would you say something if you saw a baby without a hat in this weather in the park?

[Turtle35]

not sure if it was the baby's mother maybe it was a nanny but the baby was crawling in the park without clothes on and NO hat it was probably 30 degrees today in London, I was so cross I left. Should I have said something? I know it's none of my business but...

lol, flum

As we were in the middle of having a pedicure, no, taking her for a walk wasn't really possible. Made doubly impossible by the fact that her mother was physically hurling her back the chair (with some force) every time the kid moved. Her mother was a big, scary, very unpleasant woman who was hurting a small child because she wouldn't stay silent and still in a chair for hours. I don't think I misjudged her, no.

And yes, I do judge her as a bad mother. I think people who bully and hurt small children just for standing up are crap parents. I'm on the kid's side here and not ashamed of it.

another one here whose dd will abosutely NOT wear a hat. ive tried the ones with elastic and everything else i can imagine and she yanks them off straightaway and throws a massive strop. no amount of putting the hat back on makes any difference whatsoever. she is plastered in the highest factor suncream i can get hold of but still has a tan. i always try and put her in the shade but she hates to be in the buggy and runs around everywhere.

Slight divergence here, but I had a "concerned mum" on my case last year. I must say, i was mildly alarmed at her beligerent stance seeing as she got the facts quite wrong.
Anyway, I had parked in a supermarket car park and my sister (33) her dd and my ds were all dozing in the car. I went to buy a few groceries, and after a few minutes, the supermarket started announcing my registration number over the loud speaker system, and asking me to return to the car immediately -- where said "concerned mum" launched into an almost physical attack on me because she thought I had left my three children alone in the car. She said she had called the police and got into quite a rage. In the end, I had to wake up my sister (who as I mentioned above is 33) and get her to get out of the car to show said "concerned mum" that she wasn't a child, and was infact the mother of one of the children in the car and the aunt of the other. The "concerned mum" then stormed off, without so much as an apology, even though she managed to wake up every one in the car, and make my shopping trip twice the length it should have been......GRRRR (Of course my sister was quite delighted about being mistaken for someone much younger, and we did have a good laugh afterwards at the dangers you might face in a supermarket car park.)

turtle,
you meant well.i would have tactfully said something. in a tactful way, without taking the moral highground.if its possible, too be honest us mums are so touchy we often cant help taking things to heart. whilst you were right to note that the child was not wearing a hat it doesnt mean thats its mummy didnt have one with her. im sure there was no need for you to leave the park, dont take things too seriously. i know you dint mean to judge, but it can be easy to point out other parents faults, its hard being a muma and reembering ten thousend things on a journey out, u know that. as the saying go's when you point one finger at someone, theres always ten pointing at you....dont worry to much you sound like a nice person and your intentions are good.

still going?

ROFL Lorien- hilarious.

Thinking back to when ds was tiny, and like most other new mothers, a stranger offering me well-meaning advice would have really pissed me off, made me angry and then made me neurotic thinking that other people thought I couldn't look after ds. I wouldn't want other peoples opinions forced on me if I was out and about so no, I definatly wouldn't say anything.

ha ha flum and omg ! at Lorien and also, cor, is this still going?

Has this thing kicked off yet?