Any Witches Here? Part 6

[speakout]

Or Wiccans. or Pagans? Or anyone who is interested in a magical path or feels some magical stirrings.

A place for support, learning, swapping ideas and magical inspiration

All welcome.

I can't believe how this thread is filling up so quickly.

There’s some powerful momentum here speakout! I love that

Barton sending love and echoing speakout’s wise words. We’re a powerful force together and happy to share energy when things are tough for you x

Hope everyone’s managing to find time to nurture themselves this week amongst it all. I’m working from home today and have a candle lit on my altar beside the picture of my younger self, continuing to work to both give to her support and receive the lessons she has for me to. It’s wonderfully empowering work- I’m feeling more whole for it.

I don’t interact much (publicly) on Facebook but there’s a group I’m in that I find nourishing. There’s a lot of these tarot ‘challenge’ (I don’t like the terminology) things around at the moment that I think can be a fun way to get to know or revisit tarot in a new way. I thought I’d share this one here for anyone who’s interested.

I love my teacher card for the day

YashmisCrone

That is such a good pick for you today- I imaging you sitting surounded by your industries, sprinkling a little magic as you work.

Barton I hope things get better for you .
There are some wise old owls here if you do want advice or support or just a chance to offload .

I'm pretty much on top of the dull work now and strangely when this was competed two positive experiences presented themselves .
I said before my reward would be some tarot study , which I couldn't justify when I had this deadline hanging over me .
Well I think I got my rewards but from the universe iyswim.
I visited our public records office and found the person I've been searching for for years , and their siblings and their children which presents exciting opportunities for the future.
Then I got a call offering me some work I'd previously been turned down for .
This is very occasional work ( extras) that my schedule doesn't usually allow for but this was on my one free day .
Am I reading too much into this ?
More is happening this week that has happened for months.

I hope everyone has a lovely weekend.

speakout I love how there’s always magic that can be woven in, no matter how mundane the task

FilledSoda wow! That’s fabulous! I love it when you get yourself in the ‘right vibe’ and things fall into place like that. Powerful stuff, thank you for sharing that with us

filledsoda
How lovely to hear of the fruitful things happening to you right now, abundance is everywhere and when we start to open our hearts then it flows.
I am going though a very adundant ( if busy) time right now, and it feels delicious.

YashmisCrone
That's a beautiful arrangement. How inspiring.

Weaving magic into everyday mundane activities is something I really enjoy.
It can enhance our work, make us more present, make the work more meaningful.

I have already talked of hanging laundry outside- the art of energy capture- and the miracle of cleansing!
Sweeping is a magical art, I have a talisman hanging from my broom.
I often say an incantation over my tea, for peace, for relaxation, for sleep.
I have scents and candles burning when I can.
I pick herbs from the garden and smoosh them up in a pan of boiling water to aid concentration.
I kiss my favourite crystal ( hand foraged) as I get dressed in the morning to thank the goddess and imbue her energy into my day.

All these things- and others take seconds, and a day never passes without some magical dust!

I've had such a busy couple of days. My head is feeling too full and buzzy, and I can feel myself getting irritated by little things. This is my sign to slow down.

Reading all your posts is helping to calm my mind, it's like a virtual soothing, warm hug and cup of herbal tea 💕☕️

I'm going to my spiritual development circle tonight which is just what I need as the meditation will help calm my mind. And tomorrow I'm going to a cacao ceremony. I can't wait, I went to one last year and it was one of the most profound experiences I've had, I was floating for days afterwards!

Barton sending positivity to you and hope this thread gives you a bit of solace from everything that's going on.

Queenrollo sending love to you and your son. I hope he's doing ok.

We are home!
Surgery went well, he was super brave before. Post-op has been difficult, struggling with pain and his emotions. All to be expected though.
A large city hospital children's ward is certainly a challenging place for an empath, but I met someone else who definitely was too and I think she felt I needed the comfort.
Today was frustrating....discharge always seems to be Kafka-esque.

Anyway, we are home. Fires lit. All fed.

