November 09 - Autumnal times are drawing near, soon our babes will be one year!

[MsInterpret]

Hello ladies, hope no one minds me taking the liberty of creating a new thread and approves of the name choice. We've been moving a bit slower than antenatal so though we'd most certainly have some year-olds by the time we finished this one!

Katster feel free to use Theo, it is now officially wiped from our list after trying it with our surname. Theo Howie.

Fruit thinking of you and your DS'

DWB great news on the job, hoorah! Liking the afternoon bath idea too, have never thought of that as an option.

Ursi I wouldn't have gone to the EPU unless it was necessary too (sadly for me it was, twice) but have heard of others that do. I paid for a scan with Ioan at 8 weeks for reassurance, it cost about £100 I think - to be honest, after losing two babies before him it only really reassured me for a day or two before the worry set back in. 12 weeks was still the turning point for me.

katster 34 weeks?! I can't imagine expecting a newborn at the moment, although it probably would give me the kick I need to sort out this sleeping business!

helips thanks, it's so lovely to hear it's not just me that wishes the day away. If you ever find that mute button, do share won't you?!

Sleep wise, we seem to now be on a pattern of dream feeding at 10:30 ish then he sleeps until about 5. Good in theory, but then he doesn't sleep properly again afterwards, so my days are starting too early. Not entirely sure what to do about it so any suggestions welcome. I guess I'll have to bite the bullet soon and stop the 10:30 feed and see what happens....

DWB I really like Luke or Luca?
Katster Not long for you to go. Do you have support around you for when baby arrives?
I second the bathtime in the afternoon idea. I've done it with both DS'. It really helps break the day and calm them down.
Ursi Hope your DH is back soon.

My Dh is back home and I already feel less stressed. DS1 doing well but DS2 still not out of woods. We held back on the GP and seeing how he feels today. DWB you're right. Sleeping is a good thing. He is just so miserable when awake. He seems to get an ear infection with every cold/virus so may have to get him checked out today or tomorrow.

scarlotti Is Ioan becoming more mobile? Maybe when he starts walking he will be too tired to wake for his 10.30 feed. Since all the illness, C is sleeping from 6am, wakes at 2.30am for feed and back to sleep until 5 or 6am. They are very early mornings .

I meant sleeping from 6pm!

Morning all. Have been lurking for ages. Have a very grumpy baby but think it is to do with teething, as she is only just getting her top teeth through now. Also my non-clingy baby has all of a sudden become very clingy,If I have to leave the room she will literally scream so its a bit of a nightmare at the moment. I love the afternoon baths. It does change the mood and we (usually) come out happier. Although cant do that today as I have to work, which am not looking forward to as I have a colleague who keeps over-complimenting me all the time, to the stage that it makes me really uncomfortable. Am looking forward to going out with my friend and her littlen tomorrow though.

Fruit, I really hope the chicken pox clear up soon.
Kaster, wow that has gone quickly! We have decided to stay at my parents for a week or 2 when we move as our new house is in a bad state. I see you have moved near to me, we are in Lincolnshire.

I have to say I am reasured to see I am not the only one struggling with teeth cleaning!

we use two brushes here for teeth, the brush (play) with one whilst you can clean properly with the other. seems to work ok so far.

Teeth cleaning? Whats that? Bryn is surgically attatched to his tooth brush (have had to buy several spares...) but he won't let anyone else brush his teeth. I do try, but the bugger bites.

How are you all? I feel very out of the cycle!!

Just popping in to say my friend recommended a finger toothbrush which you can get from Boots etc. Pop it on an adult finger and it has little plastic/silicon? bristles which you can brush over their teeth & gums. I don't think it'll be brilliant here as she's not keen on us putting fingers in mouth generally but my friend said it works with her daughter.

Gotta go - crying napper...

Hi SB how is the new house? Are you both over your swine flu?

Juicy Sorry to hear you're having problems at work. Has it been going on for long?

I tried the finger tooth brush on the suggestion of my CPN - Bryn bit through it. Ouch.

Evening ladies!

DS has eaten his own body weight in food this evening. A big bowl of creamy salmon pasta, but cut up, eaten with a mixture of using fingers and a plastic fork, he did pretty well actually! Also found out he is a big fan of haricot beans, kidney beans and canelleni (sp) beans. I had some leftover bean/veg casserole and he ate all the beans from it! I am sure DH won't be so pleased tomorrow when it comes out the other end...i just hope it happens when I am at work!

It is the anniversary of my mother's passing today. 4 years. I feel surprisingly fine, it is afterall just another day, and her passing is not really something I want to dwell on. But I raised a glass to her earlier and told her i missed her. Her ashes were scattered from glasonbury tor so when the weather breaks a bit we will go and take a walk up it, sit for a while. Then spend too much money on hippy smelly things, she would approve!

oh i did not continie with what Roo ate did i?! Doh, I got distracted by DH going out to watch footie.

