Oct 2007 - These little piggies are not so little any more!

[Dalrymps]

Welcome to the thread for ladies who's lo's were born on Oct 2007!

Some of us have been here from the begining and some have joined along the way. New ladies always welcome to join in and chat with us, we're a friendly bunch!

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Hey ladies, here's the new thread, had to start it cause the old one is nearly full and Inzi has been in touch to say she can't post on it as it won't load on her phone. She has been booked in for a section on fri!!!

Hope you are all well, off to bed for now

A quick me-post - I would greatly appreciate your wisdom on how to handle this if anybody's around?

Not had the chance to get on the last couple of days, not been feeling great although I am not sure why as I am pretty well rested which has been the main cause of me feeling sick with this pregnancy in the past.

Buggy board buying on hold until I am paid at the end of the month as Christmas as used up all the cash. The counsel give you your December money early which is great at the time but not so great at this stage when you realise you have spent it all!! I ordered a pram though, got it from boots with a 20% discount plus get my points so will get at least £25 off and it was already reduced. Just couldn't get the colour I wanted but it was the cheapest so I will just have to suffer it! Cheaper than the ones on ebay even.

Strawberry - I am rubbish at keeping on top of the house and it drives me crazy. Our house is tiny which makes it easier in some ways but we are really cluttered. I manage to do hoovering and keep the bathroom clean but can't understand how people manage to keep on top of stuff like the cooker or the skirting boards. Last time I was off I tried to do things on certain days like do the bedding on a Sunday but that has all fallen by the wayside.

Started looking at playgroups and nursaries today but got overwhelmed by it all. There are lots and there are waiting lists and I am just confused by it all. I don't think he is ready actually as he is still struggling with the potty training so I feel a bit anxious about sending him anywhere.

Right better get to bed for another sleepless night!

QOL - eek just read your other thread! Thought your reply was great, hope that puts an end to the matter for you.

QOL I think your reply hit just the right tone ...hope he gets your drift.

Neeps...I think the thing with nursaries is to find one you like ...not necessarily the building/decor but the 'feel' of the place and the staff and get your name down asap for when you do want a place....I do hope you get some decent rest before the little one makes an appearance

Strawberry...I'm another who has no routine, apart from doing the washing on Mondays because Dh is willing to iron on Monday nights...currently looking at Ikea Trofast storage to try and organise my spoilt brats' superfluity of toys.

News from Tosca Towers is sadly not good...my aunt, my late Dads sister, suddenly took ill on Saturday and died last night from a ruptured aorta... so I have spent the day phoning round the world to our far and wide scattered extended family to let everyone know (my cousin did the same for me when Dad passed so it is only right that I perform the same sad duty for her)It is such a shock, she was here with my cousins family for a festive meal together on the Monday between Christmas and New Year and was as fit as a fiddle,just amazing for 81... I'm devastated, she and my late uncle were a big part of my childhood and she was the last link to my Dads' youth....and then, in between phoning out I received a call from a friend of a friend to tell me our mutual friend had also died yesterday from a similar cause......he was only 55.... not a good way to start the New Year.

Helloooo Lovelies :)

Sorry been MIA for so long. RL has been so hectic lately. I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas and New Year. Hopefully all the little ones are doing well! Will just give a quick update on what has been going on in the Blue household.

Marco and Sofia have settled in well to nursery (no more tears for Sofia). Marco has pretty much had a runny nose ever since starting, which has not been fun. He went through a couple weeks back in November when all his teeth suddenly started coming in at once! Poor boy. He had a really bad bum rash and was pretty miserable during that time. He now is one tooth short of having his entire set (including molars which came in early September)!!

Speach - Am a little concerned since he is almost 18 months and only says dada and kitty on a regular basis (still no 'mama' which I am waiting to hear!). Kitty just came about a few days ago when we brought home a new kitten. I have been trying to teach him that word and baby sign for ages, but the stubborn child refused. As soon as he saw the kitten, he started using both right away! Little bugger!!

