June '05 mummies 4 - the one where the babies get bigger and we get smaller!

[katzguk]

one new thread just for you lynny!!

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OK How do I put a photo onto a members profile message? I have shrunk one down, but can't see how to load it - anyone have an idea.

At a bit of a loose end right now, as after her early start, put dd down for nap at 8am and she is still asleep! (2 hour naps - whatever next )

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hello all

well yesterday was a very pants day, we had to have our lovely dog put down, she was very old and very poorly. She got sick the last day we were in italy, DH rang me in a panic, we have had a lovely weekend just spoiling and hugging her and then she went off to the vets yesterday morning where after some tests they concluded that then kindest thing would be to put her to sleep. She had a very aggresive breast cancer which had grown over the weekend even bigger and was restricting her leg function.

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Hi Got Pic of dd uploaded - not sure how to link to the thread, but my nickname is in the title, so shouldn't be too hard to find.

She's now on 2nd nap of the day, after a 2 hour long nap earlier . What is going to happen for the rest of the day is anyones guess - i'm in uncharted territory here!!!

I will give link a try - here goes:

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she's been fine, a little bit sad last night but today when we went to the park where we normally walked pebbles, she just said my doggy loved walking here and then added when we get a new doggy we can walk it here too.

Oh Katz so sorry about your dog, how sad!

Oh Katz I am so sorry. How very sad for you all. . Hope you are OK-ish. You have done the kindest thing, the only thing you could in that situation if you ask me. Thinking of you.

Lynny - I am with you not adding to the trustfund money. We have a separate account for the girls to be dished out by us for sensible things like Uni (if they want to go) or a car etc, not for blowing on beer and clothes like I did with my savings at 18 . Aww at Leona. Bless her and yay for Jess sleeping too. I know all about tight knit communities. You should try living on a RAF camp. Living and socialising with the same people your DH works with. Having the nurse who did your smear be introduced as your DH's boss's new girlfriend at a bar and have the midwife who delivered you come over to admire the baby with a beer at the rugby club lol. All happened to me. Actually as long as you accept it and don't try to fight it it is great.
I do go to a mother and baby support group here which is just for me and dd2 as dd1 is in creche. (This is now run by my DH's boss' boss' wife!) but the other groups I go to are for dd1 and dd2 comes along (musical tots and toddler group etc). I know it is scary so perhaps the groups in the towns will be better as at least you don't have to go back if you hate all the ladies. There are some places on camp that I do avoid TBH but mostly everyone is very friendly even if we all have very different parenting ideas sometimes.
Lippy - See above for baby groups lol. I loed it when my next order finally arrived. Yay for your shop in Jigsaw.
SFX - It is me who is turning 30. I am quite looking forward to it now and I am spending this year getting ready lol. I am determined to feel the best I ever have. I have really grown in confidence as the years have gone by (hark at me ) and much prefer where I am now at 29 than where I was at 23. I loved what I did when I was younger as I had a great time, I just wish I had the knowledge and confidence I have now. And I am sure I will get better.
Lynny - As far as confidence goes take a look at yourself. What you cope with on a day to day basis should make you realise exactly what you are capable of!!! You are funny and caring and kind and a pillar of strength and obviously very much loved. Take those thoughts with you when you go any where.
EYM - It is so lovely to hear you talk of your boys like you do. Good Luck with the party tonight.
Mandy - Lol at Kat with her cape, I have to agree with you on that one. Kat - YOu didn't make any issue of it at all and I think I just accepted it as your norm lol. Glad you are having such a fun time with dd. I always tell dh it is unfair if he is ill!!!
Welshie - Dd2's poos are few and far between too. She has done one tiny one in five days this week. Very unlike dd1 who was b/f as well but would do 7-8 a day . No wonder dd2 is growing quicker than she did.
Bero - I have to admit to liking the smell of dd2's poos as well . I told DH and he thinks I am mad. The Usborne party went well thanks and dd2 slept from 7.20pm when I put her down until 1.30 am which was great. She seems much more settled today too so was obviously having a funny day. She has settled for both her naps too and only woke twice last night.
SFX - The lack of stretchmarks may be genetic too, although I have to swear by the Avon stretch mark cream as that is what I used both times lol. Ow for your bumps burn too.
Lua - What does this diagnosis mean for your dd? What a stressful time for you. I am afraid I know nothing about it so can't offer any advice. I hope the HV steps up soon. Grrrr for you. I have a Medium blue Motherease airflow wrap that I was not planning to sell but I would if you wanted it seeing as you have a ds to kit out and I have a dd . I will not advertise it so let me know if you want it no rush.
Have to go - dd2 crying.

