May 2010 - Drooling, smiling, cooing and nearly sleeping through (and that's just the mummies!)

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Hi Ladies,

I hope you don't mind, I started a new thread as our first one was quite full! I can't believe we're a quarter-way through the first year already!

Hi all, long time no post, oops.

KnK, congratulations! I keep getting really broody at all the new teeny babies, but I can't imagine having to do it all again just yet. Sometimes I think I should do it now and get all the baby stuff behind us quickly and then I can get my 'career' (such as it is ) back on track. But then I think I'd like to stretch it out a bit more. What a shock for you. Hope you're adjusting to the news.

Any other bf mums, how do you manage it with work? I'm planning on continuing bf when I go back to work in Jan and have almost no idea where to start. Molly, thanks for your reply on the thread. What do others do?

Darcey has been waking in the night for 2 weeks now (she's 22 weeks old) after sleeping through since she was 5 weeks old. I know I've been really lucky so far, but I'd got used to sleep and now I feel like I'm back at square one and I'm barely functioning in the day now. Getting really forgetful and ratty from waking at 5am.

HBM4 & Pigley - I'm planning on bLW too. Can't wait for the messy food photos!

Pamela - I'm also a hockey widow Although this year he's not playing Partly an old injury from last season (2 cracked ribs and a busted knee) and partly team politics... He puts in so much effort and gets really wound up when he feels like the team don't keep up. Especially as he's 40 next year and outruns/plays all the 'youngsters' in their 20s. Although I think the novelty of having a gorgeous daughter at home helps. Whenever the 1st team play at home, he walks Darcey up to watch and show her off, so I still have a bit of peace on a Saturday.

Anyway, Darcey's not settling tonight, so i'll cut this marathon post off now. Will catch up again tomorrow!

KatnKankles - congratulations!! I do get really broody for another but not sure it's going to happen. Hope Ava starts sleeping better :)

Mustbemad - hope Lillia is OK :)

Mollycuddles - hope you get some sleep soon. :( about going back to work.

Dancingthroughlife - Hope Darcey settles for you soon :)

Corin's been getting very interested in food so we started weaning this evening. Doing BLW so gave him some steamed carrot sticks and he went mad for them. Really chewing on them and loved sitting at the table having food with us all. Very promising start and lovely to watch :) Glad he had fun with it!

Also very happy this evening because one of my best friends is pregnant! I had a feeling she might be so glad to be right and very pleased for her! She's wanted a baby for a while

No time for proper post, but just wanted to say congratulations to perpetually. I can understand it must have been a bit of a shock but really hope that you have an easy pregnancy and that sleeping improves so you can get some rest... {just mentioned to DH that someone from the May thread was pg and he said 'that would be nice' so I think DC3 will be a definite at some point in the not-too-distant future }

hi ladies sorry I keep going missing just very busy with things and am trying to keep up but keeping getting a bit lost.

First our news, I have been feeling quite sad my baby boy is growing up far too fast. He is picking things up now and eating them, you should see him really focus on the piece of food them grab it and straight into the mouth with it. He had carrot for the first times tonight, gagged on it a bit but it kept going in. He's also got his first two teeth, is practically sitting up, rolling over and I put him in a baby walker at toddlers the other day and he loved it, spent the whole time looking around and was even moving it backwards. I'm not a big fan of baby walkers and it's another big hulking bit of plastic in your house but I was given a brand new one with DD3 so have kept it, I get rid of it as soon as they start to pull themselves up to stand as there's some research that because they use their toes to move it they never learn to fully weight bear on their whole foot and it can disrupt them walking. I think it's more for children who are left in them all day (sadly have seen this before).

I'm ok just utterly shattered and feel like I am always chasing my tail and nothing ever seems to get done.

ah katnkankles I saw your announcement on the TTCno4 thread congratulations, you will be fine once the baby is here and you are madly in love with another wee baby, you are still utterly crazy though but in a good way

Jacob will definitely NOT be a big brother ever. We both feel at our limit now and number 5 would be one too many.

Another poor sleeper here as well, one night it was 8 times he was up, he just looks for Mummy Dummy to comfort him back to sleep. But I cannot and wouldn't anyway deprive him of it just now as he may be still hungry or thirsty and he is still so young. DD2 and 3 were both like this so I know it will end one day but boy is it hard going and then some.

pamela - sorry about your DDs pox

Tomlin - congrats on being an Auntie

pigley - am with you on having a smart cookie, mine isn't helped by having 2 big sisters that she tries to copy all the time, she has to do her homework every night after they do it's so funny. She is so demanding as well. What Bessie wants Bessie gets (her name for herself).

opps pressed send to fast and x-posted with everyone

Will try and find some time to catch up properly soon, am off to sort out some washing.

Millington- Hows the chickenpox? Has Harry caught it too?

