Dog I don’t want and never asked for that I’m scared of

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Basicallly I don’t know what to do with a dog that I’m scared of and don’t want in my house.
My partner got the dog without asking because his friends dog had puppies. I’ve never owned a dog in my life and first as it was young it was fine.

then the dog got older and it’s a large dog, I don’t want to say the breed, but it’s big. I’m more of a cat person although I don’t have cats atm.
anyway my partner works away. Often I’m alone with the dog and my 3 youngest kids.

My eldest boys don’t live away but they’re often out wirh friends especially at the weekend.
They do come home in the evening obviously as they’re only 14 and 12. But then home they do the dog care because I am scared of the dog. They do the feed and walk etc. but weekends from around 11am to 11pm it’s all on me.

The dog isn’t super aggressive but he’s had his moments. I’m rambling I’m so sorry I’m just not sure what to do and where I can go. Partner doesn’t listen, my eldest kids like the dogs, youngest 3 are scared but may be because they’ve picked it up from me.
i don’t want the dog to be put to spew he’s only bitten twice within the family. No where will take him when I ask and say theyre full.
please can someone give advice and options I asked on FB groups and got bad things said and even mocking of my account photos and children which were just day to day photos and really unjustified thabjs

What the fuck?! Take it to the vets and get it put to sleep before it kills one of your fucking kids!

Tell them, he's bit two of my kids and I'm scared of him.

Can't believe youre letting the kids walk him when he's bitten them because YOURE scared of it.

You see, I would not rehome a dog that had bitten. I would still feel responsible if it bit. When I phoned the RSPCA, I was hoping they would assist me in getting the dog out of the house due to the particular circumstances, but I didn't expect them to rehome him. The RSPCA would not help, told me to phone the police, who told me to phone the RSPCA! In the end after about 2 hours, the dog had quietened down and it was the 1 way walk to the vets. But it was clear to me that rehoming was not the right choice. I'm sad about it, but know it was the right thing.

rehoming centres are often full to the brim - even breed specific ones. Most will flatly refuse a dog that has bitten previously. They do not have the scope to deal with aggressive dogs. To the poster - if your dog has nipped/bitten then it is aggressive and I would not have it in a house with children. You are frightened of the animal so therefore not able to effectively deal with it. I would ask you husband to take the dog with him when working away, try the shelters again and if no luck unfortunately the next step is arranging a visit to the vet to discuss options. Ultimately your family’s safety is paramount and before I get slayed I’m a doggie mummy and lover and have had dogs my whole life. I want to add that getting the dog was ridiculous and ultimately that decision may lead to the death of an innocent animal - I find it very maddening that these breeds are being mistreated by people like this. They are not a fashion accessory or a nice cute puppy to enjoy and discard

You're having a tough time on this thread OP but I'm so pleased it's made you think and take this as seriously as you need to. It's not easy to do something against the wishes of your family, especially when you are scared. That's exactly the kind of circumstance that makes us freeze and no nothing. Your plan to take the dog to the police or have it put to sleep is the right plan. You have all of us in your court to face your partner and children's upset when they find out. You need to do this for your little ones xx

I’m not sure on the actual breed tbh. He’s kind of like a staffy in the face but his body is big. He’s a mix breed. Not an xl manchestwr dogs hole even said so

So it's some kind of bulldog/bull terrier cross.

The clue is in the word "bull". They were bred to bait bulls. Kept by the wrong people in the wrong place, they will happily kill a child.

Please get that thing out of your home!

Any decent vet will put it to sleep for you tomorrow.

Totally agree. I don’t believe OP has tried. Poor, poor dog.

UK police have a text phone line: 18001 101…. for non emegency advice, queries etc.

I expect this dog hasn’t been neutered? so I think this is very close to being an emergency.
Please text that no.