My new job is going very well. The regular hours are wonderful. Its getting a lot easier now that I know the lessons I am teaching and feel more comfortable talking in front of a room full of kids. The adjustment back to working full time after mat leave was difficult. I still cant seem to keep up with all I have to do in a day. I am fortunate that I teach close to home, so I usually end up coming home for my lunch break. I then manage to get dinner started or throw in a few loads of washing while I am there. That helps!

Over Christmas, DD1 and I took a cake decorating class, which I absolutely loved! We are now into our second class. Its nice for her to have one on one time with me, and nice for me to be away from home having some me time! We really are gonna get fat with all the projects we have to do though!!

DS1 still giving me a hard time. He is 11 and just has no clue! Every day I have to remind him to do his chores, take a shower, do his homework, etc. We bought him new winter gloves (not cheap) and within 2 days of wearing them, lost one :( Sofia seems to be cut from the same cloth too! We redecorated the girls' room at Christmas and within 2 days of having the new bedding on, Sofia took some scissors to the duvet cover and globbed liquid lip gloss all over the pillow cases and sheets :( I was in tears! DD1 was so upset since this was her Christmas present.

Its a wonder I have not yet had a nervous breakdown!! LOL

Anyway... sorry for the me post. I have been lurking and trying to keep up. Its just too hard to do a long post on my Iphone's tiny keypad.

Hope you are all well and I will try to keep up! xxx

Floria - I am sorry for your losses. Hope the New Year will pick up and be a little more jouyous soon. xxx

Floria I am so so sorry for your losses. It's terrible when they come one after the other like that. I also think every loss reminds you off all the past loss you have suffered, especially if there was a connection with your Dad. Thinking of you and your family.

Be back later, need to get monkey features into the bath.

FLoria - sorry to hear your sad news, especially with losing the last connection to your dad. hope you are ok

Babyblue - i don't know how you manage with a full time job and four children, and keep sane! you put me to shame...

Neeps - we picked Olly's pre-school because it was within walking distance, but also had a big car park for those rainy days when i just can't face walking with 3! Of course, it has good facilities too, and lovely staff. But there are quite a few pre-schools in our area, so we are lucky to be able to pick convenience for us. And we got in just in time to get a space - all day weds and fri afternoons, now extended to thurs morn as well with our free hours.

So he's back to pre-school tomorrow, and I'm wondering how he will find it after the xmas break. I know i am looking forward to him going back! Mainly cos he never stops asking for things when we are at home and i find it quite hard to balance his needs with those of the twins. Can't wait till they are old enough to play together. Olly's imaginative play is lovely to listen to now - he loves the Octonauts, so spends a lot of time having conversations with Peso and Captain the Barnacles (as he calls him) - he is Kwasi. I am Dashi because "she is a girl mummy" This will mean something if you watch Cbeebies - if not click here

Love to ever

Thanks for the sympathies and understanding..now the shock is wearing off the guilt at not visiting my aunt as often as Dad would have liked since he died, and the greif at the passing of someone who created so many wonderful childhood memories is setting in...still no news on funeral dates, I just hope they are on different days and that those days are ones my MIL can have Alex.

Strawberry...we're with you on the Octonauts fixation too...and yes Alex is Kwasi too -cue lots of "aarrgggh!"(like a pirate)"avast there!" and "its a knackerwack!!!" (lol!..I doubt if that is how it was supposed to be spelled but it amused me)...the redeeming feature of the programme is that if you ask what the knackerwack really was he will tell you it was an 'Oar Fish' so at least he is learning something. Other fixations atm are the DVDs Wall-e and Puss in Boots (which we thought was a Shrek spin off but isn't but has some interesting modern takes on classical music)...oh and the BBC "walking with Dinosaurs" series...problem being that he can work the machines; so we get them all played all day long in the living room and bedroom while he demands Octonauts and Alphablocks games on the computer and plays on his Leapster Explorer all at the same time!!!!!...who says only females can multi task eh?