Hollyweens- Congrats on completing the training :) Fab news that DN is doing so well after her early arrival.

HB4- How did you end up spending you weekend?

WLTK- Some HV's really do make you wonder dont they!

Den- Enjoy your busy weekend!

Carikube- Glad the Cranial is having a good effect for you. Ive heard alot of people say good things about it. >

Pamlet- So you were right about the pox then! Hope its not being too painful for you! and DD of course!

TT- Fantastic news! Congrats to your Dsis :)
Have they choosen a name yet?

Mustbemad- Poor DS2. Hope they can help him :)

Perpetual- Wow! Congrats!! I couldnt imagine being pregnant again so soon. We have ruled DC3 out completely but just any time soon!
Although with todays nightmare day with the girls its getting further and further into the future!
Totally agree with Carikube with 2 young DD's being ample contraception for us!

Heffa- Great news for your friend. Glad the weaning is going well.

Carikube- Could you be the next one then??

SK- With you on them growing up so fast. Lucy too has great hand eye co-ordination when picking things up and getting them to her mouth. She should get weaning pretty well when we start!
Loving the name Bessie!

Crazy afternoon here out for dinner with the Inlaws and bro and sis in law. Very noisy back that thier house with a 2.2yr old, 5mth old and 1 month old! There was basically at least one of them crying at any given time!! DD1 was a bit of a madam too.. Grrr.
Had our Uni friends round last night, had fun and all had rather alot to drink, then up early and with todays crazy day im shattered tonight! [yawn]

Wooooow perpetually congratulations! So happy for you, but can understand it must have been a shock, esp as you were having the implant put in.
I'm one of 4 and dh is one of 5; big families absolutely rock and your dc will just love it when they're older and can all get together. All our siblings are aged between 17 and 27 now and it's just like having 7 best friends (and more in the case of those with partners) and we so look forward to spending time together. The support network is just amazing too when going through difficult times. Can you tell I love coming from a big family
Chin up; it won't be chaos forever. Big hugs to you.

All those with non-sleeping babies...really feel for you as I'm in the same boat. Jude slept through from about 6 weeks to 3 months and then suddenly starting waking ALL the time and taking ages to get back to sleep. Fingers veeeery tightly crossed the last few nights he has gone much longer and is much better at getting off to sleep.
Have you tried pick up/put down? I leave Jude to cry for just a minute or two, then go in and rock him/shush him for about a minute then put him back down. It really works and I've never had to do it for more than 20 mins. Since we started it he has been SO much better at drifting off for naps and bedtime. Tonight I put him down wide awake and after just a little whimper he went to sleep.
As long as you're consistent with it, they seem to really get the message.

Also, pamela and perpetually if Jude is wide awake after a night feed but not crying (just cooing/babbling), I lie down next to him (we have a 2 seater sofa in his room but would be in our bed otherwise) with my arm around him and just wait for him to doze off. It can take ages but I doze too so don't really notice the time passing. Once he's asleep I transfer him back to his cot. Might not work at all for some but seems to do the trick for him. I find if I 'try' to get him to sleep by rocking etc during the night he starts to really resist it.

Anyway, sorry for the ramble, just a few tips because it really is hell when they wake for the sixth time and you have to drag yourself out of bed again.

Still enjoying weaning here, though the nappies really are something!! Dh made me get out of bed this morning because I just 'HAD to see this poo'! haha!

Ds has totally discovered his feet the last few days- sooo cute. He holds them the whole time and can even sit up for a while when doing so. We got him some of those booties with little animal toys on them today so he can grab them; he loves them :)

SIL coming to stay Weds-Sat...I can't wait!!! Dh and I get to go to the cinema & out for dinner lovely to look forward to something so much that we completely took for granted pre-baby!

tomlin huge congrats on the new dn :) my bf was due today but no baby so far! I'm so excited :)

sk totally agree re babies growing up way too fast :( friends brought their 1-week-old to church today; I couldn't stop staring at him cos he was SO tiny & yet weighed more than my ds at birth...I just cannot believe ds was ever that small!

cari great news about the potential dc3 :)

Right, gonna go snuggle with dh on sofa before bed

Evening all

pamela how's DD doing? Thinking of you lots! Alex showing any signs?

Mills has had 5 days of spots now and they're starting to scab. She has sooooooo many, must be over 200 mainly on her neck and torso. She has one really nasty one at the base of her eyelashes which is making her right eye really swollen. Poor love. She is dealing with it exceptionally well though. Keeping her topped up with calpol and piriton. She definitely caught it from nursery so Harry wasn't exposed until she became ill. The incubation period is 14-21 days (I think) so Harry will more than likely start with spots this time next week.

