May 2010 - Drooling, smiling, cooing and nearly sleeping through (and that's just the mummies!)

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Hi Ladies,

I hope you don't mind, I started a new thread as our first one was quite full! I can't believe we're a quarter-way through the first year already!

Hello all, sorry for not keeping up

DD chicken pox seems fine now, blistered over and apart from the Saturday night her sleep improved.

but having spent 3 nights (feverish) in bed with me we are going to have real issues getting her back in her own bed, tears tonight so did a deal that tonight is the last one with me. I will miss her but its no good for our already straining relationship.

DH has been doing all Alex stuff whilst I hate poorly DD in with me in the spare room. Alex's sleep improved, not as good as most on here but going 630-10-2 (feed) and then waking about 430am ish for a cuddle before going back with dummy until 7am ish. He was previously up 6 or 7 times looking for dummy

He has been fretful today, teeth, chicken pox or cold, who knows.

I have chest infection, anti b's now, feel a bit low, no real reason.

Trying to think of somewhere to go for a weekend with Dh and the 2 pogs before xmas and just no inspiration, any ideas?

hi all

studying hard here, finally have to get on with it, assigments coming...

molly- coming back to work is a pain, my position is going to change, aparently, and not yet clear as how and where, so pressing hard hr to give some answers. take it easy with another baby, give yourself some time, and then decide whether is a good idea re preg or not, medical is very good and althought difficult it is not so dangerous.... i'll have to have the same conversation with myself later on, and dh of course...

pam- must be hard with lo sick, you seem to be coping very well though.

and i think i pushed it too far with lo unattended so back to feeding

Pam, glad the CP is getting better. Have no idea about w/ends away - am rubbish at thinking of stuff myself...

For those asking about Angel, I am in touch with her periodically. Things have gone from bad to worse with her DH. They're now going to try counselling, so fingers crossed it helps a bit. She says thank you for thinking of her, but it's too hard to post at the moment. Hopefully going to see her next week, so I'll let you know how she is.

Darcey all cool - still waking up at 5am, still shoving everything she can in her mouth, still v interested in feet

Off to meet some local mummies this afternoon to get us out and about. Doing lots of walking! It's amazing what I now class as walking distance

WLTK, have fun with the studying - I don't know how you do it with a 5mo to entertain! Darcey certainly wouldn't let me...

dancing, please tell angel we are thinking of her... it is good she has some support.

method for studying for a couple of hours straight, you are going to laugh...
-sit yourself at the table with everything you can possibly need...

• put baby in bouncer chair (found one up to 18 kg)

-put the bouncer chair in vibration mode in hope he sleeps, give him his tuff toy to keep him quiet.

• bounce the chair with feet, so you have free hands for books.

-read outloud, seems to stop him from crying, tricks him into thinking he is getting attention, i am waiting for when he starts speaking and tells her grandmother some psychological theory...

i am actually quite behind in my schedule and assigment due in a few weeks, so i have no choice... this boy hardly sleeps during the day, and when he does i take the chance to do things away from him, so...gotta do it with him.

oh dear lost the plot thread again

getting so little sleep i cant think straight, longest we have ever done is 4 1/2 hours,once.

think she is off colour, very unhappy day

glad to hear chicken pox better, lake district or bakewell are nice

studying, wow im impressed, my coursework is just gathering dust

sorry for garbled post

Evening all,

pam glad DD better. Millie better too, just lots of scabs left to heal. After 6 days confined to the house (and another impending week once Harry comes down with it) we've been out and about lots today and been getting lots of funny looks! I too feel like I'm having to redefine ground rules, when DD's poorly anything goes but she just doesn't understand that every day can't be filled with television, sweeties and 100% attention! Don't you just love the 2 year old tantrums Bakewell's a great suggestion for a weekend away. Or some friends of mine always have a weekend of Christmas shopping in Stratford.

pigley we're moving to Cranleigh in December, not really far from you at all. We're in SW London at the moment where I've lived for 10 years, quite daunted about moving on.

wltk well done with the studying!

hbm4 sorry virginia's not giving you much sleep. Really feeling for you and all others whose babies aren't sleeping well.

molly / hollyweens sorry your return to work is coming round all too quickly.

