AUGUST 2010 - welcome to post-natal :o)

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I know I'm not around a great deal lately but we don't yet have a PN thread - so here we are.

Love to all xxx

:)

Just celebrating the fact my iPhone has suddenly come back to life after 24 hours of me thinking it had gone kaput :) Wasnt really bothered about the coping without a mobile bit for a while, but I was quite upset thinking I'd lost some of the photos & little video clips I'd made of my lil boy on there. However, have just checked & everything is still there - yay! Will download them onto my laptop as soon as I get home tomorrow

Hoping the clocks going back won't mean too much disruption to baby A's sleep pattern but I think it'll mean earlier mornings for a while :( & he's been doing so well! Oh well, we'll see what time we're up in the morning! Night all x

hello starshaker, glad to hear you're doing so well :)

We spent the day yesterday with some friends including one who's 15 weeks pg with her first. She said J was a very good advert for having a baby . He is being so lovely at the mo, giving us loads of smiles and cute gurgles, and last night we slept 10.30-4.30 and 5-7. Luxury!!!
Hope everyone else is doing well and the clocks changing doesn't throw out routines too much.

Hi all,

Star, so nice to hear from you, and delighted it's all going so well. I'm in awe of you coping with twins plus a toddler!

We've had a great couple of nights with S, interestingly ever since we gave up the dream feed at 11pm (when he was only taking about 3oz, and then waking at least once more in the night, sometimes twice). The last two nights, we've just put him to bed at 7pm and waited to see when he'd wake. Both nights, he's slept until 3am, taken a full feed then, and then gone through until 7am or even 7.30am! I'm hoping that it's not just a fluke!!

Also, just wanted to say thanks to whoever recommended that book about having your second child. I'm reading it at the moment, and I think it's fantastic - wish I'd read it sooner. It's particularly good on how having a second child can make you see your firstborn very differently. It was only when I read it that I realised how much that had happened to me, and now that I've recognised it, I'm finding it much easier to cope with.

Right, I'm off to think about how I'm going to entertain two children on a horrible rainy Sunday. I always find wet winter/autumn days such a struggle.....

elusive there is no need to be in awe lol. Everybody says i have no idea how you manage then they spend a day with me and are amazed at how amazing the twins are. I have been very very very lucky with them. They are so laid back, they dont cry, when their awake they lie and talk to each other and love smiling at everybody. They sleep all night. I normally wake them at 10 or 11 for a feed then they sleep till 9 or on a school day they sleep till i wake them and then feed them when we get back from the school run. They really are fantastic babies

Elusive I can't type much as on iPhone feeding so using left hand! Just to say we find the same with Alex wrt dropping the 11pm feed. He sleeps to 3 or 4 then wakes up between 5-7 in the morning.

elusive what is this book of which you speak? Think I could do with one of them!

Oh sorry Doodley, someone mentioned it further down the thread. It's called 'Two Children, Three Shoes, One Sock and No Hairbrush: Everything You Need to Know about Having Your Second Child', by Rebecca Abrams. The title makes it sound really fluffy, but it's not at all - it's sometimes quite brutally honest. It covers lots of different subjects, but so far most of what I've read is about how having a second child will affect your firstborn, and your relationship with him/her. I think it's really brilliant - wish I'd read it sooner.

Thanks so much! Am amazoning it as we speak and shall be reading it avidly, my little angel has progressed to little horror whilst all the time being shown up by her younger brother who is a little joy at the moment! (We had a 10 minute tantrum about brushing our teeth tonight - seriously curtailing story time! which then caused a repeat of tantrum!) I am knackered!

I feel your pain, Doodley. But reading the book has generally made me much easier on DS1, because I understand him a bit better now, which has improved things here no end. (I was obviously expecting some reaction to the baby, but I don't think I'd realised quite how indirect some of the effects would be - DS1 has never shown a moment's irritation towards the baby, but his feelings are all coming out in other ways. For example, the book says that children can develop all sorts of fears and phobias when a new baby arrives, including fear of water - bingo, DS1 has been terrified of the bath for the last couple of months, having loved it previously. But I would never have thought to connect the two.) For me, though, the biggest thing was that I was getting really frustrated with DS1, because I suddenly saw him as a 'big boy' and expected him to behave as such, when until 10 weeks ago he was my baby. And I hadn't realised how tough that was for him. The book is really eloquent on how having a second baby can make you fall 'out of love' with your first child for a while, and that was definitely happening to me - it actually made me cry reading it. But now that I recognise it, I've been able to work on our relationship, and I feel much closer to him again now (though he's still driving me nuts!!). Anyway, I'll stop waffling and let you read it for yourself.