Sorry to hear that quite a few of you are having sleep problems and perpetually congratulations! It must all be a bit of a shock at the moment. Hope you have a smooth pregnancy.

pigley I've booked the santa trip on the bluebird railway too after seeing your facebook post. I can't wait

Sorry for no more personals, must get to bed. I need to be feeling tip top tomorrow in order to be happy smiley mummy for my poorly toddler. Being housebound is so draining, makes me realise how even a trip to the duck pond brightens my day!

Oh Millington are you near me then?
We are in Crawley, West Sussex.

Evening all! Just popping in inbetween visitors! next batch arrive tomorrow :)

Tomlin - congrats on becomng an aunty :)

Perpetually - hi there! And congrats :) what a shock but have to admit i am jealous!!

Molly - DP not really behaving its driving me crazy :( fed up sounding like a broken record so he's getting the silent treatment, not sure what to do about it, nothing seems to get through to him.

Sorry to all those with poor sleep - its varied here - sometimes he sleeps through til 7am and other times he's up at 4.30am. He's been very unsettled during the day the past little while which is very exhausting and wont settle for anyone but me so no breaks here. Got my meeting at work tomorrow so my parents watching him for me so will get a 'break' for a little while.

On a positive note weaning gone much better over weekend, today being the best day - 2 cubes of pureed carrot + yoghurt for lunch and some apple at dinner time!!! Not confident enough for BLW here!!

Cupcake - Rian has just found his feet too - it's too cute - will have to get him some of those booties too :)

Pigley - your weekend sounds tiring but good fun :)

SK - i'm with you on the growing up to fast - sorting Rians clothes tonight he's now in 6-9 months

Millington - glad to hear DD being a wee trooper re chicken pox bless her, hope Harry copes ok if he does get it

Right off to feed the boy his supper and bed for me, night all :)

Brief post only as feeling a bit sorry for myself tonight -10 days until work. So miserable but trying to be brave. Dh trying to keep it light but not helping. Want to wallow. Tried to comfort eat earlier but made me feel sick. Dh bought me a box of lindor chocolates and ds and dd1 were around me like vultures looking for some. Dh likewise.

Anyway hope all the chickenpox gets better and that we have the best night we can with our non sleeping babies. Congrats knk / perpetuallypregnant. I am sure I want another one but scared of another nightmare pregnancy. Great for you to have the first trimester nearly over. Any scans yet? Are you sure it's just one more? Friends of a friend had an accidental no 4 which turned into numbers 4,5 and 6.

Hi,
Sort of pleased to hear that Ava isn't the only non-sleeper here (although total sympathy to you all too). It's half term this week and I have 3 older children who just bicker constantly (DS14,DD1,12 and DD2,7). They are generally great kids and I usually just ignore them but coupled with sleep deprivation and 'shit DC5' stress it's not fun. I'm snappier than usual.

I actually snapped at dd2 the other day and she looked at me and asked why I said that. I just said ignore me I'm grumpy and she said 'but you're never grumpy Mammy'... bless her.. the cute little tearaway she is.

I know somewhere in the distant future there are positives to having another one I am struggling to see it. DH is in denial and pretty much dismissing any talk of it. My lovely MIL has terminal cancer and is going downhill quite quickly and it's really hard for us all but particularly DH as she's always been so strong and fit. We took the baby over yesterday which she loved but I got such a shock when I saw her. :(

ANyway I have my scan sometime this week. I have a consultant appt tomorrow, not sure if he'll scan me or not but I haven't got an appt through yet. Possibly because I was almost 8 weeks when I found out and didnt see the mw until last week... denial!!

X-posts Molly... DON'T even go there!!!!!!! :)

Also forgot to say I have shit pregnancies with SPD :( That's part of my devastation to be honest. I can't imagine going through it all with a baby to look after too :(

That sounds tough re mil perpetuallypregnant. Hope the scan/appointment is ok. It'll be nice for ava to not just be the little one but to have an ally against the older, superior lot (that's one reason why I think we'll go again - ds and dd1 are 12 and 9). 5 is no worse than 4 from a transport perspective (cars either fit 3 dcs or 5 so no need for a minibus with 5). And SPD with a baby will be tough but would be worse with a toddler as Ava won't be really mobile before dc5 arrives.

Ok, that's my attempt at being positive for you. Takes my mind off my own wallowing. Night x

Quick post before bed.

Cupcake & Den - Darcey's favourite new toy is her feet! Makes nappy changes rather interesting... She has a good chomp on her heels all the time when teething gets too much.

Molly, I know what you mean about going back to work. I've still got 2 months at home, but I'll be going in one day a week from November to help me adjust. They've held onto a project that I suggested before I went on mat leave, so I've got something to keep me busy, but I'm still dreading it. Enjoy your last few days at home full time. Hope you adjust quickly too.

PP, I think you're entitled to be snappy with so much going on. What an emotional time. Thinking of you and your MIL.