Another Octonauts fan here! Dareh likes to be captain barnacles or paso and put bandages on people. I am Tweak which he pronounces twig.

FT So sorry to hear of the bad news :( {{Hug}}
I think you would probably feel guilty no matter what, and I'm sure your aunt understood. My thoughts are with you :)

I feel guilty that I haven't/don't vist my great nana more often. She lives about a 45 min drive away and is hard work so did not go very often and now she is a home and hates it, she cries every time we go and begs to go home or to come live with me but she has dementia so I couldn't cope with her plus I just don't think I've got it in me:(
It's horrible as she doesn't ever remember me going when I do anyway, and apparantly is fine until someone visits her but then gets upset when people go. My great aunt went to pick her up on christmas day and she went wild and started pulling her hair out, so the home wouldn't let them take her as they said it wouldn't do her any good.

Sorry for me, me post. If there's anything I can do to help you, please let me know.

Grrr bloody kids!
Shannon doing ok at nursery but being a nightmare when she comes home, either tired or pushing her luck or both. They're allowed to help themselves to tos and fruit and milk there but she isn't here, so a bit confusing for her but she'll have to understand rules change depending on where you are. She's been writing on her walls, climbing up to shelves and spreading cream everywhere, she keeps closing her door to do mischief so I tied the handle to her coat pegs-and she slammed the door so it all fell down. Keep taking deep breaths!

Strawberry, how did Ollie do at his day back?
Never heard of Octothingy, Shannon is into DVDs at the moment, I try not to have the TV on apart from when I need to do college work! She's got plenty of toys to keep her occupied.

Babyblue-I wouldn't worry about the lack of speach, he probably doesn't need to, the older ones probably do it for him! He'll get round to it when he's not got them around him all the time. Cookery sounds good, I'd quite like to do that with dd1, but am on a diet may try and do something with exercise included. With you on the kids not having a clue, seriously, I've no idea where dd1s common sense goes to, Shannon quite often beats her in 'use your brain' situations. So glad work is going well and you're happy with it.

Neeps-Sorry you're feeling ill. I think that you should put his name down on a couple and see what you get offered, or choose ones that are convenient to you and ask if you can go and look around them.

Dal-how has Dylen been at nursery? Love the video of Miles clapping on FB and spill on the new car! I bought that Peppa Pig tea set for my nephew but he wasn't allowed it cos the teapot is pink.

How's everyone else doing?

Ohhhh btw, Rich has had a call offering him employment but it was a voicemail so he'll have to call tomorrow to see what they're offering!!!!

And he has been asked to be Godfather to his friends 2 twins so we've got a couple of trips up to Aberdeen in the next couple of months. Rich has been a few times cos his mates live there but I haven't been yet, plus the first time we go (next weekend) is going to be child free, can't wait!

So, who's interested in this meet up in August then? Any ideas for somewhere that would not cost too much and be able to accomodate us?

Evening ladies,

Floria- sorry it's late but my deepest sympathies on your losses. Must be twice as sad that it brings back the memories of your dad passing too. Hope you are able to get to both funerals without too much stress. My thoughts are with you

Bb4- great to hear from you. I am constantly in awe of how much you manage to fit in to your life, you truly are amazing! The cake decorating class with your dd sounds fab!

Neeps- sorry you've been feeling ill, remember to look after yourself and rest. I'm not sure what to advise re nurseries. I'm not from here so went on recommendations from dh's family and chose the closest one too. It is 10 mins walk and very convenient as well as having a good reputation. It's connected to the school I'd imagine he'll go to too. My sil is a primary teacher and she has worked at the school/ nursery in the past and was able to reassure me it's a good one.

I was quite nervous about him starting nursery as I don't like the idea of not knowing what goes on when I'm not there and worry he won't be looked after well..I took the plunge though cause he was clearly ready to go, he wanted to mix with other kids more and just seemed ready. The potty training was my only concern, started training him in nov and he's done well, better than expected. He keeps having good and bad days though so it's still up and down and a bit of a concern.

