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Have to find a home for my old lady

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HalfwayToFifty · 21/01/2017 20:53

I'm absolutely devastated. Had my cat since she was 8 weeks old. She is now approx 14/15. She's a house cat who is scared of children thanks to my Ds chasing her. We are moving house in a few weeks and no pets allowed. I'm gutted I can't keep her. We have been trying to search for some where that can take her and rehome her but having no luck. Don't want to just advertise on social media incase I make the wrong decision and send her somewhere horrid! I wold prefer her to go to a rescue so they could take care in rehoming her. Any ideas of places that do this? We are in the northwest.

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ArseyTussle · 25/01/2017 14:45

I love Cat Chat. I sometimes look on there at the cats in our area, even though I already have a cat and am not planning on getting a second. Blush

sunflowers14 · 25/01/2017 15:43

I am in Cheshire and I always have room for elderly cats.

PM me if you like.

FarFromFolsomPrison · 25/01/2017 15:49

I might know someone who would consider an elderly cat possibly, but large medical bills would be a worry. Do you mind saying how much your insurance premiums are? Happy if you want to PM me!

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HalfwayToFifty · 25/01/2017 16:00

We don't actually have insurance. We had her sister aswell until she passed away. She went to the vets to have an eye removed after a neighbour shot her with a bb gun (just putting that out there, it was nothing genetic that may be passed to her sister)we just paid ourselves. She's going for her check Saturday, obviously if it turns out there's anything nasty hiding we will deal with it following the vets advice. I would never let her go and leave someone with a load of vets bills. I'm hoping all is OK, which it appears to be, but who knows what's going on inside as she's an older cat.

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Blackfellpony · 26/01/2017 14:05

So she's lived with your mum for 13 years and she's happy to see her out on the street?
Sorry but your mum sounds like an awful person. Surely she can just let her stay and feed her, it's not exactly difficult. Hmm

Esbm2015 · 27/01/2017 07:51

Hi I know Blue Cross pet charity offers various schemes including one where you can keep your pet until it gets a new home so it doesn't have to spend time in kennels.

Trustyourself2 · 27/01/2017 17:12

You cannot put a cat to sleep just because you can no longer look after it. A vet will not agree to that, anyway. You should never resort to killing an animal, because you can't deal with it.

WellErrr · 27/01/2017 17:53

Yes you can, trust. And yes, good vets do just that.

Circumstances change. What's worse? A long happy life and a pain free death? Or a long happy life, then a year or two of uncertainty, confusion and ill health?

Trustyourself2 · 27/01/2017 18:08

I know several vets in several countries, and none of them would agree to putting down an animal if it's healthy. I'm genuinely surprised that a vet would do this.

ExitPursuedBySpartacus · 27/01/2017 21:59

I know of a dog that has just been put to sleep as it's owner had sadly died and the family didn't want it. Tragic but better than being sold on gumtree.

Patriciathestripper1 · 27/01/2017 22:03

Shock you are going to re home an elderly pet that's been with you all it's life?
What a horrible cruel thing to do.
Wwyd if the landlord said no kids? Re home them to ?
That's just fucking horrible.

Frouby · 27/01/2017 22:05

Of course they will pts if it's the best outcome for the animal concerned. I had a similar conversation with my vet yesterday regarding our pony.

Vets should be actively promoting animal welfare. It is not in this cats interests to go to a rehoming centre. They are full of young cats and kittens never mind oaps. An animal has no concept of pts. No idea what is happening.

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HalfwayToFifty · 28/01/2017 08:42

Are you seriously comparing children to cats? Kids first, Dh, both our families. Then the cat. I wouldn't have viewed the house if no children welcome, I wouldn't have known what I was missing. A lot of you seem to be see suggesting I rehome my kids rather than my cat. I feel sorry for your kids if you prioritise you pets over them! You shouldn't be a parent.

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Reality16 · 28/01/2017 08:53

OP why did you post? You have said it's making you upset and your rude defensive tone is unnecessary.

I agree that having an elderly cat PTS is much kinder the. The trauma of ending up In a rescue with a minor possibility of being uprooted yet again. Think hard about the cats welfare, I know it must be difficult as you expressed right at the start you would rather a resume took her and dealt with it for you, but regardless of when you got the cat and how your lie has changed, you have a responsibility to do the right thing.

