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Am fuming probably should be in aibu but

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MillyMollyMoo · 16/04/2010 20:58

Next door caused that much fuss about our puppy last year climbing through the fence and doing his business in their garden and more to the point refusing to fix the shared fence so he couldn't do it, that we rehomed him.
It wasn't the only reason by far but if he'd been able to play in the garden plenty of other issues would have been easier to live with to say the least.
Well they have just informed me they are getting a new dog, not just that but one that grows to 68kg's and poo's like an elephant.
Am so cross they are either going to fix the fence when it suits them to have an animal or think that they are going to inflict the dog on us when our children had to loose theirs

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Vallhala · 17/04/2010 21:00

"And now we have one next door .... you'd be ok with that would you ... oh and I'll say it again still no fence."

YES I WOULD.

Both my children and I work with dogs of all breeds, some previously ill-treated, some just abandoned to pounds or rescue by ignorant owners, some even handed over by owners who are genuinely unable to keep them.

It's about the DEED NOT BREED

rainbowinthesky · 17/04/2010 21:01

I will say millymollymoo, you've had a lot of stick on this thread(rightly so) and you've handled it brilliantly.

Eglu · 17/04/2010 21:08

Ah, so the dog ran out of the back door when y our children opened it. Clearly you need to train your children!

Eglu · 17/04/2010 21:08

X post rainbow wrt to training

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MillyMollyMoo · 17/04/2010 21:11

We told the children if they let the dog out then the dog would have to go, they did so he did.

However I don't think it's a coincidence that he hasn't gone to another family, he was the wrong dog for us and I don't care what anyone says about no bad breed or dog, the dogs trust don't allow some dogs to go to homes with children under 12 and I suspect they would have said the same about our boy.

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rainbowinthesky · 17/04/2010 21:13

No wonder it's going to be hard on your kids seeing the neighbours with a dog. It's not your childrens fault you hated the dog. Nothing I have read about the dog you had suggests there was anything wrong with it apart from being understimulated and untrained - not the dogs fault.

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MillyMollyMoo · 17/04/2010 21:20

As far as I'm concerned it was wrong timing/wrong dog/wrong house/wrong children take your pick. But it has been resolved and I don't think next door will do anything differently or have more success and since they complained I shall be doing the same, just do not need the hassle right now.

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rainbowinthesky · 17/04/2010 21:23

Millions of people have dogs successfully. Lots of people, like you, cannot cope with having a dog and have to have it rehoused. Fine. But dont assume everyone will make the same mistakes. Maybe they will but maybe they wont. I wonder if they will send a solicitors letter to you if you take their dog to the pound.

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MillyMollyMoo · 17/04/2010 21:24

I wonder if they'll find out which pound it went to.

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rainbowinthesky · 17/04/2010 21:25

I expect the pound will contact them when they scan for a microchip.

Sufi · 17/04/2010 21:27

If a dog kept coming into my garden, shitting there, ripping clothes off the clothes line, was clearly mental (as your posts have suggested, ie. chewing walls and so on), and the dog's owner had said, 'oh well I can't afford to get a fence so you'll have to lump it', and my kids were playing in the garden, then yes, I would have turned the hose on it.

And yes, I would have gone round and been mightily pissed off and had words with said neighbour.

Unbelievable. You are the neighbour from hell.

MrsL123 · 17/04/2010 21:29

Millymollymoo, you truly are a nasty piece of work. Your dog had a lucky escape, I pity your children, your husband and your poor neighbours. Here's a thought - if you're so worried, tell your DH to get off his arse and secure the fence. It's not like he doesn't have the time.

Vallhala · 17/04/2010 21:31

A responsible, GOOD rescue will assess each family and dog individually. Sadly the DT is too big to do that entirely. Smaller rescues can but the downside to them (apart from low incomes and rarely having space in their establishments) is the limit to the number of suitable potential owners.

The DT have no policy on children's ages WRT Labradoodles but they DO cherry-pick what they will and won't take into their rescue.

It's entirely possible that the Labradoodle Trust would have happily homed to a responsible, well-informed family (WITH fences, confirmed by a homecheck), had the right one become available.

I do know for sure that your dog went from you contacting the rescue to him going into into rescue faster than most would. I'd imagine that having taken him on at short notice, upon my advice and request, they were glad to move him on in order to free up space which was earmarked for another deserving case and the placement he went to just happened to be on offer at the right time.

midori1999 · 17/04/2010 21:31

Well if their dog is microchipped the pound will ring them. Plus, are you sure you want to handle such a 'dangerous' dog for long enough to take it to the pound anyway?!

If I had a pound for every useless owner who blamed their dog's lack of training and poor behaviour on the dog...

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MillyMollyMoo · 17/04/2010 21:34

midori1999 you're right back to the hose since that's deemed acceptable treatment for my dog and child.

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Vallhala · 17/04/2010 21:37

Out of interest, why was your child hosed when it was your dog whom you allowed to stray into next-door's garden?

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MillyMollyMoo · 17/04/2010 21:40

I'll be generous Val and suggest she was in the way trying to get the dog back, i'd like to think that's the case on the basis that the person doing the hosing is a teacher.

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midori1999 · 17/04/2010 21:44

If you hosed my dogs they'd be back looking for you to do it again, they love the hose. Presumably your puppy didn't hate it that much either or it would have learnt to stay out of their garden. Maybe you disliked a wet dog coming back to your well kept home...

Seriously, get over yourself. Not one person who has replied on this thread has agreed with you and you really are either extremely dense or in cloud cuckoo land. Your poor neighbours, your poor children (what sort of parent tells a 9 and 1 year old it is their fault their dog has to go because they couldn't keep the back door shut, as opposed to the truth which was mummy was too stupid to either train the dog or properly research dog ownership prior to getting one) and that poor puppy being subjected to you in the most formative part of it's life. If it wasn't suitable for a pet home anymore I strongly suspect you had something to do with that.

Vallhala · 17/04/2010 21:45

Shouldn't that have been your job, MMM, and not that of your child, to supervise your dog and correct and pull lead him back onto your own property?

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MillyMollyMoo · 17/04/2010 21:46

You're right, quick somebody phone social services I've told my children to keep the back door shut to keep the dog in.

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MillyMollyMoo · 17/04/2010 21:49

I didn't know he was out Val, one minute he's snoozing on the sofa happy as larry next he sees the door open and out he goes, no doubt the child didn't want to come and get me because it knew it would be in trouble for opening the doors so the child got soaked rescuing the dog. Who incidentally didn't like it at all and cried.
These things happen in a busy home and since next door is no less busy and she is no better at controlling her children and has the same size house, I'm sorry but I see trouble ahead.

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Vallhala · 17/04/2010 21:51

No, I'm not speaking of the back door. I'm speaking of the supervision of a young dog in an unfenced garden, where he has already trespassed and caused offence to neighbours, by a child and not you, the adult.

Maleeka · 17/04/2010 21:54

This thread has made me Laugh Out Loud!, thanks OP

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MillyMollyMoo · 17/04/2010 21:55

He never went out without us supervising him if we knew he was out.
This wasn't a daily occurrence, it was the odd escape which the neighbours complained about, I'm not saying they were wrong to complain but we never sent him out to play in an unfenced garden knowing he'd cause trouble.
He was taken out to pee on his lead, then walked twice and when he was old enough to yelp at the back door again he went out on the lead.
I don't see other dog owners doing anything differently quite honestly.

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Bella32 · 17/04/2010 21:56

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