November 09 - Autumnal times are drawing near, soon our babes will be one year!

[MsInterpret]

Hello ladies, hope no one minds me taking the liberty of creating a new thread and approves of the name choice. We've been moving a bit slower than antenatal so though we'd most certainly have some year-olds by the time we finished this one!

Hi All!

Brood not me, with the video, sorry. I'm in Oxfordshire and the bug is certainly doing the rounds here...

SirB Bryn just sounds too cute.

I think I tend to agree with you on the nappy - teeth front. At least I want it to be it: Lucy's sleep at night is worse with every night, today she woke up grumpy after a not very restful night and her mood is not improving, very hard to get her to sleep in the day, too. The only thing that seems to work to calm her down is a boob. It's like having a newborn all over again. An angry newborn. Not looking forward to the night tonight... She isn't showing any other signs of teething, no dribble, no temp, no red cheeks. I'll stuff her full of food and milk and hope for the best...

skorpion Roo was like this last week/week before. Fussing, not sleeping at all, and nothing specific to tell me what was wrong, i just thought he was tired, but is normal calm happy self had gone and this angry tired thing replaced him. Then he had a fever over the weeked (last), then we all got sick and while he did not have a tummy bug, he became a little unwell, snotty nose, rubbing ears. Then two days later a tooth appeared, it had not been expected as there was not sign in his mouth of it! So I don't know if he was coming down with something or he was teething or both! DD used to always get nappy rash with teething, and a mild fever, and a snotty nose. Everytime without fail. Roo has not really had the nappy rash but foul nappies for sure!

So maybe she is teething?

Bryn is now cuddling I hold my arms out and say, "Can I have cuddles, please?" and he smiles and snuggles up to me. He did it to DP earlier and I thought he was going to melt.

Have decided I like this age

Yesterday we went out for tapas. Bryn rejected the strawberry I offered him - for another slice of chorizo And the chicken DP ordered that was too spicy for me, he was really tucking into! Then a friend came over for the evening, and he ordered curry. Bryn had his own mini portion of dahl, but was much more interested in DPs dansak. And was having the occasional fist full of my tikka masala too. Am so greatful that he is an easy-to-feed child!!

Scarlotti I hope he gets the point soon. And I hope it wasn't too hard being away from them again.

Oh, hello! I've been crazy busy (but productive) lately and then out of town for the weekend. Trying to catch up now!

SirBoob Bryn sounds absolutely, melt-your-heart adorable.

Pav I wonder if M has a tooth coming, now... no signs of any but we're seeing mysteriously nasty nappies.

scarlotti sounds like your DH has a lot to learn... fingers crossed he starts to see things from your point of view soon.

juicy mine seems to eat all the time too! She's learned to sign for "food" and "more", but they're redundant at the moment because if she wants more of something, it's always food!

Must go to bed... sorry I didn't get to everyone. Will try again later [sleepy emoticon]

Pavlov Thanks. Another bad night, she fussed from 3am onwards... She does the ear grabbing as well, so am really hoping a tooth will show up soon and put an end to this for a while. I want my happy baby back!

Hi all

Sorry to hear you're having a rough time skorpion hope she settles soon.

Nights here are consistently going through now from 10:30 dream feed to about 5:15/30 which is great, but he's not going back to sleep again after that so it's early starts for me! Now he's taken to napping longer around 10am, probably to make up for the bit he's missing in the night, which is fine for him but no good for me.
Still, it's constipation we're dealing with here first, then after that I'll tackle the sleeping as it could be tummy pains that are contributing too.

Sigh, always something isn't there!

Hi all,

I love reading about all these gorgeous babies. I hope things improve with Lucy, Skorpion. My DD used to always yank on her ear when she was tired.

Scarlotti, you seem to be handling your new situation amazingly well. I hope it's getting a bit easier.

DWB, I love hearing about your pregnancy (even though I'm sorry you're sick). I never thought I'd say this, but it is making me quite broody!

After my amazing start on getting some sleep last week it's been a bit hit and miss. On Saturday night, James only woke once but it was for 3 hours! 1am-4am . Last night he only woke for an hour but got up (and woke DD up too) at 5.30am. They both seem to be coming down with something today and both went to bed early, so I'm expecting to be up in the night.

