October 2010 pregnancy thread - welcome to the other side....

[Hevster]

Well ladies, it's a bit in advance but here is the new thread, started especially early for Saartjie!

atsy sounds like you are doing really well, loads better than I did with DD1!

Hope you are all enjoying fri night - I am off out with the girls tomorrow night for beers and curry, am very excited! However first have to get through the morning which I am nervous about as the girls and I are running our first nearly new baby and childrens sale - argh......

Hey all, just marking my place as I lost you temporarily... I'll be back...

Wow Hev good for you doing a sale! I can barely look after my house, let alone organise anything else!

Patsy - I am so sorry that bf-ing still hurts. However I would like to congratulate you: that routine sounds awesome! Well done Henry! My "on demand" was regular at 3 hrs but now seems to be a bit snacky in the day which can mean some feeds at 2 hrs, some at 3hrs and some at 1hr. She is only tiddly though (10 days today ) and I am not introducing a routine yet (of course if she wants to introduce her own...). I am trying to encourage her to have plenty each time she feeds, so as to ensure a long enough gap but she seems to want only a 10min drink sometimes and is just not interested in any more after that. Oh well, at least she tends to go for 3 hrs at night.

She is so adorable that I am fine with this for now. No doubt there will come a time when I want a predictable routine but for now I am very, very happy indeed.

dilly - what's new? Keep us updated with your LO.

Bye for now

to my immense relief the baby sale was a riproaring success. We had over 130 punters through the door and made a profit of £354 by selling the tables, charging on the door and flogging hot drinks and cake. was really good as the point was to raise some cash as a surprise for my best friend whose husband is dying of cancer so we were able to give her the cash and now she can pay for a cleaning lady

hope you have all had a good weekend (I went out for beer and curry with the girls which was lush as the last time we went out was the day before i found out there was a bun in the oven!)

KFW happy mummy equals happy baby, we have only just started the routine at 4 weeks

Hi everyone!

For those with more experience, I'm planning on taking Tilly to baby massage, and the idea of having somewhere to go is really nice and sort of gives my week a bit more structure :p

I was wondering if there is anything else I can take her to? (She will be 4 weeks on Tuesday) just to sort of enjoy her, meet some people etc...

I go to Starbucks / shopping / the park... But to be honest I'm sort of bored of all three :)

Is she just too young at this point for any groups? Mumsnet local was sort of empty for my area (Epsom)

Isn't it cold now!!! Getting close to Christmas with our babies :) xx

Glad the sale went well Hev. That was a really lovely thing for you to do for your friend. Sounds like her family is going throuigh a pretty tough time at the moment.

We've been referred to a breastfeeding specialist at the hospital to see if there is anything more fundamentally wrong with our feeding technique as nobody else can spot the problem. If she doesn't have any suggestions I don't quite know what I'll do. Poor DH hasn't had a cuddle for days as my boobs are just too sore to contemplate anyone coming near them.

Think I spoke too soon about our routine! Henry was doing the same 4 hourly thing for 5 days in a row, but has now changed his mind and gone back to 3 hourly feeds. Still in a pattern though so not too bad.

Hope everyone else is getting on well. Had a glorious weekend here so went for some lovely walks in the woods, but now it's gone pretty dismal - not sure if I can be bothered with our usual afternoon stroll today...

anything... I would contact your local NCT co-ordinator and ask her what post-natal groups/activities there are in your area. Here is a link. You don't need to be an NCT member or have done the ante-natal classes. The 2 post-natal things I did through NCT with DS were: 1) just after DS was born (we were living in London then) I was put into a small group of about 6 of us with similar age babies, the co-ordinator hosted an initial coffee morning at her house and then left us to arrange further meet-ups if we wanted. And 2) after we moved house (DS was 6 mths old) I started going to the "bumps and bundles" group in the village hall - basically a weekly mummies and babies group - and this was where I met the mummies who are some of my best friends (and their DCs are some of DS's best friends) and form the majority of my social life still!

The other suggestion I have is to find out if your local library has a baby/toddler singalong/mursery rhyme time, most of them do once a week.

Patsy really hope you can get the feeding sorted out very soon. x

hello all! entering 3rd week Erin is sooo fab, apart from the lack of sleep! took her to the park at the weekend which was nice but DH back to work today so its just us and the cat, trying to remember how to do housework again!

jenko hope the stitches are easing now, I thought I'd never feel right again down there but they are getting better everyday I hardly notice them now.

