May 2010 - Drooling, smiling, cooing and nearly sleeping through (and that's just the mummies!)

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Hi Ladies,

I hope you don't mind, I started a new thread as our first one was quite full! I can't believe we're a quarter-way through the first year already!

TOmlinTowers - I LOVE 'stagefright in his nose'! Wonderful!

Pamelat - would it help him to see your point of view if you left him alone with the kids for a short while? :( for you though, sounds like a tough situation. I'd hate DH doing anything like that.

Millingtonsmummy - don't worry about your shy DD, she sounds lovely. I'm cripplingly shy myself but my DD has tonnes of confidence so I doubt you've passed it on particularly. Tbh, I wish mine was a bit shyer because she just rushes into any situation and it can be a bit embarrassing how little she needs me (and difficult when she isn't really old enough to deal with the situation IYSWIM?). I always worry about it I find soft play places quite scary and intimidating!

Pigley - that sounds a shame with your uni friends, I'd be really upset if ours didn't want to stay with us anymore. We don't really go out much and all our uni friends live a long way away so we look soooo forward to seeing them and sitting up in the evening playing games. It's nice that they're thinking of you, but understand why you're disappointed.

Had a lovely day out with MIL yesterday at the local pony centre. They had an end of season sale in the gift shop so have picked up various stocking fillers, I love doing stockings.

Lost us again, marking place so I can try to catch up :)

Hi everyone, hope everyone is well. We're not doing too bad here, going into work later today to catch up on my classes progress, get class lists, tidy my room (again!!!!! ) and find out how much crap I'm going to have to sort out in November. Thankfully my head of department saw my missed calls on her mobile eventually and rang me back on Friday night. I'm not looking forward to going back :( Had a falling out with my aunt, who looked after dd1 when I was at work, on the day that Grace was born and I'm not looking forward to her having both girls when I go back to work next month as they haven't really spent any time with her at all. Getting quite stressed about it, it's keeping me up when grace isn't.

Not sure if I mentioned that dd1 started playschool on thursday and absolutely loved it. It's ran by an older couple and their daughter and they get snacks towards the end of the session. 2 hours for £2.50, bargain!!!

We've also completely finished bf here which I'm sad about but if she wakes in the night now it isn't enough to settle her any more. I'm so pleased I got to experience it though and have to thank you ladies for that, it's not something that women in my family have done and I got a lot of unhelpful comments from them in the first few months when she wasn't putting on weight :(. If we have a third I will definitely do it again, but I have to thank you for the strength you have given me to do it for so much longer than I ever thought I could. :o

20th - tantrums in public (or in front of my dm) are the worst, can't believe no-one was sympathetic, we've all been there. :( Girls are both much better now and ready for injections tomorrow.

Tomlin - your 30ths both sound fab, partying all weekend sounds like a distant memory to us now. I imagine work will get a supply teacher in to cover my classes but they may not be a biologist, and with all due respect to supply teachers, they never seem to be able to handle the kids very well and you end up with loads of behaviour issues that take till easter to sort out. Glad your enjoying your new house and I hope your dsis is doing ok. :)

Homebirth - at your home gym, it takes me so much effort to go to the local gym ten minutes away. Can't shift this belly though :(

Pamelat - at your routine, we haven't got one at all though we do manage to get out of the door by 9am. Glad the exam went well. :)

SK - glad you enjoyed CP's. In regards to pooing, sick, teething etc... Does it get worse each time because I don;t think I could cope with another worse than my little poo machine. I am yet to make it through a day when I'm not covered in sick, wee or poo or a combination. She never does it on dh though!

