May 2010 - Drooling, smiling, cooing and nearly sleeping through (and that's just the mummies!)

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Hi Ladies,

I hope you don't mind, I started a new thread as our first one was quite full! I can't believe we're a quarter-way through the first year already!

DH will be moving out..I have finally managed to get him to admit that there is someone else..they have not done anything about it as she is married too..worse still its someone from work..she has stood there and chatted to me, cooed over my baby and all the while she wanted my husband

Oh ML that's horrible...really feel for you. At least it's now clear that he will be moving out so that is one less thing for you to stress about as you have enough to be getting on with...

ML - I'm shocked. You and Olivia are best without him. It'll be so hard to see that now, and I understand there's probably no light at the end of the tunnel at the moment. But there will be. Be brave x

I'm still alive. Sorry for no posts. I do try and keep up as much as I can.

ML, that's awful. I've been thinking about you a lot. I don't know what to say, but I hope it helps to know there are people thinking of you.

On prams, Darcey has been in the pushchair part for a few weeks now, but laid flat. More space in there than the carry cot (car seat) part. It's a Britax BSmart, so she's still facing me. And it's a gorgeous bright green that I get loads of compliments on round town, so and

Pigley - DH has been quite good about me spending money the last couple of weeks. Finally decided to ditch the maternity wardrobe, even though I've been back to pre-preg weight since June! The only reason it's taken so long is that I'm no longer the same shape as I was before (hadn't anticipated that) and almost none of my old clothes fit anymore! So it's meant a real investment in some new 'trendy' clothes. Feel really guilty for spending so much, but he hasn't mentioned a thing.

Also, which bag have you seen?? I love changing bags!

Angel, hope everything's starting to settle down now the police have been involved and DD's harness is off. I've been thinking about you a lot too. How are things with DH?

There's so much to catch up on. Sorry for not replying to everyone. Will try harder next time!

ML I am so so sorry. Fee for you as it makes it feel more final doesnt it, really sorry for you but the anger (that I would feel a lot of) may help you through it initially. I hope so. He does not sound worthy of you and the children. Maybe the older children will reconsider their attitude towards you once they realise the truth.

Re pregnancy, took a few pregnacare up until 12 weeks, but not reliably. I kept forgetting DS dark hair and a lot more of it than my DD when I took pregnancare religiously for 9 months, she was blonde and bald.

20th you are very kind . Its a vulnerable time body wise. DH would never laugh at me in bed (I hope !!!!) but thats very rare anyway but laughed at me doing exercise dvd in my vest. Anyway .... has motivated me on and did 45 min dvd today

re sleep SK until recently I felt your pain but after weaning Alex has gone to only 1 or 2 wakings, the last 2 nights just at 130am. I think its the banana

ML - So sorry to hear about the woman at work :( Keep strong!

Carikube- My DD1 didnt get her first one till 14mths and even now at 2.2 she has the odd bout of grumpiness, streaming nose etc.

Dancing- Lucy is still in the large flat carrycot of my pram. She doesnt seem to mind laying flat and enjoys kicking about in there.
Yay on the new wardrobe! :)

this is the changing bag im after. It is expensive for a bag but I use it everyday and will do for a long time to come.
I can dream anyway!

Re Money- He didnt say it was his money, It just feels abit like that. I dont spend much on me as the money in my account is saved maternity leave money from DD1 and im using that to buy everyday stuff for the kids. I feel guilty spending £20 on a top. When that goes I'll be more dependant on DH's money.
I guess im just finding the transition from independant earner to nothing and relying on DH.

Had a lovely afternoon in the park today and feeding the ducks with a friend and her kiddies enjoying the October sunshine. Our DD's are only a few days apart and its so nice to compare and discuss about the latest "its just a phase"!

pigley this ay not seem right to you and doesnt apply to me (as still on full pay m/leave) but when I went from full time to part time (for example) we calculated the earnings lost for me (and nursery fees saved for him ) and paid me almost a wage, its not a lot as obviously I would have been responsible for "half" childcare anyway.

My DH hates how I am 50/50 about things but I feel more comfortable like that.

For example, he pays a % of mortgage based on my earnings lost my going to 3 days a week.

Nursery costs us £41 a day so if I didnt work at all, I would "expect" £20 a day to spend on things like the children, food, petrol etc.

I would never be comfortable using just "his" money.

But then I am odd

Good job I work I think

we told the kids last night..they were devastated..the two youngest went into their bedrooms and sobbed and sobbed..I hate DH..

Olivia has started going through from about 9-5 which is cool..but would prefer 6!

Olivia is in a Quinny Zapp extra..the rear facing reclining one..its great because she can still lie flat and face me which she loves..its really light and nifty to push..probbaly the best pushchair Ive ever had..

Homebirthmummy - both my children are little baldies, DD's hair only really started growing properly around 18 months. I didn't taken any vitamins except for folic acid in the first trimester. My mum and sister have both had bald babies too.

Pigley - you definitely deserve some nice treats, lovely changing bag sounds fab :) We view DH's income as our income completely - our view is that he is able to devote himself so much to work and earning because I'm looking after the house and kids so we both work together for what we get IYSWIM? I'm a bit obsessive about sharing everything though I still hate spending money on me though, but only because I always think about what I could get the LOs with the money.

