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How exciting for a new thread - two FESHspring due shortly!

OMG, he may actually be learning to self settle. He's just done 30 secs of crying and fallen asleep. In my arms admitedly but even so. Shame I have to now get him into his car seat and out for jabs. hey ho.

I haz proper drucks. Tits have mastitis. Whoopee fricking doo doo. So painful. Small side affect for MB maybe loose stools. Crikey can a 5 wk old have any looser stools? I'd better fit out the nursery a la Dexter's murder scenes.

Child is asleep. Why? Cos we are in car on way back from quacks. Apart from 40 winks earlier he has been awake all day. My fAult he woke from his nap earlier. I accidently knocked a loo roll on him.

I am hoping the drucks work quickly and that the little guy bloody sleeps tonight or I think I will on the brink of hitting the bottle. I neeeeeed some sleep. Or good ear plugs.

Boo hiss to mastitis silv. :(

Sleeping child is good - we had refusal to sleep this morning but he did well this evening and I popped him in his cot at 18:42 he did a big sigh and went straight to sleep!

Think we've found our house - it's quite big for a Dutch house and it was toasty warm even though it's been empty for months AND it's not been above zero for weeks here. My old house would have taken DAYS to heat up. :(

moo mother's instinct is a strong thing. Glad you went to see Dr and hope he is feeling a bit better today. What a worry huh.

Sorry to hear about the poorly boobs Silv. Apparently you need to feed through it if you can as well as take the drugs.

Twas indeed nice to put a few faces to names. As a result of our meet up I have "won" some baby leg warmers on that ebay.

I am feeling a bit shit today. Mr C is out for his work Christmas lunch as he still out and is bladdered. He is also out wetting the baby's head tomorrow night. Not sure when I will get out to wet baby's head. I really feel like getting rat arsed. But I would like to be rat arsed and not have to deal with any children the next day. Guess it is Christmas and I have been sober for months...

bummer re the boobs silv but hopefully the drucks will sort it out. Did you get the long course as per the posts on bf/ff section? apparently a lot of docs only give 5-7 days and you need 10.

Hi all,

Great to see you in here. Clearly we are all in the same boat dealing with the same stuff and this feels like my spiritual home - sorry I've been so crap at checking in. I will deffo try to get on more and benefit from the collective wisdom!

In the meantime, I wrote my birth story for you feshes, but by the time I finished it was a magnificent four pages long. So too long to post. Sheesh, when will I ever have time to edit it down to something more readable?

You all sound like you are doing amazingly! Lots of healthy vibes to baby moo and Silv. Mastitis sounds vile - hope you can stave it off. Boobs fairly OK for me, but oversupply and painful letdown are a bit of a bummer.

Balls cossie I didn't know that! Got 7 days worth and he said to stop at 5 if better. Got Penicillin. I have appt with my GP nxt wk so I could tap her up for more.

Child fed at 745, asleep again by 9 and slept til 1.15am!! I fed gain but will he go in his Moses?? HI said he thought MB poss still hungry so I fed again at 230am and I am waiting for MB to hit deep sleep before I trick him into going in his Moses. Typically my rotten cough keeps waking him up! I did get some shut eye between 9-1 and ate my dinner in a half comatosed state so feel bit less knackered.

HI was tres crafty tonight. Wanted me to change and put MB to bed cos he knew he wouldn't settle and he didn't want to have to be the one to settle him which could take hours.

Does anyone else's OH always give the answer "I dunno" to q's about your baybees? Eg do u think he us warm enough? Etc. Mine does and I find it hard to accept that u make all the decisions. Even when MB had that breathing episode I asked HI for his opinion and all I got was "dunno".

switty Collective wisdom? Pah! We're all just winging it. Have you applied for an Irish passport for your little girl yet? I just sent off to mine yesterday in Paris, yes, that's right. Most of western europe answers to the french these days. I digress. They asked for certification by a British (or Irish) "responsible person" e.g., a policeman or lawyer, because the streets are just busting with Welsh policemen here who've known me for years. [FuriousRollingOfEyes] I suppose where you are there are actually billions of British lawyers. It didn't used to have to be a British or Irish person, last time I got mine done I had Dutch military police sign it. Twats. The passport office I mean, not the dutch military.

silv I think I'd rather have the "dunno" thing. Instead jb offers up his opinion which makes me question what I think... and tbh 90% of the time I'm right about what Bear needs at that particular time. And here we are back to the "if he walked off in to the night it wouldn't be so bad" thing! Are you having the sechs again yet? How are you doing as a couple when not tearing each others throats out and sniping at each other?

morning all, nice to hear from you swits glad things are going ok :)

Reasonable night last night again, although he was very very cross when being put down and not fed to sleep. But feeding to sleep just doesnt work any more, he goes to sleep you transfer him to basket, he wakes up. This way he really does sleep better so we are persevering. And I think becuase it's cross crying I can cope with it - if it was sad crying I couldn't.

silv do a search on the bf/ff forum, I'm 99% sure you need 10 days meds, I think someone linked to a print out you can take along.

Good point pitpony. Not having the secks yet. Tbh no interest in that dept at the moment what with lack of sleep, horrible cold, stomach hurting if I cough or sneeze.

