Dec 08 Ladies - LIghtning Strikes... and the usual gossip!

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Hope this works for everyone - I'm assuming Summer won't give birth in the next few hours!! x

Hurray! The pink one has hippos on too. DD1 trying to say it at moment. Pippo. V sweet.

lady that is great news!

WG fab news on the scan too

nolda I hope the Ad's help. Look after yourself.

kayz lovely to see you...5 weeks away is hard but I imagine catching up on those weeks is fun

We are taking DD to watch Toy Story 3 this afternoon, a little post birthday treat. Thankfully my mum is having DS otherwise we wouldn't have been able to go! He was very bad at DD's party yesterday he actually bit one boy, scratched a girl and tried to pull the face of another. I think that many people in his house was way too much for him to handle. Good job I know the mums and they were okay about it. Even so he's a right little sod...

My mum has also agreed to have the kids overnight tomorrow. DH and I are supposed to make an effort to spend some QT together, he initially said he couldn't be bothered till I reminded him we need to make an effort! No idea what we will do but will be good to have a night away from the kids!

Actually DN dropped a grade in the end, got ABB instead of the AAB he needed, so he is v fortunate that his first choice took him anyway!

DB, do insist you go out - I felt like I couldn't be bothered to go out last night, I felt tired and a mess, but once out it felt so good to have a babysitter and a rare night out just the two of us. MUST do it more often.

Gosh Nolda you poor thing, but thankfully you've got a brilliant GP who really let you vent & is right up for helping. Those ADs will help but also sounds like getting it out has made a difference too.

I want one of those suits, I'm tempted to buy & send it to the friend we are staying with next week. Beans is it a decent size for Whizz, does it seems on the big size, I'm
Wondering if it would do DS2 for the winter, he's only 82cm I think and not growing exceptionally fast so it may do the trick for getting out on cold wet/snowy days with something warm underneath.

Daisy DS2 was a bit of a monkey for DS1's birthday, we haven't had thr party (s) yet but he really did not handle DS1 getting all the presents and attention, & that was just from DH & I so I imagine on mass at a party it may be even worse. Have fun at toy story though. Apparently it's made grown men cry!

Glad you had a nice night Lady did you get to see your friend at all? That's just brilliant new for your nephew, well done him.

veggie that was exactly it with DS...he wanted every present she got and understandably DD was not happy to share them. She got a Go-Go hamster which he LOVES, although I suspect we are going to have to get him one too as poor DD cannot play with it without DS chasing her around trying to grab it off her....Oh the joys of having 2!!!

lady we are definately going out. Before we had the children we used to really love having a meal out, drinking wine, actually talking to each other!! I can't remember the last time we sat down and chatted over 3-courses. So if I get my way (which I usually do) then we will go out for a meal.

Hi all,
Wg fab fab news about the scan. Oh your lovely dh getting teary!
When are you girls planning on meeting up??
Uh oh gotta go dd just done sounding poo and crying!!!

wg great news about the scan.

kayz good to hear from you. Glad to hear your extended absence from MN is down to you having fun (as opposed to me where it is simply down to the daily grind).

trace your accident sounds scary. Hope you're feeling okay.

Nolda glad to hear your GP is understanding. Any chance you'll be coming to the meet-up? A day out and a change of scene might do you good. If you do come can you bring some of your choc & nut biccies please?

LadyT congrats to your clever nephew.

Beans love Pippo. Very cute. Can't believe you are going to Essex on your hols - whereabouts?

Effie I keep meaning to ask you - when is your DH's driving test? And what happened to your job share request?

spot Have you got any further deciding about the move? Lots of handwringing here as well about the possibly of relocating (not buying though) and getting the DCs into a better school in the process. Tis very dull.

SL we are meeting up next Friday. In fact I have just started a meet-up thread.

Oh by the way I heard Bisou's production mentioned on Radio 3 the other day. They're going to be broadcasting a recording of the Edinburgh production. Fancy!

Look at me doing 2 days in a row

Life is finally pretty good here. My new DP is obviously behind most of that, it's so nice having someone. They boys absolutely love him to pieces. DS1 is always asking when he'll be home and DS2 gets very excited when DP rings or we talk on the web cams.

Has anyone else got a quiet child? Well not quiet as such but that can't say many words. DS2 says "hiya" "Whats that" "bye" "nose" and occasionally "mama" I'm pretty sure DS1 could say many more actual words at this age not just gibberish.

Aha, we have got you hooked now kayz. So do the DCs see much of DH (if he is still your DH obviously)?