ML - :( for you and the kids :( at the woman at work, you must feel so betrayed.

Had a lovely visit to DH's grandparents, we don't get to see them much because they live so far away and they can't travel at all. They're very sweet but have a feeling we're not going to see his grandad again because he's so unwell :(

Another bad night last night, cannot remember a good night tbh. He went from 8 to 1ish, then was up at 3.30 then every half hour or so after that until we have in at 6ish. I even started weaning him to see if it even stretched him out a bit but nothing.

Can't do personals with phone cannot scroll up :(

ML - That is awful, don't know what to say. I hope you and the kids can help each other through this time.

SK - sorry you are having a tough time too, you must be exhausted.

I am sitting here fizzing at D(grudgingly)P. He moaned today because i left Rian with him for 3 hours while i nipped in to town, he called during that time asking when i would be back. I got home and he said he wanted to meet a mate for a pint at pub - he was away 2 hours, back for tea then wanted to go out again. I told him that i was annoyed that he has not spent a full wkend in with us since Rian was born. He then started moaning that i was watching x-factor so went for 'a pint' until it finished - still not back aargh!!!!! i know its nothing incomparison to what others are facing at mo but still - aargh! getting sick of it , i'm off to bed...

hi to everyone else, hope weekend going well

ml so very sorry to hear this recent news, it must be absolutely awful and yet in a way make it a little easier, i am sure before this you were wondering why it was going so wrong and whilst it is not what you wanted, and who would, i hope it makes it easier for you to start thinking about your future. i love your pushchair by the way.

we bought the babybjorn comfort carrier on thursday,supposedly from 6k - 15k and she is only 5.6k but she LOVES it and i really dont notice the weight at all. i am about to order the bushbaby carrier cover so i can use it in all weathers.

pigley, i handed in my notice the day i discovered virginia was on her way and so have been living on maternity allowance (which i didnt know existed until someone at aquanatal mentioned at 38 weeks). it is due to end at the end of next month and then i will have no choice but to ask DH for money which i hate doing, i am finding it hard to move from independant woman to totally dependant woman. DH is very generous and i have never heard him say no other than to ridiculously expensive frivolities like a new kitchen (ours is huge so v. expensive)but still i hate asking.
my only other income currently is child benefit as exH gave up work when the bill for csa came in and therefore DH supports his 3 step daughters. when the cb goes, which it will, i am sure he will be ok with it but i am already feeling guilty for being a financial burden to him!
as i have no high-income skills me returning to work would cost more than i earn so unless i can find some kind of 'home' work i will just have to get used to being a kept woman, thankfully i have traditional views and feel i earn my keep in the house, in fact i made DH work out how much to replace everything i do and he said (after a long list of jobs and salaries he would have to pay) that no-one could earn enough to replace me...bless

oh, as for the vits, i spoke to loads of women round here, all the hairy babies were pregnancare and all the baldies were either none or a different brand....

Gonna have to throw a spanner in the works re pregnacare..I took it religiously from 4weeks when I found out I was pregnant. Chloe was practically bald at birth and now at 19.5weeks stil has just a few tufts. Actually has a patch about 10p size on the back of her head missing from where she rubs on the cot. Baffled by how it's ever suppose to grow tbh!

aww bless her! maybe its just that their are lots of hairy babies around here lol

Hi all. Been manic past few days tidying and cleaning and doing all those little jobs that never get done. Been a bit challenging with dh's hand and Molly has gone back to feeding every hour in the day and every 2 at night. I feel your pain sk. I am holding off on weaning for now as I want to do blw and she can't quite sit up unaided yet. We have a surveyor coming round in the morning and if we get a good valuation and can remortgage it'd mean I could work less evenings and weekends. And we can afford for ds and dd1 to go on school trips next year. Fingers crossed.

Gutted for you ml. What a low life. I don't understand why men get miffed about the lack of attention when a new baby arrives and start chasing other women. And why any woman would be attracted to a man or would do the dirty on a new mum.

Sorry den that your dp is being so selfish.

Feeling very blessed with my lovely dh tonight. Sorry can't manage any more personals as only on phone and molls perma-attached.

Pigley, that bag is amazing!! I'm demanding that your DH buy it for you immediately. Failing that, Christmas!

DH bought me the Skip Hop Messenger bag the day before I went into labour. It was £65, which I was a bit shocked at, but he didn't bat an eyelid (I think he did a great acting job though)

ML - big hugs to all of you. I'm so at that woman for going near him, and at him for doing this to you all. Thinking of you.

Vits - I took folic acid for about 6/7 weeks, only after I found out I was pregnant until about 12 weeks. No other vits. Darcey had full head of hair. Babies round here seem to have lots of dark hair, or not much blonde hair.

Molly, fingers crossed for good valuation.

