July 2010 - The gang's all here, we're now getting started on our baby's first year.

[stac14]

Starting our first post-natal thread since we are all over to the other side

Call me crazy, but I think it's the change in air pressure that makes the babies go a bit mad.

tsc i smoke when i'm drinking and i'm a bit ocd about washing my hands etc before i handle her but i enjoy a fag while drinking x

i'm pleased it's not just my toddler that's been hellish today (sorry). F was an angel all afternoon when we had friends over - sharing and playing like the perfect child and then bit the other boy 5 mins before they were leaving because he tried to snatch F's maracas.

tsc at Frankie's self-feeding!

re smoking- it's not a total no-no, imo (unless you keep him with you then not so good). It can reduce your supply and slow your let-down so prob not sensible if you have a low supply already but more is absorbed thru breathing than thru milk. I guess the problem would be once you have one you'll want to smoke more from then on (i guess).

i think you also have to avoid picking your baby up right after you smoke - apparently even doing that can increase sids risk, no idea why or by how much tho.

sorry if that was too sensible an answer!

hypnosis?

tsc, I couldn't wait to start smoking again, but after a week of bathing obsessively after every fag, th couldn't take the guilt and stopped again. My dh smokes 40 a day and it kills me when I pick up the baby and she smells of smoke.

needle you've done really well to stop again, especially as your dh smokes.

i've never smoked so i can't really understand how hard it is but if i imagine totally giving up the stuff that makes me happy (eg red wine, tea, hot baths) i know i'd find that very hard and of course there's no physical addiction to those.

tsc If u can help it dont do it! I stopped smoking about 8 years ago and it was the best thing i ever did.........however if i was in the pub half cut im not saying i would say no, i think once a smoker always a smoker, thats exactly why u shouldnt do it!

Hi new people,
I like the introductions,
Im Vik from birmingham but living in somerset now. Our lovely baby Devon was born 22nd July after a five and a half year wait and some help from the lovely hospital! We are in a very loose routine and he has almost slept through the last 4 nights.......almost!So dont defriend me yet!

I had to travel for half hour for my physio app today, thought it was at 2.10 but noooo it wasnt till 3pm so had to hang around for all that time, then when i went in they couldnt understand why id been sent there instead of my own town so all they did was refer me to my own town...Raaahhhhhh!! what a waist of an afternoow and it was well stressfull trying to keep Devon quiet and happy for all that time! TUT!

Going to Brum for the week tomorrow, feeling very mixed about it but looking forward to seeing my Mom and Dad!

stac lol at ur text thing, i totally did a similar thing with my friends who both had the same name!woopsy!

Devon has turned into a nightmare not sleeping in the day but has started doing much better at night so cant have it all ways i dont suppose. He is still suffering from colic in the evening but the swing has worked its magic tonight, thank god!

Right, off i go to get him up for his last bottle and into bed....for the night!! haha, i've hexed it now, havent i.......bummer!
xxx

you'll be fine viks Rileigh doesnt sleep during the day, maybe for ten minutes and only when held small price to pay for a nights sleep

memphis havent heard from cuz but i'm past caring lol

I didn't mean tsc had to smoke i just cant help it if i drink, kind of psychological thing as vik says. I never smoked in pregnancy or at any other time, except when i drink. Maybe i'm a social smoker lol. Anyway I never allow anyone smoking near the kids, so we go in the verandah and as I said make sure washed, teeth scrubbed etc before touching Rileigh. God i'm babbling think its bed time lol

Good news, the boiler is fixed woohoo! It?s only been since Monday with no hot water or heating. Having to boil the kettle to wash up, run Dreya?s bath and wash myself is not the one!
*chulita I feel for you on the tyre front as a helpless female who couldn?t dream of changing a tyre ? is that not what men are for??

Welcome dylthan I?m 28 and had my baby girl Dreya on 17th July & she?s my angel. She is sleeping through (sorry guys) & I feel totally blessed to be her mum. I think I?m the only single mum on here so don?t post as much but get a lot of valuable advice & info on here. It does move quickly tho like today!

