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I had to take our family rescue dog back to the rescue after 5 years

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Rara123jam · 13/10/2019 20:01

Sorry about the length of this I just need to get it out noone seems to understand how I am feeling .I took our dog back to the rescue last week after 5 years and I'm absolutely broken ! My kids ds (9) and dd(6) are coping so much better then me . I know I have done the right thing . Since becoming a single mum earlier this year and having to work, I just didnt have enough time for him anymore and he (fluffy) was on his own to much and wasnt getting enough attetion or walks.
I feel so guilty and worried for him. How scared he must be. He was my best friend like my 3rd child and my shadow when we were togethor. I miss him so much I'm so worried he will be left at the rescue without a new family for ages.
My friends think im overreacting and tell me I need to just get on with it. I dont really no what i want from this thread, I suppose just someone who understands and has any advice
But please no negativity I already feel rubbish enough 😭

OP posts:
Helmetbymidnight · 27/10/2019 07:41

this thread is 2 weeksold, restarted by someone who wanted to kick someone when theyre down.

you cant seriously think you're helping.

Cobblersandhogwash · 27/10/2019 08:29

Do you know what op? If you'd come on here saying you couldn't manage your dog, walk him etc before you'd put him into rescue, then you'd have got the same nasty responses. No constructive contributions. Just lambasting.

I laughed when I read someone actually posted "surely you've got the time for three walks a day."

People's lives change, often drastically and unfortunately if the dog isn't getting exercise, then the dog will be miserable.

Maybe in a few months your situation will have improved and then you could find out if he's be rehired or not?

Cobblersandhogwash · 27/10/2019 08:40

Obviously I meant rehomed not rehired.

I too think we should move away from the notion of so many dogs as pets. It's not working well given how many are in rescue and are maltreated or even vaguely neglected.

I don't think it's a good idea for many homes to have dogs. I feel like dogs should live on farms and have lots of access to freedom. Most live in suburban homes and don't get enough exercise, get bored etc.

Plus the commitment of time and money is really big.

I have four dogs. I was pressured into getting them by dh and dd. They both promised they would walk them. They do absolutely sweet nothing for the dogs. It's all on me. I feel trapped.

They get an hour walk in the morning and a short stroll in the evening. That is all the time I have.

We've moved recently from a rural home to a suburban. Getting out with the dogs is even more time consuming. And because I never even wanted dogs as pets, I'm starting to resent it.

However, I don't think I could send them to a shelter because I do have the time and the cash to deal with them. Who knows what I'd have to do if I had neither.

So those bitching at the op, keep on donating to the dog shelters and try being a little more supportive and focused on solutions instead of slinging nastiness.

Chattybum · 27/10/2019 08:54

Op, my heart breaks for you but I think you did the right thing. Don't dwell on the worst case scenario, try to focus on the best case and remember you are trying to do your best in the interests of the dog. He deserves to be in a home where they have time to give him as much love as they can and you have given him the best chance of that.

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