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Thread 48- Covid GCSE Cohort - Summer before Year 2 Uni

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Oblomov23 · 25/08/2023 20:39

Summer ending. Year 2 for many at Uni about to start.

This is a support thread for our young adults post GCSEs 2020, regardless of their educational setting, and their results ( or life updates for those who went into work or have had results earlier). It is respectfully requested that all are supportive and helpful to each other. If you want to start a debate, e.g state vs private, uni vs employment please don't within this thread.

Some of us have been here since first thread back in yr10, some will be new. Everyone has been friendly and helpful in the past. Everyone is welcome. It is hoped this will continue. We were previously on the secondary board and then further education, now we shall be here in 'Parents of Adult Children' gulp

Our DS/DD may continue down various pathways ( employment, apprenticeships, higher ed). Experience is that everyone is welcomed wherever, whatever their child is doing we have some in work, gap years , apprenticeships etc too. Lots of contributors with different experiences and always sympathy and advice to be had.
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mummyinbeds · 24/09/2023 03:12

Will he pick up the phone to DS1?

Piggywaspushed · 24/09/2023 03:17

Complete bolt from the blue.

Piggywaspushed · 24/09/2023 03:18

He has spoken to DS and we have spoken to housemates but he won't open door.

mummyinbeds · 24/09/2023 03:20

With my DS, if can get him on the phone, just a few words and being there is enough to calm him down. Sometimes he's asked me just be on the line, neither of us speaking, just being there.

Piggywaspushed · 24/09/2023 03:23

He keeps hanging up.

mummyinbeds · 24/09/2023 03:26

Is there any way you can get up there now/first thing. Text him to let him know you're on your way to support him through his feelings?

Piggywaspushed · 24/09/2023 03:27

DH wants to go now but I think we should wait to see if his mates get in. He said he heard them saying nasty things about him.

mummyinbeds · 24/09/2023 03:30

Maybe get one friend to sit outside his door. I'd imagine all of them trying to get in would be overwhelming and not helping.

Piggywaspushed · 24/09/2023 03:31

He has opened the door so they are with him now. Sorry to burden you.

mummyinbeds · 24/09/2023 03:33

It sounds like he's possibly reacting whatever they've said rather than something that's been building.

Piggywaspushed · 24/09/2023 03:34

I hope that is the case. Thanks for listening.

mummyinbeds · 24/09/2023 03:34

I'm glad to hear he's let them in. And it's no burden. I've been there and it's awful 😢

Piggywaspushed · 24/09/2023 06:27

Thanks, we are going to get him soon.

Maybe when she is about crazy knows the right things to do at he uni.

His mate just called. They haven't left his side.Poor thigs feel terribly guilty.

PhotoDad · 24/09/2023 06:49

Hope you got some sleep, @Piggywaspushed. Keep us posted when you can.

craggyrat · 24/09/2023 07:07

Oh @Piggywaspushed am sorry to hear about this. I've been there myself and sending you all best wishes

EversoDetermined · 24/09/2023 07:35

@Piggywaspushed sending hugs Flowers

stoneysongs · 24/09/2023 07:37

I hope he's ok Piggy, and you too Flowers

OrangeCinnamonLatte · 24/09/2023 08:02

Hope everything is OK @Piggywaspushed your poor lad x

Delphigirl · 24/09/2023 08:23

Piggy I’ve just seen this I’m so sorry. How frightening. Big hug to you and him.

Monkey2001 · 24/09/2023 08:33

@Piggywaspushed more hugs. Hope you are heading to Birmingham today. Must be terrifying for you, most people who talk about such drastic things don't actually make a serious attempt, but of course you fear the worst. Great that he contacted DS1 and DS1 heard him, hope he can mend things with his housemates, young people say so many thoughtless things they don't mean.

285NeuerNamen · 24/09/2023 08:42

What a shock piggy. Sending more hugs.

ealingwestmum · 24/09/2023 08:47

I have my fingers crossed all is resolved this morning Piggy, how absolutely awful for you all.

Decorhate · 24/09/2023 09:26

So sorry to hear this Piggy. It must have been such a shock. Hopefully he will talk it through with you and his friends & it will be a one-off. (I believe it’s very common with boys to come out of the blue, as a reaction to something specific).

EwwSprouts · 24/09/2023 09:50

Oh @Piggywaspushed I'm so sorry he felt so dreadfully low. The bond you nurtured between your sons as brothers may have been a life saver. Sounds from what you say about the mates feeling guilty they were thoughtless jerks but aren't malicious. You are very generous to think of them too. Hopefully you are close now to giving him the most loving hug.

Cantonet · 24/09/2023 10:04

@Piggywaspushed you must have had a dreadful night 💐. His mates sound yes thoughtless, but good people. I hope you can reassure yourself by seeing your son & giving him a big hug. I've been there too.