Dog I don’t want and never asked for that I’m scared of

[Vicks1]

Basicallly I don’t know what to do with a dog that I’m scared of and don’t want in my house.
My partner got the dog without asking because his friends dog had puppies. I’ve never owned a dog in my life and first as it was young it was fine.

then the dog got older and it’s a large dog, I don’t want to say the breed, but it’s big. I’m more of a cat person although I don’t have cats atm.
anyway my partner works away. Often I’m alone with the dog and my 3 youngest kids.

My eldest boys don’t live away but they’re often out wirh friends especially at the weekend.
They do come home in the evening obviously as they’re only 14 and 12. But then home they do the dog care because I am scared of the dog. They do the feed and walk etc. but weekends from around 11am to 11pm it’s all on me.

The dog isn’t super aggressive but he’s had his moments. I’m rambling I’m so sorry I’m just not sure what to do and where I can go. Partner doesn’t listen, my eldest kids like the dogs, youngest 3 are scared but may be because they’ve picked it up from me.
i don’t want the dog to be put to spew he’s only bitten twice within the family. No where will take him when I ask and say theyre full.
please can someone give advice and options I asked on FB groups and got bad things said and even mocking of my account photos and children which were just day to day photos and really unjustified thabjs

I think it's particularly alarming that he bit one of the children in the "waist area". Snapping at a hand might be surprise or miscalculation, but going for the body is very aggressive.

Have the dog put to sleep.

Then your main problem is your idiotic dh bringing home another one. If he does, take it straight back to breeder or a dog rescue.

You're the one at home all the time, he's not.

How can you think it's in any way acceptable for your twelve year old to walk this dog? I'm guessing this is because there is nobody else to do it as your husband isn't there - which obviously begs the question of why he has it in the first place if he's expecting his children to be responsible for it. It also sounds like the twelve year old is out til late with no supervision? You must put your foot down on this OP - the dog goes or the partner goes and takes it with him. It needs to be far away from your children either way.

This thread just makes me sad for the kids and the dog. Both the parents are useless and care more about themselves than the children and pets they have chosen to be responsible for. By not doing anything about the situation, yes, OP is choosing to be responsible for this dog, whether she wanted it or not.

If it bites a member of the public, someone else's child, someone else's dog, even while in the care of her 12 year old and she wasn't there, she will be held responsible as the adult in charge. Or if one of her children is seriously hurt, she will be the one having to explain it to social services. They will hold her responsible if it happens in her care, they won't give a shiny shite that she didn't want the dog in the first place.

Fuck people who get dogs they can't look after and fuck people who put their children in danger by not dealing with the shitty situation they've created like adults, basically. I hate how many posts I see on here about people getting dogs because aww cute/kids wanted a puppy and then next thing they're on here asking about rehoming because they didn't bother doing any training or giving adequate stimulation, exercise, etc and now the dog is a bigger adult dog with no manners and/or problem behaviour and they can't cope, and they let it go on for months before seeking help. All of my rescues and most of my fosters have come from such situations.

Animals are not accessories or toys, and here we have another dog who will live a short, stressed life where its needs aren't met and will pay the price. So yeah - fuck people who do this, really. And the OP doesn't get to claim innocence because she didn't want the dog.

The dog has bitten your kids TWICE and you've not got rid of it??? Shocking!!!

This is why adults are charged in cases like this though.

@Vicks1 would the breeder have the dog back ? Could you get in touch with them and tell them it's not working out and the animal is suffering?

I’m sorry but you need to get rid of the dog. Step up here. Tell your partner no way. This is a big accident waiting to happen. Find your anger.

tell the police about the biting and growling and scary behaviour. And tell social services if you need to. If it were me and no one would take the dog, I’d have it put to sleep before I had it in the house with my children

This. Deal with it asap.

This is completely insane. When you see a dog attack on the news, I always wonder how it happened but reading this, this is how it happens.
to be honest if a dog had bitten anyone in the house that would be it. I wouldn’t be re homing, I would pts. But this dog has bitten twice and is aggressive about one of the children’s rooms.
you need your head checked to let this continue - someone is going to get hurt badly as this is not going to improve.
sad I know as I’m sure everyone loves the dog on some level - but how will you feel if it bites one of the kids badly and they’re permanently scarred. Surely you love your kids more than the dog.
i hope you don’t allow play dates at your house, if it bites someone else’s child you’ll be going to jail.
this is a bad accident waiting to happen.

