Those June/July babies

[motherinferior]

Just wondered how everyone's getting on, having actually produced?

I'm absolutely knackered, and have very nasty tear which is giving me grief (I ripped into the muscle a bit) but am in much MUCH better shape than with dd2 - and dd1 is thoroughly enthusiastic. Mind you, dd2 is still asleep most of the time. I'm aware that the next few weeks and months are going to be, ahem, not the easiest, which is why I thought it might be worth keeping in touch...?

Thanks Kaz33 . I am hoping 6 weeks will be a turning point.

I am so glad its not just me that looks like a salad dodger. I am working really hard at eating healthily and swimming 3 or 4 times a week, and the weight is going, but there is still 2stone 5lb to go. Its very depressing. So I have just been to the hairdresser and had all my shoulder length hair chopped off and now have a very short little pixie haircut! I feel quite glam until I glance down at my tummy.
Don't scream at me anyone, but dd2 is sleeping 8 hours a night 3 nights out of 4. We seem to have sorted her clock out and she goes 10pm-6am usually. So that is keeping me going, because apart from that, I am finding it all v. hard work! Its just never ending toil, and I just feel so weary and old.

Oh Dahlia, sorry you're feeling like that. And what good news on the sleeping, though - and the pixie haircut. I had my hair cut short the day I had dd2, but unfortunately I think it looks rather Sensible and Mumsy. Am trying to distract from general mumsiness by copious displays of 34F cleavage. Not sure it's doing the trick.

Am off to pick up dd2's cot this afternoon - do you think she will be ok at 7 weeks in a cot? I can't remember how old dd1 was but I think it was about 5 months ish. She will still be in with us for now.

Dahlia, our dd2 is in a cot now. She rampages around a bit in it, but honestly it's so hot that I think that's a lot of it. Both girls are just in their nappies, and we're not in much more!

We're getting lots of smiles now, and I do find myself gazing at this little person with such adoration and wonder. Six weeks is a big step forward, I find - and I'm suddenly realising just how like her big sister she looks, as well.

Evenings, on the other hand...

I ordered a cot yesterday from Mamas and Papas and it will take 3 weeks for the delivery due to the holidays! DS looks already uncomfortably tight in his carry cot and we still have 3 weeks to go...I know I left it too late, but I did not expect him to grow so fast.

I hate this heat, he was sleeping so well until a week ago, and he's now back to waking up 2 to 3 times at night.

On the positive side, the heat makes me loose appetite... so I am eating salads and fruit, hope this will help me shift the weight soon.

Hi Happyspider - glad I am not the only one with a baby who is unsettled by the heat.

Saying all that DS2 is now 10 weeks and is fab - he is smiling away, can't stop chattering and he is too growing fast - he is going to be tall. The big change is that he is much more happy to amuse himself and will quite happily lie there watching his big brother have a tantrum without joining in. You see Motherinferior, Dahlia it does get easier !!!

Saying that it has been a terrrible day - was meant to take DS2 to the doctors for his first visit since he was signed off by the midwifes and injections - didn't actually make it out of the house to get there.

Just had my second accupunture session though - meant to be hel[ing my energy levels - not sure yet but it is great to lie down on a couch for half an hour and have a natter.

Hi everyone - sorry about your day, Kaz, and good luck with the acupuncture. I can bore on about acupuncture for hours; I think it's fab!

Needless to say my little angel is being a total nightmare in this weather (although becoming terribly beautiful, I have to say). I am attempting to capitalise on it all by trying to sell one of the baby mags an article on 'how to survive the first three months' (could do some notes now, actually write it up when I'm back properly at work in November); do you think anyone would read it?

Happyspider, just realised you're Italian. How long have you lived in the UK?

I would read an article like that - when you're pregnant or just given birth its something that others always go on about so I think lots of new mums would read it.

How did you know Happyspider was Italian ???

Yes, I would read that article Motherinferior - well certainly feeling very lively today so maybe the accupunture is working....

I know what you mean my baby is so beautiful i could spend hours gazing into his big blue eyes.

mi, how did you know?

I have been here for over 7 years, came to learn English and never went back (apart for hols of course)

DS is getting cutier by the day too, he giggles and smiles a lot. My friends and family say he's a charmer and I can't help believing it...

omigod, I am in love

forgot to add that I would definetevely buy the magazine to read that article... they never really tell how to through them, only how tough the first 3 months are!

PS Special section on breastfeeding too, please!

forgot to add that I would definetevely buy the magazine to read that article... they never really give you tips on how to go through the first 3 months, they only tell you how tough they are!

PS Special section on breastfeeding too, please!

Spotted HS's Italianitude on the 'class thread'.

We got SEVEN HOURS (or just under) last night!!!!

Mind you, have been mummy from hell today. The guilt, the guilt, the guilt...