Millington - your dd sounds like me as a child, I'm very shy, but I think it's because I come from a very loud and outgoing family. I don't think it's anything you've done or not done, it's just who she is. Another x factor and strictly fan here, loving Matt. :)

Pigley - we have bags of various size clothes for dd2 all over the house at the moment, it's lovely to see them getting used again. We also checked the loft to see which toys will be suitable for Grace for Christmas and brought a few noisy toys down early. We're also saving all the baby things in case dc3 ever comes after a weekend of ebaying.

heffa, i too find soft play a bit overwhelming, glad its not just me.

holly, for you at the end of bf, my DD3 decided to stop when she was 11 months and i was so upset. i know it is hard at times and i am struggling to keep virginia's weight at an 'acceptable' level this time but i wouldnt ever want to do it differently now and would be unhappy if things went pear-shaped and i had to give up.(i am so stubborn! i have wondered if i should just give in but cannot bring myself to do it) i fed dd1 til dd2 was 6months, dd2 til dd3 was 6 months and felt then it was something to keep quiet about but now i have the WHO on my side if i continue it makes it all so much more acceptable! was very surprised that they reccommend 'til 2 and beyond', i'd be happy to argue the case with objectors now as i have such a huge organisation behind me.
BUT, i am so glad that you have enjoyed feeding your baby yourself, you are in a more privelaged (sp?) place to me in that you can compare 2 types of feedng, does it feel emotionally different to bottle feed a baby?

well, i was thinking of starting weaning last week (18 weeks) but a few FBers convinced me it was just a spurt. thanks guys, we got through it! 2 nights now of only 2 feeds instead of the hourly!
i have been reading about blw, so different to anything ive done before, but sounds so exciting, really looking forward to it, my only worry is that my book says a baby will only be able to get food that is suitable into its mouth, eg, no fine pincer grasp so no small things to choke on etc. and of course with three big sisters around i am worried they will 'help' her and put her at risk, i am not sure i can convince them that really the best thing for her is for us to sit back and let her teach herself. we shall see. BRING ON THE MESS!

well, i have things to do, enjoy your day everybody, last week of term here before a weeks hols, eek.

can't you believe it!!! i fall off the thread....

morning all, dh says i am a bit too cranky, i told him that might be cos i need more time to myself

pam- good luck on those results, i too am never sure until i read them, even if i thought i did well... dh is unreasonable to try to go away for 6-7 hours on a weekend, what he thinks he is 20? he would be so cross if tried to let him a whole saturday alone with the 2 dcs, no doubt he would go to his mum... anyway a few hours every two weeks is fine ...

tomlin, i too was induce, since the first gel thingy it took me 32 hours to diate fully, leave that part out to your dsis, then his heartbeat falled and they wanted to go for c-sec, but me and midwife said not without trying and i delivered 20 min later with a big cut, they had to used a ventuse, cos he was far too up, wasn't ready yet... but a c-sec should be the last resolt....normally is, wish her good luck

pigley- those unsymphatetic mums, karma will come and get them... i always smile and say a little comment, we all had been there, or will be...

holly- well done on bf, look at it this way: every feed counts, i had to mixed ffed and stop at 4 and a half months, but hey nobody thought i could do so much, so well done us!

oscar had discovered toys, so we went to the new shop of mothercare that has a early learning centre inside and spent far too much at a very bad time of the month but hey, we got s new bouncer that converts into a chair and can be used until 40 lb... great because he look like gulliver in the baby one... and some toys, noisy ones, tried them all before buying to see if he likes them, got funny looks from the staff but....

funny anecdote: my sky+ box doesn't work well, it turns up that it wasn't installed properly so i called to arrange an engineer to come and sort it out, what the operator tell me?

• but there is no problem cos you can still watch tv....

you think anyone fall for that, ... not me, no! got a mouthfull [not sure of the spelling emoticon, but you know what i mean]

Haven't been on for days as had MIL staying. Was good that she was here as DH and I went to the cinema on Friday night (Despicable Me in 3D - loved it!) and then went to see a band on Saturday night.

No experience of induction here but hope all goes well for your DSIS Tomlin.