So, he ate the pasta. Plus ready brek and 5oz milk. PLUS two large slices of home made banana bread... plus bed time milk

Wow Pav, you're growing a giant there! Sorry about your mum's anniversary but glad that you've been able to remember her today without it being too upsetting x

Fruit DH likes Lucas so I think he'll be Luke or Lucas, assuming one of the 3/4 babies due before us don't have the same idea! I think second choice is Adam.

I'm off to hoover with my hoover, which is a dyson (BBL!), then hope to be tucked up in bed by ten!

Pav sorry about your mums passing, but glad it hasn't been too painful a day for you.

DWB lovely names :)

Got all the way to the doctors surgery to be told that the nurse was off sick so jabs will be rearranged. Slightly irritaterd.

Pav wow, I am jealous of Roo's eating!! Yesterday S ate 2 packets of raisins, and a bite of bread .Plus milk. Today he had half a weetabix, raisins, apple, bread, one fish finger. Arrrrgh. Eating is a nightmare at the minute! One week he will only eat finger foods, the next, he won't self-feed. Last week he would eat anything in a sandwich, this week, we're off sandwiches. The previous week, he would eat anything that was round shaped!

MsI Am liking the finger brush idea. SirBoob - ha, at B's biting through it though!!I can see S doing the same but will give it a go!

Pav sounds like you have a good attitude to the anniversary. Anniversaries are always a bit strange though, aren't they. I hope you're OK.

DWB How are you feeling? Don't think I will be able to persuade DH on Theo, sadly. Although as he has just abandoned his 34week pg wife and 14 month old for a week skiing in the Alps, I feel now may be a good time to bring it up ! Also bringing up the fact that we need to come up with an extra £100 a month to rent a fantastic house I have just seen!

Tigger - good plan stopping at parents' for a couple of weeks. It has been very helpful staying here, although we will be here for a bit longer. Think I will really miss them (and the help!) when we finally move out. Although will definitely be good to get our own space. Yes, not too far from Lincolnshire! Loving being out of busy London.

Juicy good to hear from you. The colleague thing sounds a bit odd, is it a male colleague? Do you know them well?

dwb i love Lucas. We considered it for Roo. I don't like the name Luca, but only because a friend of mine who is a relatively good singer used to attempt to play guitar and sing 'My Name is Luca' drunk as a lord around the campfire out of tune and in a Devonshire accent, so when i hear it, it reminds me of that!!! But if not for that, would be lovely!

Ladies do not be fooled by my boy's hearty appetite. You would think it would mean he would [inserts unspoken word] but he does not. Last night - i collapsed in bed at 7:45pm, after putting Roo to bed at 7:15pm (not intended, DH came home at 10:30pm lights all on, i was covered with duvet, but still dressed on head not even on pillow!), then the wakenings were 11:45pm, 2am, 4am, 4:30am, 5am, 6:45am. Jeeeeeeeeez. 4am is the worst as he is WIDE awake and happy until he is left they say non-sleepers are intelligent. They say babies of HG pregnancies are intelligent. DH said he did not want an intelligent baby as they are a handful all through their life...HA, too bad it seems! Or...he is not intelligent and just does not like sleeping

I am exhausted. Past exhausted and out the other side. I sort of feel like this is how it is now so am used to being exhausted. I crave sleep yet do not expect it and manage ok now on such little sleep i surprise myself. DH on the other hand does not handle it so well!

Thanks for the thoughts too everyone. Yesterday was not so bad. I posted Desiderata on FB, mum had this on her bedroom wall and read it most days, I read it from time to time and it helps me re-focus a bit. I read it at her funeral. It is very positive.

Pavlov, do you think it might be possible that he is actually eating too much and that's why he is sleeping badly? I'm asking because every time when Paula refuses to eat dinner altogether I am really worried she might even wake up more often to bf more but in reality she usually sleeps better! So now I am trying to give her really light dinner. I even went back to fruit purree with baby rice. But I think she actually doesn't like that anymore. So I just keep it simple and small.