We were told by the HV to do 3hourly feeds then feed on demand at night but she tends to wake up when ready so we aren't clock watching too much.

Hope all is well x

hello all.

after 3 weeks with no internet i am finally back!

anyway we moved house at 38+1 in the end and James Christopher arrived that night. all a bit of a shock really and i was fully dilated when we arrived at hospital but he made it into the world at 11:44pm weighing 7lb 4oz. it has been a crazy 3 weeks but things are starting to calm down.

i haven't caught up with the posts but i'm glad to see the thread is still going. i better find the stats and add my gorgeous son

xx

Hello!

Well, can't remember what I told you but it was prolly all the in and out of hospital stuff but now the news is really good - Toby is 3 weeks old today and we have finally been discharged from mws as he is over his birthweight by 120g, and my bp is back to normal so hope to come off the meds soon. I'm thrilled to bits about the weight as he had lost too much/was gaining slowly and I didn't want to give him formula so I was really holding out against that.

Cheekymonkey congrats! Great timing!

Anything also check out your local council website for all the stuff going on in your area - there is LOADS at the chidren's centres, baby massage, bf groups, first aid (ok, so that's a one off) and so on....

Well done on the sale hevster

V impressed with people who get out of the house all the time, I don't get out every day and spend some days almost all in bed chillin' with m'baby and dozing - that was part of the weight gain programme tho, I must admit.

01.09.10 balletmoo DS William
21.09.10 Jacksmybaby DD Matilda (Tilly)
05.10.10 Hevster DD Isabella
10.10.10 Daynee DD Scarlett
12.10.10 anything... DD Tilly
17.10.10 cheekymonkey DS James
21.10.10 babybunting DD Chloe
21.10.10 RooBear DD Erin
21.10.10 PatsyPlusOne DS Henry (Harry)
24.10.10 Jenko77 DS Liam

Just reading about your routines, wakeful time and so on...my life I was so focussed on getting his weight up I have done nothing about this. at 3 weeks he's starting to be awake a bit and not crying but mostly he feeds and sleeps and tends to get plonked on the boob if he cries. He's now growing so fast you can practically watch it happen, seriously, this morning I felt for his feet and they were in the feet of the babygro whereas yesterday the legs had still been too long....!!!! So... should I be getting a book and getting with the programme??

Great news Toby is growing so fast now Dilly. Harry's already too long for newborn babygros any more so we've moved into 0-3 months. I can't believe he's growing up already! He doesn't feel as newborn as he did.

As for routine, ours has now gone out of the window. Not sure if it's a growth spurt or what, but he's been desperate to get on the boob every 2 hours since 6pm yesterday, so not much sleep for us last night. Had a lovely lazy morning with him though sleeping when he did. I figure he's setting his own pattern at the moment,as Toby probably is, and I certainly wouldn't worry if I were you. As long as you and your LO are happy it doesn't really matter, does it?!

01.09.10 balletmoo DS William
21.09.10 Jacksmybaby DD Matilda (Tilly)
05.10.10 Hevster DD Isabella
10.10.10 Daynee DD Scarlett
12.10.10 anything... DD Tilly
17.10.10 cheekymonkey DS James
21.10.10 babybunting DD Chloe
21.10.10 RooBear DD Erin
21.10.10 PatsyPlusOne DS Henry (Harry)
24.10.10 Jenko77 DS Liam
28.10.10 KFW DD Jasmine

Re routines dilly, I personally am not trying one for a while. She's 12 days old today and I am not sure when I'll feel like it, but I am anxious not to do the Gina Ford thing. Most crazy toddlers I have met seem to have been Gina Forded. That may well just be coincidence, but it's scared me off! That said, there must be a time I guess when yor own sanity requires a routine. I'm not there at all yet, but it will be interesting to see when that day comes... [Smile]

Best wishes to all mummies and all babies.

X

Please note the name change (from Jenko77) - to inspire me to lay off the chocolate digestives !!!

Roobear Stitches are much improved now thanks. Last week I thought I'd never sit down again, but thankfully all feels almost back to normal now.

Routine-wise, I'm still feeding on demand which thankfully seems to be every 3 hours or so (sometimes every 4 hours, last night every 2 hours!). He seems to have his own routine, which usually fits in well with us, but he is only 17 days old, so I figure there's plenty of time for all that.

