December 2008: because i unwittingly finished the old thread

[waitinggirl]

oops. sorry. didn't realise i was post 1000. hope people find this...

Hi Lady - yes I've not gone far just a bit hectic at the moment - but in a good way! Let me know for sure about Westfield! Just give me a few options and I'll get mil over for ds

I actually find the housework stuff helps with keeping ds occupied (poor kid but at least he's destined to be tidy!) actually he loves it. He just helped me carry all the Sainsbury's bags to the kitchen and will shortly be helping me load daddy's beers into the fridge

Lady I know what you mean about feeling mumsy and drab (though not sure how you could) but I've been recently thinking about adding to the wardrobe as my mum nicked half my stuff when they were here (actually it was being thrown away so she went through it!) but I have recently been finding myself worried about "am I too old to be wearing that" you know the old mutton dressed up as lamb worries! I doubt you have a worry at all though as you always look far from drab.

Hello Urbane hope your trial month goes well! I don't think I've been doing that much! Just had a busy weekend but I / we really enjoyed it and need to accept more invitations more often I think as it really lifts the spirits.

Spot, you are more than welcome. I'm a bit obsessed with buying the dc's clothes (I find them easier to buy for than myself) and I would much rather them go to a friend than a stranger Hope you and T are feeling better.

I just bought dd a swing. I know she's getting bigger now but she's still teeny and she so much enjoyed using the swing at a friends house and I was able to pick it up new on eBay pretty cheap!

Right time to nap the dc's then MOT the car.

V happy with the Apprentice outcome!

Hi WG - crossed with you. I hope you get some rest. As I said on the thread DD will get past this. Ignore the wider posters... if there's anyone who will get biffy with them it's me, but I've learnt it's not worth it.

Well Rubes, it's really that I am wearing my glasses loads because my eyes are tired (and look tired) and just a bit bored of all my clothes somehow...though it's more how I look in 'em. I need a change, in some regard. I am not going to shed 2st overnight so I may as well get some things to get me through the winter feeling smart. Hole ridden cashmere jumpers, however comforting, do not make me feel like Sex on Legs

I was pleased about the Apprentice outcome as well. Er, I wasn't terribly keen on that particular person and didn't think they were all they were cracked up to be.

WG, you are welcome and do ignore the witches on the wider MN. They justify their innate unpleasantness by imagining they are being 'tough talking'.

Lady, yes again I know what you mean. It's hard to buy clothes bigger than your usual / desired / pre-baby size, but then again, you still don't want to feel awful when you go out until the point that you have lost it all. Hey they might be holey, but at least it's cashmere I'm wearing mainly leggins and dresses / tunics recently, as although they're a bit tight, they are stretchy, and are my usual size so it makes me feel better psychologically Oh get some new shoes, that will make you feel good and you don't have to buy them bigger! I live vicariously through the dc's at the moment. dd is sitting here in Zara jeans and a monsoon top, and we are only off to get the car MOT'd which is just a re-test so doubt she'll be even getting out I rarely pay anywhere near full price for their stuff though

Hello all. Really really must get back into posting, there has been a strange gaping hole in my life while I have been away from MN

Today, however, you will get no sense out of me. Went out to a posh fashion dinner last night, got back at 11 rather drunk and was woken by DD at 4.45 which apparently was breakfast time this morning. Ugh [searchs for hungover emoticon, fails to find one]

I have no news really. Missed you all though!

Oh I suppose I do have one bit of news - DD has a four (eek) hour kidney function test at the Evelina Children's Hospital on Monday. That's going to be fun isn't it?

WG: I thought your response was reasonable and mature. I have taken note of the name however...

Avo I hate to ask yet again, but earlier this year we did a last minute trip to Dartmoor and you suggested a couple of really nice places to stay one of which I really liked but it was booked out. We did find a lovely place last minute in the end called the Edgemoor which we will most likely book again but this time we are more organised and dh has already entered the race so just looking at our options before everything gets booked! Can you remember which place you recommended? We need to be on Dartmoor or as close as possible really!

Kiwi - what is she having that for?

WG I'm a bit late in looking at your thread but I thought that women was quite cruel. I know I'm a bit more touchy feely and cuddly than the average Mner but if DS2 didn't want a bar of me I'd be gutted. I read through your original post twice and I didn't think you made out that DH was some sort of sulking adult. He wants a relationship with his daughter. Hardly a feeling he should be required to get over. Originally as I read on and noticed no one else said anything & I was a bit miffed, but then it became apparent that everyone was ignoring her.

Kiwi that liver function test is a bit scary, is everything ok?

Lady my advice for buying clothes, is don't go for loose stuff that hides the bits that you think you need to hide. Instead go for fitting, not tight or uncomfortable, but enough to show your shape. I was wearing really loose tops that came low over my jeans. They just made me feel frumpy and a bit down. So I bought some more fitting stuff and I feel I axtually look slimmer and well if I don't who cares. We have Esprit here and a slightly less casual version of Esprit called edc by Esprit. They have really nice clothes that seem to be made for all sizes not just stick thin models.