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HalfwayToFifty · 28/01/2017 09:02

My lie? Most of the comments on here are unnecessary, I'm hurting enough without reading all this. Someone said I posted for validation, no I posted for advice, I'm not asking opinions, my mind is made up because I have to do this unfortunately. I just don't understand how people could put the feelings of their pets before the needs of their children and I don't understand how people can be so hurtful. I know people see pets as family but surely actual family has to be thought about first? I can just imagine you all clapping and cheering if I decided to keep the cat and rehome the kids!

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StiickEmUp · 28/01/2017 09:13

I prefer Cats to humans. I'm childfree. Cats haven't destroyed the planet, they aren't racist, they could never be Donald trump.

So no, I don't compare humans to cats they aren't comparable

Waxlyrically · 28/01/2017 09:30

I can't see anywhere whether you have actually asked the landlord about your elderly cat OP - apologies if I've missed it and they've said no. If you haven't then if you care for her you would at least do this surely. That way you have all the options before you to make what sounds like a difficult decision . Personally I don't think I could leave her but I'm not in your situation so It would be unfair to judge. I do hope it all works out though.

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HalfwayToFifty · 28/01/2017 09:32

I prefer my children to my cat, obviously you won't understand. Should I have not had children to make you feel better? I actually plan on teaching my children to not be racist or Donald Trump. I can't teach my cat to not scratch stair carpets or shit in the litter tray rather than over the edge of it. I can't teach her to not climb into my 6mo pram/cot leaving hair everywhere.

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HalfwayToFifty · 28/01/2017 09:35

We are only able to have the fish. I could explain the situation maybe he will be lenient but if the reason is for allergies ect. Also I know a lot of LL round here say it incase someone with allergies wants to rent the house after us. I've never seen a house round this area advertised as being able to take pets and we have been looking for over 2 years.

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Reality16 · 28/01/2017 09:37

that was a typo, I was talking about your LIFE that he changed over the years.

You are being g dramatic to suggest people put their pets feelings over their children's. It's not a one or the other situation.

Waxlyrically · 28/01/2017 09:48

In that case I think you should directly ask the landlord before you decide - you might be putting yourself through all this unnecessarily.

MrsRonBurgundy · 28/01/2017 10:01

I don't know if you're being deliberately obtuse but not a single person is suggesting you put your cat before your kids. You seem to be latching onto that as a point and ignoring a lot of the good advice you've had.

i could explain the situation...
Do that then. You never know, this whole stress could've been needless

And if not, people have posted links to cat charities and offered you the option to PM about places that specialise in elderly cats. Have you contacted any of these places or found any for yourself? Then you can assess what the chances are of finding her a peaceful new home and weigh it up against the other option of having her PTS

You have options at the moment that you need to explore fully and stop telling people that they shouldn't be parents if they consider being kind to animals as something that you can do as well as being a parent Hmm

Patienceisvirtuous · 28/01/2017 10:06

You are being pretty obstructive OP and it's obvious you don't really want to put much effort into finding a solution.

Is it possible for you to do feeds and litters at your mum's if cat stays there?

Are you prepare to fund cats food, litter, vets costs for life if a friend/fosterer takes her on?

Have you at least tried to negotiate with your landlord?

No one is suggesting that the cat comes before your kids, you're being childish throwing that back when you know people aren't implying that. You're being overly defensive because deep down you know you just want to wash your hands of this problem 'easily' and that it's a shit thing to do.

I really hope that your cat is well cared for going forwards.

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HalfwayToFifty · 28/01/2017 10:10

She's at the vets today for general health check. I want to see how that goes and get their advice first. The way I'm seeing it, people telling me I shouldn't be moving blah blah, they are telling me to think about my cat before my children. I HAVE to move for my families sanity. If that means I have to lose my cat then that is what I have to do. I'm not looking for a different house because I won't find one this price this size. So I can't put my cat first in this situation.

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Patienceisvirtuous · 28/01/2017 10:11

'You have options at the moment that you need to explore fully and stop telling people that they shouldn't be parents if they consider being kind to animals as something that you can do as well as being a parent'

Spot on MrsRon

This seems to involve too much effort for OP though, she'd rather be defensive and obtuse. Get off here and start properly sorting your options.