DD is poorly, she's been off college today and can't keep anything down, poor love.
We're supposed to be going to see The Full Monty musical tomorrow evening - she's praying she'll be better...
Ioan's cough still bad.

Winter is almost here then - the bugs are circling!

Ok Laugs, just for you: I'm now at the rather annoying stage of no nausea, no early pregnancy symptoms, no movement yet. Doubting I'm pregnant at all! And constantly stopping, taking deep breaths and willing that baby to kick me! Sigh...

DWB soon you'l be in full bloom. How exciting! I want another one, too...

Yawn... L took long to go to sleep again last night, 8.30pm instead of 7.30. Slept until 11pm, into bed with us, fussed, cried, coughed and spluttered, got fed up with her and took her to her own cot at 1.30am, she managed to go to sleep on her own for an hour and a half, woke up screaming again, into bed with us, DH calpoled her to sleep at 4.30am. She's started to turn onto her tummy in sleep, but then goes on all fours and gets up to sitting and lolls there half asleep. Just will not stay down. I feel awful because I am really starting to lose my patience with her. I swore under my breath at her :( :(

If I am close to losing it with her now, what will I be when she's a tantruming toddler... :(

Sorry for the mememe post.

Reading that, you won't believe that I do want another one, will you...? :)

A quick hello before I finally get a chance to dive in and catch up.
Hope you are all well.

DD better, boys with DH so DD and I went to see The Full Monty at the theatre. Brilliant!! Lovely dinner first and a great night out with my daughter. Tired now but happy some pros to my situation

Scarlotti - glad dd is better and that you had an enjoyable evening.

Scarlotti, that's lovely. Glad she got better and you had a nice time with her. As you say, good to have the oportunity, just a shame it took such drastic steps to get there... Are you continuing with Relate?

Sorry, had a bit of a wobble yesterday.

Lucy slept better last night, due to Calpol and I think catching up for the few previous nights. I had a call from the nursery to pick her up as temp high. Went to see a GP - ear infection in both ears. Poor sausage.

Still trying to crawl in her sleep. Does anyone know if this is common?

Skorpion, I know how you feel . I shouted at James last night. He's started waking for really long stretches (it was 2.5 hours last night) and I find it so exhausting. I felt terrible for shouting though. Firstly, it is mean. Secondly, it completely breaks the calm atmosphere you are desperately trying to create (can you desperately create calm??). I felt like I had nothing more to give last night.

Oh, and continuing the Bad Mum theme. DD was playing cooking yesterday and she pretended to drop something and said 'shit!'. That is sooo me - I always drop things and swear when I am cooking .

DWB, I remember that feeling well. I was sure I'd felt movements at about 12 weeks, but then didn't feel anything for about another 10 weeks. You feel like your body's playing tricks on you.

Ninja, nice to see you! How's the film?

Scarlotti, that night out sounds lovely.

Crawling in their sleep? I'm not sure. James seems to get up on all fours while he is half asleep, and then pulls himself up to standing and wakes up like that, which I think gives him a fright. Sometimes I just have to lie him back down and he goes straight back to sleep, as if he didn't want to be up in the first place. Not last night, though.

Sending hugs to Skorpion and Laugs... we're only human, nobody has an infinite amount of patience. How about singing lullabies and saying how you really feel to the tune of Twinkle, Twinkle. Baby will never know the difference but you might feel as though you're letting off some steam?!

Scarlotti That sounds fab - it must be lovely to do things like that with your kids when they are old enough. Are you still going to Relate with DH? Has anything changed since he moved out?

I'm looking forward to a long weekend coming up - have a good friend's wedding on Friday (to which no kids are invited which I'm actually quite pleased about!) and then Ethan's birthday celebrations on Sunday as DH is teaching and has a parent's evening on Monday (Ethan's actual birthday)! Ethan won't notice if we celebrate a day early but I'm still taking his birthday off to spend the day with him so not back at work til Tuesday.