Good luck for your exam results Pamelat and fwiw I think that your DH is being unreasonable to play every weekend. I made a point of saying to DH last night that although he doesn't get to do what he wants all the time anymore, there are so many other things that he is now doing eg DD1 (19mo) made him dance with her this weekend and it was really lovely to see.

Am having a really bad day here - washing machine has packed up (again!) even though it is only 6 months old. Fortunately the nappy wash had just finished so we don't have them sitting around smelling, but the girls will be in disposables for the rest of the week as the engineer won't come until next Monday. So had to go to the launderette with their clothes. DD2 managed to make me bleed today whilst bf so I'm just hoping that side heals before the next feed is due as it's a bit sore. No idea how that happened - having got through nearly 5 months I thought we were ok. I also managed to cut my finger whilst getting dinner ready so I'm sat here feeling sorry for myself and comfort eating

ok, should i be worried that my baby has been sleeping for the last 2 hours, added to the two naps he took today, or am i just in for a bad night?

he never naps more than 20 mins twice a day, i took his temp, he has not got a fever...

come on ,ladies, tell me all to stop freaking out...

Cari so of your cinema trip! Dh and I love movies and used to go to cinema about twice a week :( miss it sooo much. SIL is staying over our wedding anniversary in a couple of weeks though so we're going to a movie and dinner then can't wait!

holly well done on the bfing; you did amazingly well. Must be so hard without family's support. I'm about 6 lbs away from my pre-preg weight now but like you, can't see this mummy tummy shifting anytime soon!!

welcome coffeebeans :)

millington I lol'd at the image of Harry just sitting there with baby rice coming out of his mouth, not 'getting' weaning I love watching Jude's face when he tries a new food. So far he's had baby rice, carrot, sweet potato, banana, apple and pear. Banana is the favourite. I bought swede and parsnip today so we'll see what he makes of those! I'm really enjoying weaning even if he isn't

first thanks for heading over to that thread :)

Sorry not to do more personals...have read all your news though. Hope everyone is enjoying the start of another week :)

carikube, i feel your pain!

Holly - congratulations on bfing so long, that's amazing, especially if it's something your family don't do! Glad your girls are feeling better :)

WLTK - he might just have needed a good long nap, hope he slept well last night :)

Carikube - evening at the cinema sounds great! Hope your washing machine gets sorted soon.

I took DD back to the GP again yesterday and found out she's got a UTI. It's the third time I've taken her because she's been poorly since getting a cold 4/5 weeks ago and I was sure there was something wrong. Glad I was right and we've got it diagnosed but :( for my poorly little girl. Got some ABs for her but they're aniseed flavour which is yuk! She's not keen on taking it (don't blame her). I think that might be why she's not been herself recently as well.

We had to take DS to the emergency doctor at the weekend as well because he has a really waxy ear. I'm super-paranoid about glue ear since I had it really badly so keeping an eye on it. Hopefully they'll be both healthy and fighting fit again soon.

Tomlin - hope your DSis is OK, is she excited about tomorrow?

Me post I'm afraid...
After a rubbish day yesterday that drove me to drink , dd1 then decided that last night was going to be the night that she screamed all night. She was in with us for a while, then dd2 woke up for a feed (probably disturbed by the noise) before I took dd1 in to the spare room with me so that DH could at least get some sleep. She spent the rest of the night screaming and nothing I did could calm her down. Just as I thought she was going to drift off at about 6am, she suddenly decided that she was in a good mood and started jumping up and down on me.

I'm shattered today and it's not helped by dd2 being determined not to have any daytime nap at all. I've tried teething powders, calpol, bf and copious amounts of sticking my finger in her mouth and she's still not dropping off. I was hoping dd1 would have a mega nap after her bad night, but she was only down for less than normal and even then woke up for a scream in the middle.