BTW what would you particularly like on b/feeding, as I realise I might not cover it properly since I don't always enjoy it but don't have major problems with it?

Motherinferior - well done on the seven hours. We had 9.30pm to 6.15am last night ( a sleep through the night ).

DS2 is sleeping an awful lot and not feeding very well - I think that he is fighting off a cold. He doesn't have a temperature and when he is awake is pretty alert so not worried at the moment. If he is still the same in a day or two then will go to the drs..

Motherinferior - on breastfeeding I would like to have known not how to do it as there is a lot of info avaliable but to know:

1. That it is an incredibly emotive issue and one should discuss how you feel about it with your partner before the birth - we did not and it caused a lot of tension.

2. That a lot of women find it really hard, you are not a failure if you do or indeed do not suceed.

3. There is support - relevant numbers, groups, Mumsnet etc...

4. Don't treat the midwifes as "godlike" on breastfeeding - they are not.

PS: DS2 is so incredibly beautiful it breaks my heart everytime I look at him.

Kaz and HS, you're making me go all dewy-eyed! I know what you mean about beautiful babies, I wake up each morning and can't wait to get her out of her cot and gaze at her - she is the image of dd1 which is lovely too. Motherinferior, well done on the 7 hours! I bet you were ecstatic! We are doing extraordinarily well on sleeping, I think we are just extremely lucky and have a baby who loves to sleep - today she had her BCG injection and she SLEPT through it!!! I couldn't believe it, she just stirred a little, half opened one eye and then promptly shut it again and carried on sleeping for 4 hours. Its crazy. But dd1 was very similar.

And I've just become an auntie for the first time - little girl born yesterday morning - no name yet, but feeling very gooey. Unfortunately they do not live near us, so it will be awhile i meet the new addition to the family - obviously travelling is a bit tough at the moment.

Well, we're doing less well on the sleep but overall it IS a gradual improvement - even when it's only 4.5 hours it's massively better than (a) it used to be (b) dd1. Just would love an evening. And a non-wonky pelvis. And a haircut. And some exercise and the ENERGY to do it. I bet you don't look as old as I do, Dahlia!

Thing is, I only have to look at dd1 to realise it IS all worth it...

Dahlia, you are soo lucky!
DS was doing really well on the sleep front until the heatwave, he's now waking up again every 3 to 4 hours, the mw said today that he's going through a growth spurt (he's now 10 weeks) and he should then settle again.
I hope that he will sleep through the night by magic when he's 12 weeks (not long to go now)

Kaz33, congratulations!
My sister is in Italy and hasn't seen my ds yet, she's said that she is getting all broody again just by looking at the pictures of my ds, brother in love is worried as they already have three children!

I am planning to go to Italy to introduce him to the rest of the family, but find the all idea of organizing trip too daunting... too much baggage!

ops...typo!
I meant brother in law - doh!

I do love him like a brother though, maybe typo was dictated by subconscious!

I'm looking forward to the 12 week magic moment too - we get 3 nights out of 4 at the moment where she'll sleep through but on the night she wakes up she really makes the most of it! It takes about 2 hours to feed her and settle her again, by which time I am too wound up and awake to get back to sleep.

DS2 has a cold so isn't eating as much as before so still waking in the night - and he's 12 weeks on Friday.

Also have first set of injections on Friday I have managed, on purpose, to put it off as DS1 did not like them at all.

DP in Paris all week, back for a week and then off travelling for another two weeks - so tough month. Have hopefully got my "help' sorted, great lady who is going to help 4 days a week and then take charge of the boys when I return to work. Expensive, but worth it - I am determined to enjoy my time with my sons. She starts tommorow...

I'm afraid I have no hope that 12 weeks will work magic but I'm hoping it helps!

DD2 looks ridiculously like her sister at the same age, and has had first jabs (kaz, I got a HV to hold the baby which was just as well as I cried and shook - didn't help that the practice nurse was completely hopeless and I wanted to thump her specially when she kept repeating, idiotically, 'it's OK' till I said curtly no, it wasn't OK, she'd just had needles stuck in her) and is starting to make little cooing noises.

Anyone else got colic, though?

12 weeks is here and DS2 seems no closer to sleeping through the night - I blame it on his cold.

My niece has a name - Niamh - I have no idea how to pronouce it, is it Irish ?? Anyone help ??

Kaz, its pronounced Neeve, but when I see it written down I always pronounce it Nigh-a-hame in my head! Hope your injections weren't too horrific, we had our first lot on Wednesday, and just before we went in, dd2 was beaming up at me and gurgling and I felt like a total cow. She still isn't holding her head up, dd1 held hers up by 7 weeks quite easily, so am panicking mildly as dd2 will be 9 weeks tomorrow. Motherinferior, is your dd2 holding hers up?