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Is their an app website for mums/parents to try to get dates for sons??

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Fionuala · 29/12/2024 11:29

Sounds like a joke but my lovely son 31 years is getting a bit jaded with dating apps but he does use them.
He is kind, caring etc and well educated.
I was somewhere the other day and got talking to a lovely girl and I wished I could somehow connect them!!!
Is there anything out there?

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AlexanderArnold · 29/12/2024 11:31

I think you know how weird this would be!!

SometimesCalmPerson · 29/12/2024 11:32

Hopefully not!

Flipslop · 29/12/2024 11:32

Jesus Christ I hope this never exists 😂 sorry but imagine dating a 31 YEAR OLD ADULT MAN to find out his mum had been involved. I’m sure you’re a lovely mum and clearly only want the best for him but you’ll not do him any favours getting involved in this side of his life. You can support him by telling him all the great things about him and the wonderful things he has in his life already without having a partner. You may inadvertently be adding to angst about being single by piling in on the issue as if it’s mega important

Rocknrollstar · 29/12/2024 11:33

He needs to go to places where he will meet women eg., work, the gym, tennis club, amateur dramatics, language classes etc. Just because you like a person it doesn’t mean he will like her, or she will like him.

Jingleberryalltheway · 29/12/2024 11:33

No, because no self respecting women or man would want to go on a date with someone who can’t even be bothered to use a dating app themsleves.

BobbyBiscuits · 29/12/2024 11:33

That sounds awful. What kind of woman would want to go out with a bloke who needs his Mum to get dates for him. It's utterly tragic.
If you know someone his age and single, you can try and introduce them. But you can't just recruit random strangers on his behalf?!

Seeline · 29/12/2024 11:34

Does no one actually meet people face to face unless they already have a partner these days?

MagicalTimes99 · 29/12/2024 11:35

I wouldn't be interested in a man whose mum was responsible for finding his dates. I'm attracted to men who are proactive, and don't have weird parents.

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Fionuala · 29/12/2024 11:40

Ok thanks
these responses kind of put things in perspective.
He can do loads on his own. He arranged a year working in japan after uni so yes I am sure he can find someone!!
(over anxious)

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EmotionalSupportBiscuit · 29/12/2024 11:40

In fact there sort of is! ‘My Single Friend’ and ‘Wingman’ both let your friends write your profile.

That’s it, though. It doesn’t then happen that friends make the matches and definitely not mums.

derbiee · 29/12/2024 11:42

Dark Web? Dr Who comvention?

BobbyBiscuits · 29/12/2024 11:46

@Fionuala yeah, you have to leave him to it. Surely you would find that a turn off if you were a single woman in your 20s/30s?

EmotionalSupportBiscuit · 29/12/2024 11:46

He arranged a year working in japan after uni

Erm, as he is 31 now, that could have been 10 years ago! What’s his set-up now, OP? I trust he lives alone and manages a home/life and is financially solvent and responsible? If not, there are clues there as to why the apps aren’t working…

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Fionuala · 29/12/2024 11:48

he is all of above- lives in flat, good job, friends, solvent etc etc
so I must just calm down and wait
I get it.

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Cynic17 · 29/12/2024 11:50

Dear Lord, I sincerely hope not! That sounds creepy and just gives permission for parents to wade into stuff that is none of their business.

aintnospringchicken · 29/12/2024 11:59

Good grief OP ,get a grip.
Do you really think your lovely son would thank you for getting involved in his dating .
Cannot imagine such an app would ever exist.

Spirallingdownwards · 29/12/2024 12:03

Does he actually want a girlfriend? How do you know he doesn't have an active sex life with women or men? Maybe he doesn't want to be tied in a relationship. Maybe he is already in one but doesn't want to take her/him to meet his weird mother yet.

SnoopySantaPaws · 29/12/2024 12:04

Jingleberryalltheway · 29/12/2024 11:33

No, because no self respecting women or man would want to go on a date with someone who can’t even be bothered to use a dating app themsleves.

Weird comment.

just because people are using dating sites doesn't mean they'll meet every single person so they may not connect that way.

@Fionuala

what stopped you saying, I think you & my son would really get on, can I give you his number? Or him yours??

nut it would be weird as fuck to have some site where parents get themselves involved in setting their child up like that

CookieMonster28 · 29/12/2024 12:06

No you'll make him look like a raging mummy's boy...if he isn't already!

RancidOldHag · 29/12/2024 12:22

An app like that sounds like a dreadful idea.

If you want to help things along, the traditional route is rather narrow (and only works if you all live near each other or in limited windows such a Christmas visits) which is to invite him along to stuff where your friends with unattached DDs will also be there. And then do nothing beyond exchanging normal greetings and then enjoying the event yourself with no deliberate matchmaking.

You can also encourage him to have clubs/activities where he meets people. And of course you do the same (so you meet new people too) so that both of you have an expanding range of acquaintances. And RL people you get to know.

But the bottom line is that you have to leave it up to him, but you can encourage him to be outgoing and meet lots of people in RL.

EmotionalSupportBiscuit · 29/12/2024 12:26

RancidOldHag · 29/12/2024 12:22

An app like that sounds like a dreadful idea.

If you want to help things along, the traditional route is rather narrow (and only works if you all live near each other or in limited windows such a Christmas visits) which is to invite him along to stuff where your friends with unattached DDs will also be there. And then do nothing beyond exchanging normal greetings and then enjoying the event yourself with no deliberate matchmaking.

You can also encourage him to have clubs/activities where he meets people. And of course you do the same (so you meet new people too) so that both of you have an expanding range of acquaintances. And RL people you get to know.

But the bottom line is that you have to leave it up to him, but you can encourage him to be outgoing and meet lots of people in RL.

Loving the Jane Austen vibes of unattached DDs meeting Lovely Sons 😄

VaddaABeetch · 29/12/2024 12:29

With a name like @Fionuala Im imagining you’re Irish as am I. Are you a typical Irish mammy who knows what’s best?

Maybe your son like going on dates but doesn’t want to ‘meet someone’. Not everyone wants a wife 2.5 kids & a house in the suburbs? Maybe he likes random sex with strangers or doesn’t want sex at all?

It’s his life let him live it the way he wants & don’t interfere.

Im going to take a wild guess that you were married with a child at his age so you think that’s the correct life to live?

SunmerSazz · 29/12/2024 13:01

What does he enjoy doing? If he likes outdoor things and travel then there is a FB group called The Adventure Singles. Loads of events organised by members all over the country and overseas trips.

The website chat can be a bit daunting but lots of people just go to events and don't chat online (there are also local chats which are a bit easier to join in on).

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Fionuala · 29/12/2024 13:13

Thank you those of you have offered practical sensible suggestions.

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YourGladSquid · 29/12/2024 16:01

Please don’t.

Unless arranged marriages are a part of your culture? In that case there’s agencies for that.