DD says a lot but there's such a wide spectrum at this age - anything goes until 2 and well beyond. And gibberish is a good thing!

VEggie - DD's is age 2-3, so it's MASSIVE on her. Have to roll up sleeves and legs. V sweet. There's a pic of her in it on FB - my profile pic and in our new album as well - with bunches in.

Poison - we're off to near Bishops Stortford. In fact, think we might even try to look at a few houses round there while we're there - but won't tell MIL as she'll get too excited.

Kayz - I agree wtih poison - so much variation between them all - from few words to whole sentences. Try not to worry - by 4 they're all much of a muchness. DD1 has long conversations with me, none of which are words. I rather like it! I just chat back.

So glad things are good with you.

Just not getting the chance to post properly.

Am homa all day tom doing the housework so will do a catch up then.

LADYT saw you were asking about DH. He is fine no lasting effects, hurrah. Bikini good and bad of course the cheaper ones looked awful and I ended up going for the expensive ones but am still a bit unsure about gettting my knackered body out on the beaches of FLorida.

Anyway will be back tom for proper personals.

Poison XH has them every other weekend, and he has them every friday while I work. He has them tomorrow for the weekend and I am so looking forward to my lie in saturday and sunday as DS1 still wakes around 5am every morning.

Sorry forgot to say Hello to Kayz.

Oh and I need Summers address can someone please FB me with it, ta.

Where is our resident fashionista. I need V festival outfit help. What do I wear, may have my wellies? HELP!

Jam: I will be in Chelmers too, but for a birthday curry not the festival. An evening out without children!

Ooh beans thats not too far from me. I like it round here, a lot :) Kayz, hello, glad things are going well ! Congratulations WG :) Trace and Nolda, hope you are Ok.

I've been thinking about how much I'd like to share my life with more people. I mean I love my H a lot but he does not fulfil all my needs, especially the ones to gossip, drink tea a lot and watch shite TV. If I dont spend time away from him with other people I get frustrated with him which isnt fair. I wish I had a mum or a girlfriend close by, since I had children a lot of my friends have either moved away or have small children themselves so have little time either. I'm thinking of starting an art class is September, maybe I should join a book group...

Been enjoying a much needed day off. Lay in bed and read a book all morning (was a good one, too). Fell asleep watching the programs on the Norman back to back on watch again. Had a bath at 4pm. Finally changed out of my PJs afterwards. Having pizza for dinner, on the sofa on my own, and probably watching Hollyoaks or something. Feel about 1 million times less stressed. I think we should all be able to do this once a month. The boys wont be back till 9ish so feels like a good stint (12 hrs) of me time. I wish I had some family close by so I could do it more often,(selfish emoticon). I am really worried about what we will do about childcare next year when DS1 goes to school and so dont feel I can take much time off work.

Oh and DS2 says very little.
He says :

Wow
Duck
Look
No

and hums twinkle twinkle to himself. I'm not too worried as tbh he cant get a word in with DS1 who talks constantly, and he is well aware we are able to decipher his grunts..

NJAN I think that about my boys too. DS1 just doesn't shut up long enough for DS2 to actually say anything really

Hello
don't know where I left off and sorry not to do personals as I have only really badly skimmed. Went to my appt to get dd jaundice screened on Tues. Couldn't bloody believe they wanted a urine sample from dd and actually made me sit there with a sample bottle and her nappy open amazingly I actually was able to collect some after about an hour ds was remarkably well behaved. They did her bloods and then I had to dash to pick up parents from airport but as I was leaving I ran into nurse from feeding clinic who was upset that I had to wait another 8 days for the tongue tie appt as she believed the jaundice was all due to feeding issues and doesn't think she is getting satisfied after each feed.
I suggested I could come back after I collected parents. Did that (just what they want after 27 hours of flying I'm sure lol) but they were fine!) Managed to track doen a registrar and she actually carried out the procedure for me after the nurse asked her very nicely - I was so very pleased that they did that for me. pain has pretty much gone but feeding issue's still apparent to some degree. I'm so now that I am not sure what is causing what, or whether my supply has decreased due to having issues due to the tt or whether one has caused the other or the other has caused one if you see what I mean? I thought it was wind - now I'm not so sure, i thought she was not getting enough milk from me due to tongue tie, but now I'm wondering if that's fixed, but in the interim my supply has dwindled so it's a snowball effect or a visious circle etc? I am trying to express more just to get milk down her and shee if she is satisfied when I know how much she is getting and sadly I feel that she is now I am struggling to express more than a couple of ounces at a time. I am not making any sense I doubt! Mum suggested a sling that was conducive to feeding on demand and she seems to want to feed all the time however I'm sure she is falling asleep as she isn't getting anything out therefore treating my knockers like a dummy and it's soothing and comforting her as she only sucks aggressively for the first five minutes or so. I turned to formula just to try her on a bit to see what happened and she guzzled it!. I have been giving her the odd formula feed at night and she seems content after it. i just want to get weight on her and am trying to build up my supple at the same time but I have a feeling that becuase I am probably stressed about not having supply which is probably making it happen!
Anyway, enough about the feeding - I'm just going to try and build supply by feedign her as much as I can, supplementing if I have to and expressing in between

