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Thread 48- Covid GCSE Cohort - Summer before Year 2 Uni

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Oblomov23 · 25/08/2023 20:39

Summer ending. Year 2 for many at Uni about to start.

This is a support thread for our young adults post GCSEs 2020, regardless of their educational setting, and their results ( or life updates for those who went into work or have had results earlier). It is respectfully requested that all are supportive and helpful to each other. If you want to start a debate, e.g state vs private, uni vs employment please don't within this thread.

Some of us have been here since first thread back in yr10, some will be new. Everyone has been friendly and helpful in the past. Everyone is welcome. It is hoped this will continue. We were previously on the secondary board and then further education, now we shall be here in 'Parents of Adult Children' gulp

Our DS/DD may continue down various pathways ( employment, apprenticeships, higher ed). Experience is that everyone is welcomed wherever, whatever their child is doing we have some in work, gap years , apprenticeships etc too. Lots of contributors with different experiences and always sympathy and advice to be had.
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crazycrofter · 13/09/2023 15:30

Hi again @PaddingtonPaddington , glad things are looking up!

EwwSprouts · 13/09/2023 18:32

Welcome back @PaddingtonPaddington. Lovely to hear your DD is looking forward to year2.

EversoDetermined · 14/09/2023 15:40

Well, DS goes back on Sunday. Not much packing has happened yet, it's a bit of a contrast to last year when we were super organised and had super long lists and lots of complicated DSA stuff to sort out. Some of the stuff never got unpacked if it wasn't needed at home (extension leads, mini-fridge, first aid stuff etc). He says he'll start tonight. We have been to Ikea for some kitchen bits as he is going from catered to self-catered. I feel as though I ought to be Doing Things but I think it is all in hand. He has sorted the DSA stuff out himself with a little prompting, he is keeping the same two mentors as last year. The summer has gone fast, but it seems like a very long time ago that he was away.

Delphigirl · 14/09/2023 15:51

Hi everyone. DS2 has been working over 50h Pw and I’m not far off so we have barely coincided. He only has his clothes to pack before Saturday as the rest is done but there was no sign of that when I left this morning… he also said he needed to buy jeans but I don’t think he has. Oh well as long as there is a suitcase with a few changes of clothes to hurl in the car at crack of dawn Sat I expect it doesn’t really matter is he has hunted down every pair of pants… they have shops in Plymouth…

Zebracat · 14/09/2023 16:48

Ok bit of a weird one. My girls quiet and quite introverted and chose a 2 person flat so it wouldn’t be too much. But the flatmate is very outgoing, and after a day was over sharing her complex relationships and having really noisy phone sex, which she then laughingly tried to discuss. My girl feels like she’s being forced to spectate. It’s bringing up some stuff from her past. She asked me if it was normal and she should learn to live with it. I said no, she needs to establish some firm boundaries with this young woman who also “forgot” to bring any kitchen stuff , and is helping herself to anything she likes. But even if she stops the sexual stuff and the wholesale borrowing, there seems very little chance that they can be friends. Should she just ask to move?

285NeuerNamen · 14/09/2023 16:53

Oh blimey @Zebracat is she in uni accommodation? If so then yes I would ask to move. Poor thing, it’s not a good start for her.

Zebracat · 14/09/2023 16:58

It is Uni accommodation. I think she should move too. She was going to speak to this girl, but if that doesn’t go well, and the girl does sound like an exhibitionist and attention seeker, she can ask to move tomorrow. But I guess we don’t want to be unkind to someone who may just be a bit dizzy with it all.

crazycrofter · 14/09/2023 17:26

Oh dear @Zebracat she shouldn’t have to put up with that. She should definitely request a transfer.

Seeline · 14/09/2023 17:55

DD is off tomorrow for her second attempt at uni. The amount of stuff she is taking seems to have drastically increased since last year, despite her room this year being smaller. We've actually had a dry run at packing the car this afternoon as I couldn't see how if it was covering half our living room floor it could possibly fit in the car. And it's a new car which hasn't done a uni run before. But it does appear to fit and my panic buy vacuum bags aren't needed 😁

OrangeCinnamonLatte · 14/09/2023 18:28

Oh crikey Zebracat. I think there should be no issue with her moving given the situ and effect already. She did not consent to being a third party to phone sex shenanigans a bit off really.