I’m sorry you were treated like that when you were trying to reach out for help, it’s clear that you’re really worried and trying to find a solution. I hope that after all the advice you’ve received on this thread that the dog will be removed from your home today. I’m genuinely concerned that one of your children will be headline news as the next “bully breed” attack, the dog sounds like a ticking time bomb waiting to go off. Having a large, untrained, bored, adolescent bully breed dog who is getting inadequate exercise and living in a house with (5?) children (2 of whom have already been bitten) is a fatality waiting to happen. In this instance you wouldn’t be able to say that he was a lovely dog that never hurt a fly - the warning signs are loud and clear. I can’t believe your partner is happy to have one of these dogs around his family 😞
I really hope you manage to get rid of the dog today (I do think pts is probably the best outcome to be honest). As pp have said it’s probably not safe for the older children to walk him either, they aren’t equipped to manage a dog attack. Good luck, you’re doing the right thing.

Don't you dare take a dog out of its environment and dump it at a police station. Police have better things to do than have dogs dumped on them.

As for biting - just because a dog has bitten doesn't mean it needs to be PTS. There are all sorts of measures you could try before that's an option. You could try and get a behaviourist involved. Putting a healthy animal to sleep should be a last resort

You're calling a dog evil? I would suggest this dog isn't being looked after properly - because it's clear you hate it. You're leaving the care of this dog to a 14 and 12 year old?

Completely irresponsible - and your partner is no better. I don't believe you are telling the full story here - and the reason why people will have had harsh words to say to you on Facebook is because it's totally irresponsible to try and rehome a dog on that platform - you have no idea where it will end up.

And as per. Without knowing the full story people on here have the dog pegged as an XL bully even though she has said it isn't - and that it has to be removed from her home today. Good luck with that. Rescues are full to bursting - and police are not there as a dumping ground for unwanted animals.

No, I don't think she or the stupid man who caused the problem has either.

Both of my rescue sheepdogs were rehomed because they had nipped children, btw. Our older dog was displaying herding behaviour that was left unchecked because the dogs in the home were not being trained/their needs were not met and the dogs were bored and understimulated. Our 11 month old pup was allowed to rough play with the children when he was wee and then when he got bigger that became dangerous and they wanted rid of him. They also would let their wee kids just wander about with snacks in their hands and obviously, pupper would try to snatch them, because he's a puppy and they weren't training manners or separating dog and children when food was around. They then dealt with the bad behaviour THEY CAUSED by yelling at him and manhandling him instead of, you know, putting the work in to train him. Because stupid people get working breed dogs as family pets and expect them to behave like lap dogs.

So it isn't true as some people are saying once a dog has bitten they can't be rehomed, but it very much depends on the circumstances. Neither of my rescues are aggressive by nature, nor was the biting aggressive, and neither of them have nipped following rehoming into a family with only older children who know how to behave around animals, sufficient stimulation and exercise and good training.

If the dog bites another person then the OP could be prosecuted. She knows it bites. Would you be happy with that?

You need to calm right down. This dog has bitten children. It sounds big enough to kill a child.

how about op employs a behaviourist, lives in fear and guilt for months and then it kills one of her children? And YOU advised her to do that. You are being irresponsible!! The OP has been and now she’s having to deal with the consequences. I’d rather a dead dog, put down humanely than a child mauled to death and parents in jail for not taking action when they knew there was risk.

So was the dog trying to take the toast and missed?

With a breed like that if the dog was biting (not mouthing which is play) then you’d have a proper hospital visit type injury on your hands.

I really feel for this dog. Your partner has got the dog irresponsibly and ruined its life for good.

It’s very unlikely that a dog of that description will be rehomed to anyone good. Poor thing hasn’t had any love, which a dog needs to thrive. It’s been failed completely, and for that reason your partner has been a total arsehole with no sense of responsibility, all of which if I were you I’d hate him for.

Please take it to the vet and PTS tomorrow. Your family are at risk.

Don’t be absolutely ridiculous. Regardless of cause, this dog NEEDS to be taken out of this environment. Urgently.
A dog big and strong enough to easily kill with a history of biting OPs kids? Yeah fuck that. One way trip to the vets. And if you don’t agree then you shouldn’t be near animals or children. Would I EVER dream of having this type of breed, let alone an aggressive one, near young kids. Give your head a wobble.

My thoughts entirely.