And DH won't be home til late tonight so I have to do bedtime on my own. Aaaarrrrggghhh!!!!!

me post, very close to losing it with dd (2.9) she is being awful

Alex is so mellow and so easy. Have a lovely relaxing day with him, sleeping to plan (all be it with a dummy habit and up all night) baby swimming etc) pick daughter up, within 10 mins, chaos. She is just being horrid.

makes me really sad as makes me not to want to see her thats awful isnt it i love her but if its not the whining, its the manipulation, not the whining and manipulatino then tantrum. Am seriously considering take her to gp and seeing if behavioural problems.

carikube just read your post, I need wine.

Carikube - sounds like a horrible day :( Hope bedtime goes OK and you can relax with something yummy once they're both sleeping. It's awful when you're shattered and they don't even nap.

Pamelat - :( for you. Has your DD always been difficult or just since Alex was born? It sounds like v.hard work so maybe it is worth going to the GP - it might be good just to have someone proper to talk to about it and set your mind at rest. Hope you're OK and manage to chill this evening. Might she be poorly? My DD is always harder work when she's unwell, that's normally how I know something's the matter.

thanks shes always been difficult, even as a baby. V high spirited, independent, sensitive, vulnerable, bright, funny etc etc

She got worse after Alex for a bit but then ok, this is beyond awful today

A lot of her nursery peers have chicken pox, am sort of "hoping" shes ill as its quite scary how angry she got.

Whats also worrying us is that she keeps saying she doesnt like people. She likes me, daddy, Alex, nana and grandpa and about 2 friends (shes consistent with this) but no one else, and acts in a disliking fashion with those she says she doesnt like

Its only now I have Alex that I realise that not all babies are impossibly hard work too, I used to cry most days with her.

I took her someone yesterday and after 20 mins HV called her "demanding" so I would imagine I am now on some kind of watch list

She sounds very bright? That can be very demanding. My DM was a primary school headteacher and knows a lot about child development and reckons that the high-spirited ones are often the brightest and that they just get bored easily. Although, if she's coming down with chickenpox, it might explain why she's been so bad today.

I don't know about the not liking people thing, whether that's normal or not. My DNiece went through a stage of talking about her "enemies" at around that age so it doesn't sound too weird.

Hope you're OK :)

Heffa- Was Sundays trip out to the Minature pony centre? I have fond memories of going there as a little girl and cant wait to take the girls there.
Poor DD, I hope she feels better soon and the yucky medicine helps. :( and that DS ear doesnt develop into something worse.

Holly- Glad to hear that DD is enjoying Nursery. We are going to look into somewhere for DD1 after xmas.

HB4- I loved BLW with DD1 and have some wickedly messy pics! (on FB) Cant wait to start with Lucy.:)

Carikube- on you evenings out. Sounds like an awful day yesterday :( Hope you have a better night tonight! Whilst typing this DH is upstairs settling DD1 again as she woke crying. Very unlike her so hope shes not coming down with something.

Pamlet- Sorry you are having a rough time with DD. I hope for your sake that shes just playing up more as she is abit under the weather.
I find DD has little phases when shes worse than others. Good as gold for a few weeks then a week of trouble. She is only 2.2 though so can expect tantrums whenever really!
I agree with Heffa about brighter kids getting very frustrated. I found that when I was working in Nurseries pre kids and have noticed it with DD. She is constantly trying to do things above her ifkwim and gets very frustrated when shes physically not able to.

following on from that..
DD1 has amazed us tonight by reading 3 letter words. She spells out the letters then says the words. She will be reading by the time she starts school!

Lucy's teeth have been playing her up the past few days and has been rather grumpy and clingy. Also chomping on whatever she can grab!

Excitingly ive booked to take the girls on a steam train trip to see Santa. DD has developed an interest in trains lately. (Daddy goes to work on the train) so will love it. Really looking forward to it!

Hi All

DSis is still pg - dr came today and so no slot tomorrow and she's stable so will let her go on until she deteriorates. She is disappointed for herself, she was all geared up to go, but pleased that baby will now be 37+ which is fab when you consider they were discussing induction at 34wks!