Nc- He's doing great at nursery, really settled in well, can't wait to go back everytime he's been and runs in without a backwards glance when I drop him off. He's had days when he's used the toilet everytime he needed a wee and tHen days where he's been distracted and had a couple of accidents. They seem to think that's all normal though and that he should settle down.

The new car is an 03 reg Nissan Almera Tino, Graphite grey I love it! I was sick of squeezing in between the boys in the back of ours on long journeys when Miles was crying. Our Volvo was starting to cost money too. It's great to drive and a lot more head room and visibility too!

That's silly about the peppa pig tea set some people!

Qol- sorry I didn't reply on your other thread, I did read it and was thinking of a response but you'd replied to him before I got round to posting. I think your response was spot on!

Inez- how are you doing? Feeling any better physically yet? How is your dh's job going?

Strawberry- you always sound like you are coping with the twins and ds so well whenever you post. I can just about manage these two rascals! I am in awe of your calmness and multitasking abilities!

Things are seeming a bit easier here lately since Dylan started nursery and we seem to be gaining a little control over Miles' sleep.

I feel like someone has turned a valve and let some pressure out of our lives iyswim. I have started loosley following the baby whisperers EASY (eat, activity, sleep, you time) routine with Miles as I want to try and break his feed to sleep association. It's going surprisingly well I can put him to bed and down for his naps without feeding him to sleep now and sometimes he'll be settled without feeding in the night too. He still wakes quite often and some nights are better than others but I'm starting to feel like we finally have an influence over his sleep some of the time and there might be a light at the end of the tunnel!

Since things are feeling a bit easier dh and I have found ourselves once again entertaining the idea of a possible #3. We had been finding things tough and just about ruled the idea out but it seems to be slowly creeping back in at the moment. We have however said that IF it happens it'll have to be about a 3 year age gap

Dh is on holiday this week, having a nice time but he seems to have come down with the flu the past few days and now Dylan has the sh*ts too not sure if I'm gonna send him to nursery tomorrow cause don't want him passing it on and having accidents. He'll be gutted! He was doing so well too, dry overnight and wearing normal pants to bed but he's back in a pull up tonight

Dh is sat next to me wrapped in blankets, shivering and coughing etc. Why does he always fall ill when he's on holiday? Poor bugger!

On a more positive note I made my own clotted cream rice pudding tonight and it was amazing if I do say so myself I've never made it before but it was surprisingly easy.

Thinking of you all very often, hi to anyone I've missed out

Not enough time to post in full today but trying to keep my resolution to come on here at least 3x a week.
Aunty Jeans' funeral will be next Friday the 21st Jan which would have been my Grans (her mums') birthday ...I am spending a lot of time on the phone/computer trying to coordinate things for my cousin. No news as yet about Steves' funeral (I have a feeling that a postmortem has been requested so there will be a delay)
Dal..I hope your Dh gets well soon
NC.. Alex is exhausted after nursery too, cant keep him awake at 4pm (pick-up) and that means he sleeps through his dinner time and wakes hungry and horrid until he has eaten (which can take some time to get him calm enough to do)and of course makes it difficult to get him to bed on time...I'm sure they will adapt eventually but it is trying.
As to meet up...as long as it isnt august bank holiday...I'm up for it
sorry not to be able to add more...we have a play date at 10 and aren't even dressed yet
love to all xxx

Oh inzi, you can always talk about any probs you have with us. Although it's not surprising you've been through a rough patch with all you've been through lately. dh and I ha a bit of a rough patch and I was really missing my bros and sils/bf.. We discussed separating but like you things are good again now. Strange how things can change from one extreme to the other. Don't think the sleep deprivation helps..

Just had a little wine, I'm such a lightweight these days, almost feel possed lol!

Hey everyone, just popping in as I'm a bit worried and stressed - sorry!