Have got myself bidding on ebay for it! Thanks as I keep looking at photo's of dd when she was a baby and wondering what happened! It seemed to happen so quickly!

Hi all sorry been so long since I posted . We were away for nearly 3 weeks then I had tonsillitis have tried to read what I can but not all I'm afraid.

Lizzie-my sister went into labour at 28 weeks and had my nephew at 31 weeks. It was do scary but all worked out and he just turned 9!

Belly- i think it was you with the locked in baby?? I was looking after my baby niece once when I put the bins out and the front door slammed leaving her in the pram in the kitchen with the dog. I had to go next door and scale the fence heart attack time!

Thedogwalker- I can only ever get 2-3 oz if I express

Tilly is doing well though starting to get bored of breast feeding. She was having night feeds as bf and the 7 am feed as bf plus sometimes the 3pm one and little bits here and there but now going off it and cries on the boob some days lets me replace the morning bottle but not today.
Still shes asleep by 8 most nights and stays in the cot till about 4/5 then in with us till 7/8 when she feeds

Right- nutty thought alert me and Dh are going to try for number 4 now...
We were going to wait until Tilly was 1 but I thought I was pg on holiday and when the test was negative Dh was disappointed so we r going for it. Figure just get the chaos over with now.

Alice I loved that poem it definitely applies to my house !
Apologies for any randomness in this post I just got an I phone and am still getting used to it

Will respond properly to everyone when S is sleeping later but for now I just need a bit of a rant....
We went to visit my Mum at the weekend. What should be a 3 ish hour drive was a 7 hour nightmare because of traffic jams etc.... plus we had an absolute horror at the service station. Basically an industrial sized roll ofthe blue paper type stuff was hanging over the changing mat. Just as I'd finished changing S it fell onto her head - both the paper and the heavy metal rod clattered. She gave the most heart rendering cry but turned out to be fine. But I'm so angry, it should never been above the changing mat, I had to pretty much make them fill out an accident report and the metal bit could have taken S's eye out if it'd fallen at a different angle.

We didn't even get an apology. My DH has written a firm but v mild-mannered letter of complaint but I want him to add a line about an appropriate apology...... hmmm.
Oh and have food poisoning from my Mum's house as she seems incapable of keeping it clean so was throwing up last night.

girls wow! that's amazing! but are you insane?

pample that is horrid, you poor things. I would have been furious too

I'm also on for a rant today. ds1 has been poorly over the weekend but friends of ours are really struggling with life at the moment (she's doing teacher-training, their ds is struggling at school and the dad is struggling with the concept of no longer having his wife at home 24/7). So we baked a load of pumpkin muffins, decorated the house in halloween stuff and invited them over for cake and coffee to cheer them up. ds1 started to go downhill about lunchtime, but we dosed him up with calpol, let him have a snooze and decided he was fine. We were reluctant to cancel our friends as their ds has mild autistic tendencies and you just can't change plans without risking a major meltdown. So we decided to just let them come over...

All was fine at first. the boys were delighted to see each other and ran off to play. I was quite pissed off that my friend was 30 minutes late herself, having sent her dh and ds ahead so she could finish off some studying, but decided to ignore it (hate hate hate people being late when we invite them over at a specific time! and she's started doing this a lot - accepting invitations for all 3 of them to visit/have lunch/play then just sending her dh and ds with no explanation).

Then suddenly ds1 starting throwing up. My dh practically leapt onto the top bunk in a single bound to rescue our friends' ds as he was starting to freak out a bit. I carried my poor ds to the bathroom where he continued to be sick. Our friend's dh was really helpful and held ds2, but all she could say was "we have to go NOW, I can't let my ds catch this, I can't afford to be ill, we're going - I can't possibly catch a bug" So I had to leave ds1 in the bathroom stripped naked to take ds2 off her dh.

So that was our drama last night. It still makes my blood boil just thinking about how selfish she was

Hey everyone, I'm sorry some of you have had nightmarish weekends at the hands of other people!

I'm popping on for some advice. Alex has his first jabs this Thursday at 9.20 and then his first ever swimming session at 12.30. He loves the water when we have a bath with him so I'm thinking he'll be happy swimming.

Anyway, several people have advised me to give him some Calpol an hour before his jabs. I've not given him any medication before, the only thing he has ever had is breastmilk! Does anyone on here have any opinions on the Calpol theory?

i don't really know vix but i think i'd wait and see how he is. J had his first jabs last thurs and was fine afterwards, no need for calpol

I've been given the same advice vix, Ben has got his needles tomorrow. I've been told 2.5ml before and 2.5ml afterwards but like your lo Ben has never had Calpol before. I'm going to see what sort of night he has tonight and if I've got a smiley baby in the morning I may not bother (and he's usually a happy chappy).