Thank you for your thoughts, they definitely helped x

queenrollo

I am so glad to hear that your son is home and surgery went OK.

we are home. Fires lit. All fed.

Love that description, that's where the healing lies.

My son had surgery as a child and I remember the challenges.
He was in a lot of post operative pain, it was hard to watch.

We have to stay strong as mothers in such a situation, but we feel vulnerable or anxious, scared- often needing support ourselves, but we prioritise giving support.

I know you are giving your son all the love and care he needs right now, but don't forget to nurture yourself too at this time.

You can relax now, the worst is over. X

Really pleased to hear you’re all home and safe queenrollo

I’m sure it wasn’t in the least bit amusing but I have to admit to this description making me chuckle:

discharge always seems to be Kafka-esque.

Anyway, I hope you’re able to breathe a bit now you’re home and take care of you as well as everyone else. DS is lucky to have such a good mum to look after him. Remember you in it all x

Violet what interesting things you do! Hope that you feel a release of the mind tension your week has given you and enjoy what you have planned

Tonight is a night of resolution and some fulfillment for me.
A difficult situation - some years long has been resolving and now feels complete. Not quite time to relax, but time to exhale.
FilledSoda I share your energy today.

Times can be so difficult, but when there is a light, a hope or some ease then the relaxation we feel is a hundred fold more pleasing.

I wish everyone a peaceful night.

Hi all,

Mamuciana here, just popping by to plump the cushions & leave a plate of Lammingtons on the kitchen table. Have had to re-reg as couldn't get into my account after yesterday's Mumsnet data shenanigans. Never mind eh?

Was up at 5 to take DS1 to sport. I always treat myself to watching the sunrise after I've dropped him off. It was truly beautiful this morning - a huge, yellow sun rising up out of the misty valley. The birds were all up and going about their day - magpies, ravens, rainbow lorikeets, galahs, brush turkeys and even a hare romped past me. A truly beautiful start to the day.

So glad the op went pretty smoothly queenrollo. Sending you all healing thoughts for an equally smooth recovery.

Barton hope you are okay. As others have already said, we will be here for you when you feel ready to post again but in the meantime, keep reading & sharing in our positive energies.

Mistymount where you live sounds absolutely beautiful and what a amazing wildlife. Sounds like a perfect start to the morning. *

Queenrollo* so relieved your son is doing well and pleased for you that you've got him home safe and well. It's so hard to watch your child in pain or distress isn't it? It really takes it toll, I imagine your exhausted. I hope you both get to rest and recover over the next few days.

Queenrollo glad you are home and ds has got through the hardest bit.
Barton I hope you are ok, sending some energy your way.
Mistymount I spent ages trying to get back in after the forced logout I was really worried I'd have to give up this nn.
Violet I hope you get the recharge you need.
I am waiting for a slot on Monday or Tuesday where they will decide if my knee needs surgery or just a different cast so looks like a weekend of candles lit, some incense and cats thinking I'm lying with my leg up to accommodate them

It's a few things

Been worn down by a situation with one person, work related that I have mentioned before I actually feel quite frayed.

Not being happy in my living situation

A couple of things going on in the family

One were my opinion would be an unwelcome one, and keeping silent about it for the peace

Another were my internal feelings and thoughts about something are so opposed to where they 'ought' to be in the socially acceptable sense, that no matter the outcome I can never voice them, but are fully understandable objectively IYSWIM basically not caring about something I SHOULD care about and the admitting would make me seem dreadful and no one would understand

Finally, with Valentines Day approaching I am slowly achieving closure on a relationship that went awry, but the accepting that there's no way back and no new path is a sudden unexpected transition from the still hopeful phase. The letting go phase, the acceptance is way more painful than I was prepared for and though it's way overdue I'm also surprised I'm actually doing it, if that makes sense ?

That does make sense about the relationship ‘closure’ Barton

I know there’s a lot more going on for you but I can really relate to that part.

It’s a really big deal and I often think we feel we should be ‘over it’ within some nebulous socially acceptable timescale. The reality is it takes as long as it does.

