September 09 - Hello world, we're here to destroy you!

[ChutesTooNarrow]

So the last thread could be used as proof that September 09 (and an August!) parents were kept far too busy by their babies to talk about them very often! Shall we see if we can get this one done before second birthdays (eek, 2 is so big) are upon us?

Yes. I teared up when Florence Cameron was shown on telly (and I'm a left-winger!) I dreamt I gave birth to a second boy a few night ago and am melting at pictures of friends newborns. I've been thinking about it loads. My DP is totally happy to go for number two but it's me holding back. I don't think I'm ready to be pregnant again yet, and OMG the first few months with a newborn were hard. I have ishoos about Gabe's birth I should probably resolve as well. But, yes I probably need talking out of it as well for a bit.

Ladies, going from 1 to 2 was the shock of my life! Having said that logic just doesn't come into it when dealing with hormones, its natures way.

I waited ages to be ready for no.2, but I think there are pros and cons whatever your age gap, tbh.

The sleeping thing, it's possible that a newborn and a new routine might help :o But it's also true you may never sleep again!

I don't think I could have handled being at home with a newborn and an under two, I like the breathing space. That said, a close friend had her girls 18mths apart and although it was hard at first, it got better. She now has number 3 so it can't be that bad!

If you want to be talked out of it, we can do that, but if it's what you really want I say go for it.

Chutes, definitely see someone about the birth. I found that talking about DS1s birth with the consultant really helped clarify some of the 'why' I had in my head. You could start a thread on here too, under a different name, or ask the hospital for your notes.

yes yes, need to be talked out of it. hormones will get me next year when we actually do want to try for 2, but I don't want one yet. my hormones do, but my brain most emphatically DOES NOT.

chutes - florence cameron is very cute. I'm fairly rabidly not a tory (although am very pro-lib dems, which is confusing now), but did melt a bit when seeing him holding her. My issues with Oli's birth were manifold too - will need a debrief with a midwife sometime before no. 2 emerges. and a large piece of paper saying 'GIVE ME AN EPIDURAL' which I can staple to the nose of any snotty midwife who tells me to 'just deal with the pain, didn't you realise labour would hurt?'. bitch bitch bitch.

Then definitely DON'T DO IT YET!! It will be a nightmare etc etc... :o

Hi I would agree with people saying wait a bit for number 2. My friend has a 17 month age gap and she found it so hard.

Over 2 and a half is good. As you may not need a double buggy.They play together and you will get some free childcare when your eldest turns 3 which takes some of the pressure off childcare. One will also be pretty much out of nappies too.

My neighbour who has a 2 year gap say she thinks she would have like more time with the first one on their own in hindsight but we can all say things in hindsight!
Zoe's birthday today. It's been good she had a trip to the park and cake at the childminders and more cake at home and some lovely gifts.

Hi all!

I most definitely am not broody!! I think I know that I am done! But if you want putting off...

1. Morning sickness while changing nappies - Bleeuugghhh!!!!
2. Having to get up in the night when you are absolutely hanging from pregnancy tiredness.
3. You still have to lift your LO quite a bit at this age. When they can do things like help you get them in their car seat, climb the stairs confidently it is much easier.

I think there are pros and cons to all age gaps. Close together you get all the baby stuff out of the way in one swoop. A couple of years apart the oldest is able to help you more and understands a bit better about the new baby.

There are 2 years and 4 months between my two and it felt about right for us. DH would have liked them closer and was suggesting it when DD was just a year old, but I wasn't ready until she was about 18 months.

I think you know when you are ready, and you do cope, whatever the age gap - you have no choice!!

God no, no broodiness here AT ALL. My babymaking days are done. I have an age gap of just over 5 years and it has worked brilliantly so far, I can understand why people would want smaller gaps as going back to pushchairs and nappies and so forth was a bit of a shock and it would have been nice to get it all out of the way in one go iyswim but finances (mainly the cost of childcare) meant we had to wait for dd1 to go to school before TTC.

DD1 has been brilliant with DD2, she is such an adoring big sister and is very proud of dd2, she loves showing her off to her friends who all love her too - in fact when we all went out for dd1's birthday it was dd2 who got most of the attention from dd1's mates but dd1 didn't care at all, she was basking in the reflected glory! She is great at fetching and carrying, helping out generally and has even had a couple of goes at changing nappies . I suppose what has been easiest for me has been that dd1 at 5, now 6, is old enough to understand that sometimes she has to wait whilst I sort the baby out and that's no reflection on her or who I love most, she understands that the baby can't wait sometimes but she is a Big Girl and she can.

Peachy - Glad that Zoe had a lovely birthday!! My original due date was 09/09/09!! What a fantastic date of birth!

I was desperate for 9/9/9 - but I had to wait another 12 days in the end

Happy birthday Zoe :)

I remember telling my bump that if he wanted to come early then 9-9-9 was a good day to do it. I also told him to avoid the 13th

This must be the most ridiculous, shallow reason not to have 2nd child too quickly but I have just thought that I wouldn't want to have a double buggy. I really don't as I have a beautiful buggy and I can't bear the thought of swapping it for a double. So I'm convinced

I have just been very pfb and looked up what day of the week 13-9-2014 falls on. It is a Saturday so Gabe won't have to go to school on his birthday. Speaking of my pfb he picked at lunch with disinterest but has spent the last hour enthusiastically trying to eat anything teeny he can find on the carpet. I DP will need to hoover soon.

