May 2010 - Drooling, smiling, cooing and nearly sleeping through (and that's just the mummies!)

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Hi Ladies,

I hope you don't mind, I started a new thread as our first one was quite full! I can't believe we're a quarter-way through the first year already!

Hormonal- Sorry your struggling with her taking a bottle. No advice im afraid :(
But good to hear from you :)

Pamlet- What awful news about your friend :( Makes you realise life is so precious.

WLTK- I looked into Amber necklaces too but abit put off re Safety but I know people who swear by them.
I did a post asking about them a while ago which might be worth searching for.
Re your friend- Maybe just chat every now and again on FB, You may find there was a very good reason she disappeared on you, Especially as you say DH is not around anymore.

Heffa/Hell :)- Agree the supermarkets do cheap online clothes. Next is my fav but also M&S stuff is good quality.

CoffeeBeans- Welcome, Glad to hear Brandon is doing well now.
Search for Mumsnet May 2010 Babies on FB. Request to join and ill add you as im the adminstrator.

Hollyoaks- Glad DD has enjoyed School :)
I loved doing DH's 30th too. It was all a big secret from him which made it even more fun. Mine next year and DH has already mentioned about whisking me away to Venice! It was going to be a suprise but wasnt sure how I would feel about leaving the kids for a weekend. Im sure i'll be ready by then!

I have a card for our joint account but just feels very odd using it. Im sure ill get used to it eventually. I'll have to If we are going to eat! :)

Thankfully having a good day today after a nightmare day yesterday. Both girls were so moany and grizzly. DD1 had the devil in her and was coming out with "I want to throw things!" I even forgot my mums birthday yesterday too! She had her card and gift at the weekend but I usually call her. Thankfully she was fine about it!

What is the fb group called? cant find it :(

hi all
back from walkies, we left at 2.30 pm, not that i intended to be this long, but... i was going to pick up dh at work, but i put the pram into pushchair mode, so i don't carry the carseat/basket anymore, he didn't install the new carseat yet, ended up sitting with a cup of tea in sainsbury's, did a bit of shopping....there you go

my friend, right, i was 7 motnhs pregnant she send me a text saying that she had the day off but was too busy to see me due to having to shave her legs, wtf?, never heard from her again, by then she was having problems with dh, mainly she was 29 he was 61, she stopped liking the middleage lifestyle, much rather go to london whole weekend without him, read weekend= thursday to monday, he works monday to friday, starting to get piss off her... right after that, dissapeared, contacted a week ago on fb and email, she is in miami, she wants me to ring her in the states, but refuses to tell me a good time so we can talk long, she won't call me, has numbers and home addres to write too....ignored completetly the birth of my son, not a card, not a call, also refuses to tell me what is she doing by herself in miami, considering dh lives in england (if still together) and her mum and daughter live in another south american country, she hasn't live with her daughter since she was 2/3, she is now 8, 9 in xmas...
as she is asking me to do all the hard work, and paid calls, and refuses to even explain what the hell has happened and assures to be perfectly fine i do wonder if it worth it for me, or she just dump me again in a few month
note that she hardly ever saw me during my pregnancy because she wasn't happy for me to be pregnant, she can't bring her kid to europe due to legal reasons to do with her dad, and wants another baby, but dh refuses because he is 61, already have 2 grown up kids and a grandson, he accepted her daughter from the begining and spent a lot of money in legal procedures to try to bring her here.
so what you think?
sorry for the long me post, but i am in two mind, i would love to be friends again but i got a feeling she is not gonna be a very good friend, by the way, i look in her fb profile and she has kept in touch with most people...

first, i can't remeber the name but look it in one of our profiles, you can see it as friend

Hi Ladies,

Just a quickie with a link to our fb group page: Mumsnet May 2010 Babies

Can I ask anyone who is in the group who hasn't done, can you go to the "Dicussions" tab and add your name under the topic "Who we all are" if you want everyone else to be able to figure out who you are!

First- Its called Mumsnet May 2010 Babies

WLTK- Sounds to me like sonething has happened with her DH. If you dont want to call her tell her you cant afford to call or that its awkward to call with Oscar of something and can you just talk online for a while.
Maybe she feels abit embarrased that she has left it so long to get back in touch or seeing you with your son hurts when she isnt with her daughter.
Only you can decide if you really want to attempt to recover the friendship though.