At my parents for a few days as DH away with work until the weekend. The hideous 4 hour drive always a bit daunting but it's great to be here. Actually getting my hair cut for the first time in 6 months tomorrow! And having dinner with a couple of old friends in the evening. Can't wait

Harry's doing well with weaning but finding the balance between cutting back on milk & food tough. When he's hungry he eats brilliantly when it's only an hour of so from his last bottle it's a real fight. Slowly slowly ... :)

Hi all, thanks for good wishes about my DNiece - she is just adorable! And so small - 6lb!! Mine were 8lb 9 and 9lb 7 whoppers so very different.

Perpetually - congratulations!! It must have been a shock but often these things turn out fine in the end - sorry if that sounds flippant, but hopefully you know what I mean!

Molly - sorry to hear you are blue about going back to work. Hopefully when you settle into a routine it might become easier? I hope so.

Pamela - sorry to hear about the CP - we had a dose earlier in the year and it was awful but shortlived mercifully. Although DS still has a CP scar on his back though, over 6 weeks later. Good luck with getting DD back in her own bed! Weekends away - depends where you are starting from, but we have always loved Bakewell as someone else suggested, the Yorkshire Dales round Buckden/Grassington is lovely and Northumberland coast is beautiful but might be chilly!

WLTK - impressed with the studying. My job today was to make some butternut squash puree and I have managed to let the steamer boil dry so how you cope with learning new stuff I don't know!!

Dancing - thanks for keeping us up to date with Angel;s situation, it sounds awful, please let her know that we are thinking of her.

DD is doing brilliantly - we have been slowly weaning for the last three weeks, and she loves everything so far - swede, squash, sweet potato, carrot, apple, pear, peach!! She is sitting up for quite long periods now, and is really reaching out for objects. We have put her in the bouncer and in a toy ring where she stands supported in the middle of it (not sure what they are called!) and she loves being upright and has some real strength in her legs. She is just like her brother - never going to crawl, just going to walk!! Eek!!

Hope everyone else is doing well

TTx

tomlin, we call the toy ring: 'the donut'

Dancingthroughlife - thanks for letting us know about Angel, glad she's getting some support ;)

Tomlin - your DNiece sounds lovely :) Glad DD's weaning is going well!

HBM - hope you had a better night last night. How's Virginia doing?

Pamelat - hope your DD is feeling better now :)

We're all well here, DS loving his food. He had sweet potato chips last night and sat sucking all the potato out. He seems to like cucumber as well and loves sitting at the table. I switched the pram into the pushchair and he much prefers sitting up.

Very embarrassing yesterday, I was doing our shopping and on the way out decided that DD needed a nappy change so popped into their disabled loo/baby change room. The doors operate with those lights where you press the light and the door automatically opens, stands open for a bit and then automatically closes and locks (useful for wheelchairs I guess). Once I'm in there and using the loo myself DD goes and opens the door I had to quickly pull up my trousers and wait for the door to swing open, stay open and then shut Luckily no-one around!

gosh, just caughtup on thread perpetually
WOW i am actually envious of you, i too would be terrified as my last pregnancy was not exactly easy but every new baby brings new joys as well as new challenges. your children will always have somebody to turn to in all situations in life, and when you are old and needing care, just think, the 'burden' will be split and you should want for nothing.

well, last night DD4 was so unhappy and clearly unwell that it was calpol and mummys bed which i did with all my other children but this one was not going to be a cosleeper. she just fed ALL night, i opened my eyes everytime she stopped, about 8 times, but even then she was rooting again!!!
i was planning on starting the no cry sleep solutions methods last night but book says dont try if they are unwell so hopefully tonight, and back in her own cot. tonights solutions are proper bedtime routine which we sloppily had ie sometimes bath would be missed out, no tv for me whilst feeding her bedtime feed and bed between 6.30 and 7, it was originally 5.30 as she was so tired but book says this is the optimum time so will give it a go, it ought to help to fit dinnertime in for her when we start blw on dec 4th.
will read more of the book today and see how we go. i dont want to stop her waking in the night as i really enjoy the night time feeding, my goal is to have just one waking though, that would make life so much easier.
hope everybody is well xx

hello all! haven't posted in so long, have been reading in bits, so will try and od some personals...

perpetually congratulations, im extremely jealous as i would love a big family, but couldn't go through another pregnancy alone.

