October 2010 Arrivals Lounge

[SeaShellsOnTheSeaShore]

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Oh Elsa, how dreadful! Poor you and DD. You sound like you are coping marvellously.

I'm on Mat Leave until December 2011 - the year from October, then two months of accrued annual leave tacked on the end. Though I am hoping we'll be pregnant again soon, and then I'll be off on back to back maternity. Or, they offer me the redundancy. I don't want to go back.

Seashells I know what you mean, oh well. I'm going to enjoy my last month of being able to afford things and then become an avid bargin hunter. Although DH is a bit worried about how we'll cope, I just keep reminding myself that as a student I coped on very little from month to month and was able to manage. You just cope don't you.

Nymph Everyone asks me that and I've said April/May time. It will probably be towards May though. But who knows we'll have to see how we cope on SMP.

I've finally found DS some non girly tights in boots of all places. They were red and white, but it means now I'll be able to use some of his outfits without freaking out that his legs are cold.

Hermya-we are already on MA only, have been since I finished work and it's amazing how you cope-although Xmas is justfor the kids. my Xmas present will be car tax could have done without dinging the car in the snow-£700, but it's only cosmetic sO will wait!!

You do just cope. We've been living frugally for ages, and it's an easy habit. I actually enjoy finding bargains, bartering, etc. I know I have a good maternity package from work, so not feeling the strain really, but thinking long-term, and wanting to be a SAHM, we need to scrimp and save NOW!

H, I bought DS some tights from GAP (in the sale, of course!) - one black pair, one grey/black - and there are loads of funky unisex ones on eBay too, though I think two is enough for us to start with.

Hun Good thinking, I've got my fingers crossed that you'll be able to pregnant before going back to work as I know how much you want it to happen. Thanks for the tip about ebay, I'll have a look now.

Seashells Thanks for the reasurrance, sorry about your car though.

I've been trying on interview clothes. Thread in style for full story but I'm v depressed now.

Also just blew up at dd2 for trailing dog poo though the house when she should have taken shoes off at th door anyway. Am now in bed. Starting to see signs of depression now.

Hun and Hermya I found these yesterday while looking for clothes for DD to wear with the harness on www.babykind.co.uk/babylegs.htm they are unisex colours and may be suitable?

I've bought some nappy wraps so her nappy isn't exposed and I'm hoping to receive them soon.

Nymph you poor thing you must feel pants. I would too. Make sure you don't retreat into yourself- keep talking about how you feel. Also, I sound horrid for saying this, but haul yourself out of bed and get on with something like baking something christmassy with your DDs; climbing into bed is soo tempting; but really not a good idea when you feel down. Its also perfectly understandable to be angry with your DD2 for the poo incident. Dog poo stinks.

Dh has tried but I'm feeding dd. He is insisting on dr this week as this isn't the first time. I get SAD too so the weather this week & not being able to go out has tipped me I think

Nymph- big hugs :) get ye to the drs or hv and have a chat-you and I both know what can happen if it goes un-noticed or not addressed. Hopefully you are just super aware so picking up early.

Dog poo would make me shout too, YANBU!!!

Hun- hope you get your wish! One friend was only back to work for 3 months between mat leave, so it is possible! Happy trying :)

HV crap not going there! All three GPs nice & already talked about it at my 6 week check

:) forgot it was you with hv probs sorry!! Glad your drs are good and hope things get better soon :)

HV aren't bad just not v approachable & 1 is scatty other is In child protection mode!

Nymph poor you- a lot to deal with, the dog poo incident was the last thing you needed. Glad you've got a good gp it makes a huge difference. And keep talking here too if it helps

hun I am really hoping you manage to get back to back maternity leaves, I really felt for you when you were having all the problems earlier in the year

Not sure yet when I will go back, I would like to take the full year I think, partly as dh's work is so busy in the sunner, but it depends how money is really. I only work ten hours a week anyway! I would like to have a second child fairly soon and then try and re-start my career but part time, but I know that might be wishful thinking. I loved my career, I am still so sad my awful boss treated me so badly!