Just enjoyed a yummy chinese :)

friend update, she send an email saying that nothing weird happened, just a job turned up in usa and there she went, she realises that it was bad of her not to even sent an email and apologises, said she had some problems and drifted off the radar without realising, hopes we can she each other when she comes back to england next year.
i think i'll keep in touch on line, and when she explains what happened i'll see if i want to see her, her visa depends on dh so she must be at least legally married...but want talk about dh at all, not a mention.
i'll keep an open mind until i know what's what.

Just running in to trick or treat with my new halloween name. :o

Hollyoaks - the work situation sounds very stressful :( Are you able to talk to anyone to get some reassurance about the state of things when you go back? Hope your DDs are all better soon.

WLTK - sounds like your friend has maybe been a bit stressed? Keeping an open mind sounds best.

Pigley - weekend in Venice sounds fab! It's not my 30th for a few years but looking forward to it already!

Horrible day today :( Took DD out to a children's centre 'learning together 2-3' session which we sometimes go to. She started off with a huge tantrum because we were making clay things outside in the garden and she just wanted to run off and explore the garden (which opens onto the road). All other mums silent and staring while she tantrummed so I felt really tearful afterwards (mostly because I'm sooo tired after us all being poorly for so long). The rest of the session just seemed really stressful so was trying not to cry, but not managing it really :( Went home and burst into tears. I think I'm mostly just v.rundown and need a break but feel a bit :( that no-one even asked if I was OK or anything although I guess everyone was just busy with their own children. If I see someone struggling I always try and throw a kindly smile their way at least. Anyway, just wanted to get that off my chest, sorry for me post!

Hi All

Just a quick update as I am knackered - Molly, I was with you watching the Chile miners last night! Didn't get to be til 3.45am - feeding DD, then DS wanted the toilet, then he needed water, then his covers had fallen off, then he wanted to see Daddy, then DD needed feeding again....ARGH!

Will try to catch up as best I can but brain not really working today...

Welcome coffee - sounds like Brandon is doing well. My DSis has been diagnosed pre-eclampsia with her first - do you mind me asking exactly when you were induced and the reason for it? DSis was taken into hospital yesterday for daily monitoring, but they have allowed her home today because her protein levels are just below the line where induction would be indicated. She is 36 + 1 today and trying to get to 37 weeks next Wed...fingers crossed!

Hormonal - no advice on the bottle, but we have a couple of doidy cups. DS never took to them to be honest but he loved his bottle - hope they work for you.

Pamelat - shocking news about your friend, things like that make you appreciate what you have. My BIL has just lost a very close friend to lung cancer at the age of 42 - absolutely tragic. We need to live and enjoy every day. Good luck with your exam!

Heffa - M & S do a slightly cheaper range of clothing that is labelled "Outstanding Value" - we got all DS's playgroup clothes from this range and they have been good ime. Wash well, keep shape and colour etc. I think trousers are about £8 and you can get multipacks for less than £10. Sorry about your terrible day, that doesn't sound a pleasant experience. I always try to smile sympathetically if I see another parent struggling, I think it is nice to show solidarity because it happens to everyone! Hope tomorrow is a better day.

Hollyoaks - the situation at your school sounds awful. Surely they will have to get someone else in to cover the biology syllabus? Hope you don't go back to a complete nightmare - when are you due back, sorry I have forgotten. Your DH's 30th sounds fab - I really enjoyed planning my DH's 30th too. It was a complete surprise for him - he thought we were going for a weekend away together (pre-DC!), and when we arrived, we had hired a bunk barn and 46 of our friends and family were there too! We had a party for the whole weekend. It was fab. We went back for my 30th two years later, but by that time we had a 18 month year old DS, so the partying was somewhat curtailed! Hope your DH has a fab time!

Pigley - I understand how you feel about the joint account, but you have to remember you are doing work of value in raising your children, it's just that you don't get paid. We have a joint account where both our wages (when I earn one!) are paid in, but then we both get the same amount of "pin money" paid each month into our separate accounts and we can do what we like with that money. That way, if DH wants a new camera lens, or I want to spend stupid money on a hair cut or a new coat, it comes out of our money and not the joint account. We find that works well for us, and it is guilt free spending, because it is my money and not our money iyswim?

DSis update - as mentioned above, she was admitted to hospital yesterday as her results had "significantly" worsened. However, her BP has now stabilised in the low 80s and her protein levels are just below the induction line so she has been sent home with strict instructions to rest, rest, rest and go back in every other day for checking. Basically, the plan is to get her to 37 weeks (next Wed) and then induce but if her results worsen on Sat or Mon appts then that will be that and baby will be here. Not engaged at the moment though so if induced she would have to have c-sec. I have no experience of babies not engaging - mine were both engaged at 34 weeks. Is there anything she can do to get the baby engaged at all? Does anyone know anything about induction if the baby isn't engaged?