Katster, I feel for you with your husband abroad. Mine is supposed to come back tomorrow (really late at night) but he called me a couple of hours ago that he was not feeling well. All of his friends seem to have quite serious colds, one even has angina and needs treatment. So if my husband catches that too, he shouldn't be flying. And I do not want him to pass it on to Paula or me, tbh.
Well, it might not be that bad, he called again and after a long walk, far from the flat with all those sick mates he feels much better... For a moment I had forgotten that I am married to the world biggest hypochondriac.

ursi I considered that when you posted last about Paula sleeping better, so we reduced his evening meals for a few evenings. And he slept even worse! It has made little difference, in fact nothing seems to make any difference to his sleeping, apart from our bed! I sometimes wonder if he does not like his mattress

How annoying! My router dropped its connection whilst I was writing my post [bangry]

pav have been thinking about you. So sorry your sleep is still so bad. We were in the same situation only a few weeks a go. It has got better but he still wakes up 1-2 times a night and comes to our bed around 4am. I am happy to stick with that and not change anything. Since he's been poorly he has been sleeping loads and I'm hoping he's starting to enjoy the idea that sleep is nice. I also wondered if C disliked his mattress

katster I could have written your post on food. C has been teething for weeks now and I'm hoping his fussy ways are down to that. I do have a food fussy DS1. It has given me a lot of worry and stress over the years. He's improved a lot since starting school much to my relief.

ursi I hope your DH arrives home to you soon.

fruit Roo would come to our bed at 4am, and I am certain he would sleep very well, but he figits, and i prefers to sleep at an angle, and he cries a bit in his sleep, so I don't sleep from then on. I am unsure if 1 more hour of sleep is better than 2-3 hours of restless dozing/waking? hmm. Also reluctant to get him used to that (or rather, break the old habit, which went several months ago). But at 4am I am almost resorting to it.

Evening all

Went to aqua fit tonight, which was interesting! Came home, spoke to my eldest brother who told me they're expecting again - due 28th aug so must be similar stage to ursi? Their bambino will be my mum & dad's 11th grandchild! Good timing as well, three months behind us, considering baby clothes move in three month stages!

Now falling asleep so will try to be quick.

Katster feeling absolutely fine. Noticeably less movement from this little guy which can be worrisome at times but before long I feel another flutter or kick. Next midwife appointment on fri 2nd, at 24 ish weeks. Hope you are keeping well and making the most of some extra help at home! I liked the pic of DS1 on facebook, but my pregnant brain can't remember what it was now... Just remember thinking how grown up he looked! How are you coping with picking him up or carrying him? And does he do what my DS does - pull your tops up and poke his fingers in your tummy while questioning "da da?" or, worse still, laughing?

Katster I find that some days Ioan will eat everything in sight, then the following few days will barely eat a morsel. I just go with the flow now and offer the food, but don't fret if he doesn't eat it. I appreciate that as he's my 3rd this is easier to do...

Fruit Ioan barely ate for about a month when teething a lot. He lived on petit filous, shreddies and ready brek. He is now happily eating anything again ... or was until more teething started again a few days ago! He also woke more in the night and I had many more 4 or 5am starts.

Pav go with what you need to do to get through - if taking him into bed will earn you some resting time (even if it isn;t proper sleep) then maybe a short while of that isn't too bad? Only you know your son!

I have now given up on sleep training. I am going to go with the flow and let him take the lead - every time I've done that in the past he's found his own rythym. If I try and enforce a routine, he just gets upset and i end up more in the night than if I just went with it. I appreciate it's easier as my bed is big enough for the both of us and I don't have an H to think about - the perks of my situation.
Have asked a friend of mine for some more homeopathy tablets for his teething. She gave me some a while back, and without me realising they made teeth 4-8 come through with no fuss at all. It's only since I stopped and we now have fuss that I realised it worked!

Right, bed is calling...

Thanks everyone for your food suggestions and understanding! It's quite stressful, which is obviously not helpful. Plus we're living with my parents and my mum gets reeeeally upset when he won't eat, and chases him round the house with bits of food, which he then gets cross about. Really not helpful! He's better with DH who is v laid back, and does pretend-ignoring. I seriously think I give off stress-vibes to him.

Ursi I hope your DH is better! The poor friend with angina though, crikey. Is he back tonight? Mine landed at Gatwick last night, but won't be back here until after work today. Sigh. I swear S is playing up because he misses his daddy! He's been really defiant this week, deliberatlely treading on the hearth and touching things he knows he shouldn't, then smirking at me. Grrrr!

DWB perfect timing, baby clothes-wise! I was exactly the same as you worrying about movements, too. I am not sure if it's because we're so busy to notice, or because you remember later stages of pregnancy when you feel everything. I am feeling a lot more now that I am massive. I am sure it's just that and nothing to worry about. I remember last time 'listening' out for the movements for ages, whereas this time I have simply not had time!

Scarlotti what are the homeopathic teething remedies? It's not the nelson's one is it? I am wondering if the food thing is linked to teeth, he's got a few back ones, although is not showing any other signs of teething other than not eating. Your attitude on the sleep sounds v healthy. I wish I was a bit more 'go with the flow' at times, I think it makes things a lot easier.

Pav you poor thing re sleep. It really is hell and you have my full sympathies....

Going to see my cousin and her 10 month old today.

wow. so many posts since tuesday! will write this then go back and read and comment.

Katster and Fruit My work problem has only been going on for a few weeks, and I was actually laughing it off at first with dh "