I think some of the most profound growth I’ve been through was following the breakdown of a relationship I thought was ‘the one’ I thought he was my ‘soul mate’ ( I think differently about that concept now) and then that I might actually die of a broken heart!

I think some of it is because so much of our identity gets caught up in who we are in a relationship. So when the relationship ends we lose a version of ourselves that doesn’t exist without the other person. We place our hopes and dreams into the context of the relationship and there’s a lot of disentangling and reevaluating to be done. I also felt that what I believed to be true was shaken to the core. I wasn’t sure about my own judgment any more.

I eventually found some big life lessons in amongst it all and nurtured and rebuilt my self bit by bit. It wasn’t easy and it took me a long time (longer than most people who know me would realise). I can honestly say I feel whole again and stronger than ever. My relationship with myself is positive and my self respect is intact.

I think what I’m trying to say is please don’t give yourself a hard time or tell yourself any part of the process is overdue- it’s deep work to go through and it’s good to be thorough/ your foundations will be stronger for it in the end. It’s perfectly understandable to feel seemingly contradictory things at the same time- it’s a big loss and the healing process can feel like rebuilding yourself from the roots.

Wishing you some peace and rest

Mistymount

I love the desprition of your place, how lovely.

I am gathering things to make a genius loci altar right now, and your words are very inspiring
What is first nation paganism like in Austalia? I admit to knowing very little of Australian culture, but there must be indiginous philosophy and magic? I would love to know more.

YashmisCrone

Oh the heartache of losing a "soulmate".
It has taken me 15 years.
so much of our identity gets caught up in who we are in a relationship.
Yes! And we pin our childhood dreams, our hopes and desires, this "soulmate" becomes plastered with our own stickies and becomes camouflaged, we can become blinded to that persons true self.
Then when things go wrong we lose all those parts of ourself we have given. We mourn not just for the loss of another but for all our hopes and desires.

But there is huge hope- because our own dreams and best parts of ourselves are not so easily given or discarded.
Like the Caillaich we always have them with us, tucked in the hem of our jersey.
Easily found again if we know where to look!

The end of a relationship is never easy. The advice on Mumsnet in particular is often all too dismissive (LTB! Like it's that easy!) There's an expectancy that you should be able to just walk away because you know things aren't right, but that's simply not the reality.

It takes time to heal. You miss this person, being with them becomes a part of who you are. You invested considerable time and energy into the relationship. There's a sense of failure (why can I am so hopeless at relationships?!) You have to let all these feelings come out and process them all and allow yourself to heal.

My belief is that people come into our lives because there's a lesson we have to learn. So even if the relationship was awful, we come out of it a stronger person. It's all part of our spiritual journey.

It is also complicated by the fact that relationships are rarely all bad. There were always good bits amongst the bad. SO there are fond memories to come to terms with and the dashing of the what ifs. That in itself is hard to deal with.

I agree with @HillsBesideTheSea no relationship is all bad. Plus you have spent time emotionally investing in a relationship, it's not as clear cut as turning your feelings off. Take time to heal and be kind to yourself.

*Yashmis
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Your experience sounds very similar to mine. I recently cut off my 'soulmate' and have been 'no contact' now since May 2018. We drifted in and out of relationship, FWBs, platonic friends for years, going round and round in the same cycle. I eventually realised it was draining my energy and stopping me from moving forward. Cutting him off completely seems brutal, but it was the only way. Since then I've moved forwards in leaps and bounds, on all levels, so it was the right things to do. I'm so much happier and confident and I know, without any doubt whatsoever, that the path I'm on is the right one. But it took me a long time to get here!

I think the thing is, as women, we somehow get conditioned to think that it will all just happen and we'll meet the Harry to our Sally or the Darcy to our Lizzie and there is no plan B for when that ain't necessarily so..

Separately as a witch, one of the things that's bugging me is that I seem to be seeing every path playing out at once in this scenario. I did my cards, and they ended with The Tower which for me usually doesn't indicate something positive. And it was specific to this relationship so... what kind of crazy awaits next...