We are all fine here. We had 7 kids to visit today so am whacked out - they were people I met through NCT when we were having DS so there were 5 three year olds, 2 under 12 months and DD! The house worked fabulously though - first time we have had a large group of people over - much better than the old house for socialising. I had a small proud mummy moment as well, as DS was an angel and shared his toys really nicely - that has been an issue for him in the past. Got to enjoy it when things go well!

Right off to bed as am going round to DSis' tomorrow to do her cleaning. Will take my cheesy cleaning music and go and do some more dusting dancing!

Night!

PS SK - hope you are having a fab time at CP!

Tomlin - Chloe was induced at 40+9 and not engaged. I had two prostin pessaries 6hours apart, (some women need 3) then had my waters broken as soon as that happened woosh I literally felt her drop down with a bang - very weird feeling! Had syntocin drip. Start to finish was 28hours. Doesn't have to be csec at all. Good luck to her!

Hi, i've requested to join the fb page. My initials are cp. I was induced on april 29, 3 times, it didn't work as it was my first pregnancy. My protein levels were very high. I wasn't feeling poorly though. In the morning before I was rushed to hospital (April 26) i'd actually been out shopping on my own. I went to the midwife appt in my slippers, I thought it was going to be routine! I was really huge, swollen legs & feet. I mentioned to the midwife that I had slight pain down one side of my head, she took a urine sample & called an ambulance! I even refused painkillers in the hospital because the headache wasn't bad at all. Then on may 1st my perfect little fella was born by c section at 3.20pm. I was totally amazed by his skin & lips, I thought he would look a bit different because he was 4 weeks early. Anyhow, good morning all

We keep trying different things with dd2 - have ruled bottles out but a cheap boots 'sippy' cup is the latest thing. Doidy cup has been tried but I hope to try again now she is a bit older.
I still not had chance to catch up with the thread.. useless alert.
Welcome coffeebeans, I pop in and out and not a regular like I hoped I would be. One day, I hope to be!

Heffa- Its so annoying isnt it. Their kids are just the same im sure! I too always like to give a little sympathic smile. A few weeks ago DD was starting to get silly whilst doing the shopping. Another mum with a toddler was suffering the same and made a joke with me about how much fun it is shopping with kids. It just made the whole thing more lighthearted and less stressful :)

Tomlin- Hope your sis is ok. Not 100% sure but I remember reading that sometimes babies dont engage untill the labour starts.

Coffeebeans- Ive sent you a Message via here.

Manic morning here- Was due to visit a friend and her toddler but when we got there the curtains were drawn and there was no answer. Not answering the phone either. Poor DD was upset as she wanted to see her friend. We ended up doing the weekly shopping instead. Shes just text to say they didnt wake till 11.30!!
She is the most unreliable person ever, Is always late, scatty and her poor daughter is all over the place! Even on a good day they cant be available till 11am.- Thats half the day gone for me!! She recently told me she is thinking of another baby... She'd never manage it!
Sorry Rant over :)

heffa, so much for maternal solidarity hey! it must have been horrible but one day it will be their child and you can show them how it is done

today is the second day i have forced myself into our home gym, done 200 calories worth of rowing, 30 reps of all multigym activities and 30 situps each day, do you think i will see a difference soon?
virginia plays in her own lamaze playgym whilst i get red and very sweaty lol

pigley, your poor dd, what with this friend and the ballet i am surprised she is not in meltdown!

pigley am quite envious of your friends days starting at 11am!!!I cant imagine a child sleeping so late, she must go to bed really late?

Would be annoyed if I had made plans with her.

I am sometimes too organised and probably annoy people with my structured times, I can generally only meet about 10/1030am or after 2pm due to nap and feed times etc but it works for me.

Re toddler behaviour. I sometimes feel like my DD is worst behaved/whining little girl in the world I always give sympathetic smiles to fellow tantrum sufferers, always make me feel better to get it

Exam went well, I think. 3 hours of solid writing!! Was no where near as tiring as taking both children swimming afterwards, feel exhausted and a bit grumpy had a glass of wine last night (large) and think feel a little hungover, v irresponsile on exam day really

Hi all couldn't post at CPs am on iPhone so forgive lack of personals so I cannot scroll down.

