October 2010 pregnancy thread - welcome to the other side....

[Hevster]

Well ladies, it's a bit in advance but here is the new thread, started especially early for Saartjie!

Hev you poor thing. That sounds v scary. I am pleased she's improving.

Jack that is miserable. My uncle died last week too :o( my aunt likes to think of the new life in my DD as being some sort of continuation. I know it ounds corny, but it is sometimes helpful to think of the circle of life.

Babyb - I am pleased my DH and I aren't the only immature ones

Jacks so sorry about your nan... That's really awful :(

This morning DH woke up at 9 and looked over at Tilly asleep in her basket and said "oh brilliant... We put her to bed at 11 and she slept through the night!"

Umm... I was up with her from 2 till 5... Thanks for noticing! :p

Xx

I have just seen the gin face on my post and I obviously meant to put a sad face on there. I am so sorry. That looks awful.

Thanks for the kind thoughts and sympathy. KFW I agree the circle of life thing is quite a comfort.

anything... haha my DH does this all the time, strangely enough it often seems to happen on a Friday or Sat night after he's had a few glasses of wine!!

marking my place

jackster so sorry about your nan.

jazzie glad you're feeling better. FF just has to be easier than bf - Toby is a feeding monster! It's a fulltime job!

Hello to all, btw

sorry kfw hadn't read yr post

Jacks and KFW So sorry to hear about your sad news. Hopefully your LOs will help keep your families smiling at this sad time.

Anything My DH is exactly the same with the night time sleeping - I was so tempted to wake him up last night to do a nappy change, but thought that would be mean. Still, it's only 6 months until DS can start on solids and hopefully sleep through the night [hopeful emotion].

Really struggling today with lack of sleep, surging hormones and sore boobs - DS had a feeding frenzy yesterday afternoon and ended up latched on for about 5 hours before he eventually fell asleep. Repeat after me... this is the hard part, it does get easier, this is the hard part, it does get easier, this is the hard part....

anything wetting myself laughing at your DH, mine has finally learnt to ask how the night went before making assumptions

Jenko keep smiling, it does get better and you do feel more human, I def felt fairly normal (tired but rational!) by Christmas with DD1 and she was born Oct 2nd.

Horrible feeling I have another infection brewing somewhere inside

positive note - DH has changed his first cloth nappy and was remarkably enthusiastic about it (for him!) which is a breakthough as when I started buying them he was determined not to use them.

KFW sorry about your news as well x

jelly o I hear you! I'm crying and typing as DH walks Toby round, playing him a soppy German baby CD which is making me cry even more... Toby has just started raging crying for no reason (no reason?) and it's awful. I really couldn't have him on the boob more than I do so I just don't know what to do....and my nipples feel like they've been shut in a door... Plus if one more person asks for a visit to 'see' the baby I will go postal,.....

Hevster sorry about the infection feeling, thanks for saying we will feel better. Toby is 4 weeks today...woohoo!

DH and I sold our 206 today and now need a new car... 2 dogs, space eating bugaboo chameleon and the need for 5 doors...

So far we've been recommended a ford focus C Max, a vauxhall merriva or a Renault scenic..

Since Tilly was born I've had a nightmare with the space in our car!

Any advice / suggestions? Xxx

Oh no Dilly are u ok now? Big hugs! Yes IME babies can cry LOTS for no apparent reason, you feel like you ought to be able to stop it and it's a terrible helpless feeling when you realise you can't!

One of the best things I have learned on MN over the last 4 yrs is the following mantra: "THIS TOO SHALL PASS." It is excellent advice and applies to almost everything that is hard about being a parent.

anything... we have a Honda CRV which comfortably fits 2 car seats (can fit 3 across back seat, just), a pram, a moses basket and luggage for a family of 4!

p.s. I have said it before I know, but I can't recommend this kari-me carrier highly enough to deal with the crying for no reason scenario. Seriously it will calm DD down and get her to sleep when NOTHING else will! Plus it lets you get on with eating/cooking/cleaning/whatever (although sadly not showering , that usually has to wait until DH gets home in the evenings!).

sorry me again - just thought of another thing that helps me deal with the non-stop crying, which is remembering that babies' cries are biologically/genetically DESIGNED to be very distressing to their parents (ie. because it ensures parents' attention, therefore developed by evolutionary natural selection process)!