Beans I love Rhino, my fav part of the movie is when he holds up the fallen debris for bolt to go under and calls out "its a good day to die!".

Crikey its noisy here. DS1 has two friends from school over and they are talking in Dutch which is great but they are so load and are screaming constantly. DS2 is loving it but is running around screaming "Milo" (one of the kids names) & "niet doen" (don't do it). Ive just had another coffee to cope with the noise. I'm hoping to go to a friends hoist for a couple of wines tonight and I'm gonna need it. DH has a meeting in Delft which is 20mins from here at 6.30 so I hope he's back in time for me to go.

Hoist?!? House!

The kidney thing is because she was born with acute rental failure. She's been fine but has had regular check ups, this is - touch wood - a final big test and if all is well they can discharge her to the GP.

Not sure where I got liver function test from Kiwi. Fingers crossed for the all clear.

Ah internal organs... what's one between friends eh?

wg you know what, I didn't even notice how arsey that first post was. I think my subconscious skipped over it saying "Typical mumsnet unsympathetic response, ignore". Haha. Obviously i would have noticed and taken to heart if I had been you though. She was basically saying the same thing as everyone else anyway just in a totally unsympathetic way with the added "grow up" insult thrown in! That last post is nice though.

I need some new clothes too. I am fat and need to lose at least a stone, and it isn't happening very fast/at all. Hopefully the running will help. Not actually feeling that motivated to look good though if you know what I mean. Just feel a bit fat and crappy whatever I do.

Kiwi hope the test gives the all clear. Blimey 4 hrs, that sounds like a trial! does she have to stay still all that time?

Lady I am probably going to take a whole year or near to it off. i figure I might as well even if we are broke for a bit as I won't get another chance (I hope!). I will try going back 4 days a week but not sure if that might be a bit much. It also depends on if the comapny I work for gets sold as I think I have to work 28 hrs a week to keep my share options or something (must check that out), and I stand to make quite a bit of ££ if the company gets bought.

Nah Sumer - that really would be an ordeal! They fit a canula to her arm (the bad bid) and inject her with some kind of dye or solution. Then they take bloods every hour to see how her kidneys are processing it. This gives a really good indication of how they are growing/ developing. In between the hour marks we can leave the hospital (though not far, obviously) and so on.

Trying to be quite flippant about it but actually sort of scared.

kiwi That does not sound like a good way to spend 4 hours! I'm sure itsounds worse than it will be....is there a day room or anywhere she can go and play?

wg No advice on the DD/DH situ, lots of great advice given by the wise women of this thread (not other stupid cow, I swear some MNers make it their sole purpose to be as mean as possible!). FWIW I do think that a lot if is just to do with her age and the fact she is aware that she can now control things. DS totally ignores me when I get home from work, its my punishment for leaving him. He screams 'no' if I go anywhere near him.

Loving last nights Apprentice - my word that was a nasty attack in the boardroom.

DD loves Bolt. She is often 'Penny' & DS is 'Bolt'. A game that usually involves her dragging DS around the lounge by his neck

My Grandad is hopefully home next week, providing everything is put into place properly. My mum is exhausted its 100 mile round trip everyday for her to pick nan up, go to the hospital, take nan home and then come home herself! I'll just be glad to get him home, no matter how long its for.

Who asked about the fireworks? We are going toan organised display tomorrow (weather permitting). Should be fun!

And breathe.... phew all extra children gone. Now I just need to feed these monkeys and hope DH gets back in time. He is interviewing a Dutch guy for his team so shouldn't be long as they aren't big on small talk.

DB I'm loving the image of your DS being dragged around the house, "bolt, zoom zoom".

Kiwi depending on the day you may well want to stay on the ward/patients department as they will have pretty good play facilities and play therapist etc to keep her entertained. Though obv its in a good spot for cafes

Kiwi: fingers crossed DD does her best impression of an angelic child for the nurses. Three lots of toddler distraction activities sounds like hard work. Do you know anyone nearby who can take turns in amusing DD? Otherwise I suppose plane trip type distractions are the order of the day. I hope all us straightforward abd they sign her off with a flourish.

kiwi - good luck, that sounds tough on you and your lovely dd. hope all goes well. didn't realise she was born with acute renal failure - how terrifying.

db - i know i haven 't commented yet, but i am really hanging onto every word about your grandparents - they sound so lovely, so loving and so dignified. fingers crossed that he gets home and they have some great time together.

sl - you're right, that was a lovely last post.