Had great hol the girls had a fab time, Jacob was quite happy being wheeled around he has plenty to look at. Nights were he'll though the first night we were there between DD1, DD3 and Jacob I was up over 12 times and up for good at 530 ouch!!

Big news is he cut 2 teeth he's beat his sisters they were all about a week before or after 6 months. He is 23 weeks. No more gummy smiles though. He beats his sisters in the sick everywhere, poo up the back and burping contest too bless him

Anyway will be back later xxx

SK - he sounds a typical boy, always have to win any competition that involves bodily functions LOL!

Pamelat - fingers crossed, when do you get the results?

DSis is back in hospital . She was telephoned at 4pm today and told her blood results were dodgy and she had to go back in immediately. She is now in hospital until next Wednesday when she will be induced, but if her results become worse she will be induced earlier. It's all basically a waiting game...I just feel so sorry for her, none of her friends have babies so she was relying on meeting up with people from her NCT class during her maternity leave and because of this, she has missed half the NCT classes, cannot now go for the final class and lunch out on Sunday, and has missed all the NHS antenatal classes because they are all oversubscribed in our area so she couldn't get on to a course that started before this Saturday and now she can't go. Mum has had to do a load of her last minute shopping for her, Mamas and Papas have told her they cannot deliver the nursery furniture until 16th Nov despite telling her it would be here 11th Oct, and to top it all she has a new kitchen being delivered tomorrow which now can't be fitted because the baby will be here in the next 5 days. So sad I could cry for her. But, we are all trying to remain upbeat about it, and remind her that the most important thing is that she will have a beautiful baby at the end of everything, and all the frustrations will be forgotten. First, Coffee, Pigley, thanks for your help, I'll pass that info on to DSis when I see her tomorrow!

DS has been coming out with some corkers recently - he told me the other day that he had stage fright in his nose (!!), and then said that is he had to describe himself he would say that he is quite shy (!!!) - this from the boy who stands on our front doorstep shouting hello to random passers-by. He is only 3 - what will he be like when he is 6? or 9??!

Hope everyone has a good weekend x

Pigley/Homebirthmummy/Pamelat - thanks for sympathy :) I always try to smile at people when their kids are playing up since we've all been there at one time or another. Oh well, maybe people didn't notice. She is a sweetheart but needs practice socialising I think. Feeling a bit better now and have had more sleep! DS didn't wake up till 6am this morning which was nice and then went back to sleep so had a lovely lie-in and feel a bit more human.

SK - glad you had a good holiday and congrats to Jacob on the teeth! He sounds like such a boy.

Tomlin - thanks for the M&S trip. Hope your sister is OK, it must be quite stressful and scary. at M&P! I was induced with DD and it was OK. I had a pessary at midnight, then another at 6am and contractions started around 9. They broke my waters for me around 3pm but there was meconium in the waters so I had to be monitored from then on. DD's heartbeat was fluctuating a lot because the cord was around a neck. Not much happened overnight, but it started to get a bit more painful (through the epidural) around 5am the next day. I was 10cm dilated at 9am when they checked me and then DD was born 10 minutes later . I did tear badly but mostly because second stage was so fast and she had a huge head . It really wasn't too bad and it doesn't have to end in a CS.

It's carnival day! So should be fun, always a good evening out.

Tomlin poor sister must be so stressful for her. When was her original due date?

I get results before Xmas, around 23rd normally

had horrid row with dh this morning which continued all day really, ok now. he plays hockey in winter on saturdays. with having 2 young ones i thought he would give it a miss but just play home games, never really discussed. anyway first game today and was v resentful of his time to himself hence big row. i dont think alternate weeks is a big ask??? or am i being unreasonable, he plays socially rather than in any seriousness so the team wouldnt mind really.

hes played for 22 years now so claims "its who he is" but to me thats like me insisting on going to the gym/shopping/lying in bed weekly and claiming thats just "who i am"

Pamelat - how long is the hockey? I don't think alternate weeks is a big ask at all - if he's going to have that time to himself then you definitely deserve the same amount of time to yourself, would he be happy with that? I wouldn't be happy with DH disappearing for a day each weekend, I'd miss the family time. Good luck for your results, I'm in awe of anyone sitting an exam with 2 small children, I can barely string a sentence together a lot of the time.

Carnival was fun, although a bit mad. Corin seemed really bemused by the whole thing and DD loved it, especially an 'In the Night Garden' float.