Hi, just a quickie so I don't fall off.

Perptually congratulations!!!!! You might get two with the same birthday. Not sure about dc3 yet but Cupcakes description of a big family made me all broody.

Molly 21 days here till work and very

Hope those with the pox feel better soon :)

hi all shamelessly marking my place so i don't fall off again.
perpetually, congrats, but not envious at all, not yet anyway...

facourite toy feet here as well, nappy changes turning into baths,

monster demanding atention so will have to go

perpetually sorry to hear about your mil. How awful for you all. Maybe thats why this baby will be a blessing?
Also know how you feeling with the little darlings fighting. My ds fight all the time its like they really ... prob do hate each other.

Dos anybody know what happened to Anangelwithin? Last time I was on the thread her husband had left her and she didnt want to post anymore, so not to upset anyone else, bless her.

Well been to dh aunties 80th bday today. We all had tea and cake, but being Italian they couldnt resist trying to feed Lillia sponge cake with icing....omg wtf!!! And my mil is looking after her tommorow, no doubt she will be eating pasta and having a bottle of wine instead of milk lol!

Had my scan today :) New due date 6th May and all looks well.

I was so shocked when I saw the baby on the scan! You'd think by no 5 I'd know what to expect but it's amazing every single time. I felt so guilty because we hadn't wanted it and it was just lying there doing it's best to grow .

DH and I both had a bit of a reality check of sorts and we're even a little bit excited. Still not looking forward to the pregnancy at all but Ava has been so amazingly cute today too we know we are very lucky.

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Perpetually - congrats on the scan :) I love scan pictures, they always give me goosebumps. So sorry about your MIL :(

Mustbemad - I've been wondering about Angel as well, hope she's OK.

Re finding their feet - Corin loves his feet too! So cute, but does make nappy changing more difficult. His favourite thing at the moment is standing himself up and using furniture for balance . His christening is on Sunday, looking v.forward to seeing all our friends! My brother and his family have to travel over from France though, hope they can get fuel.

Hi perpetually. Don't feel guilty about the scan and baby not being wanted. With both my dds I've been so sick in first trimester that even though they were planned I've not been at all interested in them by the time of the 12 week scan. In fact with Molly I was so ill I really considered termination. And yet there they are growing, developing and doing their thing. I was so flat when scanned with Molls that they wanted to refer me to a psychiatrist. But she isn't ever going to be aware of that as she's loved so much now that she's here and that's when it counts.

Molly, you are so right. I am DC6 for my parents and my mother was really upset when she found out she was pg with me. Her docs recommended she have a termination as it was her 6th pg and she was 35 so they said it was high risk (and to think I was 35 when I had dc1 - how times change!). They went ahead all the same and I can honestly say that I have never felt any less loved or wanted than any of my siblings and my mother wouldn't change anything. So perpetually it will all come right and you are going to have a fantastic family (albeit a bit bigger than planned ).

Right, I'm taking the dd's up to Chester to stay with my parents for a few days - back at the end of the week...hope everyone has a good week...

permanently- sorry about your mil, just try to spend a lot of quality time with her to gather some nice memories, we lost grandma a couple of xmas ago, but we spent the whole of xmas in her house, all the family, it was sad but the best xmas ever, now when i think of her, i just remember that xmas.
don't feel guilty that you didn't plan this child, it is a shock and you'll come round, by spring next year you will be buying little cute outfits, and by may, when you both can hold her/him, this worry now will be a distant memory.
angel- i had find her in a couple of threads, after she left this one, i don't think things were going well with her husband, i hope i am wrong, but haven't found her in a long time, maybe we should look for her in advance search. is she in fb?
mbm- ohhh, mediterranean families, we are gallegos, very matriarcal, and we already have grandma setting up for me how to wean oscar, i do want the advice though, we are going for xmas for a couple of weeks, i bet i won't be allowed in the kitchen to prepare purees...
how is everybody doing with chiken poxx? tips for when our time comes, please? have you all got it as a child? i haven't, does that mean i can be with oscar when he does? must ask gp for advice.
den- busy busy bee, lots of work but is great to have visitors....
molly- are you ok? why are you feeling low? talk to us...

oh permanently- i do hope your mil is going to be alright ish in the end, i just read my post and sounds catastrophic...

must be the aspergen syndrom

Hi wltk. I'm ok but back to pretty much full time work next week. Already back at one of my jobs - I do a morning a week in a consultancy role for the health board. I can't manage my usual hours for them as there are no facilities to express so it's a bit uncomfortable really. I was there this am and Molly went through the ebm at a scary rate. I have a pile of frozen milk but I'm worried it won't be enough. I also would love another baby and can't imagine managing another dreadful pregnancy. I'm fine though and reaaly enjoying my gorgeous daughter.