Children At Play or Who Moved the Cheese

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Hello.

oh legume i'm so pleased you're homeward bound. are we all coming round for a housewarming?

ursula you can prod me in the back anytime you like my dear

blueberry doc has recommended salt in the bath

DD been awake most the night but finally having a sleep now. i was just enjoying a quiet cup of tea with DS happily playing when he decided it was time for her to wake up my MN time is up!

forgot to say....

ooh ursula.... well done to R!!!!

we're mean mummy and daddy this morning... ds keeps biting his nails really low (sometimes til they bleed( so we've painted them in the nasty tasting nail varnish stuff. a good side effect may well prove to be that its going to force him to use cutlery! i still feel bad about it though despite it being for his own good

and also

what's the golden rule of re-gifting? making sure you don't regift to the original sender. ds had a present yday that i gave to the sender for her son's first b'day

Now we have a house with windows and a roof that fit, and insulation a house-warming becomes a possibility for the first time since we moved in.

Ooh, look how zippy the broadband is.

Hooray for being home at last NewLegume!

I am feeling a bit :( today as had semi-convinced myself I was pregnant (carefree wedding night fun). Period has now arrived and even though my head knew to expect it, my heart is still a little bit sore.

Also I've been sleeping badly since the wedding, for reasons I can't fathom. Was up at 4.30am today and couldn't get back to sleep, hence posting on here. Loooooooooooong, boring day at work, stressed DH (work) and generally feeling like a fat hormental slob. Bleurgh.

Sorry for having a moan.

welcome home NewLegume - can't wait to comevisit see all the photos

Star - heart allowed to be sore in these situations moan away.

my CM has been in today moaning on about being pregnant etc etc and my heart sinks each time I emphatise etc. No appt yet for DH's snip but the wheels have been set in motion

anyhow - have done something exciting today - news on secret spot

Sorry to hear of your pesky period arriving Star . Fingers x'd it happens for you soon

belle are you sure it is the right decision. I know another pg would be very very difficult for both of you, but it just somehow feels wrong to remove all possibility. So unfair that you are (both) being put in the position to make such a hard decision {{{{hugs}}}}

Hurrah for being home legume. We can all come over for a painting party

Apprentice starts tonight and DH says he is not interested. I know if he watches a couple he will be hooked too, but it clashes with Grand Designs so i don't think it's going to happen. I never seem to get the time to watch recorded programmes and I suspect asking to watch GD on 4+1 will not go down well as will be very late. Grrrrrr

Bibi is your DH getting snip-related counselling? I hate to think of him possibly making such a huge decision while still in the midst of all the shock and grief over your darling G :( And my heart is sore for you, it doesn't 'feel' the right decision for you, not that it's any of my business of course and I shall rightly shut up now.

Bibi - to join in with the rest, please be sure this is the right thing and not just a reflex reaction to losing G. DH has seen the GP about his and anyone with a child under 1 and for those who have lost a baby in the last year counselling is compulsory.

Star -

Service - wea re watching GD, I won that battle tonight.

Leggie - YAY for home, heating and a roof :)

oh you lovely lovely lovely LOVELY lot

Yes, he is getting counselling and no it might not be the 'right' decision where my heart is concerned but I understand his reasoning. It was a traumatic experience for all and now we have 3 gorgeous girls to think about. I can't do anything to jepordise their health/wellbeing/care so it has to be the right decision. Please don't be scared when I inhale sniff all the new babies on here though whom I shall insist on naming being godmother to

the boys won't be forgotten and when they're old enough the girls will be told about them too.

DD1 has gone to bed in training pants and a layered bed. She has been waking me to wee for the last week or so and wees at bedtime then gets up at 6.30ish to wee so I have been stupid brave and let her go nappyless. She wore pants out today and only 1 accident because she was engrossed in a dolls house game. Now I have 1 box of size 5 nappies DH bought when I asked him to buy 1 pack of pull ups!

I am looking for a holiday for January - I would like warmth (not too hot) but it looks like Cornwall it is

I started this messaage an hour ago but got distracted

BibiBelle, mentally I was and am very solid on DH's snip. However, the day it happened, actually when he called me as he was leaving the doctor's office, I had the biggest panic attack. I remember thinking, "OH GOD WHAT HAVE WE DONE!" I have to say I'm not completely on board with the thought that your HEART has to be in on the idea because there's way to many practical reasons why the procedure is just BEST for some folks. Be assured when your DH's day comes I will be HERE to hold your hand.

Ursula, you made me laugh this morning with your hair dye comment.

Have only skimmed because I'm still running around like a mad woman.

Strangeways you now know you are completely and utterly ready. Shall we start helping you track your progress? Today is CD1 for future reference.

Fjorgyn, might I inquire about your ttc status? Is there any support we can lend or energy we can send??