Hello 20th games are only 70 mins but you have the hour before, the hour or so after so at least say 3 hours or home games. I am ok with these but the away games are anything between 6 and 7 hours, its too much for me at the moment.

I just want him to play the home games, I think he may come round to the idea. However, it will be with resentment which is a shame and I know his parents think I am being unreasonable too.

pamelat, sounds like you are in a tricky place with the hockey as i am sure that he would probably resent having to stop doing it. having said that i really look forward to having my DH around at the weekends and would be most upset if that were to be threatened. hope it all works out for you x

Hope everyone's had a good w/e. Lots of busy family time here, making the most of London before we move out in a couple of months time. Hamleys yesterday to get some Christmas pressie ideas for DC. I then went off to do some well overdue clothes shopping for myself. Bliss! Today we've been to the science museum & the natural history. DD had a fab time & as we were strapping her into the car to come home she said "thank you for taking me to museum" my heart melted!

I also took DD to a soft play birthday party yesterday which wasn't so great. She can be so timid & just wanted to stand at my side. I find it so hard not to compare her to other children who have bags of confidence & wish that she could be more outgoing. I know I just need to make her feel comfortable & allow her to do things in her own time but it's hard. I started questioning where I've gone wrong, is she picking up on my shyness in social situations etc. Felt pretty glum about it last night but an active day today has helped brighten my mood :)

Harry had carrot for the first time today which was a big hit. He's doing really well, lovely little boy :)

pamela - I know what you mean about the weekend time with DH. I really rely on DH to give me a break at the w/es but also I adore the time we get to spend altogether. fwiw I don't think you're being unreasonable.

heffa - that play session sounded hard work, big sympathies the other mummies weren't more supportive.

tomlin - everything crossed for your sister!

hbm4 - well done on the exercise! You make me feel guilty for contemplating the 2nd helping of pudding tonight :)

Right I'm up to date with x factor & strictly so it's bedtime for me. Sorry for no more personals, I'm posting from phone & it freaks out when I attempt to write more than 4 lines!

Night all xx

Pamlet- Yeah part of me would love to sleep in till 11.30 too! But her DD (2yrs) has no routine what so ever and goes to bed/wakes up whenever she wants.
Each to thier own and all that but it gets very annoying when shes so unreliable when meeting up.
We usually work round nap times too as its just easier than dealing with an overtired toddler isnt it!
Glad to hear the exam went well.

SK- Glad you all had a good holiday :)
Yay on the teeth.

Tomlin- Your poor Dsis :( Like you say, in a few days she will have her special little baby in her arms and nothing else will matter :)

Pamlet- Hope DH comes round soon and you can reach some kind of compromise. I feel the weekends are important family time for us so too wouldnt like him being off all the time. The weekends is also when I get a helping hands with the kids as all week its just me and the girls, No family to help. I think I would go mad without DH around at the weekends!

Busy weekend here. The girls had a softplay party on saturday. DH was knackered after clambering around with her! We went out for dinner that evening (early for the girls) at the new Mexican in town which was yummy. Made fairy cakes with DD1 this morning and other odd jobs.
This weekend ive also sorted through into age groups and packed up all the girls outgrown clothes. Lucy has bags and bags of DD1's clothes to grow into!
Ive packed up Lucy's baby stuff too as still unsure if DC3 might ever appear or not!
Took a pic today of Lucy wearing the same clothes as DD1 did at the same age. They do look scarily similar!!

Lucy has become very interested in toys the past few weeks and now loves all the Vtech flashing lights and sound ones. Great to see her so excited by them but also groaning hearing all those noisy toys again!

Feel alittle sad this eveing. Our group of old Uni friends are all coming up next weekend. We all meet up every 6mths or so. They have now decided that instead of staying over as they usually do that they will all go home late sat night instead. We usually all stay up late, boys playing poker and girls having a drink and giggle.
They have said they dont want to distrupt the girls.
I can understand thier thinking and its nice they are thinking of us like that but also feel sad that they dont want to stay anymore and that we are missing out on the fun as we enjoy the meet ups. We miss out on alot due to lack of babysitters and distance and do feel envious when you hear about their various nights out.
I guess thats what comes from being the only ones with kids. Their time will come I suppose.

Millington- X post with you.
I know its hard not to worry but im sure DD will get thier in her own time.
Sometimes those places can be so noisy and quite intimidating with lots of other kids hairing around. DD used to be really shy and wouldnt leave my side at somewhere like that, draging me around with her but in the past few months shes suddenly grown in confidence and is off, climbing up high on her own and whizzing down massive slides alone!