Working full-time is taking it's toll on both DH & me but as we're both in temporary positions (which means he won't get paid for the summer holidays next year when I'll be on Maternity Allowance so need to save as much as possible), we don't feel as though we have any option. I just keep setting goals to look forward to. After this weekend it will be Christmas eve, the start of around 12 days off together, when we plan a trip into the city centre to see the Christmas lights and a nice lunch somewhere.

I have my 20 week scan on 5th January - DH has decided he isn't comfortable asking for the time off. He knows his immediate colleagues wouldn't have an issue but is so keen to make a good impression on the council etc in the hope of gaining a permanent position... I swing from being extremely annoyed about it (how dare he - when I need to take loads of time off for antenatal appointments AND take maternity leave and career breaks?!) and not being too bothered as it means my mum can come to the scan with me and I know she will love it. Particularly as we hope to find out the sex. I know he is under a lot of pressure so figure I should take the second route. Am I a good wife or what?!

Hope everyone else is well, it is absolutely freezing in Glasgow today. Apparently the country is in for a lot of snow overnight so wrap up warm x

PS On crawling in their sleep - Ethan prefers to sleep on his front and crawls all over the cot when he stirs. We regularly hear his head thumping off the top or bottom of the cot when he reaches the end of the mattress! It doesn't seem to wake him though. Not sure what to suggest... hopefully it's a phase which will pass!

skorpion it's quite common for them to practice crawling in their sleep. Their brains don't shut off at this age and keep practicing at night. Just as Laugs says, they then wake up and are frightened to find they're on all fours. If you can get into her and lay her gently back down, she might still be foxy enough to drift back off. If you get her up, she might be getting upset at being woken properly?

We have our first post slplit relate session this Thurs so will see what that brings. Lots to discuss I think as I still feel as though he thinks i will provide stuff if he hasn't got it or will do things if he can't.

Sorry, keep forgetting things to say! Just to reassure all stressed mums that it IS natural to feel this way at times, and it doesn't mean you're a bad mum, it just means you're human. I have had a strong lesson recently that we can only take on do much, and need and deserve time to recharge. They will not remember the odd shout of frustration but will remember the happy mummy times, if we have to swear a bit to allow the happy mummy to rule then so be it!

It is so nice mow DD is older to have nights out for dinner and a show - finally I can entertain her by doing the things I enjoy, my years of seeing Barney and the tweenies are done... at least for this dc!

As usual you can make me feel better by talking a lot of sense, thank you Ladies.

Sympathies, Laugs, it just feels so wrong as soon as you do it but emotion sort of takes over. I am so far away from the serene mother I was aiming for... And I can also relate to the problem of swearing. It is so strange, but I never do it in Polish, but quite often - way too often - in English. It's become too casual.

This is exactly what Lucy has been doing: I don't mind hushing her back to sleep when it takes a few seconds, but she's been waking up for 1.5 - 2hrs at a stretch. She's not fully awake sometimes, she'll crawl, sit up, lean back against whatever is behind her like her body wants to sleep, just cannot switch the brain off, I suppose.

Scarlotti, will think of you tomorrow.

DontWorryBaby I vote for the good wife :) I am sort of hoping for snow down here, love it and miss it. Your strategy of things to look forward to sounds familiar. I remember, when I was a child, waiting five weeks for Christmas seemed like aaaaaaaaaages. Not anymore. Quite the opposite, actually. Hope you enjoy your weekend.

My earlier post should have been drowsy enough to drop back off, not foxy
Still learning to type on my new phone!

Good evening all! I'm back from Vienna and just too tired to comment on all those interesting things I've missed on here. But I did read everything at least.
We haven't had more than 3 "normal" night since beginning of october and I could really do with some sleep. But I do not want to complain. At least I know why it is so bad at the moment. And it's not a surprise, some more teeth are coming. so the nights are bad and during the day, Paula starts crying whenever I go further away than 1 meter. At least when we are at home. Whenever we are at a drop-in playgroup, she just walkes away from me without even turning.
And she really enjoyed the time with her cousins.
She started to constantly hug them and stroke their hair... which very often ended in pulling it.

I hope I'll soon be able to take part in our discussions again but for now I'll just go to bed.