Pamelat - I have no suggestions with your DD except have you considered asking HV to see if she is bright? Often very bright children get bored easily and need more challenge and stimulation. Maybe HV can point you in the direction of some help, or could you research on the internet? Do you get any feedback from any childcare providers about her behaviour in the context of her behaviour with her peers or when she is away from you? Maybe speak to her playgroup leader/whoever if she has one? Hope you get something sorted out soon, it sounds terribly stressful and it's making you feel sad.

Pigley - the train ride sounds fab, hope the girls enjoy it! I have just invested in the Oxford Reading Tree books to help DS get started with reading. He can do names and household items etc and all his letters and numbers to 20 [proud mummy emoticon!], but my DS is 3.4 - your DD sounds like a prodigy!!

Night all x

morning all,

awake this early due to tesco direct, they have the worst delivery slot ever 7am-7pm, so here i am in the living with lo sleeping still....arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

anyway, half asleep, i might take the chance to study a bit... got an essay to write soon. baby is fab and has taking to nap 1/2 h in the morning about 11, and then like and hour after lunch time, about 2, and then another hour in the evening about 6, still sleeps through the night, must learn to put the time to good use...

i'll do a sorry attempt at personal:
pigley it is great to do things with the kids that you enjoyed as little... there is lots to do in the south east too.
pamelat when einstein was a child his math teacher thought he was retarded because he couldn't concentrate in class, was bored and very demanding, maybe you have a little genious, find out was she is interested in and nurture... and some hv are really thick, don't get worry about what they say... last time i weight oscar he had a little rush on his tommy, just dried skin she said, no need for gp, took him to the docs the next day with a terrible cold, the rush the first sign of a viral infection... apparently once you become an hv you don't need to upgrade your knowledge ever, i've been reading...
tomlin hug your dsis for us, i can understand she is dissapointed at still pregnant but remind her, every day in womb counts, she will get to full term this way...
carikube i am full of admiration for those of you handling more than one child, i do wonder how i'll do when is my turn... it is all ok with just the one, i sleep when he does, i play with him, most days he is the only thing i do, how you do the same with a toddler in tow?
heffa my gp's best advice: 'trust your mother instinct' if you think your baby is sick, he probably is, also when done in getting dd to have the yacky meds...
there are a few we are not hearing from: angel, molly, katey are we all ok?

heffa that was well done, not when. dough!

Hi all

Sorry have been neglecting you all. Feeling so ill with a nasty cold. Everyone else in the family has had to a much lesser extent so it must just be the sleep deprivation/exhaustion that has knocked me so much for six. Molls is fine though - clearly getting all the antibodies from the milk but I'd like some antibodies too please so I can get better. DH had an interview yesterday and may need to go to Dublin tomorrow for the next stage if he's been successful but no phone call yet so doesn't look positive.

Oh and thanks for the positive vibes re the house valuation but unfortunately it wasn't at all good. We're now looking at plan B options for our finances.

pamelat sorry dd is driving you nuts. My first born - ds was/is always challenging. He's incredibly loving too - it's as if he knows exactly how far he can push me. No advice really - just keep keeping on. You're NBU about the hockey IMHO FWIW. Any luck resolving the issue?

welcome coffeebeans glad your DS is doing well after a scary start. Love the name too.

millingtonsmummy dd1 got thrush a lot when she was little and it never fully resolved fully until we discovered she had worms and we treated that - seems she was making the thrush worse by scratching at night

heffa how's the driving going? Glad the girls are doing better and that the uti is finally getting treated.

hormonalmum sounds so tough. Molls takes ebm as long as I'm out of the house so maybe you just need to go out and see how it goes?

hollyoaks sorry about all the stress at work. It's hard enough going back without all that. I've now gone back to one of my jobs - it's 4 hours a week only but the main job starts again in 2 weeks :(. It was weird being back yesterday talking about work stuff and reading up/catching up. Well done with bf considering how tough it was.

pigley 30th birthday! I feel old. DH had his 40th a few years back. We didn't really do much for his 30th as we were skint. I found a lot of my friendships changed once we had kids too but it is hard at the time.

