Dec 08 Ladies - Waiting for BabyLady & the usual grumpy tots with stinky bots

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Hope this is ok...

Hey Effie, forgot to say thank you for your kind offer of an EP/PD essex babysitting service . I wonder how long it would take to get to you....

Yes on the Xmas meet up idea, though the earlier the better from my perspective as I'd prefer not to go into spontaneous labour at the RFH

I think PD drove down to you? So she would have an idea. Re the RFH, would Nov be too late? You don't want to be schlepping on trains while heavily pg either. Or maybe we should all come down to Brighton?

Haven't disappeared, just getting on with RL & making effort to hang with local mums from the toddler groups (not that you all aren't lovely - just don't want ds to think I'm permanently attached to the computer!)
Congestion/Snotville here too
Congrats Avo
Lady, a friend of fam had same infection - turns out she pulled stitches from coughing as she has CF. Hope AB's work fast
Sybs / Spot welcome anytime

I would love to go down to Brighton - bagsy have one of those mini donuts from the pier - before a seagull eats it out of my hand - that's happened to me there before! I'd love it! Yes please!

xx

(When I say one of those mini donuts, I clearly mean a bag of 6)

Morning ladies. We'll I'm here in our Lovely zebra stripped Jungalow with a lovely view of the lake with a small radiator sitting in my lap watching 'Bolt'. poor little DS2 was really unsettled overnight and then woke up hot hot hot. I've no idea how hot, because I didn't bring a thermometer. anyway DH veggieboy have gone for a swim & to hire bikes so we'll hopefully go for a cycle around the safari bit this afternoon if J is up for it. His appetite is fine he's just eaten most of the movie popcorn I made for him and is currently munching through an Apple.

Effie the restaurant is awesome. It's called the pirate family restaurant, and its got a little playroom with a TV and decent toys etc. not all the tables have a good view of the playarea so they have TV monitors that show the room. the staff are amazing, they seem to not even notice the small children running backwards & forwards from tables to playroom, & they adore DS2 & lift him up to look at the frisky lizards. the food is good but not much veggie selection though it does say on the menu they'll do something else if asked but I quite like the meal they have so its fine.

beans I've just been to the loo & completely understand if I close the door its screaming & clawing at the door like its the gate of hell, if I let him in he either tries to close the toilet seat on me, help me woth the toilet paper (trying to shove it between my legs), or he yells the Chinese for wee wee at the top of his voice.

Sorry had to post cos phone went silly.

Spot that's exactly what its been like with DS2 slowly but surely improving. He is a very determined character, DS1 just kind of gave up feeds as we cut them out but DS2 really hangs on. I've decided to let him self wean off the last three feeds as they don't effect my day at all and in hindsight DS1 one self weaned off his last feed, so would be nice to let DS2, my last baby self wean these three. Am I the only one still BFing?

I must have missed a post from Kiwi is she ok?

Jolly Why don't I just post you the dress and you can see what you think? Whenever you're done with it, you can send it back to me and I'll off-load it on eBay at some point. I am useless with Facebook, but if you're on it you could send me your address that way? My initials are A.H.

Veggie - I think Kiwi is still BFing - although not sure post New York trip - Kiwi?

Right, chocolate mousse now to celebrate losing weight!

Hi girls. Quick me post. How do I know if I have mastitis? Am feeling really ill with high temp , shivering etc. I thought flu or bug caught from ds as he has had a temp and been under the weather. However it has just crossed my mind that my left boob is q sore. Could it be mastitis? I need antibiotics for that don't I? I don't think I can make it to docs on my own.

SL - is your boob hot or red at all? And is it really quite sore? I didn't actually get hot and red lumps (which are classic symptoms) but the pain was very noticable. I would get it checked out if I were you. What I found is if I got flu and was run down then I often got mastitis on top of it. So it could be your DS's bug developing into mastitis. Drink loads and loads of water. Take ibuprofen and call your doctor and get an emergnecy appointment today. The earlier you get the ABs the better. I know what you mean about being too ill to go alone. I could hardly walk with the fever and shivers. Can someone else take you? x

It's mayhem here and will do a proper post later, but SL - Avo knows about mastitis I think? Poor you, sounds awful. I am pretty sure if you call the surgery, under the circs they could fax a prescription to a local chemist which your DH could then pick up for you later? Worth a go. Nice docs will do this.

It's sctually not that hot or red. I think probably it isn't and I just have bug. Going to feed dd and see if it makes it better

Feels loads better. Think it's just flu. God I feel crap though.

LadyT saw this and thought of you.

Jam, that is hilarious. When DD is bigger I will get her one

I hope you continue to get better, SL.

I AM coming back later but still in pyjamas again and need to straighten a few things out before I sit down properly...but I am resting this week and yes, Veggie, I was indeed told in no uncertain terms to take it as easy as I possibly can, you are quite right. Apart from the infection the bleeding is heavier than it ought to be by now (apparently it should be less if you have a cs, something I didn;t know).

