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Have to find a home for my old lady

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HalfwayToFifty · 21/01/2017 20:53

I'm absolutely devastated. Had my cat since she was 8 weeks old. She is now approx 14/15. She's a house cat who is scared of children thanks to my Ds chasing her. We are moving house in a few weeks and no pets allowed. I'm gutted I can't keep her. We have been trying to search for some where that can take her and rehome her but having no luck. Don't want to just advertise on social media incase I make the wrong decision and send her somewhere horrid! I wold prefer her to go to a rescue so they could take care in rehoming her. Any ideas of places that do this? We are in the northwest.

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HalfwayToFifty · 28/01/2017 10:13

My mum will not have the cat no matter what I do. Frustrating and upsetting but she won't change her mind. She doesn't like cats I don't understand why she let me keep this one, I only wanted a bloody budgie and ended up with a cat, who despite what it's sounds like, I actually do love.

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HalfwayToFifty · 28/01/2017 10:15

Like I say she is at the vets today. When I know she's fit and healthy then I can think about what's next

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HalfwayToFifty · 28/01/2017 10:31

I DID NOT chose to have the cat I was fucking 10/11 years old I never asked for a cat. Maybe the person Who bought it for me should have looked 14/15 years in the future and realised I would have kids and need a house by then. I apologise for wanting to provide a home for my children. If that makes me disgusting then so be it. And this is why I say they are telling me to put the cat first. If I didn't move that would me thinking of the cat first and my children second. I CAN'T have both simple as that.

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Wales2018 · 28/01/2017 10:34

Sorry, can't meant won't. You can, but you won't. Despicable excuses.

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HalfwayToFifty · 28/01/2017 10:41

So I should risk eviction, my kids being on the streets, bad future reference if I get caught? I'll never be ably to buy a house, I will forever be renting and I should risk this? I'm sorry but there are more important things in my life like my children as I have repaleatedly said. We can't take the cat, my mother won't have her, I won't find a house big enough in this price range for a long time. I want to parent my children my way not my mother's way. I want there to be me and my Dh in my marraige not me Dh and mum. I want to have space so my children can play on the floor. I want to have a relaxing bedroom where our stuff isn't all over it because nowhere to put it. My daughter is ready to move out of our room, there is nowhere else for her and we are disturbing her. I'm sorry for wanting a better life for my children who mean more to me than my cat. I want to lounge about on my lovely new sofa rather than escaping to my room. I want to be a family!

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Patienceisvirtuous · 28/01/2017 10:42

OP why are you only concerned with (a) hammering the moot point that she was a gift at 10yo (so what, she has been with you for fifteen years now and is your responsibility) and (b) hammering the moot point that your kids come before the cat (again, no one suggesting otherwise - just that she is still your responsibility!)
...but not responding to questions like whether you would be prepare to cover all her costs while a fosterer or friend looks after her?

Seems like you came on to get validation that it's okay to wash your hands of your elderly cat and when the collective answer is a resounding 'no' you've spat your dummy out and keep repeating the same immature, irrelevant fucking points.

Grow up and sort it out - you're a parent AND and animal owner - you have responsibilities attached to both roles - one DOES not cancel out the fucking other.

Urgh i'm leaving this thread now, while feeling heartily sorry for your 15 year old pet (who yes, we get it, was GIVEN to you, and yes we know it COMES second to your kids ((talk about stating the obvious!)) )

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HalfwayToFifty · 28/01/2017 10:46

Do you not think I would jump on the chance for a family member or friend to have her. I'm repeating myself because people just don't seem to get it. In this situation it's my childrens future or my cat. I chose my children.

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HalfwayToFifty · 28/01/2017 10:47

And I actually came on to ask for advice on rehoming not to check it was ok. I don't need your permission.

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passmethewineplease · 28/01/2017 10:48

Hope the check goes well OP.

All these people hammering the OP are you offering to take her cat for her? Seen as you care so much?