HBM glad the feeding frenzy has settled a bit. We're still holding off on the weaning at 21 weeks. She very nearly had dd1's pizza the other day though!

tomlin Molls didn't engage under I was well into labour. She suddenly dropped down and was out in no time after that. It's all so unpredictable, this business.

carikube re cinema. That's the one thing I miss and it's been ages as I couldn't really go while pg with all the wretching and puking. I will be going to Harry Potter though - think that's next month. Might have to smuggle Molly in as she's still such a boob monster. So sorry about your dreadful day

sk glad you enjoyed CP. I'd love to go there again. Maybe next year - France won't happen as the valuation/remortgage plan failed but we might stretch to CP.

Sorry to those I've missed. I'm going to watch tv in front of the fire now and nurse my cold. Love to all.

Hi All, sorry not been on for a while.

bloody freezing here today - we have sleat!!

MBM3 - have girls night out planned for next month - DP watch out!! :)

pigley - do you have a number for the tetley man?? Can you tell your friends how much you were looking forward to them staying? Maybe they dont realise?

TCHell - like name change!! have you tried matalan? Hope your ok after session at childrens centre, are you able to get a break from kids for a bit?

Coffeebeans - welcome to you and brandon :)

Hollyweens - (nice name!!) sorry things at work not great - not good for returning eh? if any consolation i have to meet with my manager re changes?? think they are closing more beds on my ward so who knos what will happen to my post - meant to meet her today but she's off sick :( it sucks - woudn't it be nice to not have to work?? :)

WLTK - Glad your friend apologised. I guess you have to weigh up how much you want to stay in touch and that your not always doing the chasing - a friend of mine had a baby in june and i have seen her once as she keeps cancelling on me - i'm fed up with it and have stopped calling her now, figured its her loss... (i'm prob not best person to give advice on this subject at minute!!!)

Tomlin - glad your dsis made it to 37 wks, and hopefully she is so besotted by the little bundle that she is completely oblivious to all else going wrong :) Well done for having a housefull too!!!

Homebirth - i'm very impressed re home gym :)

Pamelat - your officially supermum - exams and swimming!!! Good luck with the results :) Sorry your having trouble with DD as this is my first time, no advice either, sorry.

SK - glad you enjoyed hol apart from lack of sleep!!! 2 teeth here too at 22 weeks!!!

Carikude - hope things are improving, no sleep makes everything 10 times worse :(

MOlly - hope you feel better soon.

Started weaning with Rian here at weekend, took 2 teaspoons of baby rice at most, have tried banana which he keeps spitting out - this is going to be so difficult i think!!

Trying to get into a daytime nap routine with him sleeping in his cot for his morning nap with mixed success!!!

Hope everyone well and little ones behaving :)
New phone arrived just arrived so off to play... :)

hi all
den nice to hear from you, i think you are the right person to give advice, you know how i feel... my nice friend apologized, and that was the last i heard from her, no answer to messages on fb or email, still no explanation or a word what happened with dh, i am thinking probably dumped him for a younger version.... she wouldn't tell me, she wouldn't get my blessing. bitching over, i am going to wait for her to contact me, if she doesn't or takes a long time, i may say her loss... she used to be such a nice girl, changed a lot in the last couple of years, new friends and new personality to match.
molly take care of yourself, and good on molly taking antibodies

not weanning yet here, 24 weeks tomorrow, we'll wait after 6 months to start with purees, i don't like the idea of the baby rice, surely banana is much better...
tip: to make the banana easier to have, mix it with a bit of mandarine juice, spanish paedetrician bible...

i got a new phone too, so lots to play too... i should be studying really...