Oh blimey, what a day. I feel like I've got cabin fever. I am in a cluttered, dirty flat (the hoover is too heavy for me to use), tripping over stuff as DD1 is strewing stuff everywhere from dawn 'til dusk or else hanging off me. I can't take her upstairs to the cot (can't carry her up steep metal stairs) so she has had no nap and I have had no respite. She also opens every cupboard door then slams them and it is driving me seriously nuts. Resting? Honestly people, you have to be joking! I would love to. If only DD1 would allow me to for 5 seconds. Sorry for the moan, I know it is v insignificant. My sense of humour usually saves me but it has been run a bit low today.

She did observe "lots and lots of creams!" when she was in the bathroom, though, which was funny (and also true, there are).

Jam - it sounds quite serious with your friend, I would say. I think a confidential chat with her DH for starters and take it from there.

Veg, so glad you are having fun. I hope that place turns out to be good that you are viewing when you get back. I think it sounds (and looks) really promising.

WG - I am mindful I haven't asked for proper advice for your friend - has Syb's mate been helpful?

Avo - did you celebrate last night?

Rubes - good to hear you've been out and about. But please come on and tell us your news!

JB - that is such lovely news about the scan - and yikes, I hope your DD is on the mend now. I bet you have had just about enough of sick, one way and another!

Spot - very pleased to hear you have at least chatted to your DP and that weekend in Cambridge sounds just the ticket. I asked if you liked music because when I was on the train on Friday and yesterday, enjoying listening to my iPod, it reminded me how massively restorative music is, and so I wanted to make you a nice, soothing compilation cd. Even if you like one track it will be worth it. And it's something I can do whilst sitting on my arse this week.

Beans, how did it go with your friend? I could write three volumes about how I coped after DH died but it's different for everybody. I will say, though, that at first nothing in the world helped much, but 1. talking about him 2. going out with friends for dinner many times a week 3. going on holiday after holiday after holiday, were all at least soothing. My heart goes out to her, anyway. I've said it so many times but love never dies, even if people do; and he will be in her heart forever and ever and there will come a time when that will make her happy, rather than only feel agonising that he is not physically present.

SL - how are you feeling now?

People have been asking about Katie - she sent me a lovely card and parcel yesterday and when I send the thank you I am going to find out how things are going. Should think she's frantic with the doing up of the cottages.

On a completely trivial note, has anyone been, or know anyone that's been, to the Cape Verde Islands?

Personally I think if your having a CS they could clean it all up in there, and sort out the baby fat. So dammit straight you should have less bleeding. I know I has it a bit different but I def bled more this time.

SL if you boob is still a little sore feed first from that side for a the next day. Hope your feeling better by now.

Pubes how was toddler group.

DS2 brightened up loads & we took the boys on drive through the safari park. It rained on & off all afternoon so couldn't chance the bikes. It was awesome though, got so close to the animals, DS1 spotted a cheetah, which we where all excited about. DS2 got really excited about the lions and we had got up close and personal with the Giraffes as you may have seen on FB. It was quite funny, we were watching a bunch of Zebra & giraffe off to the left of our car when a women in a car to our right started gesticulating widely behind us. We turned around and there was a big ol' giraffe walking right behind our car. It slowly circled around to DHs window licking water off our roof then started drinking water and eating old leaves from the bit where the windscreen whippers come from at the front of the car. The boys went wild. DS2 was on my lap. Then we went for a swim at the cool indoor swim thing then pizza at the cafe. Was all good and the boys are in bed shattered. DH & I are watching 'Red' & drinking my martini & bitter lemon special. I call it Dutch safari.

Evening all,

mom Not having caught up with the modern age, I'm not on facebook! Could you email me on this address - without the spaces?
l o r d j e t h r o @gmail.com
DH set it up once as a joke, Jethro is our cat! I can retrieve your email from there! Thanks, I do appreciate it.

summer Oh you poor thing, proper flu is just awful. Can you DH possibly work from home so you can get a bit of rest? You must be exhausted.

LadyT Yikes that is difficult. Could you set up the travel cot downstairs so DD1 can get some rest? Plus you can put her in it to play when the removing stuff from where it lives just gets too much!

beans I think a little gift would be lovely. It is hard to know what to say or do in such a situation. As ever, LadyT has put it beautifully.

No more sickness today for either of us, hurrah!

Lady - I will tell her those tips. She actually couldn't make it today as her son was sick on the way, so they had to turn round and go home! I went for a lovely walk instead and missed the pouring rain by cms !

I really hope DD1 goes to bed ok tonight for you and you manage to get an early night - I know you'll be up during the night, but at least try to get some zeds in before 9pm if you can?