I agree with you about the cause being the owners, however in my area no centres will take a dog with bite history as they can’t rehome them. This includes big places like Dogs Trust, and smaller shelters, I have not seen that happen for some years now. It may be to do with insurance or something. Also I don’t know one centre within a 100 mile radius offering spaces for dogs currently. I am SE. The OP is at fault for getting the animal, but in this case I believe the safety of the children is paramount to the dog. This is why nobody should be able to get a dog without a license and mandatory dog training.

I agree with you about the cause being the owners, however in my area no centres will take a dog with bite history as they can’t rehome them. This includes big places like Dogs Trust, and smaller shelters, I have not seen that happen for some years now. It may be to do with insurance or something. Also I don’t know one centre within a 100 mile radius offering spaces for dogs currently. I am SE. The OP is at fault for getting the animal, but in this case I believe the safety of the children is paramount to the dog. This is why nobody should be able to get a dog without a license and mandatory dog training.

I agree with you about the cause being the owners, however in my area no centres will take a dog with bite history as they can’t rehome them. This includes big places like Dogs Trust, and smaller shelters, I have not seen that happen for some years now. It may be to do with insurance or something. Also I don’t know one centre within a 100 mile radius offering spaces for dogs currently. I am SE. The OP is at fault for getting the animal, but in this case I believe the safety of the children is paramount to the dog. This is why nobody should be able to get a dog without a license and mandatory dog training.

I agree with you about the cause being the owners, however in my area no centres will take a dog with bite history as they can’t rehome them. This includes big places like Dogs Trust, and smaller shelters, I have not seen that happen for some years now. It may be to do with insurance or something. Also I don’t know one centre within a 100 mile radius offering spaces for dogs currently. I am SE. The OP is at fault for getting the animal, but in this case I believe the safety of the children is paramount to the dog. This is why nobody should be able to get a dog without a license and mandatory dog training.

Im sorry but this is ludicrous. The OP has designated the care of this dog to a 12 and 14 year old. And people are wondering why it's bitten?

Putting to sleep should be an absolute last resort. I am personally hugely uncomfortable that a bunch of strangers on an Internet forum that has a reputation for mass hysteria over a multitude of topics are actually getting to decide this dogs fate

If the OP takes the dog to get put to sleep without telling her partner - I would be very surprised if the relationship survives.

This dog doesn't deserve to have it's life ended because a pair of irresponsible owners don't have the first clue about how to look after it

Daughter and son in law had a Spaniel acquired as a pup. He's from a family that have owned dogs. I wouldn't want one and nor would my partner so other than form long exposure to her husband's family she was a dog newbie but learned fast.

At first it was a lovely pet but for reasons we can't wholly follow by age 4 or 5 it got territorial and snappy. Not actual vicous bites but enough to draw blood. Son's girl, whose family are all dog owners and knows how to approach dodgy pooches was rewarded with a nip.

A dog whisperer was employed and situation improved a bit.

Then DD was away overnight for work. Neighbour came round to sit with our grandson while Doggo was taken for evening toddle round the block.

She was bitten badly enough to need to go to A&E.

Doggo was put down next day.

That was the nuclear option. Another was rehoming but DD and DSiL thought that unfair on the dog.

Don't hope the problem will improve; it wont. Either training, rehoming or a one way to the vet are your only options.

There are rescues on Facebook that deal with specific breeds. Theres dogs trust - and there are behaviourists who would be willing to work with this family

And given that the OP got this dog from a friend - I assume a breeder - they are the person who should take the dog back. It's generally accepted that if you buy a dog from a breeder - which I'm assuming you did - that you return it if you can't look after it.

Why does your partner need this type of dog?
why do you need a man who places you and your children in harm’s way either by having this dog or by possibly having a reason to need this type of dog?
and yeah, now you have posted on internet if ever police are involved because of dog injuring someone and it’s clear dog known to be aggressive then you will probably say goodbye to your kids for a while-social workers won’t let that slide, you are meant to keep them safe and don’t even feel safe yourself.
police may look at custodial sentence for you-
but then you prioritised the man and his dog over your kids, their safety and other people’s safety. 🤷‍♀️