FESH spa and creche: Is anyone thinking of the children yet?

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New Fred. Apologies for dullness of title - we need curly for witticisms.

Mary King is a troooooo Ledge! Of the highest order. King William is my ultimate eventing nag and for SJ its gotta be Milton. Still making my mind up for Stressage....

Tues tons of horse owners still dont know the difference!

Ulla Salzgeber's Rusty - Latvian nag like mine.

Hmmm - Interesting choice. I quite likes Stephanie Croxford's Mr President, partly cos he was a bargain bucket and everyone is surprised that a cart horse is achieving PSG....

Oh and my back up eventing nag as King William is at Rainbow Ridge is Nicola Wilson's Opposition Buzz

Hmmm, Eventing Priceless (but also have a soft spot for Toy Town & his antics and really like Opposition Buzz at Badminton), SJ can only be Milton and Anky's Bonfire for stressage, although also like wotsisface's Blue Circle Boy - ta dah...some decisive choices there from me

Honey - depends on whether measurement is of in-ness or out-ness. Last time I was diffed different MW measured different ways - was v. confusing and turned out to be pretty irrelevant as needed to be induced anyway.

Gah. Bloody men. I did a list of 'stuff we need to do in the house before new baybee comes'. This was going back months, and I suggested to TG we tackled it over the summer while I was in second trimester heaven and before I got too big or ended up with back pain (something I have suffered from over the years), so that I could help him get it all done. Of course, he duly ignored most of it, thinking we had loads of time.

We are now in the position where we have 4 weekends free before xmas and he suggested we revisit the list. So I did, and I emailed it to him again. Apparently, home now feels like work and he is fucked right off with me!

Why have we gone from a relationship (pre-Boo) that was equal and balanced, to me being the fucking adult and him being the reluctant moody sulky child? Why does becoming a mother mean you suddenly get to take on all responsibility for household bills, appointments, check-ups, car servicing/repairs/mot, shopping, packed lunches, insurance renewels, booking of holidays, buying of all xmas and birthday presents/clothes/shoes, keeping a fucking calendar for every member of the family. Why am I the only one who can think for all of us, and not just myself? Grrrrr.

Sorry, that was v memememe. I just feel like I'm about to implode.

I'm feeling your pain polly. You gotta tell him. Or stop doing everything for a few days and see how he likes it. They just don't "see" all the stuff that happens which means life goes on smoothly. It utterly pisses me off, but you can't live like that. Lay down The Law and stick to it. It's like dog training really.

Consider him told Moo... have just replied to his whiney 'I've got a naggy wife' email with a very long and strongly worded one myself. I'd like to say he is the most lazy and selfish git I've ever met, but I can't, as that was my ex. I really do not like the shift in our relationship since I became a SAHM. It is not good. We have fallen into the stereotypical male/female roles and I am rather worried I am turning into my mother. Her choice in life is to either nag my Dad continuously, in which case he will dig his heels in and she will end up doing whatever it was that Dad should have done, or she just accepts that she must do it anyway. Grrr. She is at work almost full time too, so it is not like she is just sat on her arse at home... Bloody men.

pols your post sounded just like one of mine from a few days ago. At times I want to scream. Today I have done more chores and HI comes home and says "good girl - took your time, about five years later". Naturally he said this with a wicked glint in his eye and a smile you wanted to remove from his face with a Chainsaw.

FESHs plz to tell how essential nursing tops are. I haz none.

Silver I think I just had some nursing vest tops, but it was summer and bloody boiling last time round. Guess it depends on how you feel about wanging your boob out and having it on show. Of course you could always chuck a muslin square across shoulder/bubba's head for a bit of privacy.

Good to have in the early days Silv while you're getting used to that business. Great for avoiding flashing the jelly-belly but no point in spending loads of dosh until you know you can do it IYSWIM.

I just bought vest tops & wore them under shirts but never did get the knack of feeding from a normal top.

As for the menfolk - bunch of wankers. Had to intervene when HI decided to empty dishwasher with the toddler.....she was seconds away from severing all her fingers on our lovely sharp sabatiers, fingers wrapped around the blade an' all . Wot on earth was he thinking ???

Needless to say a few choice words put him back in his place .

Had a post natal nct gathering today which was nice go seenthe other girls again. Wasn't quite expecting our host to bf in front of us, nowt discreet about it.

Cluck send him out to watch that dodgy band for the next 2 nights - seems they are all over the place like a bad rash this weekend! Then you can come round to mine and watch HOYS. You know you want to - your's Sky has never been the same since HI 'upgraded' it..... Puissance on Saturday - tempting you yet?