Legume, very exciting news about your move home. Do you have pictures up yet?

rant alert..

dh's fb status is 'yeah - ironing is exactly what i came home early to do'
he was out on a work do last night, came home in a foul mood at 10 (i was expecting him alot later) Yday morning said i'd do a shirt for him last and was about to do it when he got home. he reckoned he wanted to do it so i went to bed
he's now (publicly) playing hard done by and i'm cross. i tried to find out why he was grumpy last night but didn't get anywhere.all i managed to find out was that there weren't enough carbohydrates with his meal
i'm sleep deprived and need some of you to put a level headed view on it all. just realised, he didn't make me a cup of tea this morning (just one for himself) so i've obviously done something to upset him. perhaps its his time of the month!
oh and he lost his cufflinks this morning. started shouting speaking loudly at me, asking me where i'd moved them to etc etc. i went upstairs to help him find them and he found them in a shirt he wore a couple of days ago. so he owes me a fucking apology for that little outburst

ok, i'm going to think some nice calm thoughts and drink a tea

still here, still thinking.. perhaps its because i didn't do his shirt before he got home? but the reason i didn't is because i was busy trying to tidy some clutter from downstairs (i've got a v judgey aunt coming for lunch today but dh doesn't know that's why i've been tidying up!)

his leaving words to me this morning were 'dd's just pooed' erm yes i know, she's just covered me in sick too but i was waiting to sort it all out once i'd hellped ds wave bye to dh (ds likes standing on the window and watch dh walk up the road)

ARGH

sorry, that was very long and rambling. don't bother reading it all just copy and paste the following in a message for me

you're a lucky girl, with two gorgeous children,a lovely house and a grumpy DH who loves us all

Hippo - HUGS I have a DH who has at least 50 shirts in his wardrobe and whinged that he had no ironed shirts! He thinks becaue I a home all day with both girls I spend my day watching Jeremy Kyle not feedin DD2 every 2 hour, playing with DD1 and running her to and from places, cooking 3 meals a day, ensuring he can walk into the house without tripping over things and he comes in a asks why the floor hasn't been washed or he starts tidying the cooking things away. YOu have a new baby and a serious infection they were going hospitalise you for, he needs to get a grip on reality!

Getting ready to drop DD1 at nursery and running late back later :)

hippy i think boybait what said is exactly spot on . I did wonder when i saw his status, but couldn't work out why it would be a problem - ironing his own shirt . and surely coming home early, is good. Home is good. Family is good.

oh but i do spend all day watching jeremy kyle, ds does all the clothes washing and dd sleeps all day
the thing is, dh always irons his own shirts but he's been really busy this week doing work in the shed so i offered to do him a couple. i won't be offering again for a while

caz still not sure exactly who you are but after your last comment would i be right in thinking you like my big blue cups for tea?

so blueberry, how do ou respond to 'why's the floor not washed comments'? i know when my dh does it that its because something's gone wrong at work etc but its so hard not to take it personally when he sees what i haven't done and not what i have

oooh my brownies are ready

oh and blueberry, yes, i am using your recipe again

well they smell like brownies
i'm serving them as dessert today with fresh strawberries and cream.

hippo I would have ironed his face if that had been me. Wipe DD's orange breastmilk poo all over his shirts, at least then he'll have something real to moan about. What a chancer.

I know he's your DH and all, but please don't justify yourself to him. All this sulking and power play is pathetic. You have two small children and a serious infection - he's bloody lucky you offered anything at all!

Admin am feeling much cheerier today so your words are completely correct. Although we're not going to really start ttc until the new year - we both agreed to spend the last few months of this year chilling out after all the madness! - but y'know, the heart wants what it wants and I am an expert at fooling myself into pregnancy symptoms

just seen blueberry's comment on dh's fb status..perfect, thank you

Ooh, what does it say? I'm not his friend so don't have access.

oh he's not a bad sort really. i probably moan about the bad stuff on here more than the good bits iyswim. i just need to find out what's put him in the grumpy mood

hmm, i have just over an hour til guests get here and i'm in my pyjamas still whilst smelling of eau de baby sick! best go

and star, sending you some hugs, your time will come, maybe not this month maybe not next but soon

she told him ironing's good for the soul
he replied, so is chicken soup but i pefer cake

Morning

I am afraid if anyone asked me why the floor hadn't been washed they would get a face. Maybe a 'well it appears no-one in the family has had a moment to fit it in'. I would be peed off about the ironing too - as DH normally does his, if i had offered to do it as a favour and he kicked off then i would say to him that there would be no more kind offers to help if they were not appreciated. Followed by more

Also, can i say, having had 2 pretty close together, i am only just now getting time where i can stop and think for just a moment, without constantly being in a childrearing headspin. Difficult for the DH's to understand i think how all consuming looking after children is 24/7 and that there is always something you are doing. And pretty much none of it for YOU. Comments such as the above just are the last straw i think when you are congratulting yourself about just keeping your head above water and juggling all the balls simultaneously. Best way to deal with that - go out for a few hours and leave them with 2 children and a pile of 'things to do', with no-one having prepped anything for them beforehand. Works with my DH a treat. Obv tricky with BF babies, but if you see your chanvce......run

Yay for blueberry girl - did she do ok last night? My friend whose DS was in washables was trained day and night at just 2 (as was I), so she sounds like she has caught on quickly . I think the benefit of washables on early toilet trsaining should definitely be highlighted. Maybe i would have tried to continue it for longer. Although probably not

DDs both slept until 7.30 . I have not woken up to my alarm in a loooooooong time