Thread 49 - Covid GCSE Cohort - The nights are drawing in...

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Autumn 🍂 well and truly underway, has been chilly this week !

This is a support thread for our young adults post GCSEs 2020, regardless of their educational setting, and their results ( or life updates for those who went into work or have had results earlier). It is respectfully requested that all are supportive and helpful to each other. If you want to start a debate, e.g state vs private, uni vs employment please don't within this thread.

Some of us have been here since first thread back in yr10, some will be new. Everyone has been friendly and helpful in the past. Everyone is welcome. It is hoped this will continue. We were previously on the secondary board and then further education, now we shall be here in 'Parents of Adult Children' gulp

Our DS/DD may continue down various pathways ( employment, apprenticeships, higher ed). Experience is that everyone is welcomed wherever, whatever their child is doing we have some in work, gap years , apprenticeships etc too. Lots of contributors with different experiences and always sympathy and advice to be had.
Previous thread :

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@Cantonet theoretically she can get around with crutches but she is autistic and doesn't cope well with having to do things differently! She is also worrying about not being able to shower or wash her hair... 🤦 Really hoping it is not a full rupture and they will remove the boot after the ultrasound - she doesn't make a good patient!

Sorry to hear about your dh @EerilyDecorated . My dad had it about 8 years ago and was told it was aggressive. He had surgery and radiotherapy and has been fine since - in fact his consultant said it's miraculous!

Very sorry to hear that @EerilyDecorated

Sorry to hear that @EerilyDecorated.

Thanks all, it's not confirmed yet, but I think it will be at the next appt next week. We'll have to see. It's a relief to talk about it TBH, DH is doing the ADHD-brain thing of not worrying till it actually happens and hasn't told anyone which is probably wise in this case but I am prone to catastrophising and it helps me to talk.

@EerilyDecorated Sorry to hear that, the waiting to know either way is hard.

Sorry to hear that, @EerilyDecorated, keep us posted.

Best wishes for a smooth and successful journey on the treatment @EerilyDecorated Not surprised you feel wobbly.

Oh gosh that is a lot @EerilyDecorated unmumsnetty hugs and flowers 💐 your mind must be full of worry.

We are here.

Sorry to hear that @EerilyDecorated. Thinking of you.

@handmademitlove sympathies here. DH ruptured his Achilles a few years ago and thankfully had surgery quickly but he was out of action for a fair time. He was very miserable. Hope your DD gets seen quickly.

Sorry to hear about your DH, EerilyDecorated. Impossible not to let your mind wander to dark places while you're waiting for news. I hope it's not what you fear, but if it is, I hope that he's given a clear plan of action.

I'm in a similar place today. Went for a follow-up appointment to a mammogram I had just before christmas, after finding a lump. Didn't give it a second thought and fully expected to be told it was nothing to worry about and sent on my way, but instead I was sent for another mammogram, ultrasound and subsequently biopsies - they've found something worrying in the breast and arm pit lymph node.in
Results will be back next week, hopefully in time for the clinic's results meeting, and I'll be seen the same day.

Oh no @Alsoplayspiccolo I'm sorry, what a shock. I hope it's not bad news for you too

@Alsoplayspiccolo - am so sorry to hear this. I've just seen your message on the board no-one wants to be on and have posted there.

Thanks, EerilyDecorated. Shock sums it up - I cried before the biopsies, in disbelief.

Thanks,craggyrat. I hope I can be as stoic as you have been. How are you doing?

@Alsoplayspiccolo am good thanks. 7 months later and now on 5 years of tablets and yearly mammograms. It was a terrible shock at the time. Mine was a very buried lump I would never had felt so thank God for routine checks. Apart from treatments I didn't feel ill so surreal. The waiting for the results is absolutely the worst part. Ask me any questions you need to.

@Alsoplayspiccolo Sorry they've found something. Hopefully early treatment will put put behind you in a few months.

@Alsoplayspiccolo I'm sorry you've had such horrible news 💐

@Alsoplayspiccolo Oh, I'm sorry.

Sorry for those waiting on results 💐

So sorry to hear that @Alsoplayspiccolo I hope it’s a false alarm.

Oh @Alsoplayspiccolo , what a shock for you. Do keep us posted if you feel able to.

My thoughts are with those of you waiting for results. Crap situation.

Dear @EerilyDecorated and @Alsoplayspiccolo , I’m so sorry you are both having such worrying times. I really hope it is a false alarm. But if it isn’t, of course finding something is in fact positive news, because the alternative is not finding it. As I think I shared on here @EerilyDecorated my DH went through this earlier this year. No symptoms nothing, but early stage prostate cancer spotted on an MRI he only had because he had just found out he had the braca gene. It was meant to be a reassuring all-clear. Anyway, he has had his prostate out and the good thing about finding it so early is that he does not need any more treatment and the Drs are fairly sure the cancer won’t reappear. The recovery is quite long and I would say that the psychological injury almost takes longer to get over - it was an odd blow to his confidence - but he was diagnosed in Jan, had the op in about March I think and has really been absolutely fine since August. What we have learnt re surgery is there is a direct correlation between outcome and the number of prostate surgeries your surgeon does per annum, so insist on the largest centre (London, b’ham) and the busiest surgeon in the dept. Also robotic surgery better than non-robotic, as long as the surgeon does loads of them. Best of luck to your DH / and also to you piccolo.

Thanks @Delphigirl that's good to know. I don't even know how you would go about in requesting a particular hospital or surgeon, this is all a bit uncharted territory for us. I will do a bit of research. We are in the SE so London is possible. Both men I know who have had it recently have had hormones/radiotherapy instead of surgery.

Yes radio etc wasn’t an option for DH because of braca, which made decisions much simpler!