As for BFing in public - I find noone looks at your knockers if you fix them with a steely glare, just daring them to look any lower. I just wap the Tshirt up. Handy to have a cardy on as well, to help with covering up a little bit. Small pashminas (so last year, dahling,) are also handy for throwing over your shoulder if you have a particularly revealing top. I never bought any BFing tops. I have got a dress, but only because I stretched the neckline on a non-BFing dress once and that really annoyed me!

I think kate makes a good point, you don't know if it's going to be possible and how comfortable you're going to be about doing it. E.g., if you're not a bap-flasher then it doesn't really matter what you're wearing as you sneak in to the broom cupboard in Debenhams... Tbh I sat around in my underwear (nursing bra) for the first few weeks anyway unable to make decisions about anything.

Bear finally has a legal father - and I kept my cool when I read (I'm sure) a document that had been printed out and attached to our file which read (if I translated right) - "under British law it does not matter if either parent is married to any third party". Which would mean these tossers sent me up to Amsterdam (at great expense) to fulfil their law, rather than a British law applicable throughout Europe. Still not agreed about his surname though as they won't double-barrel it until they've checked with the UK's authorities that it is (must be obv. as per cunty) - he can automatically take my name, or now that jailbait is legally recognised possibly his name. Basically they haven't got a fucking clue. They also questioned why our birth certificates looked different. I guess that'll be because they were issued 12 years apart in different districts and hand-written by different Registrars.

I am not doing well in public places. We went out for a meal last night and as we were leaving the restaurant some pissed up mutton-dressed-as-lamb shlaaaag waiting at the bar for a table tried to touch Bear. I could've punched her fucking face in. Not quite sure that counts as PND.

Still waiting for VAG's sneeze story!

Polly Jailbait left the house at 4:30am in a stinking work uniform (again). 3 days in a row this week I've said "do you have any washing?" and he replies "yes, my work stuff". But... it never seems to make its way from the bedroom floor to the washing basket... so he has to wear it again.

Housework fairies indeed carrots!

Cossie How is your lovely little boy now? Has he stopped screaming yet?

Congrats on Bear finally having a legal father APony - about bloody time. What a farce.

TG came home in a conciliatory mood last night. He said he wasn't so much upset by the list, as there is nothing on there that is ridiculous or just down to my nesting instincts. It was more that I'd emailed it to him at work and my words were rather short and sharp. I pointed out that I'd sent it to his personal email, and he should not be reading it at work and it was short and to the point because I was busy. I swear he thinks I sit around on my arse all day watching daytime tv. I don't have the blardy time! He was a bit upset that I feel like the only adult in the house and je seems to be mulling that over. Lets see how long it takes him to forget. None of it seems to have made that much difference - I still came downstairs this morning to find all his breakfast things stacked on top of the dishwasher, which was already half-full of dirty stuff. I give up...

alpie he is much happier ta. :)

yay for legal fathers!!

Is a tempting offer Box but we has a wedding to go to this weekend. Am soo looking forward to being the only sober person at that one!!

Yippee for getting the legals sorted Alps

Some stupid stuff going on Here - seriously, there is ladies idiots out there refusing to wear make-up & veet their legs in case it gets into the bloodstream & hurts the baby ...morons.

Hells teeth, I'd better stay away from that thread. Morons is about right Clucky. I did like the chocolate posters response. Much more polite than anything I'd have written.

Maybe I'm just lucky , but as I don't need to Veet my cervix I'd feel fairly confideny.

The poor hairy uterus'd cake-carriers. :(

My gorgeous little boy has moaned and grizzled all day. :( I don't want to go out tonight but parents have offered to babysit. AIBU to go and sit on a terrace in the sun and slowly but surely get ratted?

You are lucky you can go out for the evening. I've not been out for the evening since before Rastus was born

B-b-but you have step-children don't you and no chimney? How else will they earn their keep?

He's too stroppy in the evening for anyone other than my mother to deal with him and I could ever express enough juice to keep him full till I got home, plus I'd have to express whilst I was out and I'm not sure Wetherspoons The Ivy have those facilities

He's a big boy - maybe ask on "Style & Beauty" for a fancy handbag suitable for a 16 lb boy to be stuffed in? I feel for you I really do. Are you at least able to sink a few and gurn at the telly?

Well not really cos the alcohol upsets his tummy [not-my-child emoticon]. I'd settle for a posh meal.

I just have to burst exhuberently in here and shout 'I have both hands back!'

DS is such a lump there is no chance of him slipping out of the side of my favourite Babyhawk unnoticed. DD hated it until about 14 weeks, and to start with frequently got lost in the bottom of it, even with the 'newborn fold' in it. DS is squidged up in it happily as I type. With both hands

PS Check out my babygrow pic on FB! No wonder my chuff is in shreds!