My sis is still holding on to her lo, they've sent her home on bed rest so fingers crossed he'll bake for a good while longer.

Another quick one as S has barely slept today...
Some recent research showed that giving calpol as a precautionary measure could reduce the effectiveness of the jabs.... worth a thought!

Hi,

I'm new to Mumsnet!

I had my little boy Leni on Sunday 8th August, at 1.46am by EMCS weighing 4lbs 14 1/2oz!

He came 6 weeks early, which was a big shock for all of us. He spent 10 days in SCBU and is now home safe and sound with us.

Love to all!

Hello all, cakeywakey here in Bonfire Night finery. Welcome aob and congratulations on your little boy .

Elusive your little one's sleeping is amazing. I thought that Erin was good! It makes things so much easier when you can get a decent night's sleep. Am going to check out that book too as I'm guilty of treating DD1 as a big girl now. It's a big adjustment for them.

Star lovely to hear from you and fab to hear that the twins are laid-back.

Pample sorry to hear about the accident - it's so frightening when something like that happens. I hope you recover from your Mum-induced poisoning soon.

Bouncing hope your friend is embarrased today, and that your DS is feeling better.

Vix I've never needed to give my DDs calpol before or after their jabs. Might be worth seeing if there's any reaction?

Girls I understand the urge to try for another one straight away (think you're a bit mad but do understand ). Cuts down on the nappy years. Good luck!

Quite quiet here. Erin hasn't had a poo for three days though, so am anticipating an explosion soon . I do hope she decides to do it at home!

Thanks for the info re calpol everyone. I'll not give him any - I'm sure he will be fine xx

vix, if you do give it don't feel guilty. I didn't give it on dd's first injections as was worried - got an awful lot more worried to her reaction to it, nearly had an ambulance sent by nhs direct as she went floppy and feverish.

This time with ds, he had calpol an hour before his injections and was fine. I know all children react differently but dd's reaction was horrible and an experience I never want to repeat so I feel absolutely no guilt in giving him a little prior to the injections if onlny to make the reaction that could be possible be as minimal as is possible iyswim!

morning ladies. So quick question have any of your babies got teeth yet??
I thought it was much later they came through but dd2 has 2 already. dd1 didnt get any till she was a year and they all came in within a week.

No teeth here yet but I was told that some babies are born with teeth through and they can start teething any time.

Girls, the thought of getting pregnant again now horrifies me. Good luck though!

Welcome aob, must've been hard him being in SCBU but glad he's doing well now :)

Hi Star DD is almost 12 weeks and no actual teeth but I think she has started teething as we are getting lots of dribble, biting on fists and her poo has become greeny and vinegar smelling :S

Girls part of me would also like to start trying for DC2 but I think we are going to wait until DD is about a year and then start again :)

Welcome AOB

Alice was it you that mentioned you knew where to get cheap baby wetsuits online - if so could I be cheeky and ask you to post the link, I am struggling to find a wetsuit small enough at the moment :(

Neenz haven't seen you for a while hope all is well?

Vix I'm glad you sister has been allowed home, fingers crossed her little one stays happy inside for a while longer.

Has anyone else's LO's been affected by the clocks going back? Any tips on readjusting them?

Have a good Tuesday

Hello ladies. Have been absent a couple of days. Busy with DD's Hallowe'en party and started re-reading some Jilly Coopers

Anna here is the shop that sells them, they do some really sweet little neoprene wraps for babies too.

Elusive and Doodley someone on MN recommended the book and so i got a used copy off Amazon and really found it helpful, mostly because it wasn't one person saying "this is what will happen, this is what you should do" but just real parents with their own experiences saying "This is what happened to us, it was really hard, we tried x,y,z but in the end it passed" or "We found we were going about it the wrong way" etc. Glad it has helped others too

Pample how horrible, hope you are all ok. Nightmare weeked away.

Vix the advice wrt capol and jabs used to be to give some before, but now they recommend waiting to see if baby needs it. F had a small dose the evening after his jabs because he was inconsolable, think he had sore legs from them.

Girls i would say you are mad, but having 3 girls a year between each of them you know what you are letting yourself in for! I always thought i wanted a large family, but at the oment, the very idea of having a 3rd makes me hyperventilate

Sparkle poor you and baby glad the worst is over now. How very scary!

Star F is teething too, not sure if anything is actually cutting though. Have got some teething gel to use when bad, mostly he just likes to chew on my nipples

Had a bad mummy moment (again) yesterday, was at playgroup and trying to help DD with some sticking and F slipped out from my arms lightly and scraped his head on the plastic chair he is fine though, just gave us both a fright.