The Muslim Tearoom

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Salaams/peace to all! I'm already missing our old thread, so taking the bull by the horns and opening our very own Muslim Tearoom, all welcome (non-Muslims too of course), to chat, share, ask questions etc etc. Imagine a cosy cafe with floor cushions, tea and coffee of all kinds, and lovely cakes! Please join me!

Salaam everyone, hope you're all well.

Thanks for those crescent. I haven't watched them yet my H has and said it was good.

Ramadan Mubarak for tomorrow.

Oh ladies please help. Ramadan starts tomorrow and baby is due any day. I'm so happy she will be born in the holy month but how to cope with dh! ! It's his first Ramadan in UK without the support of family and friends. It's long. I'm going to need him on top form to help me. I want a special time not a moody git. I just want to cry. He always struggles and can be difficult ( I've removed myself from the relationship during Ramadan in the past as i can't cope with him)

Up till yesterday he had said he wasn't doing it this year. I understand his want and need to do it and feel awful for not wanting him too.
I don't know what to do , don't know how to support him when I'm going to need him supporting me!

What about when visitors come.? He even said last night it will be fine as he will have 2 weeks off and can sleep all day.
I'm distraught and just trying to hold it together. 38 weeks pregnant hot tired and hormonal. Please help.

Salaam all. I see that it's been posted before bout bf. I have a 3 mo, exclusively bf. I also take pentasa meds twice a day, it's ok to fast whilst on them, and I have done so in less hot Ramadans, but have to make sure I drink 2L in 24h to avoid dehydration (can lead to kidney damage according to my GI consultant). My SILs and my FIL are insisting I should fast, basically implying I have no real justification. I'm just worried about dehydration in this (glorious) hot weather that could cause a decrease in milk supply. Just interested in other people's views? should I fast every other day maybe and see how I go? I will of course make up all those missed

Just read your message Rosie. My DH gets moody and grumpy as well, and he yells at DC. I just keep me and DC out of his way and encourage him to go to Tarawih prayers at mosque so can be part of the community. I'm sorry you're so worried about it and I'm not offering great advice, but big hugs and good luck with your baby

Nice to see this thread back in active convos, I won't be fasting this year as am 6.5 months pregnant (and tbh am barely coping with that and the heat) which I'm grateful for as the days are long but also sad about as I feel detached from the excitement.

Will be glad when school ends and we can keep kids up for Iftar at mosque and then some lies ins!

With you there ducks about school finishing. I'm looking forward to time at home with DC (ask me again in 6 weeks lol).

Thanks Crescent for your advice, may Allah swt bless you. I really want to spend this Ramadan reading Quran (I only just learnt how to read, alhumdulilah), praying on time, doing tarawih and looking after my family. Last year I was a couple of months pregnant with severe nausea, and just laid on the sofa all day not being able to move, barely able to look after DC, house, cooking... How is that spiritual?! I will try fasting inshallah and see how it goes x

Thank you so much crescent moon you are a wise and kind sister. Your words calmed me and have helped me put things into perspective. I lived in and loved the Muslim culture for 7 yyears. It is so different here though. So easy to fall back to western ways and ideas. Dh has been dancing round the house singing Ramadan songs to bump. He is a good man. he has been amazing during my pregnancy. I couldn't have asked for a better dh. Inshalla all will be ok. He is talking to his dm now. She will not mince her words with him.

Ramadan kareem to all

Thank you so much crescent moon you are a wise and kind sister. Your words calmed me and have helped me put things into perspective. I lived in and loved the Muslim culture for 7 yyears. It is so different here though. So easy to fall back to western ways and ideas. Dh has been dancing round the house singing Ramadan songs to bump. He is a good man. he has been amazing during my pregnancy. I couldn't have asked for a better dh. Inshalla all will be ok. He is talking to his dm now. She will not mince her words with him.

Ramadan kareem to all

Ramadan Mubarak ladies for tomorrow.

DH is Muslim and it will be hard this year. I am preparing myself too for a bit of a grumpy and tired husband for the next month.

Rosie, my DS was born during Ramadan, the first XH and I spent together. The two weeks before were fine, lazing around, easy. The problem was when I went into labour at 2am and he had to drive us an hour and a half across county (long story don't ask) so ended up missing last meal/drink. He fasted all through and was worse than useless to me during labour and due to tiredness/not functioning properly he missed the moment of birth. I told him if it ever happened that way again (not likely now lol) I would want him to consult an imam about breaking the fast while his wife is in labour and making it up/paying the tithe for it because of the need to support his wife being greater than the need to fast. I don't know if there is precedent for it but there may be, and although my XH is very conscientious about fasting he has missed a day before due to great need so it is possible.
I would advise you to talk to him about it tomorrow after Iftar. Or soon in any case to allow him to mull it over and seek advice.

And Ramadan Mubarak! I will be fasting as much as I can this month, though I'm not religious, I just enjoyed it so much last year!

Ramadhan mubarak people finished my taraweeh and thinking I really should sleep as have to be up for iftar soon.
Going to be pretty tough this year, especially with this current heat and humidity.. But lets hope we reap as much benefit as possible without complaining all the time iA. Anyone else made a Ramadhan resolution? Mine is to have more sabr with the dc and stop - or drastically cut down atleast with the swear words awful I am.

Peace and love to all.

Blooming aunty flo Not had one since DS born, and today she arrives!

Ramadan Mubarak to you all x

Aw thats pretty rotten isnt it

Was practically salivating whilst feeding the dc, but so far so good alhamdulillah

Doh! Just realised i put iftar instead of suhoor in my pp.

HI everyone, I haven't been lurking on MN for ages, but I just wanted to wish you all a good Ramadan. I really admire your commitment to your faith.(I'm a non muslim) BTW I saw the Channel 4 prog about Ramadan and it was fabulous, me and my dd learned lots.
Crescent congratulations on your bump ! What wonderful news. XXXX

Ramadan kareem. Today has been lovely. I spent the day making lots of dh favourite food from home. He came in from work very happy slept for a few hours then we ate togethe. Humdulla. Xx

Crescent - thanks for the link, I'll read it tomorrow (it's too late for 42 pages lol). You're very knowledgeable and I really appreciate your advice, mashAllah.

Do you know much about istihada and haidh?

First fast over and alhamdulillah wa shukrillah I am so happy, a lot easier than I expected. Had bursts of energy throughout the day, and got loads more done than I normally do. Strange eh! will probably have to eat my words tomorrow, excuse the pun

Crescent - Iftar sounds lovely and indulgent at your house! we are having very simple dinners this year. DH is determined to stick to basic, healthy foods only.. which obviously leaves out all fried foods and desserts and all the gluttony things I am used to eating in Ramadhan! He is on doctor's orders so I would hate to eat them foods in front of him after he has gone hungry all day. Oh the things we do out of love!

Hello all
I'm not a Muslim, but wanted to wish you Ramadan Mubarak xx

Thank you sunshine x