Hi, bit quiet atm, had a row with pil, fil summoned us 20 minute drive at 10pm wednesday night, had to get my mum to babysit, when we got there fil said to my husband that he looks like a tramp and out of his 4 kids, my dh he is most ashamed of. My dh has worked so hard lately and is very upset, i went mad shouting and swearing at mil. Just pointing out that dh's siblings have no kids, full time wages to spend on themselves and only have to pay a 3rd of a mortgage each as they house share, dont know what will happen now, xmas will be awkward :(

Nymph Gosh you poor thing, it sounds like your Docs would be the best bet. They were really good with you when you had all your issues earlier in the year weren't they. But keep talking and I hope things get better soon.

I feel a bit bleugh at the moment, just feel really under the weather and a bit off colour and I pratically tore DH a new one earlier as well. Oh well, I think I'll have myself an early night tbh.

DS has been drafted in to be in the church nativity this year, he's being a sheep and being held by one of the youth group. Gosh seven weeks old and already on stage. Maybe DS will be a 'Hollywood' kid and will support me in my old age.

In other news DS now has a new playmate in the form of my cousins daughter, she was born this morning weighing 7lbs 11oz and is very very cute. Gosh it only feels like five minutes ago and yet an age when we were telling each other of our new arrivals.

Aw at the baby sheep! You must be so proud

Wow hermya at ds being a sheep!! That's lovely. Pleeeeease can we have a picture?

Tyson that sounds awful.I am not suprised you got upset, well done you for defending him. Do you thinl they might climb down and apologise? I hope it can be resolved it sounds very unfair

tiredfeet mil keeps finding any dumb excuse to get in touch, she has apologized but fil who said the comment hasnt.

Tyson Oh my gosh, they literally summoned you to have a go at your poor DH!! What a looser, I hope your FIL says sorry.

TF I'll try and get a picture from the rehearsal tomorrow.

Sounds like your mil might be keen to mend thingd then tyson but totally agree your fil needs to say sorry. Hope your dh is doing ok.

Thanks hermya sounds so sweet! I hope you enjoy the rehearsal

hermya Yes, they used to do this to us when we were younger and lived 5 doors away, we live the other side of town so bit more annoying, dh is upset still.
tiredfeet i never see dh cry but he did that night when we got home.
I dont think i can face seeing them for hours xmas day and we are meant to be seeing in new year with them, if fil apologized i could see it being put behind us but he is a stubborn man who seems to be hiding away in the background.

Oh nymph, you take special care of yourself.
Though dog poo through my house would make me furious too! Damn dogs. We walked our pram through dog poo a few weeks ago, luckily I checked the wheel before we went in the house. Wasn't impressed at all at having to deal with it.

Thankd Hermya and tiredfeet re the good wishes re work/mat pay etc. tf, sorry you have similar work/boss issues. Good luck to you too.
Congratulations on being an aunt (of sorts!), H. And the mother of a sheep!

Tyson, what??? Oh dear! How rude! Maybe keep to yourselves at Christmas - who needs the dramas!

Tyson- if MIL is trying you can let her but I wouldn't speak to to FIL again. Poor dh

Thank you ladies for sharing.

Sounds daft but I've not quite managed to identify his cues. Tho saying that he is asleep in his bouncer with his mouth doing a sucky movement so I guess he is getting ready to wake for a feed!!

I am going back to work in Sept 11. Cant believe I've been off work for nearly 3mths already.

I guess I could signify evenings by putting him in a sleepsuit. During the day he is mainly in a vest (the house is quite warm at 20degrees plus) unless we go out then I layer him up.

I've been finding it hard to get on and do stuff at home cos DS has ben needing so much attention and when he's been sleeping I've been doing sod all except lying on the sofa. The days are flying by. I've stopped beating myself up about this finally.

Those of you who have had CS = does it hurt/pull when you cough/sneeze? I still feel that its sensitive and I am wondering if this is normal?

Boobs are still painful and I am taking my meds but I wonder if they are doing anything at all!!

Tyson there is no way on earth that I would be spending Christmas with ILs or parents that spoke to me like that. Horrible for MIL if she is trying to build bridges but tough shit. Its bang out of order. How dare he??

Sorry you've had to go through it.