OrangeCinnamonLatte · 14/09/2023 18:30

Dd off for second attempt on Sunday @Seeline packing as we speak but a lot more relaxed about it as she knows she is a lot nearer this time.

Delphigirl · 14/09/2023 18:32

Sounds awful zebra and the issue about her past means that I would seek a move. Best time to do it is now I think.

Seeline · 14/09/2023 18:34

@Delphigirl that sounds awful! Definitely ask for a move.
@OrangeCinnamonLatte good luck on your second attempt 🤞DD definitely seems more excited this year.

Zebracat · 14/09/2023 18:40

Thanks all. I so wanted her second attempt to go well. Could really do without this.

Zebracat · 14/09/2023 18:48

She hasn’t talked to her yet because she saw a mouse in her room. She really is not having an easy time. She’s beside herself.

EwwSprouts · 14/09/2023 19:22

@Zebracat Definitely she should request a move or that the other girl be shipped out for having no boundaries. If it's phone sex week one the term is unlikely to pan out well.

PhotoDad · 14/09/2023 19:23

That's horrendous, @Zebracat. Hope your DD manages to move quickly.

craggyrat · 14/09/2023 20:02

Hope she gets a move quickly @Zebracat . Sounds awful.

crazycrofter · 14/09/2023 21:10

A mouse 😬 poor girl! I hope she can sort things out. She really needed a good start didn’t she 😢

All the next for second time @Seeline @OrangeCinnamonLatte

Heifer · 15/09/2023 09:03

So sorry to read that @Zebracat , not what she needed at all, hope it gets sorted asap and that she gets a break and gets to enjoy it.

DD just back from Croatia - seems like somewhere DH and I should visit. Massive bonus is that DD said it was really cheap there. I don't think they stayed in the best place for them (flew to Zadar as that's the only stop from Liverpool) but they enjoyed it anyway.

I thought she was staying in their new house from tomorrow but now it seems just going for the day (DH driving her and some of her stuff, watching her play hockey and both coming home again). Assume she will move in next weekend instead. She seems very positive about 2nd year thankfully despite not having enjoyed 1st year. Seems to have given it some thought as to what wasn't write so that's something.

Good luck to the resists who still don't know re 2nd year! so late in the day.
Good luck to those going back or staying anew.

JustHereWithMyPopcorn · 15/09/2023 09:39

@Zebracat I'm another voting for her to move, exhibitionist and user by the sound of it and no-one wants to live with one of those.

@Heifer Interesting that you said Croatia was quite cheap, my friend came back from thee recently saying it was very expensive. Was your DD in a non touristy part?

DS (and I) are getting nervous about Tuesday results, I'm seeing all your posts about packing up and going back and praying he'll be doing the same. He got an email from Notts yesterday saying that he's going to get the mark for the previously unmarked paper on Tuesday also. I'm not sure how that will affect things if its not good. Argh, must stop stressing about things I can't control!

ealingwestmum · 15/09/2023 11:03

🤞for him JustHere and to your DD Zebra for resolving nightmare house girl, not a start she needed to this year.

Shimy · 15/09/2023 11:54

@Zebracat Another one to add to the, 'get her to move now!'. She shouldn't have to live with any of that. It's a complete personality mismatch. Even the mouse wants her to move.... Best to move whilst the weather is still good too.

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Oblomov23 · 15/09/2023 12:19

Sounds horrendous Zebra, ask to moved away from user-exhibitionist-over-sharer.

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Shimy · 15/09/2023 13:01

Can anyone whose DC has moved into a shared house/flat for 2nd yr say wether the landlord provided a vacuum cleaner or the students/tenants were left to buy their own?
DS2 has just told me they are all putting money towards buying one. I thought this was something the landlord is supposed to provide? am I being precious and should just get on with it?