AUGUST 2008 - Relax and Enjoy

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LOL! I didn't want to put any pressure on "you know who."

evening all

dizz you are completely within your rights to say a big fat no. i can't even begin to imagine the pain and heartbreak you're going through. just being here to listen to you doesn't seem enough, wish there was more i could do

loti, stay strong. focus on achieving what you want

crisp sounds like you've had a lovely day (with the exception of the rambling fil bit!)

TS live and learn indeed!

oops i hope you've paid DD2 a decent wage for all the work she's done today

Thanks crispy and Dizz, i am actually doing good atm, in my own world so to speak

in your own world sounds good loti

girls home and in bed. DD1's attitude is beginning to get to be a problem so words which were had today will be had again tomorrow they wouldn't have been allowed to stay at all other than she asked me infront of them and I couldn't say no - they had a nice time though and have gone off to bed bickering

LOL @ bedtime bickering, mine would be full on scrapping and hair pulling

Off to bedski here, and home after brekker thank god

Sleep tight Ladies and hairy truckers

safe home Sazz, I'll pop the heating on for you to take off the chill and pop in some bread/milk - from Waitrose of course

For the record, Monsters Inc is one of my all time favs too.

I have just stumbled upon the greatest kid gift. I can take scrapbooking paper (it comes is all kinds of glorious patterns), cut it into strips, laminate it AND it becomes a BOOK MARK. How cool is that!!!

As you were....

right that's it - you'll all be sorry when I'm back on shift on Mon and not here with my witty patter and stimulating banter !

Morning - I think.

Well last night was HELL. DD2 did nothing but yell through supper and when I put her down so I had her on me trying not to drip gammon glaze on herhead. Eventually I gave in and took us to bed, then DD1 had the most horrid night terror that lasted 45 minutes or so and we couldn't wake her. She then woke an hour later terrified of me going away an not coming back Settled her in with me until DH came back to bed, 20mins later the snotting and sniffing started, then hte coughing, Dh came up and gave her sme perfectly useless tixylix, we brought her down stairs andwent back to bed at abotu 1am then the coughing and dreaming started again DH brought her down for a hot drink and cuddle at 1.45 and I took over at 3, she finally fell asleep at 5 and we piled back in bed. She woke thirsty at 7.30 and here we sit with fresh hot bread rolls and milk. I left DH in bed as DD" woke at 7.30 too.

TS - :)

Hellooo Tweaky

Dizzy - Hope you got a decent night sleep.

Crispy - safe journey home.

General waves to all

oh goodness oops hope you manage to get a nap today hugs..

dd2 slept like a dream, dd1 ended in with me again {sigh}...think this first week of school has turned her into a whingy mess, her sleeping is getting worse!! oh well at least she like school

Ah Oops DD1 had terrible night terrors and it was horrible. Apparently there is no way to stop them and nothing you can do to prevent them. One theory is that they are trying to process everything going on throughout the day and cannot shut it off completely. If she wakens it is a nightmare and not a night terror - that is the only distinguishing factor

We were advised at the hospital not to try to waken them if they are safe. They won't remember it. It doesn't disturb them at all. It won't affect them - it upsets you of course but they are none the wiser. Doesn't help you at the time though

To be honest the hospital were feck all use and wanted us to come into the sleep clinic We waited them out and they stopped before DD2 arrived thank goodness. She will grow out of them but in the meantime you have my sympathy.

D ended up in with me last night so I've had lumps kicked out of me and slept funny. DH stayed up when he came in to let me get some sleep but he's now in bed sleeping off a nightshift. It's cold and it's pissing with rain and I'm about to compose an email to the Trust where I shall attempt not to tell them to shove it up their arse - I'm not holding out much hope

Sorry to hear about the sleep thieves last night. Dizzy DS1 has had night terrors since toddlerhood but he can't seem to communicate during them so have only recently identified them as such. I have to boot DH out and bring DS1 in bed wih me, wake him fully and add Calpol and a hot beanbag. Is a good hour out of the night before he can sleep again.

Having a lovely week so far, Kurt has been adorable. Have felt great without worrying about every flickery strobey bright light and new screen is not migraine-inducing so far. Took great grandparents out to the seaside yesterday which was much more fun than expected, tea at Harvester, been into town with DD already today and shared a strawberry cream shake thingy, taking ILs to arboretum this avo, weather permitting.

Only thing that's upset me is a sense memory of pent up anger from my first boyfriend (true love, engaged at 16 etc) and realising that he was really quite a bully. Just mentioned some event in passing to DH and suddenly I was nearly crying I was so angry. I could tell at the time he was insecure but the more I think about it, the more of a bully he was, to everyone, me maybe less so, I don't know. But he was so charming and made you feel like you were just having a sense of humour failure, every compliment or nice gesture ruined by a barb or jokey insult. Thing is I don't think he had any idea, I think everyone including him was caught up in the image he projected. I just woke up one morning and couldn't see a future with him, couldn't put it into words and felt awfully guilty about it at the time. Only now I can see that it was him or me. Funny how these things don't become apparent til you have the emotional language for it.

