okes being distressed. I can safely say the "terrible twos" have well and truly hit us as he has been a sod for the last couple of weeks. I assume it is a combination of moving rooms at nursery, realising that Peppa is here to stay and frustration at being able to process more mature thoughts but unable to communicate them. The tantrums are hideous. It is hard at the moment and I am holding on to it being "just a phase" but dread that he may be in it for the best part of 2011!

FP good to hear from you and I hope you are having a wicked time. When do you return to these shores?? Have you had any issues with Bonnie as I think our age gap is similar?

Moo understand that drinks will have to wait until the New Year but I will hold you to that!

omg okie i feel your pain (well half of it anyway as only one child and considering keeping it that way). Last night was a sod. Had been a great day, self settled to sleep and had to actually wake him at 10.30 to feed... anyhow at 1.30 had little feed followed by 1.5 hours of screaming due to wind/colic. I flipped and ordered poor MrM to help me (he in spare room) and he got him settled in 10 minutes. Humph. After that he came in the bed with all of us the whole night. I barely even recall what times he fed but we all lay in until nearly 9am. He had the duvet over him and everything. I am such a bad mother.

This morning has fed on and off but refusing to nap and literally only just got him off now. NEED to sleep! This will not bode well for tonight I'm guessing. I probably shoulnt let him slepp all afternoon??

Added to which I def have thrush down below and I suspect in my breasts. I get pain around my araeolae after feeding and on let down - sort of mild stabby feelings. grrrreat. This is after last weeks infection and antibiotics so not that surpising. can I take the thrush one tablet for it? another bloody visit to quacks tomorrow for us... do you think this might be why babymoo is so unsettled on breast sometimes and quite windy? would pencillin/thrush do that??

polly I've been thinking about your situation and wanted to say I'm really thinking of you. I was in sich a state over whether or not to have a HB at the very end and really wanted one but in the final analysis felt marginally better off being in hosp before it happened. Which as it happens was absolutely the right call. But even so, before that the comm MWs were saying that there would be no guaranttee as only 2 of them on call for the whole of the area we live in. So for me, it would have been worse to prepare for it and then not get it at the last moment. I guess what I'm trying to say is that if your BP, weather and god knows what else conspires against you - you don't need the stress of that added to the fact the medical profession may well not want you to have (or be able to attend) a homebirth. Would it be easier and more manageable for you to make that decision now and be reconciled with it? I'm not saying that's what you should do, but as everyone said to me, don't fixate on it and do what makes you feel the safest and most comfortable. Also everyone telling me I was mad etc etc made me more stubborn and fuck you about it, and in the end I made my own decision which was the right one.

NO idea if any the above comes across clearly as I am so brain addled but anyway. xx