Hi ladies. Just quick post to say back from hols. Good break but ds a bit of a nightmare with sleep :(

Will also join the crew of those whose los have regressed...ds is just waking so much now (he slept through from 2 to 3 months) and won't settle back down even after a feed. So fed up, frustrated and upset. We have moved him into his own room today so will see if he starts to rely on me less to get him back to sleep. Feel v emotional about moving him from our room though :(

We have started weaning; only rice at lunch times but going to introduce more things next week.

Have read and caught up on the whole thread but sorry not to post lots of personals. Just to say pigley we are also waiting on news of dh's job in the next couple of weeks :( hope we will both be ok!

Very quickly (exam on friday and meant to be revising) but SK does Jacob have a dummy? His nights are like Alex and am sure ALex is reliant on his dummy each time he enters light sleep, after 2/3am we can be up 4 or 5 times to give him his dummy, doesnt need feeding but just quite awake

He has never slept through feeling tired now but cant complain as we were at a party last night and inlaws had both childre over night , 2nd night out now

Pamelat - no he refused a dummy, why have a dummy when you can have the real thing? Last night went like this, it took him until 10pm to fall asleep, back up at gone 12, 3 ish then at 4 he was wide awake for an hour kicking beside me. I am beyond shattered.

We tried banana with BM tonight loved it much better than the carrots. Think we will revert to BLWing once he's 26 weeks.

Been packing all day don't know how we will pack it all in tomorrow. Had to take little maclaren as well.

ML - sending you some healing vibes

Den - hope you give him he'll when he gets back

hi all

not much energy to post, too much cleanning today.
all those dhs misbehaving... need a good told off, they will call it nagging, but nagging sometimes works
pigley i have 3 nappy bags, they didn't cost much, but i am not a fashion girl
molly fingers crossed for your valuation, i am going to have to do the same soon, five years already?

all thos under the weather, or with sick los, my mil says you need to take good care of yourself to be able of taking care of the little one. i am surprised she didn't jump in a plane when she heard i was really sick.

no dummies for us, baby thinks their disgusting, you would need to see his face when i try to give him one, nobody believes me until they see him...

we are not weanning until 6 months, we will do purees first, but i'll put a few chunky pieces, so he can grab if he wants, really confussing, i think i will be calling the sisters quite a lot, it is a good think i have free international calls

did i say i was going to do a small post?
night people, baby is asleep, so should i...

We've got another LO waking up lots in the night again! I feed Corin at least 4 times in the night atm. Hoping it will settle down soon though, I think some of it is because he's still got a cold. Hoping they'll both shake it off soon.

Mollycuddles - good luck for a good valuation!

DancingThroughLife - we have a SkipHop bag :) My DSis bought it for me when I had DD. It's great but we retired it when DS was born because we needed a bit more space for all the changes of clothes etc. Hopefully can reuse it again once DD needs less stuff out and about.

Restarting driving lessons today, bit nervous that I will have forgotten everything and crash horribly or something

HBM I took Pregnacare from eight months before conception and baby is still bald! Very little hair even at 5 months!

Hi all,
Sorry for very quick very me post.

I am feeling so fat but so tired! If I diet my already crap milk supply might diminish even further and I find I don't get half hour in the day to exercise as she won't fall asleep in the day without cuddles or being out in the pram.
All I can do is walk, but how much walking do I need to do each day to lose 4 stone! Well maybe a bit more. My DH met me at size 8 and I am now 18 if I am lucky. He doesn't say anything other than I look fine, I just had a baby etc. But I feel like crying!

Anyway, sorry, people have much worse problems than this.

Hello... remember me from May babies?? So sorry not been on here for ages, lots been happening plus no flipping internet. Ive now invested in a dongle!

I have only read through last page as far too much to catch up on!
ml I am so sorry to read your news and so surprised. What is wrong with these men, they have it all and then f... it up! I hope you are coping as well as can be expected?

Lillia is doing good. Still wakes once or twice a night even tho shes been weaned, dosnt make much difference. But had her weighed for the first time in clinic. She weighed 14 1b which I dont think is much for a 23 week old?? Im not sure.

Well hope you are all doing o.k, babies thriving. And I hope you dont mind me gatecrashing post again!

Evening ladies.

Been a while but just wanted to do a quick post before I turn in for the night.

ml so sorry to hear your news, thinking of you

hbm4 sorry you're glum about baby weight. It is so hard to find anytime to yourself but doing what you can will make a difference. Keep pacing out those miles, it all helps. I even thought about going for a run with Harry in his pram. Still a thought right now as the only trainers I own haven't been out of the wardrobe for at least 3 yrs!!!!

first Harry has the back of the head bald spot too though for the last week or so he keeps flipping himself onto his tummy & sleeping face down. I'll let you know if the hair starts growing soon.

DD1 been off nursery today as needed to take her to docs. She has thrush poor love, never had it myself so I missed all the warning signs & it was only when she had spots of blood in her knickers that I realised anything was wrong. Only thing is I now need to explain to her teacher as every role play game with dolly involves doc checking dolly's front bottom & applying cream whilst saying "blood in nick-nacks"!
I've started to give Harry baby rice & he just doesn't get what to do. He just sits there with his mouth open and a blob of rice about to drip out! Sure it won't be long before he's wolfing it down.
Right must get some zzzzzzzz. Love to all xx