How to word wedding invite when asking for cash instead of presents

[MmeLindt]

I know this has been done before, but search appears to be broken so could anyone give us some ideas how to word the invite. Suggestions from soon-to-be SIL are:

We havent got a wedding list
The reason we'll explain
Its to save you all the trouble
As shopping is a pain

But if you'd like to contribute
To our special day
Some money would be great
To get ourselves a treat

But most importantly, we request
That you turn up as our wedding guest

OR

We are sending out this invitation
And hope you will join our celebration
If to send a gift is your intention
We have already got a kettle and toaster Crockery, dinner mats and coasters So rather than something that we have already got Please give us money for our saving pot But most importantly we request That you turn up as our wedding guest

OR

So what do you get
for the Bride and Groom
whose house has things
in every room

When shopping for a present
please dont be rash
as the option is there
to give us cash

We hope that you dont find
our request to be funny
but the decision is yours
to buy a present or just give money

Now you have a choice
please do not fuss
the most important thing of all
is that you come and celebrate with us

Anyone got other ideas? They would like to have money so that they can come to visit us in Switzerland as a belated honeymoon. Is anyone good at poems?

You know, I agree with TomNook. Instead of spending lots of money on a fancy wedding, have a low key wedding and spend the money on the holiday instead

MmeLindt, i didn't put a gift list or anything in my invites other than the time and place (obv!)

Some people asked what we wanted and we just said vouchers - we didn't need anything, we had a house and 3 children already! Maybe your sister could do that? and suggest voucher from a particular travel agent?

(we didn't honeymoon)

Instead of buying a pressie
A gesture truly grand
Put towards our honeymoon
In lovely Switzerland

"oh-no!" now the dilema
Of how much you should spend
Well, we're thinking about a tenner
And the support that you could lend

The most important part to both of us
is that you come to share
Our love, our life and happiness
We hope you will be there.

Custardo
Now, I don't really like poems, but that is fab. And by asking for a tenner, they don't sound money grabbing.

oooh ty ty ty - i am a secret literary genius.

ps. i really want the chocs - not kidding!

MmeLindt - I think that if your brother and SIL would be happy to make a request for cash to a person's face, then they should do that (to certain people, like you, parents for example, only). I would not mind my brother asking me directly for cash for a wedding present (he is engaged). However, it did piss me off to received an invite to DH's cousin's wedding (who I had never met) asking for cash. It came with a poem and I really felt it was grabby because I had never met him and the first thing I see is a request for money.

I received a wedding invite from a uni friend who me and DH really get on well with it. There was no mention of presents on the invite so DH said we would like to get him something and he replied that they would like John Lewis vouchers. I think that is fine and have no problem with it.

Alternatively, a request for a contribution to a wedding list at Thomas Cook or similar would be fine.

The poems do make me crings - poem 1 - tells the reader "shopping is a pain" - some people like shopping (not me!) but anyway, it's a bit strange to tell people shopping is a pain. It also says to get ourselves a "treat". I appreciate your brother is skint - so treat is the wrong word anyway. Also one of the poems refer to savings - lots of people have no savings so to contribute to someone elses savings is a bit galling!

If I received an invite, I would not mind reading: we have been living together for x years and have a daughter. Instead of traditional wedding gifts, we would like to visit x person in x country as part of our honeymoon and if you wish to get us a present, you can buy a little piece of this trip at the travel agent's website.

I am not easily offended, but I hate receiving poetry like your OP. I would prefer the request to be direct and honest.

Custy
CAT me your address, I will send you some yummy chocs

you called my bluff! lovely gesture much appreciated. but not necessary i assure you - cheers all the same

BIL had the Trailfinders list too

Get her to tell key people - parents, PILs, you, best man, bridesmaids, ushers etc that they'd prefer cash, and let it get round by word of mouth. Poems are vile, and I hate any gift requests in the invitation. Lots of family wanted us to have a list, so we set a small one up and let it be known by word of mouth only. Worked very well.

the poem is still shit

Custardo
Really, do CAT me, I will send you a wee thing. Please.

TomNook
Thanks so much for your help.

Custardo
Really, do CAT me, I will send you a wee thing. Please.

TomNook
Thanks so much for your help.

A wee thing? What, like a Tena Lady pad or a urinal?

seriously, the Trailfinders gift list sounds like a far better option than asking for cash.

Well done Soupy!!!

We are getting wed in October and have decided not to mention presents/cash on invitations. I think people in their own minds and most will probably be happy to give cash and will, some will still prefer to buy a present (probably not many), and will do this regardless of whether you ask or not, in this case you just have to smile graciously.

I think not mentioning it all looks nicer IYKWIM?