I am feeling a bit sorry for myself as have been feeling a bit pukey for an hour or so, but have finally just done a massive acid sick and now feel rough as a dog with horrible burny feeling in back of throat. No temperature or anything, just feeling rotten. Sad as was looking forward to a salmon stirfry and a beer. DH out tonight, so have done babes on my own. Think this a sign of how much he's been working late/out recently - I actually find it less stressful to do it my way and on my own. He says I hassle him when he's doing bath etc. But that's because I know DD2 is exhausted by bathtime and needs to be done early! DD1 still screaming away in her bed at moment, but sure she'll pass out soon.

When I collected her from nursery today they asked me how they could get her to eat something at lunchtime. Erm. If I can't get her to eat at home, then surely they're the experts!!! But having said that, she clearly had a lovely time there today and was really getting stuck in with all the others when I collected her, which gladdened my heart.

Vag - your trip sounds marvellous - DD1 would go nuts for a giraffe!

DD2 rolling around all over the gym now, it's so sweet. And giggling wildly when I hide my face and then say "boo". It's so sweet as she always jumps and then giggles however many times I do it. So sweet. Her sideways head is phlagiocephaly and paediatrician has recommended not to have a scan, but that it should right itself when she starts sitting up/crawling. But lovely GP has suggested I go and see her every 6-8 weeks to have her head measured and to check it's not getting worse. She actually rang me to talk about it. I think that's more than a lot of other doctors do.

She's the one who fitted my coil. Which seems to be ok, although am still spotting - who asked me that? My brain is addled by babies! I wondered if my feeling sick at the weekend was related to it and got a bit panicky. So had a bath and felt inside and it's still there - how grim??! Think tonight's puke may have been fall out from the weekend.

SL - how are you feeling now?

Vag - what is the chinese for wee please?

DH has taught DD1 to count to six ("fix") - v sweet. And I have taught her to say "I love you" this evening - "wuff oo". Gorgeous!

GOOD GOD - NEARLY TIME FOR A NEW THREAD!

Lady that is such a sweet thought, you are really too kind. I am very, very touched. I wish we lived halfway near you and could come and entertain DD1 while you have a lie down. T is quite a comedy turn when he's not teething/full of cold. T does the cupboard door thing too, it's soooo annoying. Does DD1 like TV? And I don't suppose you have a working video recorder, do you? I have LOADS of kids vids that we can't watch due to broken VCR.

SL you poor thing, being ill when you've got one to deal with is bad enough, I can't imagine how hideous it is with two. If you're still poorly on Sat I will be around brandishing hot toddies aplenty.

Yay, come to Brighton everyone! I would love it and am happy to provide donuts (small, large, glazed - we also have a new Krispy Kreme shop just opened so I can meet every need).

Sorry X posted with loads there as just put T down. Beans you make me larf. Sorry about the puke. Have you got any nights out lined up? Sounds like DP has had a fair few.

Hooray for the sick free days, Jolly and that DD is on the mend. .

Veg your holiday sounds idyllic. And I'll have some of your Dutch Safari, thank you very much.

Oh & spot are you coming over here one day?

We have a bunch of viewings next weds including the last place I showed, that is in my fav location.

lady and sybil - i've given my friend sybil's friend's details - she has consulted another nyc lawyer, is probably coming over in a couple of weeks or so and is then going to chase some of the people who've been recommended - thank you for thinking of her. i'll let you know what happens.

beans - that sounds horrible, you poor thing.

sl - ditto. watch out for mastitis - never had it, but it sounds terrible.

vg - i can't quite believe how wonderful your holiday sounds. can you let us have the website of the place - might be worth a trip to the netherlands.

oh, lady - you're having a tough time, aren't you? i'm living in trepidation of having 2, for all those reasons. it will get better, it will (i hope).

can people recommend phil and teds buggies for when you've got 2? dad's ladyfriend claims i won't need a double buggy, but quite frankly, while madam loves to walk, she also loves her "mummycuddle" which generally means pick me up. and i can't imagine either walking that slowly all the time, or carrying the poor thing all the time. i seem to remember buggy boards didn't get a great press among the mums of 2 on this thread.

can i ask... are any of your babes unbelievably anal? by which i mean, she wants everything to be just so - mummy can only sit in mummy's seat, daddy in daddy's seat, if there is a spot of dirt on her bib, she wails "oh no" and it has to be taken off. she is also rejecting dh quite a lot. there are some days when if i hear "mummycuddle" or "mummydoit" one more time i might spontaneously combust.

and beans - madam counts, too - up to 11 sometimes. but only if she's standing in the middle of the room, wagging her finger, bobbing up and down and grinning madly, making sure she's the centre of attention. she is so talkative, repeating everything we say, and appears so bright, i'm sure number 2 will be a mute, dim little thing, but physically daring. madam certainly isn't that.