OP can't force her mother to look after the cat. OP has already said her family are struggling given their current living situation. As for the advice of sneaking the cat in, really? Her tenancy could be terminated with immediate effect couldn't it? If it's a house cat even more likely he LL would find out? Stupid advice.

OP did you see sunflowers post? She said she's in Cheshire and has room for elderly cats! Was a couple of pages back.

I hope you manage to sort something for your cat.

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HalfwayToFifty · 28/01/2017 10:52

passmethewineplease thanks I did see yes. I've made a mental note to return to the comment after we know she's all OK. I don't want to pass on any surprise vets bills to anyone. I'm sure she will be fine she's always been healthy.

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Reality16 · 28/01/2017 10:53

All these people hammering the OP are you offering to take her cat for her? Seen as you care so much? I'm not no, because the last thing I need is an elderly cat. That does not mean I can't comment on the thread though Confused

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 28/01/2017 10:53

You may as well have her PTS. It is unlikely you will find a home for her and the disruption will not do her any good anyway. What a way to treat an old friend.

Wales2018 · 28/01/2017 10:54

Who wants to start a wager that the vet will say there's something wrong and the "kindest thing to do would be to put her to sleep"?

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HalfwayToFifty · 28/01/2017 10:56

Of there was something wrong I would have it treated

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HalfwayToFifty · 28/01/2017 10:58

But I think it's unlikely something is wrong with her. I just don't want someone to take her and end up with a bill, if there is I would rather get it sorted myself.

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Fitzsimmons · 28/01/2017 11:01

Goodness some of the comments on here are a bit crazy. The OP was given the cat when she was ten years old. She's dutifully looked after it for 14 years. She had no way of knowing when she was ten that this situation would arise. Get a grip people. I don't have any suggestions for you OP I just wanted to let you know that I understand your predicament and your reasons for wanting to rehome the cat completely. I hope you manage to sort out the situation soon.

Patienceisvirtuous · 28/01/2017 11:04

You can offer to cover her bills for life (you know, seeing as that person would be doing you a favour and you'd be covering them anyway if landlord allowed pets Hmm)

My elderly neighbour died - I took in her 13 yo cat. Neighbour's daughter offered to pay for all her costs. I said no, but the offer was there, from someone responsible!

StiickEmUp · 28/01/2017 11:07

To be honest OP my point was a pointless (because no one cares) one and not really directed at you.

People have been a lot worse to go than me !

You've said you've made your decision so what did you want from this thread as you've said you are happy with decision?

Reality16 · 28/01/2017 11:07

Of there was something wrong I would have it treated why? Seriously, why the fuck?

MrsBridgesBuns · 28/01/2017 11:10

How long have you lived at your mums? To me it sounds as though you've always lived there.
You moved your DP in. You then had a child. Then another.
At some point in the last 4-5 years you must have realised that space in your home was running out yet you chose to expand your family.
You're telling me that in the last 4 years you wouldn't have been able to find a suitable sized home that accepts pets? Confused

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HalfwayToFifty · 28/01/2017 11:11

why wouldn't I get it treated?

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passmethewineplease · 28/01/2017 11:12

Do you think the OP is loving this? How on earth do you know how she feels? It's hard to convey emotion through text/written word on the internet.

Reality, comment what you like, I just don't like to see people kicked why they're down. OPs first line was I'm devastated.. yet people saw fit to call her disgusting, her mum a selfish awful human?

That's all totally going to help the OP and her cat. Hmm

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HalfwayToFifty · 28/01/2017 11:13

I have always lived there. My mum wanted us to stay after she retired. It's not working any more. We have been looking to move for approx 2 years. We need to live in the same area for Dh work and Ds school. It's not been easy coming across a house that suits our needs within budget.

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Reality16 · 28/01/2017 11:14

why wouldn't I get it treated?. I asked why you would?

Here we have an elderly cat, facing a rescue centre, even a straight rehome would cause stress to this cat, but you think that if it had an illness you would be kinder to treat it than to let the cat be PTS Confused

I think you need to take a step back and look at this differently OP as all I see is defensive posts and sod all about what is best for your cat.