After the stress I had with Dylans weight I swore I wouldn't get Miles constantly weighed. I got him weighed in the beginning up untill he was 19 weeks to make sure he was off to a good start and then I haven't taken him since.

I have tried to look at him as a baby rather than obsess over the centile chart and I have weighed him occasionally with me on the bathroom scales to get a rough idea of where he's at.

Anyway, I haven't weighed him for a while and felt his weight gain may be slowing down so I weighed him tonight. He weighs 14.8lb/6.7 kg and is 10 months old. I checked his chart and this puts him on the bottom line. (where Dylan is to this day!). He started off on the 25th centile line and seems to have gradually dropped to the bottom.

I am so so confused by this, he eats loads of food and will try anything I put in front of him. He also breastfeeds quite a bit still and up until recently could be known to feed up to 5 times a night!

If I didn't know what he weighed I would think he was fine albeit small.

I just don't know what to think or do? He is the opposite tto Dylan with his eating but weight wise the same.

I kinda think it's just how I make em' but worry the health visitor won't see it that way at his year check

hello dal
sorry that you are feeling worried - must be very hard after all the stress you had with dylan. would it be worth doing some things in readiness for the year check so that the hv could see it is just how you make them? eg keep a food diary for a couple of weeks so you show exactly what he eats? i would guess he is much more active now - physically and mentally - than he was at 19 weeks, so not surprising that his weight is slowing down. is your hv nice? would it be worth discussing things with her so you feel you are being proactive rather than spending the next two months dreading the year check? (though i appreciate this could be more stressful for you!)
i'm sorry that you are feeling worried about this - clearly you are doing really well with the bf and food if he's eating loads.
xxx

Thanks Strawberry. My hv is 'ok' but not sure she gets it iyswim. She has made some silly comments in the past which mean I don't really trust her oppinion. For instance when I told her he was waking at night still at 15 weeks old she said he shouldn't still be waking by then . Think if I discuss it with anyone maybe I'd rather ask the lactation consultant or the paediatrician that saw Dylan.

He was ill in dec and maybe lost a bit of weight then although I didn't weigh him so can't say for sure. Maybe he's just not put the weight back on from then as well as being more active etc? I'm going to concentrate on giving him plenty of opportunities to eat and try to feed him up a bit. All I can do really.

Thanks inzi, I know I shouldn't obsess with the growth charts. Guess I have a fear the 'professionals' will think I'm neglectful for not having him weighed or something.

I need to stop worrying about what people think.

dal - you are definitely not neglectful! I also tend to worry about what other people think, but think I am getting better with time. If you don't trust your hv then def don't speak to her - if you think it would help to talk to a professional in advance of the next appointment you are worried about, then why not speak to the paedatrician you had for dylan as they will know all the background.

i am really lucky as my hv is lovely - she is coming tomorrow to weigh the twins and check how they're doing, as this would be their 6 week check if they had gone to term - at their chronological 6 week check they weren't doing things like smiling, but i think they may be just about there now. i will get them weighed quite often as i want to check they are gaining ok as i'm using nipple shields to feed, and that can cause problems with milk supply. plus because they were so premature i do worry about them

NC - any news on Rich's job? We would def be up for meeting in the summer (well, me & the kids, haven't spoken to DH about it yet, i will bully him nearer the time!) - not sure where to suggest though
Floria - luckily Olly finishes his pre-school at 3pm, so it's a bit easier to keep him awake before tea - it's awful if they do fall asleep and you have to wake them isn't it?
Inzi - lovely to have you back! can't believe George is 19 weeks already - glad your DH's job is sorted. i hope Jane is settled at nursery too
Neeps - how many weeks left till d-day now?
Helloooo to everyone else!

not much exciting going on here. There's not much work where DH has been working, so they've told him this is his last week :( not sure what he's going to do - he's been trying to get a computer repair shop up and running, so he's going to do more of that hopefully, but i'm not sure that will bring in enough for us to live on....