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Lynny lol first of all its all flat caps and whippets here.

Lynny you are a very confident and caring loving mother and as coops said you are so loved. We all can see what a strong woman you are. Ive got to say in my past my life as been no bed of roses so i do know how you feel like you want to hide, i know because when mum died i did the sme thing totaly cut my self off from friends and family, you see its a type of heeling process i see that now.Anyway w are all here for you, so ou dont half to go to the local mothers and babies lol get it.

Katz in so sorry to hear about your dog how sad hope u r all ok hugssss, and by the way you are Superwoman lol have to look for a cape for katz x

Coops you amaze me how to manage to keep up, you are coping really well been out there hugssss.

have a lovely afternoon mums xxxxxx

Hi there!

Sorry to hear that some of you had a hard night... Ds woke up an extra tim eto night too, so it must bee babys bad night day.

Ds has just learned to turn from his back to his belly and is no rolling around the room floor... HE has been in generally bad mood recently, and I thought:- Well, if you are going to be grumpy in my lap, you might as well be grumpy on your own. So I spread a blanket in the floor and off he went! I guess he was bloody bored of me and my "baby playing"

Lynny, I don't belive you are shy for a minute!!! You are just afraid you will be too popular!

Coop - It is very generous of you to offer the motherease wrap! But I, contrary to you don't get along with poppers! I'll find one to buy, or I'll just live with my wool ones. Dont worry about it!
re: DD "failuree to thrive" I am mildly concerned. If NHS don't start speeding things up though, I might get really worried! DH was a very small child so it could just behis genes. However, she was consistently average until about 9 months ago, when she basically seem to stop growing. So that is strange.

Had DD and DS and by myself last night, and boy was it hard. As typical sod law, ds decided last evening was the right time to cry non-stop from 5 to 8! DD thank goodness fell asleep despite off it.
Thought about RHM and 3 to deal with on her own.
Are you still lurking RHM!? Hope you are coping well1
A couple of other junies AWOl: TEa, Uwila... I'm sure i'm forgeting someone else! Let us know how you are doing

thanks for your kind words re the dog. i'm now realising the practicalities of it now though, i'm going to nhave to clean up when weaning dd2, pebbles was the hoover with dd1!!!

re - the superwoman, i have to confess i took my mum, it was in italy on expenses, and it was a chance to further my job prospects, which hopefully i did, one of my bosses was talking permenant contracts, these are like hens teeth when post-docing. oh and i see myself as more of a wings kinda of a girl rather than a cape!!!

evening ladoes
tired DH home now cooking with baby starpped to self- well i am a tad more tired. he really is doing well on the gaining brownie points, huge rewards must ensue... when i have the energy!

katz- sorry about pebbles, you never know how much a part of your life they are until they are gone. still good life lesson for children.

lua- sorry about the 'failure to thrive' are they jumping the gun? sometimes different ethnic groups means different from norm. my sister was always being told hers were too small, but they developed just fine. still worth checking up- hope all is ok. well done on the rolling over - strong little athlete

lynny-re small, town one persons refuge is anothers prison, frankly having grown up in a small environment i much prefer a big place where i can get lost. really be yourself sounds very daft but you know small places can afford to and should have eccentrics. best of luck

re trust fund well i fully intent to contribute to my childs silly phase but sometimes i have nightmares of child doing things i have done and i feel ill.

Lynny-Awwww,Leona sounds absolutely adorable.

Katz-so sorry to hear about Pebbles.I know how upsetting it can be to lose a much loved pet.We were heartbroken when we had one of our cats put to sleep a few years ago-I must've cried for two weeks solid.Thats definately the worst thing about having pets-you get so attached to them.

Lua-good news on the rolling over.Ds has rolled over from his back to his belly a couple of times,but hasn't done it again for a while.He has also just started holding a rattle now(sort of)-just have to make sure he doesn't bash himself in the face with it.He's a bit grumpy tonight-probably due to his 2nd lot of jabs that he had today.

Re:the CTF,we're not too sure whether to contribute or not.A few of you have made a good point on the squandering front,so maybe we'll just stick to putting money into his other savings account too.