Memphis hope lyndon?s cough gets better soon. I loled at you throwing up out the window sorry x

I have total respect for those of you that have toddlers to deal with as well as lo?s. my niece came over today and she is a handful at 2 ½ & I don?t know what my sil is going to do as she is due to have baby number 2 in november

thats great news bout your boiler nixster its too hard boiling kettles etc with a wee one. i had a wee look at your pics of dreya she is adorable. Totally agree bout the ladies with toddlers i would really struggle, ds is able to occupy himself so its easier for me. Hats off to you all, your doing a grand job x

MLIC - just accept me already, will ya?

i'm mad obsessed with this bloody fb thing now!

Morning, feeling a bit better now although think my ordeal has scarred Dylan for life, he now screams if left on his own.
He was so tired though but still managed to wake at 10pm, 11pm, came in our bed, woke a few times between 5am and 7am, now asleep on me after making us get out of bed!

tsc did u give into temptation last night? Tbh I think I would have done in your position, although Id be scared it would get me hooked again.

Im seeing my mum today, shes just got back from a cruise, then food shopping but not alot else today.

Whats everyone else up to?

Morning dh you ok? I hate driving in rush hour traffic. You try and have a sleep before you go out hun. I'm off to zumba for two classes at 9, i should be all skinny by now lmao. Will you be getting lovely pressies from your mum? Have a good day.

X-factor boot camp tonight woohoo, I may have wine/beer x

Oh, god, mlic I'm so sorry about your rotten night, I wish I had something helpful to suggest. Mind you, is there anyone who'd like to trade a difficult baby for my difficult dh? It's not that I can't handle the rowing, but as I tend to bake to calm myself down after every row, pretty soon people are going to think I'm pregnant again.

I swear the situation between my dh and my mother is killing me. I wish they could just bite they're tongues about how much they hate each other. I feel like I'm being torn in half.

Anyway, what exciting weekends does everyone have planned?

stac I had a little snooze on the sofa earlier, feel a bit better :)
I hope shes got us pressies! lol
You'll be skinny in no time with all these zumba classes!

Oh no mlic just when things were looking up, Dylan has never slept through and things are getting worse here too so I feel your pain and offer lots of sympathy.

Wel my madam woke a few times last night too looking for the dummy. Woke 3 times between half 7 and quater past 8 then and thought then that she was hungry.so heated a bottle and just before i put the powder in i looked and she was fast asleep beside me. So just said id leave the bottle til she woke and she never woke til After 10!! So all in all was a crap night and great morning. Dont know whether its her cold ( yes she stil has it) or her teeth thata waking her. So am like a zombie today and have to drive down to my mums and work down there this eve and tomorrow.
Dh that sounds horrible about your ordeal. Can imagine how you felt x
how did your night go tsc?
Whats the situation with dh today needle? and more baking going on? ?

I feel for everyone that's had a rubbish night mine was really crap too.

Dylan refused to go to bed and bethan screamed and screamed but wouldn't take a feed finally had them both in bed by 8:45, bethan was then up at 10, dh phoned at 11:30 he was outside the house and had forgotten his house keys so I had to get up to let him in. Dylan then got up about 1 he had wet the bed. We were both to tired to change his bed so he came into bed with me and dh went down stairs to sleep on the couch. 2:30 bethan woke for a feed and Dylan decided that he would sleep nowhere but his own bed so then had to change his bed and put him back. Bethan was then up at 4,6 and finally 8. Couldn't believe it the one night dh goes out and it all falls to bits.

Have no idea why Dylan has started to wet the bed. he's been dry for over a year now. Any advice would be gratefully received.

What is everyones plans for the day?

I think it's a combination of things- we've moved; opening a business, had baby, my mother is somewhat puritanical and very matriarchal. She sees herself as the head of a huge family and expects her judgement to.be requested and respected on everything. Dh, understandably refuses to defer.

I thought that you didn't take a break on the mini pill so no periods?
I would love to know the recipe for chocolate salad! I'm making monkey bread this afternoon :)

Tsc- glad you had a good night even if you are feeling a little delicate.

Familys are a minefield. I have a sil from hell and a slightly akward relationship with my mil and fil although hearing some of the stories on hear they are angels (not my sil she's still a witch)!

It must be really hard being stuck in the middle needle. Do they at least try and hold their tounges for your sake?