as for last night's apprentice. what a bitch! completely talked herself out of a potential job (although couldn't see her working for lord S in a month of

cancelled dh's vastly expensive therapy session, have found another recommendation for him, and visited my friend over from ny. she had a nightmare journey - 2yo ds vommed all over her before the plane took off, then was terrified of turbulence and he only slept for one hour - baby was fine, though - she got no sleep, and then came down with the vomiting bug once she was here. she is being really dignified and calm, but is obviously still utterly baffled and bereft about the failure of her marriage. he may have treated her like shit, but that doesn't negate the fact that she still loves the man she married. i suppose a breakup like this is like going through a bereavement - the man you married simply isn't there any more. i presume. some of you must have been through it. it's just awful.

oh, and modern - i feel so crap, but how did i not realise you were even pregnant? congratulations - wonderful news.

argh i wanna watch apprentice but DH away and he will enjoy watching with me tomorrow so should wait!
I thought Melissa was entertaining, was sorry to see her go episode before last (she was an annoying bullshitter, but aren't they all??)

Your poor friend wg.

db hope your grandad is home soon even if it ends up not being for long

kiwi does sound scary, both the tests and the horrid canula. I expect the entertaining her for 4 hrs will actually be ok though, I often find dread of these things worse than the actual thing if you know what I mean.

Oh and bugger modern I forgot to say congratulations! Got a name yet and how is stuff going?

Hi everyone, almost half way through the thread and I?ve only just managed to find my way to it! Have vaguely skimmed ?

Going back to an old conversation, moon cups ? Trace mentioned needing to rinse it out, but how do you do that in a public loo? I?m assuming you don?t just do it at the basins? That really would be TMI for strangers!

Thanks for all the advice on wills and insurance, really useful stuff (and in plain English, so for the first time in my life I understood it)

DB your Grandad is a proper fighter, god love him. I hope you enjoy spending some time with him at home

Hi to Hatty and Verso, lovely to hear from you both . And congratulations Modernlove, what lovely news . Our fifth little girl on five consecutive threads

On discipline Spot, I?ve taken to insisting DD sweeps the floor after her meal, if she?s thrown food around. It only makes things messier for me as she?s quite useless at it, but I?m trying to prove some sort of point to her. Not sure what that point is yet . Poor T, I hope he?s on the mend slowly but surely

Poor little?s P?s arm, but on its way to being mended now. You are not a bad mother Trace, my Mum is. When my sis was little she suddenly stopped sucking her thumb, so for 2 days Mum and Dad were thrilled they?d finally got her to stop, but baffled how they?d achieved it. By day 3 they?d got a little worried, so took her A&E and she had a dislocated collar bone. And they?d been the ones to dislocate it, as they?d been playing the game where they grabbed a hand each and swung her round. My Mum still feels terribly guilty, my sis and I continue to be entertained by winding her up, but my sis doesn?t remember the pain and there?s no lasting damage ? as I?m sure will be the case with P.

I have some good news ? I?ve been offered a job share when the girl who?s maternity leave I?m covering comes back in January. Woohoo. And I can basically choose between doing 2, 3, 4 or 5 days a week ? the only stipulation is I cover the 2 days she?s not doing then as many more as I want. Woohoo again.

I?ve also just had the loveliest week off work ? friends of ours came over to stay last week. They live in Stockholm and we?ve not seen them for 2.5 years since DD was conceived in their spare room, so it was really lovely to spend time with them and be proper tourists too. We had a great day at Castle Howard, and then round York Minster followed by cake at Bettys the next day. Brill. Then last Friday I went away with my girlfriends for the weekend and had so much fun. We laughed so much (possibly due to too many cocktails), but also enjoyed cups of tea in bed in the morning followed by watching Saturday Kitchen instead of cbeebies. Simple things. But this week with so many lovely people has been just marvellous and so good for me.

Love to anyone I?ve missed off x

very spoiled. dh usually brings me coffee upstairs before he leaves for work. He was late today and I struggled Then I found it down in the kitchen all ready!

Trace - i meant to say don't stress about the arm. 2 toddlers have recently fallen down my stairs and you'd think I'd have stopped ds playing on them as he did it 2 days after the first. Both fine but could have been worse.

Kiwi hows dd?

DB how are the grandparents and your mum holding up?

Hello Zoe, sounds like a nice week.

I want to go to toddler group but suppose to be a plumber coming to sort out our heating which is all messed up however they never confirmed time

Think I'll go anyway.

Sad about your friend WG

Anyone been here? Might be going next week so just wondering - looks good.

Morning all! Rubs never been there but the Chelsea ones isn't far from me so good to know about, thank you!

DD up at 5 again this morning. Well I suppose that's 15 mins more sleep than yesterday. Ugh. Is anyone elses DC getting up absurdly early these days? I wonder if she is sort of ready to drop the lunchtime nap - except that when you get up at 5am you need it.. vicious circle really.

Wish I could have a lunchtime nap