if you lose a baby before its born, where does its soul go?

[memoo]

This is something that has been torturing me for a long time now.

3 years ago i had an ectopic pregnnacy that ruptured when i was 10 weeks pregnant. I never had any kind of funeral for the baby because i never really knew it was an option until now.

I have never really been particularly religious but i know that many people believe that a childs soul enters its body upon conception, and this is something that i believe too.

Now i have reached a point where i am desperate to know where my little baby is, does a persons soul still go to heaven if they weren't born or christened?

My friend has suggested talking to our parish priest but i really don't know what to do.

[Surfermum]

I had 2 mcs before dd. I believe they go back to the spirit world and grow up there. I believe they are with the angels and other people who love them.

My PILs are spiritualists, MIL is a platform medium. They often see the man who used to live in our house before us (he died) wandering around here. Then one day FIL told me that he was gardening and turned round and thought we'd arrived to see them as dd was stood next to him. He realised it was a boy not a girl and asked him who he was. He said he was our son, and to tell me that he was happy.

MIL has also done a reading for me and asked me what Jack of hearts was. If he had been born he would have been called Jack - and she didn't know that. She then said he was saying that he knows how much I love him.

Since I have developed my gifts in this area I believe he has come to me during meditation and I have been able to give him a cuddle. In fact when I first started realising that I could link to the spirit world he was there, leaping up and down going "yeh Mum, you go Mum".

This is a baby I lost at just 9 weeks. I do wonder why I don't really think about the 2nd mc. I certainly don't grieve it like I do for Jack every year on the anniversary, and I wonder if it's because it was dd who waited to come back to me for the 3rd pregnancy.

[ScaryHairy]

Memoo, I had an ep too.  I don't believe in God (or at least not in the form suggested by organised religions) but I do believe that my baby is still waiting to be conceived and will be when the time is right, i.e. that he or she will still get to be my baby, if that is what is meant to be.

[ChocFudgeCake]

The soul goes to God
I have lost 3 babies. I did my research after DD died, and that helped me to live through 2 miscarriages.
I know we will be together again.

[fransmom]

hi (((((((((((((()))))))))))))))))

i had a mc when i had just turned 19/20, and i know that i was carrying a little girl. i believe that all children who pass before birth will stay as long as they need to, to learn the lessons however long or short they may stay with us. i also believe that all children who pass before birth grow up on the other side of life,as it were, and can visit us in either a dream visit' or as we would think that we would normally see ghosts / spritis. either on their own or with a member of our own family that has already passed or with their guardian angel(s)

hth, my time on the pc is nearly over, i should really get my own internet but it's cheaper at the library

[AlistairSim]

I've been wanting to ask this question for so long!

When I had my miscarriages, I kept going to our local church because I wanted to talk to the parish priest about this and ask him but could never work up the courage (and cried whenever I thought about asking!)

I don't even have any faith as such but think I was looking for comfort and answers anywhere I could.

[Sails]

I have had 2 miscarriages -1 before my first child and 1 before the second. After I lost my 1st baby I read a book called I'll hold you in heaven. I found it a tremendous comfort and I know that I will one day meet both my babies. I also had a service of rememberance after both miscarriages. I also found that helped.

[fransmom]

(((((((((((((((((everyone)))))))))))))))))))

[Gsmom]

i have had an ectopic pregnancy and 2 m/cs. I absolutely 100% believe that they are in heaven being reared by mine and DHs grandparents, as i asked God to do with them after each loss. I also in one way look forward to when i die as i really believe that they will be the first ones at the gates of heaven waiting for me.

BTW memoo, i dont know if this is of any help to you, but you did mention that your angel hadnt been christened, but it is possible still to christen them. I had it done recently by my parish priest, just a simple prayer but it gave me great consolation.