When we are not bitching, we are brilliant. Last night whilst i was comatosed on the sofa HI whipped up a bloody lovely dinner of steak and didn't say a word as I ate it half asleep and not giving the dish the appreciation it deserved cos it was glorious. HI is a bit of a star in the kitchen.

In the end we were both up with MB til 5.15am. MB screamed when put in Moses despite being sound asleep moments before. I think he caved in the end cos he was so dog tired. I also fed him again and he ate for ages so this would have helped get him snoozy.

My cold has really come out, cue a chapped face from nose blowing. Gorgeous I ain't.

Keep thinking it's Saturday. Weird.

Christmas in two weeks time! Where has the year gone!
HI is now sleeping as MB only slept til 630 and was crying again so HI got up so I could snooze

oh silv that sounds rough. I so know what you mean re screaming when in basket inspite of being totally asleep before, we've had 13 weeks of that which is why we ended up co-sleeping, even though we didn't want to. hey ho.

Hom's stock answer is 'I think he's hungry', thus transferring all responsibility neatly to me.

silv are you swaddling? Have you tried raising one end of the basket? It may not make any difference but anything's worth a try!

HI also utters those words a lot. If I hear those words once more there will be carnage.

Moses is raised one end. May need to go higher.

I am at the end of my tether. MB just cries always unless being held. This am he constantly cries unless on boob. Won't go in bouncer. I have been feeding for last hour. When off the boob and sleepy on me he is fine! Has the audacity to smile at me! Dare to move him screams.

I feel like shit. Have had my meds but no breakfast as no opp to.

Hoss plans have gone ass up. Sharer not well and off games for forseeable future.

I am crap at swaddling and he fights it and cos I am so bad at it he can escape. Going to try a miracle blanket. Tho I fear it will take more than a miracle.

silv honestly ring your HV NOW and get some help. There's too much going on for you to deal with this by yourself.

In the meantime, put MB somewhere safe and out of direct earshot and have something to eat. It won't hurt him and he won't remember it. You won't cope if you don't take care of yourself. Do it now.

PS it's not a popular view, but if MB is nice and strong, try putting him down on his tummy - some babies, Rastus included, preferred to be tucked in tight instead of all arms waving. I only did it because R's neck was good and strong though. And it never did me any harm

Swaddling. Take a square blanket, any square-ish one will do and folder down a corner about 10-15 cm. Place MB in centre of fold so the top of the crease is just below his shoulders. Place right arm down his side and fold the right side over and tuck it under his left side as tight as you can (basically it needs to tuck under him so he is lying on it) and repeat with left side so left arm tight in close to his body and fold left side over and tuck under his back. You need to do it as tight as a straight jacket. I then place in basket and use another blanket over and tuck this under the back too so doubley tucked in IYSWIM.

I told you our once a night thing would not last. 3 nights in a row now I have been up at least twice. Ho hum.

Right update. Have perservered with swaddling. MB is swaddled as best as I can despite flailing limbs, is in bouncer and I have "air conditioning" white noise playing on my phone. MB initally closed eyes right away. He is now trying to fight the sleep but is not crying.

The hardest bit is that even when I hold him he doesnt stop crying unless he is eating.

HI has had to go out to do the hoss. House is a bleeding wreck - I know not important but it gets me down and I was on a mission today to really crack on.

I really cant do 1-5am wake up calls every night if I am not sleeping during the day.

Tues thanks for the advice. Going to try everything.

Bugger - I just blew my nose and its kicked him off!!!!! FFS!!!

Silver I know people who've had great results with cranial osteopathy for their screaming babies. Would you consider something like that? I'm not sure how/why it works. But frankly, if it were me, I'd not really care. I hope you get it sorted soon.

oh silv you poor thing. Firstly, crying will not hurt him. If he cries and cries and there is honestly nothing that will stop him, just cuddle him while he cries. I've resorted to it many times, at least he is getting some comfort while he's doing it. And do put him down for a minute to have some toast or a sandwhich or whatever.

silv I just want to echo what everyone else has said. And add please try not to let the housework get you down. I have let such things weigh heavy on me for months and it had not aided my state of mind.

Please get HV help if you can, and some you time. Hand him to HI if you can and get a nice bath or whatever relaxes you.

And I agree that some crying will not hurt him.

If you need help get it. I wish I had done so rather than getting into the mess I have finally recognised.

honey sorry you had a scare. Hope all seems better now.

I have had several nights of 3am screaming child, Squeaks waking up hysterical from naps, all day whinging, refusal to drink milk (but happy to scoff porridge etc); refusal to be cradled to feed when she does take milk, and general stressy-ness. Beginning to wonder if reflux is getting worse due to volume of cottage cheesy puke (not PV thank goodness). Nerves somewhat frayed and any plans to try getting her to sleep unswaddled and eventually without dummy have been put on hold. Don't want it to sound like the struggles are endless. Please remember that I did have a baby that slept through for at least two months.

oh casp are you ok?

casp that sounds a bit worrying, are you ok?

sorry, didn't mean to worry anyone. Just been finding things rough. I have whinged over on FB, but did not want to drag it here too. I need this space for sorting baybee issues.

(I am hiding in the dining room while she cries at her dad).

good girl. and afford yourself a glass of wine. It's Friday, and you've survived the week - a cause worth celebrating.