I saw the midwife yesterday for the last time, and DH is now back at work, so looks like this is the start of a new era - all a bit scary really! I need to be brave and venture out of the house soon, but it's so chilly out there. Is it unreasonable to stay housebound until spring!?

Right you have inspired me namechangers - It's me Jacksmybaby, have changed to one of the many daft nicknames we have for DS.

Routine-wise - the pattern DD has settled herself into unfortunately completely clashes with the pre-school run, so having to try to move the feeding times round, arggh! Am ending up giving her a feed before she's really hungry, so she's not really taking much... oh well hopefully she will get into the new pattern soon.

She's crying, gotta go...
x

Hi girls! Sorry, long time no speak. Danny is 4 weeks old tomorrow and I finally feel like I might have a bit of a handle on this mummy lark. I spent the first 2 weeks in a daze not knowing which way was up and got really bad baby blues. Over it now thank God, but at one point I actually cried to DH that we should give him up for adoption because I'm the worst mummy who ever lived lol!

I'm ff now because bf didn't work for us. Once I got over the initial guilt, I felt much better and Danny seemed like a different baby; much more satisfied and happy. He's such a content little boy and we could just look at each other all day long. I didn't think my heart could hold enough love for both DH and DS but it does, and I feel fuller as a person if that makes sense. He is so beautiful it hurts my heart

We followed our favourite bits from the gina ford routine and Danny has latched onto it like a little limpet! He's super greedy though so he usually takes enough milk to last him about 4-5 hours at night. Hope you're all well! X

P.S jellyjenko know how you feel, DH back to work next week too and I'm super nervous! We try to wrap up and get out with the pram every day, even if it's raining and I just go to the top of the road and back. It makes me feel better that I've been out and breathed some different air.

Hello!

DH is back at work today. DD and I seem to be surviving our first day alone! Poor little poppet has a cold and doesny really know what to do with herself. She fed a lot this morning and then projectiled vomitted all over me just now so we are both in our second set of clothes of the day . Happily I have no plans, so I think we'll just stay in today. She is now chilling with me on the sofa and seems to be dealing with her bug well. I can't believe sha already has a cold and is only 2 weeks old today. Bloody English autumnal weather!

Good luck to all those about to do their first day. I had a bit of a wobble about it last night, but it seems to be going better than I expected. Am not feeling overwhelmed just yet!

By the way Jazzie - good call with FF. I have a couple of friends who drove themselves mad with BF when it wasn't really working. They are much happier now - and so are their babies. I was formula fed and turned out fine . I actually thing that the amouint of pressure put on mums to BF is a bit out of order. I am finding BF easy at the moment, but if it becomes a problem for her or for me, I won't torture myself or her and will FF.

X

hi all, i'm rubbish now at checking on line as my lap top is rubbish. Chloe doing really well and like you kfw bf going really well although do like to winge sometimes about the cluster feeding and things but generally doing well and no sore nips which is good. I do think there's a lot of pressure when you bf and don't think it helps when midwives etc just try to force you to do it all naturally at the same time i'm really pleased i'm managing to do it so well at the moment. Yeah. Right i'm off as we've got a code brown situation! :) x

Love "code brown" babyb. My DH made me giggle the other day when she got thro 4 nappies in one change and pooed on his finger and he declared a "poonami" . His other favourite description is that we have a "shituation".

sounds like you are all doing great. We had a scary 24 hrs and had to rush Isabella to to the doctors as I couldn't wake her up, thankfully she did wake up as we were about to be packed off in an ambulance to Salisbury. They have decided she has a virus but she seems loads better today (i would feel loads better if I had slept solidly for 23 hrs and not even opened my eyes when eating!)

Had my first projectile poo incident in the night, gross though it is, am very glad I got my hand in the way or I would have been repainting the wall

no name change here!

Oh no Hev that must have been terrifying, glad she is on the mend now. Also glad everyone is surviving ok with their DPs back at work.

My Nan died this week so it has been a bit of a shitty week.

But at least now it's the w/e and DH is home!

Jacks sorry about your Nan, thats rough, glad DH is home and hope everything else is ok x

kfw loving your DP's names for it! Will tell my hubby tomorrow, he loves a bit of toilet humour. :) Hevster that sounds terrifying, glad little one is on the mend. Jacks really sorry to hear about your Nan thoughts are with you and your family. Just up doing the early morning feed. She's had a bit of a chomp then dozed off. Would like her to wake back up and finish her feed otherwise she'll only wake up again in an hour though am tempted to just go to sleep myself. Love to all. X