Right. I've got some work to do tonight (boo) so won't do the next chapter now. I could hopefully get to the next chapter tomorrow unless someone else would like to take it?
Does anyone else have anything from the chapter 2 things to discuss/share/give as a glowing example of glorious success to me those of us who haven't quite got there yet?
Teaandcake - since you kindly asked, here's my current problem.
DD1 (3.3) is sometimes getting into a mood where she climbs on top of DD2 (2.0) and won't let go. Even if DD2 tries to walk/crawl away or shake her off. Even if DD2 cries. Even if I ask her to, tell her to. Even when, eventually, I go over and physically remove her myself, she locks her hands together or grabs bits of DD2's clothing and holds on really tight so that it's a complete physical battle.
Now DD1 is smallish and DD2 is big and not afraid to stand up for herself. They like wrestling around and I try to ignore as much as I can or I would end up intervening all the time. So the rule is supposed to be "if someone cries, then you stop right away" and obviously "if mummy/daddy say so, then you stop right away". She knows this. She definitely does know it. DD2 has never actually been hurt and is sometimes not enormously bothered but finds it an understandable inconvenience to have her sister literally lying on her back and squeezing her round the chest. DD1, who is generally much more laidback, gentle and sensitive as a personality, gets this glint in her eye and I just know she's not going to stop.
Following chapter 2, this would be (potentially) "hurtful behaviour" but it's already gone too far for "tell her with words". It doesn't seem connected to any particular gripe anyway. It's probably worse when DD1 is tired or bored but then by 4.30pm, I'm trying to cook tea and I'm tired and bored so can't really help her getting that way.
I know that I overreact to it. There is a kind of red mist about one of them possibly injuring the other one. It's also infuriating that DD1 won't listen even though I know she understands and it's about nothing that I can fathom. So I have no idea how to waylay it but especially no idea how to deal with it once DD1 is on top of DD2 and in this mood.
Cannot see the offer of a crayon so she can draw her feelings being very helpful Any suggestions?
I'll leave you with that question and prepare some powerpoint slides for a training session