The Muslim Tearoom

[HardlyEverHoovers]

Salaams/peace to all! I'm already missing our old thread, so taking the bull by the horns and opening our very own Muslim Tearoom, all welcome (non-Muslims too of course), to chat, share, ask questions etc etc. Imagine a cosy cafe with floor cushions, tea and coffee of all kinds, and lovely cakes! Please join me!

crescent what happened? You removed your thread??

I hope all is well with you and all the other MNers this Ramadhan. Loving the Ibaadah side of things, but I for one am struggling in the night. Trying to sleep at 12am after taraweeh and waking up at 2.30am to eat when everything tastes pretty grim, then sleeping again 4ish to be awoken by the dc between 6-7am. Its harder than I thought it would be.
Aunt Flo should be visiting any day, I hate to admit it but I think I will enjoy the rest. God I sound awful and weak

Thread - post of course.

Salaam sisters, how are you all? Thanks to the non Muslims who wished us Ramadan Mubarak.

HoppinMad, I'm really struggling too. Last year was my first Ramadan and I found it incredibly easy. This year I have a 13 week old who's just getting over chicken pox and has a chest infection. I'm surviving on 2 hours broken sleep .

I've got a lot of other stressful things going on, so I feel a bit down in the dumps. I've only been praying 3 times a day and not even the taraweeh which I'm really upset about.

Crescent I saw the programme about British Ramadan, it was really interesting. If I had my way I too would be eating soup for iftar! I don't know why but I was shocked at the appearance of the revert men. Passing them on the street you wouldn't have a clue that they were Muslim. That's why I like that I wear my headscarf, I get acknowledged by other Muslims.

Crescent are you fasting at all? How are you finding it if you are?

I'm sure I'll be back on soon to have another moan about my life

Thanks Crescent for all those links, some really beautiful nasheeds mashAllah. The other link was interesting, has given me some ideas for activities for the DC over the summer hols.

Has anyone got Ramadan calendars for their DC? I'm no good at arts n crafts so would love to buy one, that can be used every year. Any ideas where I can buy one?Or ideas on how to make one?

Oh ladies please thank Allah for the safe arrival of my beautiful baby girl yesterday. El humdulla. Things did not go to well and it was getting very scary. Dh started saying Quarn to bump and an amazing egyptain Muslim Dr arrived as if sent by Allah. He and dh spoke in Arabic and I instantly felt calm. Just hearing the beautiful language and reference to God in every sentence was so reassuring. the Dr took over and sent mw's away. He and dh delivered our beautiful girl and

Recited Azan together. It was beautiful and amazing for me that my Ramadan baby was delivered by a Dr who's name was Islam.

Ramadan Kareem.

Congratulations on your ramadan baby Rosiedays, May Allah make her the coolness of your eyes.

I wasn't fasting during the start either, I know some people use the fact that women in Islam cannot carry out acts of ritual worship as a rod to beat us with, but I was thankful, fasting, doing school runs, going work and then laying on an iftar in this heat is no joke.

Right now I'm concentrating on putting one normal meal on the table and we have lots of fruit and water and a Rose scented milk drink (with a scoop of clotted cream ice cream!). I don't mind not eating in this heat, my appetite is usually non existent in hot weather anyway, but having to carry on a normal working day is exhausting. Luckily I'm off to my mums tomorrow so I will only need to worry about work, my mum will take care of the food and the childcare for me (yeay for mummies). My girls are fighting me all the way with my fasting ban on them, They've told me they're going to fast when they are at nanas, I'm going to let them then as they'll be at home and able to rest and my mum will notice if they're flagging and make sure they eat when neccessary.

I can't be too bothered with suhoors, yesterday I had an ice lolly and a cup of chai, altho I do try to have a sensible meal I'm going for porridge tomorrow inshallah.

There's a part of me that never grew up and can't quite get over the autonomy of being able to choose whatever I want for meals! lol

Crescent listen to your body, if you can't fast then don't force yourself, Allah has given exemptions to us in his Mercy accept his Mercy.

that was me, I have no idea how my username turned into that

Just popping in to say Happy Ramadan

I'm on the beach in sunny Turkey, trying not to gain weight with the incredibly delicious food in loooong open buffet dinners. (Another kind of diet restriction entirely!) And mighty glad that wearing bikinis and eating away during Ramadan are still legal in this Muslim country

Congratulations, rosie

you're not the only one Crescent I feel it too.

I have seen the good in it too tho, Mashallah the dawah that the kids and sisters are doing is amazing and I suppose if Islam was not in such focus that would not happen.

I guess the relentless nastiness gets to me on bad days tho.

Allahualam

Salam / Peace

A belated Ramadan Kareem. Have been following this thread and enjoy reading all the contributions, very interesting povs.
For those of you who are expecting or just given birth if you search you tube there is a video called "Fiqh of pregnancy and newborns" by shaykh Omar Suleiman which I found extremely informative, InshaAllah you will too.

Salama / Peace

There is also a "Fiqh of Fasting" video for those interested.

Salaam,

Congratulations rosie, your post gave me goosebumps, what a lovely story alhamdullilah.

Thanks crescent, DS is doing amazingly, he's my ray of sunshine in a somewhat cloudy sky.

I'm quite thick skinned at the moment with regards to all the anti islam comments doing the rounds. I'm hoping I'll continue feeling this way as I'm sure it's only going to get worse, there are an awful lot of haters out there.

Fuzzy, my nearly 9 year old asked me the other day when she can fast. I said she can try on the last day, my thinking being it will be the shortest day and hopefully the heat will have cooled by then a little bit. She didn't look too impressed with that but hasn't said anything about it since!

How do you all celebrate eid? This year it's going to be an anti climax I think, with it being the first without my father in law. I did read somewhere you shouldn't celebrate eid if there has been a death in the family? Is this correct or something that is practised, or have I imagined it?!

I need to ask something that is tmi now, sorry in advance! I still haven't had a period since having DS 15 weeks ago. I have however been spotting I hate that word the last 3 days. I have still been fasting but not sure I should be. I feel a bit crampy like I'll be coming on soon but I don't know what to make of it?

Walaikumassalaam Lost.

For Eid, when my grandfather died, we marked the day however there was no new clothes and henna that year it was more somber. I think it depends on what madhab you follow.

With periods again according to Hanafi fiqh, if you see blood (I'd include spotting if it is around the time you get your period so could well be menstrual blood), you stop fasting, if you see blood after miday you continue with the fastt hen dont fast the follwing day till you have completed your menstrual period.

For Eid we always celebrate at my mums, she cooks and we eat , there's usually a massive feast laid out and everyone eats all day we have guests coming and going throughout the day it's merry chaos. I've got almost all my Eid shopping done, need to wrap the last few gifts, waiting for one to be delivered and am putting a hamper together for my sister. It's always a lot of fun, my girls are counting down the days.