Buckets - sorry to hear about DS1 and his terrors we were so lucky that E grew out of them but I have to admit it filled me with dread in case either of the next two got them too. Lovely to hear that K is being adorable this week . What news of the car - is it going to cost a lot to fix?!

I'm sorry to hear about your memory making you feel uneasy - I know what you mean though. When I'm nervous or anxious about stuff I dream about girls that made my life a misery and it makes me feel on edge for the rest of the day. I have discovered I hate confrontation and I'm possibly not in the correct job Hope DH understands why it still upsets you.

Buckets and Dizzy it is obviously our great capacity for such deep feelings that makes us all the wonderful ladies that we are.

I think DS also having night terrors - at least I know now through experience that when he has a certain kind of cry in the night that he shouldn't be woken.

Have had dinner this evening with friend who told me she was pg on Friday. She is feeling very sick. They're just deciding on whether to stay here or go back to Oz (is v.complicated re jobs and personal circs) but looks like they'll be staying. Am v.pleased but would have loved it if we could have been pg together as she is lovely and her dd and ds are very similar.

oh how lovely getting to go to Rome we honeymooned there and loved it

arrrggghhhh that sums up my day Have been chasing round after 2 feral boys today. O didn't sit down for 1 minute in church, and T has been really cheeky and demanding adn not giving me a seconds peace. He's sat on my lap now demanding we go and make cakes

Hope you are all ok?

Welcome back VG

Evening

Thanks for the heating dizz, we needed it

Got back from PIL to go to a 4th birthday party. Plenty of wine and sausage rolls, so girls knackered and DH doing bath and the battle of the hairwash.

Lovely to see you back VG and glad you had a lovely time . I have just arranged for a girly weekend in Oct and am very much looking forward to it.

DD2 currently cutting her last incisor and is causing her (and us) much grief. Dreading the molars tbh

TS has DH managed some family time away from work? Hope all a bit calmer this week

buckets hope you have got some clarity in your head about stuff. I think it can take a long time to look back on a situation (especially a young relationship) and see what was really going on. I have had a few of those thoughts myself, thinking what might happen with the DD's in their young love lives and it scares the bejesus out of me

cece i always find MrKipling to be an exceedinly good subcontractor

Wow, taking ILs to arboretum was a revelation - fingers crossed they will get annual passes so no more glorious sunny days in their dark smelly lounge with shite coffee. Don't mind going there if it's raining LOL. MIL not at all annoyed that I got her a ton of glucosamine for her birthday.

VG Was thinking more in terms of emotional literacy and vocab but perhaps is the same thing, is a miracle I passed my linguistics degree without taking anything in. Just makes me realise how much I've learned over 18yrs, not least through a 10yr marriage, and what an emotional blank slate your average 16yr old is and how vulnerable that makes them. How clever and self-knowing I thought I was, yet how little there was to know!

Hello all, back again although I didn't drive today due to white wine hangover although was worth it for all the fun we had last night Spent yesterday at a fabulous garden party in an amazing military mansion; DS spent all afternoon on the trampoline, he was very funny. He charmed the PIL again all weekend, little star, including today at lunch when I put squirty cream on his apple crumble and he shouted 'hooray!'

dizzy forgive me for some kindly meant straight talking, but I wish you would stop talking about needing to buck up and get over it. 'Getting over it' is a meaningless concept - learning to live with something doesn't mean you stop feeling shite about it. And don't apologise for sometimes having difficult emotions. Friends will understand, everyone else can go piss up a rope. HTH xx

cake made, the proof will be in the tasting after tea .

cyteen - sounds like a fab weekend and J sounds as if he is on TOP form
thanks for kick up the arse, I forget it is to feel things sometimes. I suppose I worry that it is the start of depression creeping in rather than just being an emotion we are allowed to have. Will work on that.

Cece - am sure it will be lovely.

bangers and mash for tea here !

Erm, you're allowed to have depression too Dizz. Just as long as you keep talking to us about it, I know it can be difficult to say out loud. Maybe you should take a short break by yourself to stop and assess your mental health, you are on the run so much how can you tell? You might be worrying about nothing or if it is depression, you need to make a plan. No shortage of couches, vino and non-judgey ears around and a solo trainride can be amazingly therapeutic.

I know Buckets but I'd rather not iyswim? The depression I suffered after a 15wk MMC in 2002 and the PND after L in 2006/7 was debilitating and I'd prefer to take a different approach will consider the solo trip but I'm not sure it is feasible at all

bangers and mash for tea was fab!