Had a friend over yesterday and it was nice to see her. parent's here has been nice, but feel a little bit like I'm going to get sad again when they leave but at the same time I feel quite out of routine if you see what I mean?
Anyway, I'm totally babbling.
Hope everyone is well, and I hope too see some of you soon! Just previewed this message and I sound a bit of a saddy but I'm really feeling fine - just wish I could get some weight on dd a bit quicker!
Will get checking back a bit more and try and catch up

Rubes lovey. Tell me to f off if you want. But I think you have got yourself in an absolute twist on this.

I am sure Veg will come along with some good advice. But have you thought about binning the expressing just for a wk or so.

If you feel it is supply start taking fenugreek it helps build supply.

Also someone told me once that a baby is unlikely to say no to a bottle even if they have just done 2 boobs. I can't remember why but it made sense.

Have you thought about starting a thread in breast and bottle am sure you would get lots more help than my ramblings.

Rubes I was going to suggest the fenugreek as well. Also I think Jam's suggestion of binning the expressing is a good idea too, and just keep feeding feeding feeding - you may be right that she is not getting as much as she wants from you but this should right itself fairly quickly if you keep feeding her even though it feels like she's not getting much? Like someone said a while back I think expressing can confuse things a bit, especially before 6 weeks??

I expect veggie will be on with some better advice in a bit though!
kayz hello! i was just wondering why you had abandoned us a couple of days ago! Glad you are doing well and are happy.
nolda sorry you are not in a good way at the moment. Sounds like you have a good GP though, really hoping the ADs help, and keep us updated how you are doing, really hoping you feel a bit better soon.
njan we should meet up now I am on mat leave, I know we keep saying that but we should!!! Friday is your day off isn't it?
Yay beans move to bishops stortford, that is not too far from me either.
ladyt wahoo and well done to your nephew.

Meet up I might be able to come.....will see...DH will still be off work though so not sure what to do with him...haha also DS at nursery that day (otherwise I would pack off DH somewhere with him and come down with just DD)

Hi everyone, I hope you're all well? I am hopelessly behind - have had a cracking headache all week and couldn't face using the computer, so haven't even managed to lurk. But feeling much better again today - and wanted to hear about darling little Summer and Rubes, and of course all the others - but just have no hope of catching up. Big hugs to you all though

I managed to see Kayz has returned

And Rubes is still struggling with BF, you poor thing. I think nothing is more worrying than LO's who can't/won't feed and nothing more frustrating than LO's who can't/won't sleep - good job they're loveable! I hope the feeding picks up - I guess it must feel a bit strange for her to be suddenly free of the tongue tie, so I hope she gets used to it soon

DD has had an angelic last couple of weeks - and is suddenly learning lots of new words (at last!) Recent favourites include 'more', 'bye bye' and 'door' (as in 'oooh, door' when we walk past a house with a door, and then 'ooh, door' when we walk past the next one - and would you know it, every house in the village has a door, some even have 2, its not at all wearing ...). She was super clever this morning though - and put her dress over her head all on her own and just needed help with the sleeves. I have no idea where she learnt that, but was very impressed. Of course, then I still needed to put on her vest and had to manouvre it under the dress as I didn't want to take the dress off and demoralise her.

Its bedtime now, so I will sign off and make some attempt at a better catch up (or at the very least read your news). xx

Rubes: why not try feeding loads for the next few days, then revisit the supply q. Might her mouth be a bit sore after the snip? She may also need to re-learn how to feed properly now her Tongue can move s bit more. PD's DD had the same op pretty early on, so maybe she cd advise?

You have done so well to come so far despite the tt :)

Oh also meant to say. DS1 was the grumpiest baby ever always thought it was supply issues and was forever lobbing him on my boob. Turns out he was just grumpy/windy/fussy milk monster. When he hit 3mths he suddenly calmed down and was much more settled.

awww bless to "door". We have the same thing with "car". Yes darling DS, that's why it's called a "car park"!!