We are going to Centerparcs in Longleat on Monday for a few days as I lost the will to live looking at cottages that looked unchildfriendly and miles from, well anything at all. I am really looking forward to getting Gabe in the pool and hoping he will enjoy being transported around in a trailer on the back of a bike!

Chutes Dd1's birthday is the 13th, February too. We live at number 13, so it's a lucky number in our house.

The buggy thing is a very valid reason not to try early for number 2 I really didn't wnt one and we hve just about managed with a buggy board and a sling.

Hope Zoe had a lovely day :)

Well this was the worst weekend to try and move out, we've soooo much to do, and also shoehorning Madok's birthday into proceedings is going to make life interesting tomorrow... But I seem to thrive under pressure so I'm sure it will be lovely.

I'm not sure I'll be able to get on here for a few days, so I just want to say Happy Birthday to my darling littlest boy :)

Ooh and hope you have a lovely time away Chutes, best wishes to birthday boy Gabe for Monday!

Hope the move goes well, Barry! And Happy Birthday to Mads!! I hope that he has a lovely day in his new home!

Chutes - Longleat CPs is meant to be lovely! I hope that you have a lovely time and that Gabe has a lovely birthday, too!

Had a busy busy day today!! DD at ballet this morning, then all in the car for a fun-packed day of shopping at the nearest city!! Managed to get most things for DD starting nursery, but shoes a bit of an issue as she is an H fitting and in the 2 Clarks shops there were no shoes in her size. We ended up in the local Brantanos and I fitted her myself!! Peppa pig shoes like the doodles one in Clarks, but for £7!! So we're both happy!!

(Also bought myself a couple of little treats that I need to sneak in the house without DH seeing!! )

Hmmmm, too many smileys there, I think!!

A year ago today my waters broke in the fruit and veg aisle at ASDA!

Hi ladies

LadyEm, so sorry to hear about your Grandad, hope you are all bearing up xx Good news about your tooth finally being taken out.

Berry (nice new name), Hope Mads had a lovely birthday and pleased that ds1 had a good first day at big school. My ds went into year one this week and I still cant believe that he is a school boy! When he used to come back from his morning sessions he would never be able to remember what he did, used to drive me mad :)

Peachy, Glad that Zoe had a lovely birthday. Lucy still has a 10am & 2pm bottle but i guess i really should drop the 2pm one..... We are going to waiti until end of October before we put her on cows milk and just move her to the 1 plus powder next week. We are off to Tenerife in October and dont want to chance her on different milk..

Chutes, Hope Gabe had a lovely birthday. We love Longleat and have been twice this year already with another planned for February! Well done to Gabe on his walking!!! Lucy is just starting to cruise and that is enough for me at the moment!

So...... having read all your comments about broodiness i guess i should say for those who dont know that i am currently 11wks pg with number 4. Yes, i am totally crazy and starting to panic that this will be the smallest gap we have! Scary also that Lucy isnt 1 until next Sunday . Lucy will be 18/19mths when this one comes along - eek!

Nothing much else to add apart from apologies at being so pants at posting!

Oh fantastic news AprilMeadow, congratulations!

LJ is the rumour true? Do you get free shopping if your water breaks in Asda

Happy birthday Madok! Hope the move is going ok Berry, I'm still having flashbacks to how hideous our move was

Lots of sympathy stayfrosty, I put my back out lifting Gabe when he was a few months old. It was bloody agony.

I have just made a birthday cake complete with wonky iced lettering! We are having a little party this afternoon, just got Gabe snoozing now so he is refreshed for his guests. Then I need to pack for tomorrow, I am looking forward to our holiday even if the forecast is rain and blustery wind!

Ahhh, hope that Gabe has a lovely party, Chutes!

Ooh yes, LJ, is it true about the free shopping!! I was dying for mine to break in M&S!!!!

Thanks, April! We are all ok, just need to get the funeral over and done with, which is this Tuesday. Hope you are feeling well and the morning sickness is easing up! I have a friend who had twins when her little girl was only 20 months, so it can be done!! They love the fact that they are all so close together in age. And I have another friend who is only 18 months older than her brother and they are so close. It will be lovely!

@ brantanamo bay!!! I never come out of there without a pair of shoes or slippers!!

Congrats April - although being a fellow mum of 3 I can relate to the nervousness!

Ladyem - I think it must be an urban myth because I nwrote to them to say 'thank you for all yur help' - and didn't get a bean.

Ahhh the meanies!! They could have at least given you a nice voucher for baby stuff!!

happy birthdays mads and gabe! and congrats aprilmeadow - I must confess that your statuses on FB did contribute to my broodiness a wee bit
Oli has taken to sleeping even less, DH and I are starting to loose the plot a little. fingers crossed his first full session at nursery will knock him out tomorrow.

Happy Birthday for yesterday, Mads and Happy Birthday for today, Gabe!!

Kveta - April did make me broody, too!! But Managed to talk myself out of it!!