HBM no cry sleep solution is fab, hope it goes well for you. Ds went from co-sleeper to 13 hours a night in own bed sleeper with that book and no leaving him to cry.

tomlin gongrats on becoming an auntie...makes me broody anytime i see a tiny baby now ( goes of for a good ry at prospect of dd being my last baby)

pamelat Ds may not get the poxs, Ds didnt when my cousin had then and i used to take care of her and she was here all day mon to fri, anti bodies in breast milk...he got them aged 2 from nursery. i had them at 19 and was hospitalised i was so ill.

WLTK great that you are getting back to studying, it will all pay off, i went back to uni when DS was 10 months ( i couldnt go back mid year they wouldnt let me!)plus it will be lovely to have Lo at your graduation.im hoping to start PGCE in september...if i can geta place that is!!!!!

anyway Florence keeps getting ill, sore throats and ear infections, i was told that its common in reflux babies. and yesterday went for lunch at my nans and she had put dairy in something, we had a horrific afternnon and night and Florences throat is now sore again as she reacts really badly...advised no dairy, nuts, wheat or soya in her diet until they test again at 11 months. however weaning is going well, but it hasnt stopped the reflux.
to update o her dad, he didnt turn up and called to say he was getting abck on a plane a week later, so i ma no further in her even meeting him. he said he couldnt make himself feel anything for her so didnt want to get her hopes up. personally i think hes a coward and is just cant be arsed with the commitment that comes with your child...his loss she is fab and already moving about bum shuffling and rolling to werever she wants to get to.
on a lighter note my church are giving me an allotment! yeah, so will have somewhere to plant things and have a dig!
take care all xx

hi all

oscar slept all evening and manage 3 hours of study straight, i know i will pay cos there is no way he will sleep before 2 in the morning now.

meeting my friend tomorrow, sadly only with one baby,

gotta have dinner...

itshappenedagain so sorry obviously you go to church but ..... what a wanker!

Itshappenedagain - for you, Mustbemad is right, such a wanker. It is his loss though. Yay for you having an allotment!

HBM4 - hope the sleep situation is getting better for you.

Corin's christening tomorrow, looking forward to it! All our friends are coming down for it so enjoying seeing people again :)

heff hope the christening goes really well for you. Jude's is in 2 weeks; I got a dress today...I'm really looking forward to it!
Hope everyone is well sorry to just dash through!

Oh gosh here goes my usual sorry "hello, sorry its been so long" intro...

I just dont get the time to come online at all, if I do get chance its just a quick peek!

So, guys I really need your weaning advice. DD1 I started purees at 6months and she seemed to pick it up quickly but much preferred finger foods. DS started at 6months as well and picked it up and loved smooth foods for a long while.
DD2 however, well its been a week of offering her purees (started off with babyrice) but as soon as I put anything near her mouth she does this disgusted "I'm going to retch" now face and literally retches and retches. Meanwhile I am still smiling and saying "yum yum" and doing chewing motions myself (does everyone else do that or do your little ones just eat automatically?).
I gave her a finger of toast which she sucked on and has had piece of melon and cucumber but one lick and she screws her face up.

is this how your little ones started out? any advice very grateful.

gotta go, DS shouting he has a sore tummy.

Hi all, it's first1 fancied a name change. How are you all? I seem to have dropped off recently.

brb - Chloe has tried baby rice, porridge and apple/pear puree. Initially she does her "just sucked a lemon" face but I peservere and eventually she gets going with it. Keep at it, she'll get there :)

heff - want to hear all about Christening!

tomlin - yay at being auntie!

perpetually - wow congrats, I don't envy you just yet!

Hope everyone is ok. Sorry for short message will catch up with more posts later. Chloe is 15lb 2oz at 22weeks. Interested to see where that fits in with others? Nursery nurse told me not to read into centiles.

Love the new name luceeloo!

Darcey was exactly the same at her 22 week weigh in last week. She's also been dropping off centiles (91st born, now 50th) but HV said not to worry as she's fine in every other way. Probably she was born too big for her 'natural' size. We were a bit when she came out at 9lb

We're trying to hold off on weaning until 26 weeks as per the guidelines, but it's hard when you see everyone else weaning already. She tried some water out of a cup yesterday, and has a bit of diarrhea today. I don't know if they're linked, but now I want to hang on a bit longer before I put anything other than milk in her again.

Hope the christening goes well today Heffa/Hell. I want to do D's but DH wants to wait a bit longer. I really want her to wear my christening gown though, and she'll grow out of it if we wait much longer.