You don't accidently end up with your flesh in between a dog's teeth. Come on OP, you know what you need to do here x

Your dog has bitten your children twice and drew blood. If you keep this dog in your house you are being incredibly irresponsible. Take to the vet now and have it PTS. Could you live with yourself if the dog kills someone knowing you did nothing to prevent a predictable tragedy from happening?

If a dog bites it needs to be put to sleep. I’m a huge dog champion, but you cannot have a dog that bites. Even an experienced dog handler would not take that risk.

“He was a pup not long ago, only now 17 months old and last few months turned evil. I think gonna try police”…….
You need to do just that….today! You say the dog has already bitten people several times? How can you be confident that the children have it completely under control when they take it out for a walk? There’s so much potential for things to go tragically wrong and it isn’t fair on the dog, not saying anyone deserves to be bitten but the dog is growing and seemingly doesn’t know any better because he isn’t being trained and managed, for want of a better word, correctly.
There are places who will take the dog I’m sure but SM isn’t the ideal platform to re-home any animal.
Take responsibility, be an adult, protect your children and give the dog a better chance of a happy existence, if he’s a big breed he needs space, responsible training and stimulation.

Try rescues. If the rescues won’t take it, you need to take it to the police to be put to sleep. I am a massive dog lover, but under these circumstances this is about prevention of something serious happening which would involve the dog being PTS anyway. Your partner and older kids are against it I know but honestly just ignore him and take it into your own hands.

What happens if the 12 and 14 yr old have a fight? Who will he protect? How will he protect them?

To hell with muzzles. Just get this dangerous dog out of your house and make a safe home for your children.

Take the darned thing to the vets and deal with your OH when he gets back.

What a strange society where children play second fiddle to an animal ...

This situation is a news story waiting to happen! I agree with others posters that you are both being selfish by keeping this dog in the house as it is a ticking time bomb and your children are at constant risk here! Take the dog to the vet and tell them you have been unable to find the dog a place in a rescue and that its not safe to have it in ypur house anymore end of.

Fixed this for you

i can’t get rid of my partner he’s fine orher than the dog issue and he is obviously my children’s father and relationship is great othwrwise other than the fact he doesn't give a shit about what I want or his childrens safety. He got an aggressive animal he cant look after as he works offshore so has dumped on me and it's a danger to me and my children.... oh wait he's not fine...

Agree with others this is a news story waiting to happen

This ^

OP if you won't protect your own DC from this dog please make sure it has a muzzle on when it leaves the house for a walk. You are highly irresponsible for keeping a large dangerous dog that has already bitten twice in a house with DC. Wake up before it seriously attacks one of you. Your DH is nasty and irresponsible. He is not a great Dad.

While you are dithering around your children are at risk.

I LOVE dogs and I do tonnes of dog sitting for friends and family.

However, I will NEVER dog sit for bullies or staffies or any breed that I don't feel should be family pets and whose jaws are configured to cause severe injury and death by mauling.

I'm sure this will lead to a load of "deed not breed" and all that nonsense but nothing will change my mind ever in a million years...certain breeds of dog should never be kept as "pets" and I would 100% not have the dog you've described, (that's already bitten your children twice) in the house. That should be your family's safe space.

If this dog does go on to attack, you won't have a legal leg to stand on.

Also I couldn't live with an animal in my house that I was afraid of.

Most of them are full with waiting lists. A better option for an aggressive dog that bites is having it put to sleep.

If you're scared do something to reduce your fear. I'd also buy a nice muzzle that has good padding so it's comfy and use it. They don't harm the dog, it can still eat and drink fine.

Book training for you and the dog - find a reputable trainer to work with. Your fear may be bringing on the dogs fear. The trainer will know and can advise.

Your, DP is an AH.

Lots of breed specific ones make exceptions in situations like this where the only other option is PTS. No offence to OP, but two kids walking a dog like this and her not giving it any attention during the day (which is evident by the fact she’s terrified of it) is never going to be a happy or healthy dog.

I’ve known dogs in far worse situations completely change in the right family situation. This was a dog bought as a puppy by a family woefully incapable of managing it.

But ultimately, the bigger issue is Ops negligence in letting two kids walk a large and ‘aggressive’ dog. It’s one thing to have a dog you’re scared of, it’s another to put two children in charge of it.