Mandy-loved the picture.Your dd is gorgeous!

Lynny-did you have a few drinks before posting your pic? he he-sorry,couldn't help but laugh.
I've just posted another piccie there of DH and DS and I found it impossible to downsize the photo.Flossam very kindly made it smaller for me,so it's now there-at last,like 2 pea's in a pod.
The funniest thing is,I've loads of photo enhancing software etc...but I just don't know how to use it.

hi all

Re CTF - we have decided to not do anything with it except open the account. there are too many general elections between now and the babies turning 18, and since both oposition parties were against them then i don't trust them not to change the rules.

Hi haven't read to catch up and really must go to bed NOW! Have spent ages trying to upload a couple of pics which I have managed now so dd1 and 2 are available for your viewing lol. Sleep well and more in the morning.

Coop-what lovely pics.Your girls are beautiful.

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I hope it's a good one-I'm off to read it,he he.

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Hi Junies

Thanks for all your supportive posts recently! I've hope I've cracked it finally with ds's feeding - he seems to prefer Aptamil cartons to the powder! - He's a fast food junkie allready! Well, I don't want to jump the gun as it's only been one day, but I'm keeping everything crossed. I need to get him back up the charts.

Lua/Coop - glad I'm not the only one who bashes ds's head occasionally - chimney breasts are my speciality

Lua - what a worry for you - being told dd has "a failure to thrive" wtf does that mean?? And then to have the HV fob you off Poor you, I'm sure dd is absolutely fine though My ds loves to be left naked on the floor to squirm and try out his body too!

Welshie - your little accidents with your babies are also very reassuring

KVG/Lua - Unfortunately, I don't have anyone to give me a break with ds, but as long as he EATS like today, I'll be fine and will be able to work on the nights Tiredness is a real head f* isn't it??

Trib - I bring ds into bed with me about 6am every morning until about 9 - he loves it, so do I and he does he best eating whilst there. Don't think co-sleeping all night would suit us however, dp and I are still in separate rooms and I hoping that if I can get him to sleep through more (which I'm sure I'll be able to do if he eats enough during the day), then we can sleep together again. Lol and at your SIL's kids! Thank goodness they were both ok. Why haven't you been prescribed Ranitidene (sp?) Have you seen my "eating" thread?

I was so sorry to read about your poor ds's poorly tum, it's so hard for you when they're suffering like that isn't it

Jonah - I am being very very strict with my eating - it feels like the only thing I've got any control over at the moment! lol and if I have to look knackered all the time, at least I can aim to look slim and knackered! Lol at your disastrous visit to your childless male friend Mine did a really stinky poo in "Mail Boxes Etc" yesterday - the first time he's pooed when I've been out with him. And of course, also the first time I'd not brought the changing bag!

Lynny - your FIL sounds like a bit of a character! Lynny pmsl at your farting baby! ha ha ha I usually blame my dog... about getting too close with the villagers - I think you're probably right, be really friendly but don't get involved, I can see how complicated things could become. I guess you could join the M & b groups, if you could try your best to retain a little bit of distance and be equally friendly with everyone. I'm probably not the best person to advise as Im so un social. Lovely story of Leona in the electrical shop

EYM - I'm very very jealous of your voddy night with dh. I loved getting messy with dp every now and again. Can't see when that's ever going to happen again... Oops at you forgetting his b/day - guess you've got other things on your mind! Wish I had close siblings.

Bubbs - when ds was v cranky yesterday, I gave him some Calpol and he had a lovely long sleep - about 4 hours I think and I think it may have contributed to him eating so well today. Hope his cold goes soon, Have you got a nasal aspirator at the ready?

MandyM - you're a dirty mare!

Katz - I'm really sorry you lost Pebbles. I'm sure she loved having you both to say goodbye properly over the weekend

Morning June ladies
Charley - so pleased to hear things are settling for you.
I went to the bf drop in on Monday and the 'lactation counsellor' said that really it woud be much better all round if the babies stayed inside until they were 3 months then when they came out we'd all have the babies we expected - smiling,cooing,less windy creatures who seemed vaguely readable. She said the 4th timester is lived outside the womb. So true I thought....apart from the occasional perfect little mite.
Still no sign of anything looking like a poo from my ds - I think we're looking at 10 days now......
He had his 2nd lot of jabs yesterday and was totally fine - didn't even cry after the first one - just looked at me with that 'You Judas mummy' expression.