quick poll - do you prefer to go to a wedding with or without your kids?

[caffeinequeen]

Just that really. TIA

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and that's from someone who doesn't like leaving her dd much let alon overnight (only once in 2 yrs and that was for a wedding)

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Depends on who's getting married really.

Generally...

Close Family/friends' wedding - with.

Colleague's wedding - without.

hello TheBlonde - looks like its just you at me ....

at the last wedding DS incited other toddlers to delve in gravel and get muddy, he then ran off repeated towards the road or the bride and her cream frock!

And what if the invitation asked you to leave them at home? How would you feel about that?

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Personally, I wouldn't go as there would be no one to look after my kids!

I am fine with "no children" weddings
It's the choice of the couple getting wed and every extra head is more $$$ usually

My friend received an invite that said breastfed babies only - I thought that was quite sensible

with and these discussions have got very heated in the past!

If the invitation said leave them I would potentially not go, it depends on the wedding etc.

I know this is a very emotive subject on MN so, donning hard hat, I would say that I would agree with them CQ.

However, obviously special dispensation for breastfeeding mothers or mothers of newborns. Also don't know if it makes a difference with age of children - eg. I have only taken dd to one wedding and she was 18 months and dh and I spent the whole time chasing after her around the hotel then had to trust the hotel listening service once we'd put her to bed (which we didn't so we ended up going to bed early). I think we'd all have been happier leaving her with grandparents for the weekend but then we have that luxury which lots of people don't.

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If they weren't invited, we wouldn't go. No one to leave them with for one but also I think it's a part of life, i.e. all are invited - young and old.

DH's twin neices yelled through part of our wedding as one of them grabbed a poppy (next day was Rememberance Sunday) and the other one got pricked by the pin. My neice waved at us throughout and tried to dance to the hymns.

It was a happy occasion!

I am not anti no children weddings, it is up to each couple to have the wedding they want.

I have been invited to several by people who know I have no one to take the children, that's what annoys me.

Prefer to go with the children.

Would not go unless it happened to fall in the school holidays.

The reason for this is that I work on Friday nights/Saturday daytime in term time so would not be prepared to then go out and see them even less than I do anyway. Also not fair to ask mil to babysit all day Saturday and Saturday night too.

depends on whether is a family wedding then with the children, if its a friends wedding then without would be nice, (dont get out for a night without then often)

Okay (dons hard hat unaware that this is a subject matter that kicks off) so what's the best way to word things?
Don't want to offend anyone but preference is for without :
Thinking along the lines of:
"We'd love it if Mums and Dads could take a day off and let their hair down but if you do plan to bring your little ones along, then please let us know so that they can be catered for."

Or too annoying? Advice needed please

i think thats fine, you will upset people however you word it so it really doesnt matter and you have also given people the option to bring their children which is nice, just as long as they dont think that you are gonna offer a baby sitter for the day.

i prefer not to take DS to weddings ad is 8 mnths and runs around like a nutter- i also like to get pissed and dance like a mad woman. I wouldnt be offended if the invite said no kids infact my Dad ust got married...again and he said no kids to me and my sister...which was fine as had a weekend away but then at the party there was a woman with 2 kids.WTF???