How long does it take to organise a christening? And how much notice did you give family on the invites?

hi all

we are also holding off on the weaning til 180days----4th december!

still getting very little sleep here. working through the no cry book and seeing small steps of progress so feeling quite excited that will soon get sleep---bought a couple of cuskis yesterday as reccommended, just scenting them this week to start next week

i too am wanting a new mn name, mine is just rubbing it in at the moment, probably pick a sleep related one

we are having our first ever home grown sprouts for tea yum

and finally, we have ordered some low noise fireworks for our garden this year, we usually do a big display on the beach, get friends and local kids watching and sharing home made goodies but far too knackered this year, whats everyone else doing?

Hi all

Alex's first night in his own room and feel relieved in the main as basically I and DH have flitted between the spare room for 7 or 8 months now and its no good longer term.

Had a big sort out morning clearing what is now Alex's room. DD was an angel Never anything in moderation with my daughter.

We went out for lunch too and she sat through 3 courses. Alex was meant to be asleep but woke ater 20 mins. I was all for crying and going home but my ever practical husband said it wasnt the end of the world and that we would simply let him wake up and get passed about. To be fair, ALex was a star. I think that because DD was such a fussy baby, I slightly freak out if things go off plan but Alex is more flexible than she or or I

His sleep at night is still appalling. Homebirth waiting to hear your success stories, same book etc. Am hoping Alex being in his own room will help but he is now on the top floor next to DD so could go horribly wrong!!

Re weaning, is 24 or 26 weeks classed as 6 months for things like toast???

WHO says 180 days for weaning.......

well, sticking to the book, bedtime routine day 4, instead of the usual bf til asleep then cuddle for at least an hour to guarantee she stays asleep before going in her cot, tonight, it was bf, then lay her in her cot with her cuski (its a specially made comforter btw) and i sat on my bed next to her where she could see me, read her 'the tailor of gloucester' in the near dark, as i turned the last page, her eyes closed !!
waited five minutes and am now downstairs with the monitor on!

ok, i know she is still waking so often in the night, but all these little changes make such a difference!

and we have unplugged the doorbell so she doesnt get disturbed.

here's praying for good things to come.

homebirthmummy has changed her name!
it is latin for

i need sleep

Rofl ego! Like it.

Also, might have to change the bedtime routine to follow your book. Darcey has had a MASSIVE tantrum before bed tonight. Totally unlike her... She's been in bed for an hour an a half and woken 4 times crying for 5 mins. At least she goes back to sleep herself, but she doesn't normally wake once she's down.

Do they get an upset tummy with teething? I think her gums are driving her mad tonight...

upset tummy yes definately, ashton and parson teething powders, very cheap, very effective,very quickly

Hello, Finally get a chance to catch up.

Mollycuddles- :( about going back to work. Hope you are enjoying your time with Molly.

Perpetually- Sorry to har about MIL. But how lovely for her to spend some time with Ava.

Mustbemad- My mum is the same and was desperate for me to let her buy DD1 a chocolate advent calendar at 5mths old and was trying to get me to give Lucy some Ice cream today.

Pamlet- Hope your all feeling better and DD is settling back into her own room.

Dancing- Give Angel our love :)

HBM- Hope your starting to get more sleep. Its such a killer isnt it :( Im about to start re-reading the BLW book to refresh my memory for Lucy.
We are having some fireworks in the garden next friday. We have friends coming with thier little girl ( DD1's best friend who shes known since birth, Mum and I were opposite each other in Hopsital!)

Millington- Howdy Neighbour :) Ive FB messaged you about a meet.

Hope your enjoying your time at your parents.

Tomlin- We are going to get Lucy's standing activity centre thingy down from the loft soon too. I know she will love it. (We need to get rid of her swing or something first to make room or poor DD1 will nowhere to play!)

Heffa- Dont you just Love Toddlers! Glad no one saw anything!
Hope Corins Christening went well Today and you all had a lovely day with Family and friends.

Happenedagain- :( that Florence keeps getting Ill. Poor little thing. Her Dad sounds like a right arse. His loss not seeing lovely little Molly growing up.

Brightred- Maybe if shes prefering finger foods you could look into Baby Led weaning. Its still early days for weaning so she may just suddenly click into it one day.

Luceeloo- Fab new name! Thats one of the nicknames we use for Little Lucy :)

Dancing- We are holding off till 6mths too for weaning.