i am dreading that i may have to go back to work, and i really didn't want to, especially not yet - the twins are still so small and i want to carry on breastfeeding them. there are no jobs around here, so i think it would mean commuting to london to get anything decent - argh, this is so not what i wanted! i have only been out of the workplace since october, but it feels like a million years and my brain is mush. if only i hadn't taken redundancy i would've had a local job that i could easily go back to :(

fingers crossed that DH will get called back to work as they will get busy again. he's self employed and doesn't want to work for a company, i wish he would change his mind, and at least have a look around - when I suggested this earlier he refused...

sorry for the mememe post. just a difficult time for many people at the moment xx

Dal-No more weighing!! Well, you can if you want but surely you can tell that the little piggy is fine by looking at him. When is Dylans next appointment with the specialist? Could you mention it then? TBH I think you just make them like that, there is a good chance they will fill out when they're bigger, DD1 was really tiny up until she was about 3 and now she's near the 100 percentile, obv you don't want them going that high, but it just shows it can happen. you know where we are if you wanna talk about it, but my betting is that you are worrying unnecessarily :) NUMBER THREE??? OMG, I reckon I'll be waiting until Shannon is around 6 like I did DD1, they memory is just so scary! Watching 'One born every minute' is a fab contraceptive for me.
Car sounds great, I love new stuff that makes our life a little bit easier :)

Strawberry-Bad news about DHs job:( Hope he manages to sort something, would be unfair for you to have to go back to work so soon. Fingers crossed for him, he may get a fabby job like inzis DH and you'll wish you'd have done it years ago..
Rich got offered the job at nearly 25% less than his current salary, although this is topped up with working away, abroad, sometimes in dangerous countries, but the offer was rubbish and didn't have enough detail. So he has replied with a huuuuuuge email, asking loads of questions. We'll see what they reply, it's not a very large company so it seems they wont offer nearly as many benefits as the two large firms he is used to working for, and Rich is very particular about stuff like that, like his pension and christmas parties.

FT-Am thnking of you, hope you're not getting to stressed and upset with things surrounding the funerals.
Am hoping Shannon wont be exhausted tonight as I want to try her at dance class. It's only 30 minutes at 5pm and at the top of my street, so is in a better location than the others, plus they don't expect her to wear uniform etc. I just want her to have something that she's into that is good for her, I regret not keepiung up DD1s ice skating and dance when she was little, makes me wonder if that's why she has no interest in activities, cause I let her give up.

Inzi-George sounds lovely and a delight. Glad DHs job is going well and you get your car back and a bonus laptop. Shannon couldn't give a toss if I left her in a trolley, she really doesn't miss me ever, her daddy on the other hand his her true love, which makes life easier for me when he is here cause she wants him to do everything for her, including wiping her bum.
DD1 though is the clingiest child I know, for a ten year old I'm starting to doubt it's normal and need to go to GPs to get her referred to speak to someone as I can't leave it like this, it may get worse.. I think it stems from the car crash, and has a lot to do with me being put on a spinal board. She doesn't even like me drving without her as she thinks of something happens she'll be able to save me.
She's getting anxious in case we move as she is close to her dad too, but I've told her I'd do everything in my power to make sure she saw him as often as possible, but the way he's been acting lately, I wish he'd dissappear off the face of the earth. This weekend, we're going to Aberdeen, we assumed DD1 would be staying with her Dad all weekend as that's what happens every weekend unless we arrange other plans, but no, he's going away and didn't bother to tell me. Managed to sort it so my mum can come pick her up though, although my mum is always skint and so we're going to have to pay for the bridge, which is fine but I hate messing her about and asking for favours. Plus, it's the whole point of lack of communication. Then, and you're all not going to believe this, I find out that whilst travelling abroad when they weht on holiday with a bay and dd1, he took drugs with him in his suitcase!!!!!!!! WTF?? Why couldn't he go a week without smoking it?

Anyway...Will try and find somewhere that can accomodate us all in August then, maybe as central as possible? Leeds, or Manchester area unless anyone would prefer different?

God, my spelling was awful