Sounds weird but I find this very comforting somehow - perhaps it's that, rather than something being WRONG when you feel desperate when your baby cries, on the contrary it means something is RIGHT! Don't know if this will make sense to anyone else but thought I'd mention it in case.

Thanks so much Jackster! Funnily enough we have that carrier and I got DS into it today and after a bit of grousing (him) and jiggling about (me) he went fast asleep and slept soundly for 2 and a half hours, then woke himself for a feed, then we had a bath (which he hated!) and another quick feed and now he's fast asleep again. I hope he's broken the overwrought cycle a bit. But thanks for all your advice - I will bear it in mind! Also, I think we might have thrush, someone mentioned the symptoms and it would explain the sharp pains in m'nips when I'm not feeding. Will ask HV tmrw...

xx

anything might be rather dull but I have a Ford Mondeo Estate, easily fits double buggy and large labrador/collie in boot plus 3 car seats in the back.

Hello all... I have nothing interesting to report, but the thread has gone a bit quiet so thought I'd say hello and see how everyone is! x

Hello! Fine thanks very useful bf clinic today, learned loads, then had lunch out with DH then met a new mum friend for coffee - her DS 3 days younger than Toby and we were comparing notes, it was most cheering!

Toby was weighed yesterday and has put on 100g in a week which is good (average I think, inasmuch as there is an average...)

How about you?

Dilly i feel your pain! Dd feeds constantly for about 3 hours at night with little cat naps then sleeps for between 4 and 5 hours and then feeds constantly or screams for several hours in the morning. So am currently only getting 4 hours a night sleep and it's killing me as she doesn't really sleep much during the day so i don't nap during the day. Am so tempted to use a bottle of formula feed at night just to help me out as i don't seem to have that long when she isn't attached to the breast to express so don't tend to have much stored for dh to take a feed at some point. I'm so tired! Can't remember the other posts that were on here but i love reading about everyones trial and tribulations. :) x

Hello. I'm here!

I'm sorry to hear about infection brewing, Hev. Hope it's a false alarm.

I have other things to say too, but am a bit pooped and will come back on soon!

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So Sorry to hear that babyb I was talking to a bf counsellor about expressing and it's normal to only be able to express about 30ml at once in the best of situations so it's tough to get a whole feed - you really do need quite a bit of time off. Maybe formula would be an idea? I hope you get some rest soon - Toby is more of an evening screamer though we did have a screamy morning the otther day. Will DD nap in a sling? I know you can't exactly sleep with her in it but once she's off you could at least sit quietly? Good luck!!
xx

We have a lot of screaming / unsettledness in the day, evenings are bad here too! But mercifully nights are pretty good atm - touch wood. Last night was a record- fed at 11, settled by 12, didn't wake til 4am for a feed, then slept again from 4.40 til 6.20 - yay!

DH and I were talking the other day and agreed we are in a tough transitional stage atm between the initial few weeks of just getting through and coping on a sort of emergency survival basis, and a more long term strategy for having things sorted. Little things like still being 1.5 stone heavier than I want to be, and DS watching too much crap tv, are starting to get to me now as I kind of feel I have no excuse any more. Anyone else feeling like this?

sounds about right Jackster! HOw old is your LO though? Mine is no one and he's 4 weeks - I am definitely just getting through, but trying to enjoy this stage as much as I can. We're having ok nights too...so far! it's a bit early to have lost weight...maybe give yourself more time?

no one! I mean number one!

Jacks with you on the tough transitional bit. Trying to take a firmer line with DD1 as we have been a bit lax of late, too much cake and too many rules bent. Also have 1.5 stone to shift and badly want to wear my own clothes again so have started weightwatchers
infection clearing up now thank goodness, babyb nothing wrong with a formula feed at night if it gets you some more sleep (in my opinion)

feeling slightly embarrassed that DD2 appears to be one of those amazingly good babies that only other people have, but i can sympathise with all you sleep deprived folks as DD1 was a total nightmare